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Anyone due October 2004?

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fisil · 11/02/2004 16:22

Feel very nervous writing this. But I'm in my bold "sod the doctor" mood. Anyone joining me?

Eyelash? (after all, I consider it to be you who got me here in the first place )

Anyone else?

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eyelash · 22/02/2004 21:04

Harman - I might be completely wrong re the ovaries or not have explained the position properly. Can you ring your midwife team in the morning to check?

yes - I can understand your need to calm down but it is so difficult with something as important as your baby! At least it sounds like your ds is on your side anyway. btw are your children excited re the baby or have you told them yet?

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harman · 22/02/2004 21:13

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debra64 · 23/02/2004 10:11

We told our 3 kids before anyone else - and then had to race round telling people before they spoke to the kids and found out that way!

Harman - are you sure your in-laws aren't just miffed at the way you told them? They might have preferred being told in person. I held off telling people until I could see them in person (and just kept the kids off the phone!), partly because I think its nicest to and partly so I could see their reaction for myself!!

I have two boys aged 6 and 4 and my stepdaughter who is also 6 came to live with us permanently last easter. Its been hard work sometimes getting them all settled in together and I think my family thought I had enough to cope with. When I told them they all said congratulations (eventually, when it had sunk in) but there was definitely a look around the eyes with each of them and I got the impression that they thought I might be slightly mad!

We're also in the process of selling up and moving on to a place which needs quite a lot of work doing to it so that probably contributed to their hesitation. Since I'm 40 this year and we would like another after this one, we didn't feel we had too much time to wait around for little things like being settled in our new home!

All the pain people are talking about fits in with what I'm experiencing and I'm trying not to worry simply because I remember having exactly the same worries the last two times! I don't think anyone is convinced its not ectopic until it becomes obvious its not! I also have had pain around an appendix scar throughout my pregnancies and the doc said this is because of the way it was sown up - he think when it gets stretched its pulling on the tissues and muscles underneath. It was better in the second and third pregancies because it had already been stretched in the first.

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debra64 · 23/02/2004 10:11

We told our 3 kids before anyone else - and then had to race round telling people before they spoke to the kids and found out that way!

Harman - are you sure your in-laws aren't just miffed at the way you told them? They might have preferred being told in person. I held off telling people until I could see them in person (and just kept the kids off the phone!), partly because I think its nicest to and partly so I could see their reaction for myself!!

I have two boys aged 6 and 4 and my stepdaughter who is also 6 came to live with us permanently last easter. Its been hard work sometimes getting them all settled in together and I think my family thought I had enough to cope with. When I told them they all said congratulations (eventually, when it had sunk in) but there was definitely a look around the eyes with each of them and I got the impression that they thought I might be slightly mad!

We're also in the process of selling up and moving on to a place which needs quite a lot of work doing to it so that probably contributed to their hesitation. Since I'm 40 this year and we would like another after this one, we didn't feel we had too much time to wait around for little things like being settled in our new home!

All the pain people are talking about fits in with what I'm experiencing and I'm trying not to worry simply because I remember having exactly the same worries the last two times! I don't think anyone is convinced its not ectopic until it becomes obvious its not! I also have had pain around an appendix scar throughout my pregnancies and the doc said this is because of the way it was sown up - he think when it gets stretched its pulling on the tissues and muscles underneath. It was better in the second and third pregancies because it had already been stretched in the first.

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debra64 · 23/02/2004 10:11

We told our 3 kids before anyone else - and then had to race round telling people before they spoke to the kids and found out that way!

Harman - are you sure your in-laws aren't just miffed at the way you told them? They might have preferred being told in person. I held off telling people until I could see them in person (and just kept the kids off the phone!), partly because I think its nicest to and partly so I could see their reaction for myself!!

I have two boys aged 6 and 4 and my stepdaughter who is also 6 came to live with us permanently last easter. Its been hard work sometimes getting them all settled in together and I think my family thought I had enough to cope with. When I told them they all said congratulations (eventually, when it had sunk in) but there was definitely a look around the eyes with each of them and I got the impression that they thought I might be slightly mad!

We're also in the process of selling up and moving on to a place which needs quite a lot of work doing to it so that probably contributed to their hesitation. Since I'm 40 this year and we would like another after this one, we didn't feel we had too much time to wait around for little things like being settled in our new home!

