PG after MC: Posifrickitivity thread for the batsh*t crazy

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Welcome ladies, new and old. May we all have dull and boring pregnancies. Pull up a chair, crack open a bottle of (non-alcoholic) wine and settle in for mutual handholding, fishslapping and neurosis.

janie I've just seen your post! Sounds like you had a fun appointment and great scan (yay!!) How come you're getting these extra scans? If you don't mind me asking..I want the same! Unless it's your 20-week scan and I'm getting confused

pink he didn't mention a birth weight but if the book says they gain half a pound a week at this stage then with 10 weeks to go we could be talking a 8-9 pounder eek!

pentagon only 3 more weeks woohooo! what a fab feeling! i have 6 more mondays yay!

janie it is a great feeling indeed! I can't believe it's gone so fast (especially recently). You'll be in the same position very soon - 6 Mondays, right?

Today is the anniversary of my doomed scan (and finding out about my 2nd missed miscarriage). I'm just listening to a song I listened to a year ago while crying my eyes out and I can't help welling up....from sadness about what happened last year and joy/gratefulness that I'm lucky enough to be successfully pregnant this time...I think I need some cake!

Pentagon I'm really not sure why I had this scan...I'm 30 weeks now and he asked me to come for another at 35wks. Im in belfast and i asked at pg yoga last night if anyone else was getting a 30wk one but no one else seems to be. I've had a v uncomplicated pregnancy so far (touch wood) so I'm hoping the docs aren't hiding something scary from me

Sorry to hear its your sad anniversary, I think cake is a jolly good idea. I'm dreading mine in 2 weeks, every time I think of it I get upset, usually lying awake at night, but like you I'm so unbelievably grateful to be pg and this far along this time. This is my first DC and today I got quite baffled thinking that in 10 weeks I could have a real baby. Sending you a big hug x

Same here on the husband front. Dh has a weekend away in York at end of september, which i reluctantly agreed to and has been bugging me about a gig two days before due date!!!! I have said outright no. Not under any circumstances. Also bugging me about a gig two weeks after due date. Have told him we shall see. Apparently it is v inconvenient that we are hAving a baby during gig season!!!

Dh has also been investigating a cat already!!! Apparently there is an adult siberian female near where we live who is retirig and available at the end of the year. We kind of discussed the possibility of another cat at some stage in the next year and talked about getting a female this time so we don't compare too much to boris.
He has "somehow" ended up in discussions with this breeder! And shown me pics. Arrgh. She is a lovely tabby!
So is it a stupidly insane idea to get a cat only a couple of months after baby is born? Or would it be better sooner rather than later to get baby to adjust to it from the start?

thanks janie I hope yours isn't too bad in 2 weeks' time. I know, it's surreal to think there'll be a baby soon (especially when it's your first, it's my second and I feel the same) but it will happen and it will be amazing!

I'm sure they're not hiding anything scary - they wouldn't be allowed to, they'd be obliged to tell you - I think you're just lucky to be looked after by a very good NHS Trust!

Has anyone heard from anda? anda I hope you and your babies are back at home and doing well.

Pentagon and Janie - my 2nd mc due date also passed this week. I had a good cry. And some chocolate. And baby wriggled for me which helped. I don't think those dates will ever be the same.

Bod. Ooh that's brave. I would be tempted though. It just doesn't feel like home to me unless there is a kitty trotting around somewhere, so I can completely understand you wanting to, obviously not replace, but get a new friend. And lets face it, if you did you would manage! There my be easier times, but there also may be harder times! :)

Bod do you have to commit now? I would say wait till baby arrives and then see, also will that cat be used to screaming (hopefully not too much) babies? We have been talking about getting a dog but I've said deff not until next April time. By then we will be able to gage whether the house and us can cope!

