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PG after MC? Posifrickitivity and handholding aplenty

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WhatWillSantaBring · 26/09/2013 16:18

Hello again - another shiny new thread for the batsh*t crazy women going through the stress and emotional rollercoaster that is being pregnant after a miscarriage.

Fingers crossed for lots of happy scans and boring pregnancies.

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Bodicea · 09/10/2013 20:57

Oh blackholes I didn't realise. How awful. I can't imagine ever being strong enough to keep going like she has. I hope she is getting good specialist care and investigations if he hasn't already. Sending her lots of love xxxx

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Lieslvontrapp · 09/10/2013 22:00

Janie great news that your cat is now home safe and sound!

Garden sounds like you've had a scary morning but glad you and baby are ok. Don't worry about the car.

Great scan news anglo & miss! I hope everything's gone well for you too tea!

Thinking of you PFJ Thanks

Bakingtins · 09/10/2013 22:17

Nothing to do with luck once you get to that situation. PFJ hope you are able to find someone who can help you get to the bottom of it. The recurrent miscarriage thread has been a lifeline to me. Flowers

kjh5 · 09/10/2013 22:31

DH just asked me I I was excited about the scan on Friday - if I wasn't at work I think I'd be sorely tempted to hit him over the head with a frying pan. I'm beginning to wonder where he has been the past three months and if he really grasps what exactly it is a 12week scan entails? He clearly hasn't been listening to me at all whenever I've worried about this. And he wonders why I sometimes feel like I'm doing this alone? I'm not sure whether to be furious with him for being so out the loop or just plain flabbergasted maybe I'm overreacting a little

Pentagon · 09/10/2013 22:46

congratz on the good scans anglo & miss. Tea I hope you had good news as well and are now celebrating!

oh pjf you've probably mentioned your history and I didn't remember Sad life is so hard and unfair sometimes...I hope you're being looked after and you get some answers soon. Thinking of you. xx

kjh maybe he's trying to be encouraging in a strange sort of way...I'm sure DH asked me something similar when I knew he was as stressed as me and too scared to be excited (mind you, I had good scans at 6 and 10 weeks - you've had a couple of early ones as well, haven't you? - if that weren't the case, he wouldn't have dared)

kjh5 · 09/10/2013 22:56

You are probably right Pentagon - am properly emotional today and feeling just a tad stressed about Friday hence the overreaction ((feels guilty for outburst))

Chocolateteabag · 09/10/2013 22:59

Garden - thank god you are ok!

IBiP - forgive me but can't remember if this is your first or not? I managed to work to 38weeks with DS, but finding it much harder this time with 2.11 DS and SPD pains. Hence the stopping earlier, it's such a tough call as the later you go the more time off with the baby you get. But equally it's important to have some time off before the baby arrives. Ds arrived a week early so I only got a week off and felt a bit miffed to be honest that I didn't get longer to lounge about!

Getting my flu jab with DS next Friday - I think he gets to snort it while I get the injection wonder if he'll swap?

fod27 · 10/10/2013 02:42

pjf I've just seen the list of heartbreaks that you've endured you truly are courage personified!

kjh I totally understand where you c

fod27 · 10/10/2013 02:43

....coming from, I was literally shaking on the bed and tbh in still a wreck now xxxx it's hard for him to get because they don't experience it the way that we do - not that they don't feel loss - it's just different

GardenWorm · 10/10/2013 06:59

Bod I'm wavering between shit driving and awesome driving. I'm lucky to be alive. Every person yesterday that saw the state of my car and where it was was amazed. So am I.

Choc do little ones really get to snort the flu jab? DD has hers next week, I just assumed it was an injection. Like the sound of snorting but wondering how successful it will be (we will have to practise snorting like Peppa Pig!)

IBelieveInPink · 10/10/2013 07:44

Fab news on the good scans!

And totally remember DH entirely missing the point of 12 week scan fear. I was literally shaking, crying etc. he was quite excited! But then he is naturally a positive person, which has also helped me lots, so pluses and minuses :) try and use the positivity as it's intended, to help get you through.

Choc- yes is my first. I will def manage to keep going til the end - unless baby comes early! Just would be nice to have a little more sleep :) ha- bet this is nothing compared to when baby comes!

I do also have spd which seems to be getting worse. It's def not as horrific as some poor peoples- at its worst it hurts badly for a few hours after I've been lying a down. But quite annoyed - mentioned it at 3 midwife appointments before I got referred, finally got referred at 28 weeks- and at 35 weeks still not had an appointment! Said to midwife not to bother following it up-will be no point now!!!
If any of you get early symptoms- nag for an appointment!!