All the pain people are talking about fits in with what I'm experiencing and I'm trying not to worry simply because I remember having exactly the same worries the last two times! I don't think anyone is convinced its not ectopic until it becomes obvious its not! I also have had pain around an appendix scar throughout my pregnancies and the doc said this is because of the way it was sown up - he think when it gets stretched its pulling on the tissues and muscles underneath. It was better in the second and third pregancies because it had already been stretched in the first.

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debra64 · 23/02/2004 10:12

We told our 3 kids before anyone else - and then had to race round telling people before they spoke to the kids and found out that way!

Harman - are you sure your in-laws aren't just miffed at the way you told them? They might have preferred being told in person. I held off telling people until I could see them in person (and just kept the kids off the phone!), partly because I think its nicest to and partly so I could see their reaction for myself!!

I have two boys aged 6 and 4 and my stepdaughter who is also 6 came to live with us permanently last easter. Its been hard work sometimes getting them all settled in together and I think my family thought I had enough to cope with. When I told them they all said congratulations (eventually, when it had sunk in) but there was definitely a look around the eyes with each of them and I got the impression that they thought I might be slightly mad!

We're also in the process of selling up and moving on to a place which needs quite a lot of work doing to it so that probably contributed to their hesitation. Since I'm 40 this year and we would like another after this one, we didn't feel we had too much time to wait around for little things like being settled in our new home!

All the pain people are talking about fits in with what I'm experiencing and I'm trying not to worry simply because I remember having exactly the same worries the last two times! I don't think anyone is convinced its not ectopic until it becomes obvious its not! I also have had pain around an appendix scar throughout my pregnancies and the doc said this is because of the way it was sown up - he think when it gets stretched its pulling on the tissues and muscles underneath. It was better in the second and third pregancies because it had already been stretched in the first.

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debra64 · 23/02/2004 10:12

We told our 3 kids before anyone else - and then had to race round telling people before they spoke to the kids and found out that way!

Harman - are you sure your in-laws aren't just miffed at the way you told them? They might have preferred being told in person. I held off telling people until I could see them in person (and just kept the kids off the phone!), partly because I think its nicest to and partly so I could see their reaction for myself!!

I have two boys aged 6 and 4 and my stepdaughter who is also 6 came to live with us permanently last easter. Its been hard work sometimes getting them all settled in together and I think my family thought I had enough to cope with. When I told them they all said congratulations (eventually, when it had sunk in) but there was definitely a look around the eyes with each of them and I got the impression that they thought I might be slightly mad!

We're also in the process of selling up and moving on to a place which needs quite a lot of work doing to it so that probably contributed to their hesitation. Since I'm 40 this year and we would like another after this one, we didn't feel we had too much time to wait around for little things like being settled in our new home!

All the pain people are talking about fits in with what I'm experiencing and I'm trying not to worry simply because I remember having exactly the same worries the last two times! I don't think anyone is convinced its not ectopic until it becomes obvious its not! I also have had pain around an appendix scar throughout my pregnancies and the doc said this is because of the way it was sown up - he think when it gets stretched its pulling on the tissues and muscles underneath. It was better in the second and third pregancies because it had already been stretched in the first.

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debra64 · 23/02/2004 10:13

We told our 3 kids before anyone else - and then had to race round telling people before they spoke to the kids and found out that way!

Harman - are you sure your in-laws aren't just miffed at the way you told them? They might have preferred being told in person. I held off telling people until I could see them in person (and just kept the kids off the phone!), partly because I think its nicest to and partly so I could see their reaction for myself!!

I have two boys aged 6 and 4 and my stepdaughter who is also 6 came to live with us permanently last easter. Its been hard work sometimes getting them all settled in together and I think my family thought I had enough to cope with. When I told them they all said congratulations (eventually, when it had sunk in) but there was definitely a look around the eyes with each of them and I got the impression that they thought I might be slightly mad!

We're also in the process of selling up and moving on to a place which needs quite a lot of work doing to it so that probably contributed to their hesitation. Since I'm 40 this year and we would like another after this one, we didn't feel we had too much time to wait around for little things like being settled in our new home!