Oh and on the DH's can I just add that mine became an emotional mushball of awe and love at what he had created once DD appeared and wasn't interested in leaving her side for weeks. I don't think he knew what had hit him in a nice way

Just read my early morning post back- didn't mean to come across that we should be doormats. However we had 3 break ups in the (non mn) baby forum group I was on when pg with DS - all in the 6 months post birth and all really due to the bloke not being able to "get" fatherhood. One did get back together later on but other two were irrevocable.
So that was supposed to be my "sage advice" - however probably not the best time to have tried to impart it everyone has different DP's who will react differently I guess

Now Bod (do I risk more advice?) we got our black lab when DS was 8 weeks old and although I love her now, I really didn't for the first 3 months as she was a distraction from staring at my DS all day. I just didn't want to give her attention - I wanted to lavish it all on DS.
Not sure what a cat/kitten would be like in comparison though, probably less work.

We had good news today, we finally exchanged on our new house we have been waiting MONTHS to go through. Means we can move next week and be nicely settled before I get too heavily PG.

Although I've insisted on paying for packers as I'm not packing up a house being PG DH tried to fight that one for about 5 minutes and realised it wasn't worth it!

Evening ladies. Still trying to catch up after a few days off MN.

pink when i was 7 months PG with DS my DH went skiing with his mates, DS is our PFB so it was our first pregnancy. When i got pg we were in the process of booking the ski holiday with the intention of me going. When i got the BFP i said to DH that i would still come along and just chill as long as it is within the next 6 months, well his mates booked it for a time when it was too late for me to come (not intentionally but i was still ) anyway - DH announced that he would go anyway i was ok about it but still managed to pout for the whole run up! Anyway - having a child does change you and i know there is no way DH would do that now he-wouldnt dare i think we all find that we adjust to the new lifestyle, DH now cant handle a full on boozy night out like he used to - just because he is so knackered!

janie i sooo want your crazy doctor!! see your bobba could also be a girl as he could be absolutely sure he didnt see any winky

I went to the MW this morning, she was lovely and remembered me from last year she did the tilted head thing but was also v lovely, she didnt refer me to EPU for a quick scan today but said i could go to A&E if i wanted to... me and DH decided not to go as A&E is for heart attacks and serious accidents, not some batshit crazy 6 week pregnant woman who thinks she might have had a bit of spotting!! Anyway, my community MW is going to speak to my bereavement MW at the hospital and get my early scans in order.

She did make me though as she started explaining about my current EDD and how it might change at the 12 week scan, she was explaining in detail that if the date is different then they have to go with it etc etc, i just smiled and said that i know this as this is my fourth pregnancy (1DC)

So me and DH dropped DS off for his last half day at school and then went for a nice posh lunch, i had steak and ale pie followed by eton mess and felt like this all afternoon!!

Hope you all get a good night sleep i-am looking at you pink's DH and have a fun weekend

Congrats on your new house guffsmugler and don't blame you on the packers. Take it easy xxxxx

Garden I think do do have to commit if we want this cat. Adult siberians don't come up very often. Dh just spoke to breeder and she said we would better getting the cat before the baby came! Arrgh dilemmas. Toying with idea of going to see her one evening it's all happening a bit to fast for my liking. Dh is so miserable about boris. Every time I start talking about him he gets upset and changes the subject. I think getting this cat is his way of being proactive. He cried so much in Wednesday. I have never seen him cry like that..

Chocolate that is awful about your friends on other thread. Men can be total crapheads can't they!

Hi ladies... Just to let you know bloods finally came back and 'No further actions' phewwwww thank god!!

Hi all, I'm rubbish at keeping up with this thread!

Bod surely having the cat first would put him/her out when the baby arrives, so it would make more sense to have baby first so that its all cat has ever known (hope that makes sense, its too early in the morning for me :) ). Only do it if you're 100% certain that it's what you want - also a dog so more work, but my friend got a puppy when her daughter was about 6 months old and she really resented the dog for a long time, she came very close to returning it to the rescue centre numerous times It was just a lot of commitment to take on and it felt like the puppy was taking her time away from the baby. DH wants a dog and I've put my foot down and said no, as much as I'd love one its enough of a commitment for me to be (hopefully) looking after 2 children, I don't want to be worrying about a pet as well!

