PG after MC: Posifrickitivity thread for the batsh*t crazy

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Welcome ladies, new and old. May we all have dull and boring pregnancies. Pull up a chair, crack open a bottle of (non-alcoholic) wine and settle in for mutual handholding, fishslapping and neurosis.

Good luck PFJ! Will be thinking of you tomorrow with Fx xxx

Hello - I'm more of a lurker than a poster, but it would be lovely to join in.

I'm at 8 weeks with the current effort (I've had four previous, of which the third resulted in the DS, now 3), and very, very cautiously optimistic. I've been very tired and got some mild morning sickness this time which I haven't before, so, er, hooray for that, I think.

Hope everyone else is doing fine - it makes me feel better just knowing this thread is here!

SnotMyProblem Welcome to the group.... I am at 7 weeks, so we can be cautiously sick together!! Love your name btw!

Good luck tmro pjf, got everything crossed for you xx

Blackholes so glad normal movements are back :) I've been there and did end up at the EOU, they were lovely and didn't make me feel like I was a nuisance at all and said they'd rather see me than not. Hopefully you don't have that worry again (but if you ever do, the midwife told me to have fat coke rather than diet as it's the sugar that can get them dancing again )

Welcome snot! Congrats on your bfp you're in a good place with all us crazies xx

good luck for the scan PFJ and welcome snot

janie i'm 5ft 8/9 and I have a normal primark onesie (just very big!). I don't think I could sleep in it as it's not got a huge amount of room height wise but I would be too hot anyway as it's fleece.

ibip hi five onesie twin

blackholes sorry you've had a worrying time but glad you're back on track now. Sod's law again that its at a weekend and when your DH is out!

So I have been doing some handstands at the pool, I took a pregnant friend for company so the pool probably thinks we are starting some kind of maternity synchronised swim club! I don't think it has moved the baby at all but we had a good laugh

Good luck foe tomorrow pfj

Good Luck for today PFJ xxx

Saggy I hope you get your call today with the first set of results. Can you ring them or is that a no no? All this waiting. Aaaargh. My fingers are crossed for you xxx

Morning all, good luck to all thoes having scans today.
Welcome snot, I'm at 6 ish weeks so I'm right there with you, sickness just setting in. It's a weird moxture of feelings isn't it?! You feel great as the hormones are obviously multiplying but there is that fear that it could all go wrong.

When I really think about It I get so angry. Multipul (but to e fair one would have had the same effect) miscarriages have stolen the early pregnancy excitement and glow. The thrill of knowing you have a secret and being able to tell other people excitedly, it just doesn't happen. at the risk of sounding like a teenager, it's just not fair!

Saggy I forgot your results might come today, really hope they do. Keeping everything crossed for you x

Thanks everyone!

Hope today is a good one, PFJ.

Cbeebies, I know what you mean. You can't get happy and excited - it's just a slog of trying to not think about it and then thinking about it too much.

Also, the sickness. It sucks that you have it, but you just hope it's a good sign! We were on holiday during weeks 5 to 7, and I didn't sleep well, so that compounded the pregnancy tiredness, which made the nausea worse, so I spent nearly the whole time feeling crap and wishing I was at home. If I'm worried the morning sickness is wearing off, I think about that static caravan* and if it makes me feel boaky, I know everything is alright.

*and, for some reason, a small carton of UHT single cream. Just typing this about it makes me feel really ill.

oh I'm sick of sleep :( I'm awake most of the night, fall asleep around 4-5 am, then have to get up at 7.30 (dh leaves for work and I have 2 toddler dd's) I spend all day being shattered and just wanting to sleep, until 9pm hits and suddenly I'm wide awake! its like my body has flipped but my 2 dd's dont want to accept the sleep all day and awake all night thing so I feel like an actual zombie!

Oh cbeebies you sound like you're have a torrid time at the moment. YY to the at having the magic of pregnancy taken away. Even though I'm now 26 weeks, I am still resentful of people who have popped out their sprogs with no complications (or worse, the ones who are all "its so funny, we weren't even trying!!!" ).

But then on this rotten journey, I have also learnt that there are hundreds of women out there who have suffered this pain without ever showing it, so I'm probably a lot more aware of people's hidden dramas. And I have also learnt that the internet (and MN in particular) is a fantastic place with some incredible people that you consider to be friends, despite not even knowing their names.

Soap box time [ahem] - never feel silly about going in to hospital for reduced movements. The key is "reduced" - even a slow down in movements or a lack of strong kicks can (rarely) be an indication of a baby in distress. I think the advice is to lie down on your left hand side, with a cold, sugary drink and see if that makes a difference in about half an hour. If it doesn't work, go in and get yourself checked out. I would always tell people to trust their instinct - don't be scared, because 99% of the time it will be nothing, but they are so lovely in the assessment units that they will never make you feel like its you being paranoid and its always better to be safe than sorry.

