PG after MC: Posifrickitivity thread for the batsh*t crazy

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Welcome ladies, new and old. May we all have dull and boring pregnancies. Pull up a chair, crack open a bottle of (non-alcoholic) wine and settle in for mutual handholding, fishslapping and neurosis.

nobodies & Irish glad your scans went well. donna hope your scan has gone well x

Thank you for everyone's support. I have just got back. They were running late so sort of worked myself up waiting and I'd done really well upto 3pm! Of course I burst into tears after signing the consent form.

Typical me first time he couldn't get any fluid so had to have it done again with a different needle but thank god it came second time because I couldn't face having to go back another day. I'm a little sore now but could be worse so just having a lie down with some chocolate!

saggy I'll be thinking of you xxxxx

PINK thats strange. I just did the breastfeeding NCT class and she said minimum of 8 times in 24 hours and I thought that was a bit much!! Did you get the knitted boob and the pink sock (representing babys mouth)?

Totalsorry your amnio wasnt all that great but at least its over now. You have earned a chill for rest of evening.

Still pregnant..... very nauseous ........ but still pregnant!! xxx

Total glad it is over and hope you get waited on hand and foot and just relax tonight. Xx

So glad everyone's scans went well today!

I know absolutely nothing about anything baby-related, apart from how to hold one - had lots of practice with that! still finding it a bit difficult to believe there is going to be one at the end of all this. but it is feeling a little more real each week so I've got some books lined up to try and prepare myself a little bit. I figure if I make it to the 12 wk scan ill order them!

Tom - every hour?! Omg! When did you sleep?!!!!

Bod - no, this was our first lesson. We have the breast feeding one in a few weeks - DH is terrified!

Total - glad it's all done for you now. How long til your results? Hope you okay x

They said work on it being Monday but a possibility of Friday. So I know it'll be Monday cos it'd be easy to get them Friday and not have to wait another few days!

I am evil witch laughing sympathising with thoes of you who have no idea. I remember being discharged with dd1 and I just stared at the midwife thinking, what do you mean go home!? I can't be responsible for this, I don't know what I'm doing! Almost 3 years in and I still don't know what I'm doing, bu we muddle through. In reality she's my test subject. The 2nd time around I've made less mistakes and am not doing too badly!

Sort total, I missed your post. Glad they got the fluid and you don't need to go back. Relax until Monday (easier said than done) there's nothing you can do to influence the outcome, it's out of your hands x

Glad it's over and done with total - far worse if you'd had to go back again!

Heard heartbeat at the midwife today, was fantastic! Little Pebble is having some nice fluttering as I type - thinking this is going to be another little livewire like DS was :)

yay for kat blackberry and nobodies good scan news (and anyone else I've missed!) martha loads of luck for tomorrow.

total sorry you're sore, but glad its over for you, wishing the next couple of days away for you.

rock sorry I've probably really misrepresented the group with only reading that bit. It did just make me remember all the heartache I had in the first year when a lot of the ideals I had had fell through. I naively assumed breastfeeding would just happen and that I would have a natural delivery and on both fronts things turned out very differently. I think the debates on my last birth board didn't really help how I handled those setbacks iygwim.

omri and pentagon for your sad anniversaries. My due date is a week Sunday. After the mc I booked a city break for that wkd so that if I wasn't pregnant by then I could drink a lot of I'm so grateful that it won't be as sad as it could have been. Bizarre thing, I really don't feel ready for a baby right now, I'm ok with waiting another 5mths, but I'm still sad I'm not having one next weekend.

Glad everyone's scans etc seem to be going well. I'm feeling a bit 'head down for a bit' ish (fine but tired and eating my body weight in scampi fries) so just skimming thread every few days, but thinking of you all x x x

total sending good thoughts your way for Monday cxx I loved breast feeding because a) the weight simply fell off b) it was fab for bonding c) my breasts ached until they were fed. My DD was 9lb 4oz and in all honesty she fed every 3-4 hours and slept well too... Word of advice to those that are first timers remember that the milk is a food so break up feeds with cooled boiled water so that baby doesn't get thirsty, dehydrate or over eat - they also use the breast to self soothe too (instead of a dummy)

Pixie don't worry - there's just been another bit of a kick-off, think the hormones are starting to fly over there I think the problem with the gina ford stuff is that the more experienced mums were trying to (gently) say that its fine to have plans but don't be gutted if the baby has other plans... A few first timers didn't take too kindly to their ideas being criticised!

rock that's great news! Am so as I was 16 weeks yesterday and have to wait until next Friday for the midwife. I'm looking forward to it and I'm still having moments of thinking I'm totally imaging this pregnancy, is so weird after having 2 scans that I feel like that isn't it!?

Well done for getting through a tough day total, feet up and relax now.

On the feeding discussion - DS fed what felt like all the time for weeks but I'm sure it wasn't that bad....

Hello everyone, hope you're all doing ok. I've been away on a looong work trip abroad so only been able to check in occasionally and haven't been posting. Not sure I can manage to name check everyone but total hope you're alright, and hope you have your feet up this evening. All fingers crossed for Monday. saggy I've been thinking of you and am keeping all fingers tightly crossed for you too.

Welcome to all the newbies and congrats on the BFPs.

Feeding 12 times a night sounds blimmin terrifying! As do the Gina Ford-ites on the March thread.

