PG after MC: Posifrickitivity thread for the batsh*t crazy

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Welcome ladies, new and old. May we all have dull and boring pregnancies. Pull up a chair, crack open a bottle of (non-alcoholic) wine and settle in for mutual handholding, fishslapping and neurosis.

Just had a total hormonal breakdown! Was just thinking yesterday how fine I've been mood wise. Would just like an hour of no nausea so I can eat something other than yoghurt or toast. I've got some proper big zits on my face, my boobs hurt, my head is banging, I can't poo, I feel like I've scratched my skin off all over and boy am I tired despite a 3 hour nap this afternoon.

Sorry to rant but fookin hell I didn't feel this bad 7 years ago!

cbeebies this is the posifrickintivity thread so sending you absolutely loads. Hang on in there. I've also had cramps on and off, especially around weeks 5-6 xx

I'm sorry I'm being so negative, thankyou for all the positive vibes being sent this way and the reassurance. the cramps have stopped although and still no sign of blood so thinking more positively now. It'll be fine I'm sure. I've decided at any sign of blood I will ring EPAU but for now, all is good. Its not over until its over so I'm hanging in there. I think the tiredness is afecting me too, making every thing seem worse.

Sorry your feeling so bad tomkat, but all thoes hormonal signs are good

how are you holding up saggy?

Cbeebies For what it's worth, my cramping, a kind of "stretching" feeling is pretty strong at the moment. I'm 7w5d. If you're not bleeding I would be optimistic.

I hope all the scans happening today are going well and that people are not posting updates because they are out celebrating!

I have started to feel queasy and have a truly dreadful taste in my mouth. The only thing that helps is cheese and onion crisps and Coke. Hardly the nourishing pregnancy diet that I should be on. I just want carbs. Starchy, white ones, of course...

God yeah carbs!! Gimme toasted white bread and . Loads of

You're right beebies all good and if I didn't feel so shit I'd be concerned.

Right...let's see if I can find some carbs.

Well. The call came. The baby has Down's. It looks like the thread is getting it's first special baby.

Glad you finally know saggy and I'm sorry it wasn't the news you were hoping for. I'm sure I speak for everyone on here...this thread is proud to have its first special baby xxx

Hi everyone,

Just back online after an exhausting weekend moving.

Have got loads to catch up on but just saw saggy's news and wanted to give you a massive {{{hug}}}

Things in life don't often work out the way we plan or perfectly imagine and I know this will be a lot for you to take in but that baby will be amazing and will be loved so so so much and that's all any child can hope for.

We have a little girl with down's at our church and she is a joy and a delight and her parents love her so very much and so do the rest of us. You'll be able to deal with this because you just will, one day at a time x

Saggy, sending you hugs and support. How are you feeling? Or is that a stupid question?

Well. Ive had a long time to play this through in my mind. Scaring myself silly the other night googling the other problems that the CVS might have found has helped. Things could be so much worse. The initial shock after todays call was horrible. I was fairly hysterical, but Im a lot calmer now. I have to be strong for DP. He just looks like he has been hit by a truck.

You will both be fine. You will be amazing parents to thi special special baby. I know it's early days but take a look at the sn boards, talk to them and get advice, find out what to expect. You will be great and dp has the rest of the pregnancy to get used to it.

I've just seen your news saggy. How are feeling about it all now? You know now and as tomkat said this thread will be proud and supportive.

One thing is for sure your baby has an absolutely amazing mum xxxxxxx

Oh saggy, I'm sorry it want the news you were hoping for. I'm afraid I have little to no knowledge of downs, so can't be much help there- but I'm here with support whenever you need it.
It must be a massive shock for both of you. You need time to process it. Talking to people who know way more (as well as those that dont) is likely to help.
Massive hugs x

Thanks guys. You are the best.

cbeebies they say that usually (obviously not always the case tho) cramping follows bleeding in a MC so if you are cramping with no blood then that is a good sign

saggy I can imagine how you initially reacted to the call and how you are your DP are trying to get to grips with it now and it must be so tough, I know what you mean abt being strong for your DP so make sure you talk here if you need to, don't bottle if up. Big hugs xxx

Hi ladies, sorry iv been AWOL for a while, just came to catch up and saw your news Saggy. I'm so sorry it wasn't the result you wanted. If I can be of any help, I have spent my whole life around loads of people with Down's syndrome, from 50somehting year olds to newborns, just ask away.
Haven't caught up past saggy a news, hope everyone is doing well and il try apathy up with everyone's news ASAP. Hi t any newbies I've missed.

Hi saggy so sorry for your news. Sending you and your dp lots of love. Hope you can work this through together x

Oh Saggy I just saw your news. Sending you lots of love, I think someone else put it perfectly, your little baby already has one incredible mum. Hoping you and your DP find lots of strength in the coming weeks and months xxx

Oh Saggy I don't know what to say. All I know is that you're going to be an amazing mum to this little one, like you said there was worse problems that could have been diagnosed through the CVS. And at least you know what you will be dealing with, there is a lot of support out there. I know you need to be strong for DH but make sure you get the chance to process your own feelings too, it's not all about him.

Oh Saggy I'm sorry that it wasn't the news you were hoping for. Sending you really big hugs. Do you have any follow up tests or results to come or further appointments? It must be so much to process right now. Hope you are able to get some time to talk with people in RL who can help (and sounds like ChristineD) too

Santa - I got referred by Mw over the phone too. But I would recommend getting a support belt as soon as, don't wait for the physio appt.

hi saggy I hope you are doing ok and you and your DP are supporting each other. Have you been offered counselling or is that just for choosing what to do? I think you will be a fantastic mum and you have lots of time to prepare for your baby. Lots of love to you and DP and all your children xx

Hey Saggy just read your news. I'm glad you got the call today rather than having to wait another night. Any one of us could be having a special baby, the difference is you already know and have some time to get used to it and seek advice. My niece has Downs. She's awesome. Her Mum didn't know she was Downs until she arrived but that's because she didn't want the tests. There are varying degrees of Downs, I say this because I didn't realise and it may be some comfort. I'm here for hand holding and virtual hugs along with everyone else. Look after yourselves over the next few days, it's a big shock and can affect different people in different ways xxx

My protective instinct is kicking in now. I just told my Mum. She suggested an abortion. I got quite het up!
16 week MW on Monday and a heart scan at UCHL in a couple of weeks.
I haven't been offered any counselling yet but am hopeful. DP will benefit I think.

Saggy make sure you mention counselling to your MW, you both need to be able to sit and get to terms with it.
I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for the heart scan, I know it can be an issue for downs babies, but it's very often not. Quite a few of the people with downs 'just' have downs, no health issues along side it.
Everything else can come later, right now you need to concentrate on you and your DH. I know you've had weeks of 'what if' but the knowing is always different. Take some time to get used to the idea.