All the pain people are talking about fits in with what I'm experiencing and I'm trying not to worry simply because I remember having exactly the same worries the last two times! I don't think anyone is convinced its not ectopic until it becomes obvious its not! I also have had pain around an appendix scar throughout my pregnancies and the doc said this is because of the way it was sown up - he think when it gets stretched its pulling on the tissues and muscles underneath. It was better in the second and third pregancies because it had already been stretched in the first.

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debra64 · 23/02/2004 10:13

We told our 3 kids before anyone else - and then had to race round telling people before they spoke to the kids and found out that way!

Harman - are you sure your in-laws aren't just miffed at the way you told them? They might have preferred being told in person. I held off telling people until I could see them in person (and just kept the kids off the phone!), partly because I think its nicest to and partly so I could see their reaction for myself!!

I have two boys aged 6 and 4 and my stepdaughter who is also 6 came to live with us permanently last easter. Its been hard work sometimes getting them all settled in together and I think my family thought I had enough to cope with. When I told them they all said congratulations (eventually, when it had sunk in) but there was definitely a look around the eyes with each of them and I got the impression that they thought I might be slightly mad!

We're also in the process of selling up and moving on to a place which needs quite a lot of work doing to it so that probably contributed to their hesitation. Since I'm 40 this year and we would like another after this one, we didn't feel we had too much time to wait around for little things like being settled in our new home!

All the pain people are talking about fits in with what I'm experiencing and I'm trying not to worry simply because I remember having exactly the same worries the last two times! I don't think anyone is convinced its not ectopic until it becomes obvious its not! I also have had pain around an appendix scar throughout my pregnancies and the doc said this is because of the way it was sown up - he think when it gets stretched its pulling on the tissues and muscles underneath. It was better in the second and third pregancies because it had already been stretched in the first.

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debra64 · 23/02/2004 10:13

We told our 3 kids before anyone else - and then had to race round telling people before they spoke to the kids and found out that way!

Harman - are you sure your in-laws aren't just miffed at the way you told them? They might have preferred being told in person. I held off telling people until I could see them in person (and just kept the kids off the phone!), partly because I think its nicest to and partly so I could see their reaction for myself!!

I have two boys aged 6 and 4 and my stepdaughter who is also 6 came to live with us permanently last easter. Its been hard work sometimes getting them all settled in together and I think my family thought I had enough to cope with. When I told them they all said congratulations (eventually, when it had sunk in) but there was definitely a look around the eyes with each of them and I got the impression that they thought I might be slightly mad!

We're also in the process of selling up and moving on to a place which needs quite a lot of work doing to it so that probably contributed to their hesitation. Since I'm 40 this year and we would like another after this one, we didn't feel we had too much time to wait around for little things like being settled in our new home!

All the pain people are talking about fits in with what I'm experiencing and I'm trying not to worry simply because I remember having exactly the same worries the last two times! I don't think anyone is convinced its not ectopic until it becomes obvious its not! I also have had pain around an appendix scar throughout my pregnancies and the doc said this is because of the way it was sown up - he think when it gets stretched its pulling on the tissues and muscles underneath. It was better in the second and third pregancies because it had already been stretched in the first.

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debra64 · 23/02/2004 10:14

We told our 3 kids before anyone else - and then had to race round telling people before they spoke to the kids and found out that way!

Harman - are you sure your in-laws aren't just miffed at the way you told them? They might have preferred being told in person. I held off telling people until I could see them in person (and just kept the kids off the phone!), partly because I think its nicest to and partly so I could see their reaction for myself!!

I have two boys aged 6 and 4 and my stepdaughter who is also 6 came to live with us permanently last easter. Its been hard work sometimes getting them all settled in together and I think my family thought I had enough to cope with. When I told them they all said congratulations (eventually, when it had sunk in) but there was definitely a look around the eyes with each of them and I got the impression that they thought I might be slightly mad!

We're also in the process of selling up and moving on to a place which needs quite a lot of work doing to it so that probably contributed to their hesitation. Since I'm 40 this year and we would like another after this one, we didn't feel we had too much time to wait around for little things like being settled in our new home!