Congrats on the house Guff!

Martha can you try for a scan around 7/8 weeks, you will definitely see a heartbeat by that stage which (for me) is far more reassuring than being too early to see anything much.

I'm starting to get heartbeat doom is that the right term I'm at my 16 week midwife appointment on Wed and terrified that there's not going to be a heartbeat. Not really got any obvious pregnancy symptoms any more (normal for second trimester I'm sure) although belly seems to be growing. Have finally put a bit of weight on, as was only 1lb up on pre pregnancy weight throughout first trimester, have gained another 3lb now. 16 weeks today!

Sorry I've not been on for awhile, trying to catch up!

forester sorry this is late, but I'm so sorry to read abt your MMC, it is so devastating and I can only imagine how you are feeling. I hope it all goes smoothly for you and that you are being looked after in RL. Best of luck for the future x

saggy I hope time isn't going to slowly, really hoping you get the results you want and you are coping....you seem so positive on here, it's very refreshing and how we should all try and be

pink DH goes out a lot more than me (my choice, I like staying in more than I used to since DS came along) and is banished to the spare room cos of snoring All I did was ask him to not get drunk after 37w but when DS came he wasn't interested anyway and we really hunkered down as a family for months...was lovely

fod good news abt bloods

No news here, still pretty much housebound but all well with baby..just counting down the weeks now!

Those of you that are after early scans could try searching a company called 'Life through the Lens' we paid a £35 deposit over the phone and £20 on the day, I explained over the phone my reasons for the scan and they were wonderful! Just a thought as we found that it gave us some peace

Those of you that are after early scans could try searching a company called 'Life through the Lens' we paid a £35 deposit over the phone and £20 on the day, I explained over the phone my reasons for the scan and they were wonderful! Just a thought as we found that it gave us some peace

That's who we used too fod very lucky that they are practically on our doorstep...they even did our 4D scan for £95

Wow we must live close shellshock as it was on our doorstep too

I'm Wirral (plassy scouser ) but I know they have one in Stoke too? x

fod woo hoo!!! i will also look that company up thank you - there is a private place nearby which we could use but fingers crossed my MWs seem to be on it.

rockchick yes i think that is what my bereavement MW is aiming for, i agree that a 6 week scan is ok but not that reassuring. Keeping everything crossed for your MW appointment

shellsocks i am not massively far from you (South Manchester/Cheshire) and love a good plassy scouser!

Not much to report this morning, feeling sick as usual. Was nice to talk to my mum again yesterday, she was uber excited and said she and dad had a whiskey to calm their nerves and celebrate when they found out. Feels different to last year as she was nervous for me when i announced my pregnancy (with good reason). I am taking all this excitement as a good sign. Oh and i am meeting a good work friend for a IKEA breakfast in a couple of weeks as we are both now child free on a Friday - i plan to tell her then

Have a good day x

I liked BabyBond, and the people there were very kind and reassuring. They took as long as you needed.

I thought it may help especially when you have to wait for appointments etc we got in there within a few days ;)

I'm a stokie bird duck heheeee

Mornin' ladies - hope everyone is having a great weekend. Went to a wedding yesterday and have woken up with DH breathing alcohol fumes all over me and realised it is monumentally unfair that I feel as sick as I would if I'd woken up with a stinking hangover! Bloody MS! Wedding was lovely though and so awesome to see a whole bunch of friends...

Although so much for trying to keep the pregnancy a secret - the game was apparently up as soon as I walked into the rexeption and grabbed an orange juice instead of champers... Still there were two pg girls there who both gave me a lot of reassurance and posifrickintivity and it was so nice to talk about it as if everything is going to be fine and normal. I have however woken up this morning and feel like I've jinxed it somehow and now more people know its all going to go wrong at the 12 wk scan.

Does anyone think its too neurotic if I book in a 10week scan? We're going on holiday with friends a week before the 12wk and I think I'd feel better knowing there was a heartbeat there as the last MC happened while we were away on holiday...