My SPD is kicking off - no mw appointment for 2 weeks, so wondering whether they'll refer me over the phone?

saggy - thinking of you today. Hopefully if you don't hear soon its a no news= good news.

Good luck today pjf! Let us know how you get on.

black glad to hear all is back to normal now.

kjh5 I also remember having cramps at around 10 weeks - it's just the uterus stretching apparently!

welcome snot and congratulations! I hope everything goes smoothly this time.

cbeebies that sounds exhausting indeed... Are you a SAHM? Do your DDs go to school or nursery? I hope you get a break and catch up on sleep at some point

saggy thinking of you! Fingers crossed you get a phonecall today and it's good news!

saggy really really hoping you get your results today and they're good ones xxx

Congrats to all the new BFPs!

Good luck tomorrow PFJ. What time's your scan? My 12-week scan is at noon tomorrow too...I am terrified and feel v weepy whenever I think about it, not helped by one of my close uni friends announcing her pg via e-mail this morning - she's due 24 March, if everything is ok with ours then I'm be just a week or so behind her on 6 April. But I am suddenly totally convinced that ours will not be ok. Why is it automatic to assume that other people's pregnancies will all go swimmingly and they'll end up with a baby at the end, while automatically assuming that your pregnancy will do the exact opposite? I know there is no logic in this at all.

Anyway, hoping a very busy day at work will distract me today. Hah.

Ah sorry just realised yours is today PFJ! Good luck! (And please ignore my scan doom, based on the numbers we're much more likely to get a baby than not!)

santa I got referred over the phone no probs

Good luck today pfj x

Had an amazing time at the party but stayed up till 4 then up at 7.40 with DS, am still knackered today

It isnt going to matter if the phone EVER rings. I'm going to be an insane raving lunatic by then anyway!

Saggy have you thought about the old cleaning trick? I'm currently going though our flat and having a massive charity shop clear out. So far I've earmarked 100 books which still leaves about 300 we don't really have space for, kitchen-ware we don't use and shoes that I really never wear.

Although whenever I need distracting I can never find anything to keep me occupied for long! Hugs - really hope you get your answers soon xx

Mumsnet is keeping me distracted! I've started more threads and commented on more threads in the past week than I have done in the past year!

I've been having cramps today. I'm not sure if it's normal pulling, tugging, growing feelings and my crazy head is making it seem so much more painful or if it's the end for me. I keep thinking about the bean and heart beat I saw on Friday and that's keeping me going. My next appointment is a week on Wednesday so there's no point ringing EPAU, it's out of anyone's hands right now nothing anyone can do either way. :(

I should say the cramps are stop in your tracks painful hurry cramps. I think I know this is over for me, but I can cling in to a thread of hope right?

oh cbeebies please don't say that!! I hope you're wrong! How many weeks are you again? You don't have any bleeding, do you? You can always ring EPAU, you don't have to worry for over a week just because you have an appointment soon

saggy how are you? No news yet I take it

shell glad you had fun! I'm shattered too, DD woke up at 4am last night, asking to go downstairs and watch TV. We explained it was the middle of the night and brought her into our bedroom. She was an angel and tried to fall asleep but it took her 1,5-2 hours. I can't keep my eyes open today!

Cbeebies I have had those cramps since the beginning, they got really bad at about 6weeks, died down a bit at 7 and 8 weeks and are back to haunt me at 9/10 weeks. Please try not to worry too much about them. Are they accompanied with any blood? Because that would be a worrying sign and you should get yourself straight to EPAU if so. Otherwise as horrible as they feel, they are normal stretching pains. I should also add that I had a bleed at 4weeks, one at 7weeks and one at 9weeks (which was the worst one) and the bean is still in there, growing as it should with a heartbeat. It is so hard to keep the panic at bay when you are convinced something is going wrong but do hang in there xx

kjh5 that's really reassuring thanks. I'm 6 weeks so would fit in with your experience. I've been told that the pains get better with each pregnancy as considering this is my 3rd (technically 9th) I wasn't expecting them to be worse than my 1st (technically 4th)

i'm just having a down moment, I could feel (sorry for the tmi) wet in my underwear earlier when I posted but just went to the toilet and was really surprised it was all clear discharge, not even a hint of blood
Feeling slightly more hopeful now but just going to wait and see.

I was told (by my best friend, who had 4) that her round ligament pain got bonkers worse each pregnancy, until she got it from 5 weeks (which CAN'T be stretching, surely) with the 4th. Good luck cbeebies