So I have a question. Having blithely eaten undercooked meat three times so far this pregnancy (venison tartare once, ahem, and then pink lamb and medium rare steak) I read up on the dangers of toxoplasmosis - and that you often don't get any symptoms but can still infect the baby if you get it for the first time in pg - and have TOTALLY freaked myself out. I thought it was like food poisoning but it turns out, no. Called the midwife to discuss my paranoia and she reassured me that the risk of getting it was v low, the chance of passing it on to the baby even lower (10-15% in first trimester). They can do a blood test to see if there's a current infection but she said that if it did come back positive (v unlikely) then there wouldn't really be anything they could do, nor any way of telling how badly the baby was affected even if they did amnio to establish that it has passed to him/her - in short, pointless and unnecessary stress. So although I'd love the reassurance of a negative test maybe I should just hope for the best and not get the blood test? (I think in writing this I've talked myself around to that point of view...entirely opposite to what I thought this morning). What do you think?

Don't quite know why I've picked this particular thing to fixate on. Maybe because 12 week scan is next week and I'm living in fear of the much more likely news that things have gone tits up with another mmc again. Clearly I am in need of some posifrickintivity (and a good dose of commonsense). Anyway I am not going to be eating pink meat again this pg!!

Sorry for rather me me me post. Result of not posting for ages and then brooding about this particular irrational anxiety for three days on my own!

I have mine on fri birds and I totally get where your coming from as mine was also a MMC

birds, dont worry!!! Do you think the french give a crap about a bit of pink meat. Of course they don't. They probably also wash it down with a nice glass of vino and a good helping of Camembert. And their baby survival rates are way higher than ours.

lots to catch up on today! some great scan and heartbeats woop! total, i hope you can enjoy your chill out night as much as you can, you deserve it. fx for a good result come friday so you don't have to wait over the weekend. birds, don't panic, i can pretty much guarantee that 99% of people eat the 'wrong' things, drink and be merry before they even know they're pg. at my booking in appointment i told the midwife i was going on holidays and she said that she was pretty sure the italian ladies ate parma ham and the french ate blue steaks. panic not xx

pink i meant to ask if you sorted things out with your dh after his boozey night? i am getting the silent treatment from dh since his escapades on saturday night. apparently i'm the bad guy for being a bit pissed off for being woken up at 3am and 4am and 5am. 'what would you rather i do...just not go out?'. i am not going to be the one to do the making up. i was just soooo tired :( we had planned to do some paint shopping for baby room on sunday then after he surfaced at about 1pm he announced he was playing football at 3-5. my day ruined :(

Glad your scan went well Irish its always nice to hear some good news

Total - glad you got through the amnio okay. Keeping everything crossed for a good result for you.

Saggy - I was a bit confused about names too. How long do you have to wait now?

Katatonic - wow it is strange that we were at fmc at the same time. I am also going back on the 1st again at 5:30 for the result/scan... Willbe wondering who you are! Lots of couples waiting around 5:30 yesterday. I totally missed the whole glass of water thing - I think I'd have been in being scanned at that point probably. Really glad to have gone there despite price for the extra reassurance.

Birds - before I saw the midwife I had eaten rare steak, runny eggs and a Mr Whippy icecream - all of which are apparantly off limits. Only knew about unpasteurised cheese, mussels, pate before. Try not to worry, I have never heard of anyone being ill from rare steak so it must be v uncommon. Is sushi okay? Being avoiding it since I found out about rare meat but missing it.

Oh Janie that sucks!

Yeah we did sort things out. I didn't go nuts in the end (was too tired!) I just asked him if he thought what he had done was fair. He said no.... But then proceeded to try and justify it. I left him to it... Went to work... And by lunchtime, had an apology!!! Believe me I was shocked, didn't expect that one, and is not usual! We have also agreed that 3 weeks before baby day he will stop drinking (negotiations started at 2 weeks and ended at 3) so am happy with that.

But your weekend sounds really annoying! It would stress me if any baby plans were impacted by drinking. I would also be inclined to hold out for the apology - your life is impacted enough by being pg - wouldn't hurt to compromise! :(

aw that's good pink, glad your dh seems to be more of an adult than mine. i actually went to bed last night to watch the midwives and jst thought ...bloody hell imagine if i have to do all this on my own :( he just doesn't do the caring dh role. and if i ever say anything all i get is 'no i don't' or 'but i do' depending on what i'm saying. he just doesn't get that i'm pleading for him to care a bit more. his sister is pg and there's no way he would like it if her dh was getting on like this. we ended up going to b&q tonight to get some aint testers but it was the most unenjoyable experience ever. i so want all the baby preparations to be happy times but it just was so horrible :( i'm so tense as well, achey neck and shoulders and really bad heartburn today, which i haven't suffered from at all. i blame him. i'm a rant-a-saurus tonight sorry.

ladies!!!! Look at the NHS websites, search foods to avoid in pregnancy NHS... All your questioned answered even the rare meat ...

Birds I also convinced myself I had contracted toxoplasmosis from our kitten earlier on this week and had a minor freak out. However - after a lot of reading and some sense being knocked into me have realised that infections are very rare and that the chance of the baby suffering are rarer still. Someone who actually had toxo posted about ther experience on the pregnancy board last week. She got it first trimester. She was fine and so was baby. I'm going to ask about it at my booking appointment but am not going to worry about it until then.

Janie sorry to hear about your DH - mine was also a right dick last wek. Had a go at me for being too negative about the whole pregnancy when I refused to let him take pictures of my non existent bump so he can document the pg, until we've passed the 12wk scan. He then proceeded to get drunk at the wedding we went to and refused to come home with me at midnight because I was feeling really ill and he wanted to stay and party... Needless to say he felt awful the next day and then we had the bleed scare on Sat so he felt even worse. I've had dinners cooked for me every night this week and he is being super lovely now. I'm not making any excuses for them but as hard as it is for us to imagine how our lives are going to change, they can't even comprehend it. DH isn't going to know what had hit him! I can't wait