A thread for elderberries who are hovering in the bfp helicopter

[barkingtreefrog]

All elderberry grads welcome and anyone who fills berry criteria: ttc #1 a long time now finally bagged that elusive bfp, over 30...

Come join the next stage of the journey and compare sickness reports!!

[Thundercatsarego]

Good luck merk! 15 days is lonnnng though...

[CatsCantFlyFast]

On my way there now. For any daily mail readers I'm off to the place in England with the longest life expectancy!
I found A line made my bump look even bumpier! I am now at the stage where my work shirts won't fasten and I can't disguise it unless I wear a big baggy jumper! Thunder you must be getting a visible bump now too? Anyone else?

[Thundercatsarego]

I do t understand the bump. I'm normal-ish proportions but have always had a curved belly whatever weight I am. So now there is a tiny foetus which I know is way down below my belly button. So why am I so bloated around my belly? It can't be 'bump' surely because its higher than where the bean is.

[CatsCantFlyFast]

All ok from scan. 3 more pics for the collection and one of them (to keep thunder happy) is back to front! Despite having a really good look specifically she couldn't guess the gender, though from the nub theory I'm definitely betting girl based on what I saw! She worried me a bit about my low pappa blood and what that can indicate... Evidently the risk cut off is 0.6 and I'm .67 so almost in high risk range. Anyway will put pics up later. Baby has grown over 2.5 cm in 9 days!

[Thundercatsarego]

Great re good scan merk and the rapidly growing bean!
What's the pappa about? Down's?

[CatsCantFlyFast]

The Papp a as I understand it is a protein, of which low levels can be an indicator of downs. However separately low levels can indicate a placenta not working correctly, or reduced growth after 26 weeks, or high blood pressure etc. And I'm right on the edge of having a 'low' level.
I'm a bit worried about how much I trust the poor rushed NHS people to tell me everything or pick up on everything. Especially as the NHS and my private sonography disagree about whether my placenta is posterior or anterior!

[CatsCantFlyFast]

Where's boom? I desperately need an explanation of how an ultrasound can show my babies head on the left and the right without even moving the probe! And how is can see the baby from above, below, on top of its scull and up through its legs too!! It's baffling me

[CatsCantFlyFast]

Thunder your baby may be small but your uterus has gone from the size of a pear to a grapefruit.

[BlindKitty]

bellisima I'm still too scared to leave berry hq never mind the grads!!!

boom I realised earlier we haven't heard much about boomdog 2..does this mean he's stopped his little problems?

merk going off for a sqiz at the new pic now

Today was really difficult with my mates. i was dying to tell them! Was just leaving and they were all like 'you're not yourself tonight, etc'. Oh and they were trying to get me to go kayaking lol x

[Thundercatsarego]

merk is that why the lumpy bump is higher up?

blind when are you going to tell them then?

[CatsCantFlyFast]

Blind I gave in early and told people because I couldn't be bothered pretending.
Thunder I think some is probably bloating and some is other bits getting squashed iykwim. For me my bump is also as wide as my hips and pregnancy shaped (whereas earlier it was exactly like a high beer belly!) which I suspect means I'm going to be like a house!
Haven't put new pic up yet as have been lounging in a bath

[Thundercatsarego]

Put bump pic up too!

[CatsCantFlyFast]

I don't have a bump pic so will have to take one for you demanding lot give me 15 mins

[BlindKitty]

thunder dunno but I haven't even told my best mate yet so need to make sure she knows before anyone else really.

merk when did you come 'out' then?

[Boomgoestheweasel]

Morning all. Made it to 9 weeks, hooray for leaving the horrible 8th week behind! Only 3 more to go...

Massive fail on the new dress front, I'm far too old/fat for anything in the shops these days. Why are hemlines all funny lengths at the moment, I just want a nice knee-length dress and they're all either mid-calf or bumskimmers

Kitty Boomdog II is my nemesis. He's a lovely dog but we're having serious regrets about getting him, his little problem has escalated into a big problem and the house is basically a massive toilet! Mr Boom is still reluctant to admit defeat and we've got a dog psychologist/trainer coming round next week to see if they can help, but I think if it continues we're going to have to see if we can find him a new home somewhere he can be housed outside . I hate to be considering it (feel like a total dog-owner failure) but he's causing so much stress and worry and I can't deal with it on top of the pregnancy nerves, was in tears this morning with it all!