All the pain people are talking about fits in with what I'm experiencing and I'm trying not to worry simply because I remember having exactly the same worries the last two times! I don't think anyone is convinced its not ectopic until it becomes obvious its not! I also have had pain around an appendix scar throughout my pregnancies and the doc said this is because of the way it was sown up - he think when it gets stretched its pulling on the tissues and muscles underneath. It was better in the second and third pregancies because it had already been stretched in the first.

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harman · 23/02/2004 10:33

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eyelash · 23/02/2004 12:12

debra64 - you're not taking on much are you?

We have told the 4 year old whose only comment was "I'd like a boy, cause I don't like girls". 20 month old too young yet to understand.

Harman - are you feeling any better today re your mil?

How is everybody else?

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debra64 · 23/02/2004 12:23

not having much luck here - just lost another message which read 'Just came back to post that last msg because I kept getting 'screen not found' earlier, only to find it had posted over and over again! Does this happen often? (wonder if this one will be posted twice!)

Also, don't worry about it too much Harman. How about this for a response to my second pregnancy from my previous mother in law, remembering I'd lost the first baby. She said 'oh no - I hope my daughter won't be upset as she is trying too. I was hoping she'd fall first!' Cheers. Yes - I felt like punching her too!

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harman · 23/02/2004 12:49

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geogteach · 23/02/2004 13:04

Been reading this thread for a while and now its time to join in. I'm expecting my 3rd in October - haven't told anyone yet - partly as No 2 is only 8 months! I am about to go back to work after maternity leave so am dreading telling the boss - anyone got any advise how to tackle that one. I will have to resign as can't afford childcare for 3 but i'm a teacher so i'll work till the end of summer term to get some money together.

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fisil · 23/02/2004 21:12

Hi geogteach, and congratulations.

Please work the first week in September. You are perfectly entitled to, and you get an extra 7 weeks pay. Your head cannot say no, and it will certainly be worth it for the money! (so long as you can find someone to look after the kids for that one week!)

I have a meeting with my head this week to talk about staffing for next year. I intend to take minimal mat leave this time, as it drove me up the wall last time. There is no way we could get someone in for a term - there just aren't the people available. So we are going to have to be creative! Where abouts are you?

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fisil · 23/02/2004 21:13

PS I'm not talking about pains today. They are much worse, so I'm trying to blank them out.

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geogteach · 24/02/2004 09:35

I'm in Surrey. Know what you mean about no cover my first mat leave i took a term and this time a year - both times no one available to cover. As i'm resigning i'll get paid for the holiday anyway as contracts run till end of August. I think i've got it sussed i'm heading back for the last week of this term so I get paid for Easter. being at home full time is going to come as a shock I think - especially with 3!

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eyelash · 24/02/2004 19:30

fisil - aren't you due another scan soon? That should at least put your mind at rest. And I assume your bleeding has stopped.

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fisil · 24/02/2004 21:34

Yes, the bleeding has stopped. My scan is next Tuesday, which I am counting down the days/hours/minutes (spent today thinking "this time next week...".

Geogteach - of course, I'd forgotten you'll get paid until end of Aug - because you'll resign before 31st May, won't you? I'm very near Surrey (I think the next street is officially Surrey) but I teach in Wandsworth. What has happened to your classes for the past year?

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fisil · 26/02/2004 08:40

Anyone around for advice? I can't get through to dp on the phone. I'm at work, been here over an hour. Have suddenly flopped and become really lethargic. I've shut my office door to take some quiet moments. I don't know what to do next - I don't feel capable of making a decision. The thought of it makes me want to cry. What am I supposed to do, I really can't remember?

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Azure · 26/02/2004 09:05

Fisil - how are you feeling now? Could you go home and put your feet up? There's no point being at work if you're feeling like that. Take care.

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fisil · 26/02/2004 17:07

Thanks Azure. I went to Starbucks with a friend, came back and taught three lessons and then went home to relax. I will go & get ds in a minute, and then as soon as he goes to bed, so will I. I think I am just majorly tired. And hormonal!

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eyelash · 26/02/2004 17:26

Sorry fisil - I have been at work all day. Are you feeling any better. Sounds like it is part and parcel of the pregnancy - but a very good symptom!

I have my next scan in the morning so keep your fingers crossed for me.

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