PG after MC? Posifrickitivity and handholding aplenty

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Hello again - another shiny new thread for the batsh*t crazy women going through the stress and emotional rollercoaster that is being pregnant after a miscarriage.

Fingers crossed for lots of happy scans and boring pregnancies.

Pixie all of those feelings are completely normal! Its the joy of going from one child to two!

Good luck to everyone having scans this week.

Congrats Saggy on your pink news! How exciting.

To all those worrying about coping with 3, honestly it is SOOOOO much easier looking after 2 kids than looking after 1 and being pregnant. And eldest usually revels in helping, even if very young.

Saw my GP today to announce I am with child. He was typically underwhelmed. Asked if having a very very faint line (even using first urine of day) means baby is more likely to MC and he shrugged and told me to do another test on Saturday. Hmmmm... Reassuring! Feeling a bit sick this eve so taking solace in that as evidence that baby is 1) there and 2) okay.

I meant coping with 2. Mind all over the place!

Aww tea, I totally sympathise with those feelings. You are allowed to be moany and vent all you want here with us.

missmedusa I had right ovary pain in my last pg. It felt like a stitch. At my EPU scan they found some large cysts, including one on my right ovary that I think was the culprit. They assured me that these things can appear with all the changes the body is going through and they were very unlikely to be connected to the MC. It had gone three months later at a follow up scan. But if you are worried maybe you could try and get a scan to check.

tea and shell I'm soooo glad I'm not alone lol

kjh I'm so glad you're starting to feel excited, you totally deserve to and we shouldn't let the fear and bitterness take us over. I need to give myself a good shake and find some posifrickingtivity again! tea bodicea bunny has cheered me up no end though. I love that you were utterly convinced by it! Think your DD's name was the better choice by far Hope the scan wait passes quickly for you both xx

Thanks saggy and me glad to hear it's normal to freak out about I've just remembered that I went a bit mad at this point in my first pregnancy as well - got home from the 20wk scan and watched endless videos of home births on t'internet whilst sobbing because I was just sure I would never ever manage to give birth. So I guess this is just a crazy patch to work through!

guff i'm up for 20wk scan on Monday. Thought I would be excited but feel the doom creeping in again so you're not alone. Darn scan doom hope this week passes quickly for you, and that you manage to persuade your DH to find out! We are staying team yellow although I know that come Monday I will be dying to know!

Oh Anglo- thank you for that. I've been having the same worries but you've reassured me two is the right way to go bloody better had be after all the stress getting here xx

Aww guys what a day you all seem to have had. Sending lots of to all of you and a f**k load of posifrickintivity.

Managed to wangle our first scan a week earlier so will be 12+6 now which sits a bit better. It's on DH birthday which will be nice bloody awful if bad news, must stay positive.

After my whinge about feeling totally crap last week haven't had whiff of nausea for last 4 days repeats positivity mantra but have been tired.

Can't scroll up as on phone so not sure who said it, but I too miss the pre MC ignorant bliss x

welcome me and congratulations! Sorry your GP wasn't very helpful, just forget about him!

Kjh5 & tea, yay for 12 weeks! oh tea I'm sorry you're feeling a bit down...I totally agree with garden, we've all been pretty detached and unexcited till the 20-week scan when everything starts to feel more real; and yeah people who haven't had a miscarriage don't get it at all

saggy a girl - hurray! Lovely names too!

bod I'm booked in for my flu jab on the 26th and I'll be 40 weeks...they didn't have any earlier appointments...I really don't know if I should have it done so close to my due date, will decide on the week I think

jmf sorry your little girl was unwell last night, I hope she's getting better

I'm also worried about coping with 2...thanks for the reassurance anglo, that was such a lovely, moving post!

So I saw the midwife today and I can forget about the MLU I'm definitely having antibiotics during labour due to the GBS. I ended up in the Day Assessment Unit because the baby's heartbeat was a bit faster than normal when she examined me...I was so scared and worried but thankfully, everything is fine. The baby was moving a lot and as a result the heartbeat went up to 170+ (the normal range is 110-160 apparently) but the baseline - when she was calm/resting - was 150-155. So all's well but boy, what a start to my maternity leave...