Merk can't help you with the ultrasound I'm afraid, I'm not a sonographer and they're a complete mystery to me! Have you put your pics up though?! Hope your 15 days passes quickly..

Kitty I'm coming out in stages...my best friend, my parents, brother and sister now know, so does Mr Boom's mum. We haven't told his sister yet, she's been trying even longer than us and he wants to be certain before letting her know. If anyone can help me out with a sensitive way of breaking the news it would be appreciated - I thought probably a text so she can digest the news and have a cry if needs be before having to do the congratulations routine? Or is that a bit cold?

Phew. All talked out! How is everyone else today?

[CatsCantFlyFast]

No pics, fell asleep on the sofa then rushing for work this morning. Am dreading today as have 2 hours with horrible boss, including an hour talking about how his style of working does not make me happy
I told friends within 2 weeks so about 6 weeks. Then parents immediately after as OH wanted them to be the first to know. Told the extended family last week. One of my friends keeps drunkenly telling other people which is really really pissing me off

[MotherOfCleo]

boom how old is boomdog2? It took us over 6 months to toilet train our basset and it seemed like the longest time in the world so I feel your pain.

Re your OHs sister I would think how you would want to find out if it was the other way around. If you do text I would explain why, but I think in person would still be best, just maybe have tissues on hand and say you understand she will have mixed emotions but wanted to be their as a hand to hold when you told her.

[Thundercatsarego]

Hooray boom for 9 weeks!
Re the dog- you are not a failure. You have to do what is best for both you and the dog- no good having an unsuccessful relationship and all being unhappy. I think you're doing exactly the right things. And re the news breaking, I agree think about how you would like to hear. For me, in person would be the worst possible way because I would hate someone watching my reaction (and if they had tissues I'd feel patronised- sorry moc). But we are all different so go with your gut instinct.


Good luck with the meeting merk

[Boomgoestheweasel]

Mother he's 2 and a bit. The soiling is constant, as an example yesterday I walked him four times, but still had to clear up three poos and two wees inside. He's actually getting worse, not better, despite our best efforts to housetrain. Am at my wits' end!

I was thinking of texting as I know while we were trying I far preferred finding out friends were expecting by text so I could rearrange my face before seeing them. I'd obviously say why I was texting and that we'd love to see her but understand if she finds it hard...you're probably right that as family she'd expect to be told face-to-face though. Hard to know what to do! It would be Mr Boom who'd tell her, not me, but I want to try and make it as easy as possible for her.

[Boomgoestheweasel]

Sorry Merk somehow missed your post. Hope your meeting goes as well as it can...

[MotherOfCleo]

You know her best boom so do what u think is best.

Oh that sounds so hard really feel for you!

[Brodicea]

Good luck boom whatever you decide. Thinking of merk too with her horrid sounding meeting - let us know how it goes!

In other news I have just chucked up my lunch: cheesey nachos! I was worried it might be a bit angular on the way out, but luckily not. No surprise I barfed them up on reflection, but I just didn't feel like ANYTHING else in the work canteen or cafe: waaaaaah. I want to feel like a normal person just for a few hours and eat something nutritious, heavy, tasty and normal!
Thanks for the vent!

[Tallyra]

I have eaten a bowl of plain spaghetti and a yoghurt today. now waiting for the afternoon sickness to arrive. I'm so sick of spitting into a bowl. I'm Lucky my mum is looking after me or I wouldn't be eating at all.

[Brodicea]

Oh tallyra welcome to my pity party - I feel just awful, and so confused about what on earth to eat. All I feel like right now is a bowl of plain white rice.
Instead as I am at work, I'm sucking slowly on fruit pastilles - this has also taken the nacho-taste away.
I am seriously considering going into my colleague's office and having a nap. The remaining people in my mostly deserted office wouldn't notice if I disappeared for a bit, I'm sure of it!