Active discussions

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Original poster

PG after MC: Posifrickitivity thread for the batsh*t crazy

999 replies

WhatWillSantaBring · 05/09/2013 15:01

Welcome ladies, new and old. Grin May we all have dull and boring pregnancies. Pull up a chair, crack open a bottle of (non-alcoholic) wine and settle in for mutual handholding, fishslapping and neurosis.

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Set a reminder
SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 09/09/2013 10:16

oh fucking fuck

Thundercatsarego · 09/09/2013 10:19

What??? What what what?

Are you ok??

RainbowConnections · 09/09/2013 10:20

Saggy, hope you are ok? x

katatonic · 09/09/2013 10:34

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 09/09/2013 10:40

theyre worried about the nuchal fold measurement. Its only borderline, but I have totally lost the plot. blood has been taken, results on thursday.

GardenWorm · 09/09/2013 10:48

Saggy hang on in there, as you said its borderline, it may be so close that another scannee would not have put it in the borderline category. Feel for you, what a shitty couple of days waiting you have. Got everything crossed for you xxx

katatonic · 09/09/2013 10:54

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

kjh5 · 09/09/2013 10:54

Oh saggy that's so worrying - just when you wanted some reassurance. They said its borderline which usually means everything is fine and they're just being overly cautious. Thinking of you - hope you have lots of support over the next few days xx

IBelieveInPink · 09/09/2013 10:56

:(
How frustrating saggy.
How borderline is borderline? Definitely don't panic yet, although I know it's going to be the longest few days ever. Keep busy xx

Thundercatsarego · 09/09/2013 11:05

Oh saggy, firstly have a hug.

Secondly- be calm! You have a healthy baby in there with a heartbeat. This is a fantastic thing!

I didn't realise they could advise on nuchal fold straight away. They wouldn't consider doing this with us on the same day as they need to take into account the bloods as well. Do you know that borderline still means that its still a low chance. So there is really no point in worrying about something that might be fine and you don't know the full picture yet. I know this doesn't actually help in reality as everything is a worry, but trying to add the logical argument.

Do you have 'Expecting Better' book? There's some very interesting information in here about it, based on actual science. Might be worth a read.

Another hug for you. Flowers

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 09/09/2013 11:09

I do not know what I would do without mumsnet!

katatonic · 09/09/2013 11:18

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

RainbowConnections · 09/09/2013 11:21

Saggy thats really tough. I hope Thurs results give a clearer picture. I hope your family keep you busy and supported over the next few days. xx

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 09/09/2013 11:28

I know. I really do. The midwife had a long chat with us. Even if the blood tests come back 1 in 5 which is very high, that's still only 20% chance of Downs. 80% chance of being fine. Its really selfish I suppose, I just wanted to be able to breathe a sigh of relief and get on with being a normal pregnant person. Instead Im lying in bed, blowing nose into a clean pair of knickers and trying to work out what the fuck I would do...!
My Mum is going to be round here any minute and I just cant face her!

IBelieveInPink · 09/09/2013 11:32

Oh saggy. I would be the same, I really would. But honestly, you are a loong way off those decisions.
Blood results could be fab. If not - then there is amnio/cvs to help if you choose to. I know what you mean about wanting it to all be okay, but there is always something to stress over. This is unfortunately just your thing. :( mine was a massive bleed 2 days after 12 week scan. It seems tht we are never allowed to relax and just enjoy it. But honestly, now is not time for crying into pants yet.
However you do get a mahoosive hug. Xx

katatonic · 09/09/2013 11:33

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ThePFJ · 09/09/2013 13:47

Still pregnant, but feeling bloated and blue today.... but at least I am still pregnant...

TotalShock · 09/09/2013 13:52

Oh saggy. I think me and you seem to do everything together. On the September bus. Off the September bus. On the march bus. And now this. I was exactly the same as you about the 12 week scan and then hoped to just get on with it. My fold measurement was ok but combined with the bloods not good so I'm hoping for you it's going to be the opposite. after my results I read loads - some women having not a brilliant fold measurement but the combined results were good

I know how you're feeling and the waiting is horrible. I'm just burying my head in the sand and trying not to fixate on it in the mean time

Lots of hugs x

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 09/09/2013 14:44

im sorry for being such a drama queen when im not the only one going through this. The shock on top of a crap nights sleep were just too much. ill be positive again tomorrow.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 09/09/2013 14:47

IIRC, for all of us waiting on this, my best friends daughter was a 1 in 3 of downs. She is a happy healthy 16yo now, heading for a top university.

Pentagon · 09/09/2013 14:52

saggy congratz on the good scan but sorry to hear about the NT measurement. What was it if you don't mind sharing with us? I think someone else on this thread had a borderline NT measurement but quite good combined test results. I hope it's the same for you! Try to stay calm and strong (easier said than done, I know). x

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 09/09/2013 15:02

3.6. apparently combined with my age and weight its cause for concern.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 09/09/2013 15:03

although, in other news, I weigh 1lb less today than I dis at booking in!

GuffSmuggler · 09/09/2013 15:11

Hi everyone,

Am back from a lovely peaceful holiday with no internet or tv, was bliss! Am desperately trying to catch-up but so much has happened so sorry if I've missed anything.

saggy glad your baby is there and wriggly but I'm sorry you can't just be relieved now and have another worry Sad.

Is really crap they don't do your bloods before the scan, they do here so they can give you the result at the scan. I hope you don't have too long to wait but please try and keep positive. To be honest I've heard bad things either way about this nuchal tests, I don't think they are very reassuring whatever result you get.

Really pleased to hear good results from kat and thunder (sorry if I've missed people!)

anda I hope you are enjoying your snuggly babies, I saw the pic you posted on the last thread, absolutely gorgeous!

rock I think you were saying you feel like your bump has stopped growing, I feel the same, had this massive bloated stomach for weeks which now seems to be receeding a bit. I also feel less PG than ever but that's pretty normal for me I think. I don't have a midwife appointment until next Friday, just seems like endless waiting for reassurance this PG after MC business!!!

Welcome to the new people as well!!

Pentagon · 09/09/2013 15:16

saggy you're not being a drama queen, it's understandable that you're shaken and upset. It's considered OK up to 3.5, isn't it? Let's wait for your combined test results and see. Our neighbour was given 1:4 for trisomies when she was pregnant with her 1st daughter who is now a gorgeous, talented 16-year-old. So a worrying result doesn't necessarily equal a problem, as we all know!