Fab pink news saggy. I like eve best i thinkxx

And fodyour post made me chuckle. Pregnancy is not glam is it. My poor dh has to deal with my deadly farts - how people do pregnancy that haven't need together for a while I don't know. The mystery has officially left building ESP as dh had to lower me in and outed bath today.

Not sleeping at all since hurting back. Keeps going into spasm and I can't get comfy at all. Never had back pain like it! Midwife gave me a number for physio yesterday but they don't seem to answering. If dont answer tomorrow I might find private physio as getting desperate.

Sorry people had tough day today. It is difficult in the early stages to enjoy if you have had mc's. But once get further on you do focus more on they joys of this pregnancy honest. I am so excited about meeting this little one xxx I think of it as being meant to be. I would never had this little one had the other pregnancies worked out and I have bonded with this one on another level already.

Anyway really need to try and get a bit of sleep!!

Wow. I forget how much you lot like to chat!

Welcome and congratulations me

Whoever was worried about the effects of being stressed and not believing it will happen on bonding with baby, don't. I felt like that all the way through with DS2 having had 1st MC then a rocky pregnancy, but if anything we have a closer bond because I know how lucky I am to have him. I still miss the baby that should have been born, but the reality of having him more than makes up for it. I don't think being pregnant does automatically heal the hurt, you need to grieve for the loss of all your hopes for the miscarried pregnancy, it's not something you can just brush away. If you "coped" at the time, maybe there are some unresolved emotions you still need to work through?

I have my first scan today, haven't slept a wink,though it is prob too early for a HB, it's just to make sure it's in the right place to start the clexane. I have known I'm pregnant for 11 days and it feels like a lifetime. I don't know how I am going to get through without going mad.

(((((bakingtins)))))

(don't care if "unmumsnetty" or not! You deserve and need loads of hugs) I hope you see exactly what you need to see at the scan.

Welcome, me!

Re: doubts about becoming parents if two- all normal. But I can tell you now, being preg with a toddler is sooooooooooo much harder than having a toddler and a newborn. Oh and something I read or heard somewhere: a sibling is the best gift you can give your pfb. Mine are adorable together

Bod- just wait til he sees you give birth! No mystery then whatsoever. Nothing more amazingly bonding though, I shouldn't think!

Roll on maternity leave; my hips and pelvis are really starting to hurt

bod I hear that hahaaaa between trumps, sickness and stress Incontinence (oh yes I'm part of that group now!) all sexiness has gone ;)

baking I'll be thinking of you today ;)

tins loads of luck today, thinking of you.

tomkat glad you've got your scan a week earlier

bod your poor back sounds awful. Really hope it eases soon.

pentagon so sorry to hear it won't be MLU for you. It sounds like things should be straightforward in terms of managing the infection but it must be disappointing.

tins think you're right about coping at the time and still having things to work through. I think that has been my approach to my whole life though (melodramatic much?!), sometimes I feel a bit like my shoe cupboard, if I open up the doors everything will come flying out! It's probably the tension that's holding me together

Just realise paragraph about no mystery is full of typos and makes no sense. I was a bit delirious a 4 in morning when wrote!!!!

Thinking of you today baking

Good luck baking. X

Good luck baking, I hope everything is as it should! x

sorry you're in so much pain bod...fingers crossed you manage to get through to the physio today and avoid paying for a private one.

Re excitement and bonding during pregnancy: unfortunately miscarriage robs you of all this, it's self-preservation as kat said; but I've also had exactly the same feelings as baking and bod

Ah black that's good to know re having 2 - thanks

Good luck baking. Using get heart beat in my first scan but knew I prob wouldn't. Don't let it worry you if you don't xxxxxx

Thinking of you baking.

Don't stress the bonding thing kat, totally self preservation. I'm the same. I so want to get excited and sometimes I do then I squash it so it won't hurt as much. Which is total bollocks as if it happens again it won't hurt any less than last time, I will just know I will get through it rather than see nothing but black if that makes sense!?

For all of you ladies worried about the timings of your flu jabs, Ive just found out that you can pay to have it done at Tesco Pharmacy counters. its less than a tenner and it should be easier to get an appointment. Its worth a look!

Hello, could I join you ladies? Had an early MC in June and now I'm now 4-5wks pg and very nervous.