JanieLovesLuckySocks · 10/10/2013 10:46

Hey girls, just catching up quickly. Thank you for all the pussycat well wishes, he's VERY happy to be home, has been sticking to me like a plaster since we got him back :)

Garden you poor thing, I'm sure you got such a fright!! So pleased you and wee baby are ok, someone was definitely looking down on you. Big hug and lots of tea and cake xxxxx

GuffSmuggler · 10/10/2013 11:42

Kjh my DH said something similar on the morning of the 12 week scan that he was 'excited' and I nearly went berserk. I think they just try and be positive for us and think that's helpful but it wasn't!!

Is an awful wait until that 12 week scan, I feel your pain.

TeaAndANatter · 10/10/2013 12:46

Tried to post yesterday but my post wouldn't send - at work now so will be super short:

Scan all good, very very relieved. DH brought in chocolates for me to take back to the officve to tell people afterwards, which was kind. Bloods due for phone call by Friday if not great, letter otherwise. Wrote more yesterday, but forget it all now. Hope everyone's ok - will read the last pages tonight/tomorrow. Thanks for all good wishes. Better go before sprung skiving!

MeDoingMyThing · 10/10/2013 13:54

Tea and a natter, that is great news! Pleased for you.

I have a question - how many people have you all told about the pregnancy (if you are in the pre 12 week stage). Last time (which ended in mc) I told quite a few people as ahem, I am always seen out in the evenings with a glass of wine in my hand, so basically everyone worked it out. This time the same thing is threatening to happen. Should I make up some BS about feeling unwell? I know this sounds mad but I feel as thought may jinx it by telling anyone. So far only you guys, DH and my dr know. Help!

Pentagon · 10/10/2013 14:00

Oh tea that's great, congratulations! I was starting to get worried not having heard from you! You can now relax and enjoy

kjh in case I don't get the chance to post again today, all the best for your scan tomorrow!!

ibip if you're only doing 3,5 days a week, it should go very quickly. Hang on in there!

IBelieveInPink · 10/10/2013 16:02

Anyone else who is further along keep getting period pain cramps? Last couple of days have had this a few times, seem to come and go for a bit, then disappear. This time with a little back pain too. Any ideas?

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WhatWillSantaBring · 10/10/2013 16:10

me - it's obviously up to you whether to tell people or not. I didn't because I'd seen someone having to do the untelling and also because I'm allergic to sympathy from all but a select few (all men strangely, probably because they don't gush so). There are a variety of excuses you can use: antibiotics for a UTI and "on a diet/health kick" are usually the ones I use- saving the former for occasions where I know the latter excuse will not be accepted (overweight friend who sabotages any diet)

tea - that's fab!!!! Hopefully you will start to relax now, although honestly I didn't properly relax till after the 20 week scan.

Had my anti D today and a blood test. And have flu and whooping cough on Monday. Anyone else want to stab me? It seems to be open season on Santa's body!!

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Tomkat79 · 10/10/2013 16:33

Fantastic news tea! How exciting! Xx

BumpKitty · 10/10/2013 17:11

janie i'm ridiculously pleased about your cat Grin I am so happy for you!

garden good god what a nightmare - so pleased you and baby are all good. I hope the insurance claim isn't too arduous.

Can't remember if it was bod or ibip who asked about driving but mine is terrible now - I just don't concentrate then realise I'm doing daft things.

So 4 or 5 weeks weeks of iron tablets and associated problems Blush have made bugger all difference - my iron is exactly the same :( i need to see the GP which is easier said than done. Off for my flu jab now.

GuffSmuggler · 10/10/2013 17:34

Brilliant news tea so pleased for you Grin

I think mumsnet crashed last night due to the 'do you dunk' thread which kjh linked to which is prob why you couldn't get on. Is very funny!

LuckySocks13 · 10/10/2013 17:45

Pfj- so very sorry to read your sad news. Know one should have to experience this heart break once never mind what you have been through. Love and strength to you.

LuckySocks13 · 10/10/2013 17:47

Garden- omg at the car incident! Thank goodness you and bubba are ok. What a shock. Make sure you are resting up now.

Janie- whoop whoop at the kitty kats return :) fab news. You must be so so relieved.

MissMedusa · 10/10/2013 17:53

me we've told almost no one this time. The "untelling" conversation is just too hard.

Regarding the drinking, I usually have dp go to the bar and get me something non-alchoholic that looks like something alcoholic. Sparkling apple juice in a cider glass has worked best. I even had a friend who demanded to have a sip and didn't notice it wasn't cider. Ribena in a wine glass would work too. I've never had a bartender not be accommodating.