I think I might be miscarrying...

[YorkshireTeaDrinker]

Went to the loo before bed last night, bright red blood when I wiped. Just been again, more blood. It's not gushing, just spotting onnthe sanitary towel i am wearing and plenty of blood on the loo roll when I wipe. Plus cramping. Feels like the start of my period. I am 8+6.

This would be DC2, conceived on 23rd cycle of TTC. I fear it could be all over soon. I am gutted. Assuming this is a miscarriage, does anyone know what I should do in the morning? Do I stay home and wait for the bleeding to get heavier? Do I ring midwife? Fertility Unit? (we are registered with the fertility unit as we're on their books when I got my bfp, despite having not had any treatment). Is there anything the HCPs can do, or wil they just tell me to wait it out?

Sorry to hear this. (hug)

I don't know what is best to do, but some wise mn'er will be along soon to help.

(hug)

I am sending you lots of good thoughts.

I am a little bit reactionary, so I wouldn't wait until the morning. I would phone the birth centre for advice now.

They probably won't be able to help much, but will advise. I imagine they will also probably tell you to get things checked out in the morning

I have had two MCs trying for DC2. So sorry you are having to go through this. What I did was ring my midwife as I knew who I was assigned to. Some trusts would refer you to the early pregnancy unit but some won't. (Mine wont). If the bleeding is very very heavy you need to go to the A&E. My second MC was so heavy blood was coming out like a tap and my trousers were blood red from a 20min drive to hospital. I was then put on IV drip and an operation to remove the things inside.

if it is just like a heavy period then you are ok. My first I carried on as normal with work and all. If it doesn't stop bleeding after a week, then my midwife said to ring back.

HTH.

I had bleeding at 8 weeks and I am now 28 weeks, try to stay positive, it's not always bad news. Hugs to you x

What a difficult time. Sending hugs.
I've had lots of blooding, pouring at one point and still pregnant so don't give up just yet. Keep us posted xxxx

I had bleeding with ds3 and was advised to rest with feet up and booked in for a scan the next day, fortunately all went well and I found out I was 4 week more than I thought.
when my mum had bleeding she was told if she was going to have a miscarriage there wasn't. anything they could do and to carry on with things. unfortunately she miscarried.

So sorry to hear this. Google early pregnancy units in your area and check where your nearest is - many wil take self-referrals and you can just turn up. They will be able to scan and let you know what's going on. It is terrifying but it's not always bad news - I bled for three weeks but touch wood so far so good. Am only just ten weeks so still early days but my last scan on Saturday (I've had loads) showed baby doing well and the bleeds shovels shrunk (they could see where it's coming from).

Best of luck - I really hope this proves to just be a horrible scare for you xx

Shovels? I meant having!

Your symptoms sound like mine at 8 weeks and today I am 22 weeks along so fingers crossed it's "just a bleed" like I had - with no explanation. If you haven't already, I suggest you find your EPU and go along. I went to A&E and they sent me to the EPU on the same site so had two scans where my mind was (sort of) put to rest as I could see a really strong heartbeat immediately.

It is a worrying time and my thoughts are with you. xxx

Thanks all. Bleeding a little heavier this morning, cramping still there. Feels like the start of a period really. Not gushing, but definitely bleeding. Just upscaled to a night time pad. hoping it will be over capacity for the subsequent flow, but feel now is the time to be prepared.

DH went to work as normal at 6.30, I am at home with DD1 (2.5) who I usually drop off at my mum's house (half an hour away) on my way to work. Will make sure DD is occupied by cbeebies and ring midwife. Not sure what to do with DD.

Feeling a little overwhelmed by logistics at the moment. I really want to curl up in bed and sob, but the rest of life needs attending to.

Thank you so much everyone who said they had bleeds and the pregnancy continued. I am trying to cling to a bit of hope, but if the fat lady hasn't actually sung yet, I'm pretty sure I can hear her in the dressing room, warming up.

We've chatted elsewhere and just seen this so wanted to offer a hand to hold and my thoughts.

Hope it's innocuous as others have suggested it might be.

Keep posting. We're reading.

PS Just remembered that we chatted on secondary infertility so this must be particularly hard for you. So sorry.

Midwife advises rest. Wait it out for a few hours and see what happens. DD transfixed by a Wiggles DVD, so should be quiet for a while. Mum coming over to look after DD so I should be able to crawl back into bed and sob eventually.

Thanks respisa. I assume all MCs are pretty damn horrible, but when you think that it could be another couple of years before you get another chance at pregnancy (if at all) it adds a certain piquancy to the pain.

OP I hope you are okay. We're all here if you want to talk. Give your dd a big cuddle, get yourself off to bed and sleep.

I hope all is ok with your bean. Like others say, it might not be an MC. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I'm 38 already, so every MC feels like another chance slipping away from me. I can hear the clock ticking so loudly .

I'm another one that had early bleeding, at about 6, 8 and 10 weeks!
I'm now 29 weeks pregnant and am just starting to pack my hospital bag, so bleeding is not always bad news.

Keep your feet up and take care.

best of luck Yorkshire

really a scan is the only way to tell whats going on
i would personally push for ascan

i hope it turns out all ok for you xxx

I'd go for a scan too. Can your mum give you a lift to your nearest EPU and look after your DD while you get a scan done? Or perhaps your DH could come home from work and take you while DM looks after DD? Not knowing what's happening is agonising.

oh op am sorry to hear this

it happened to me at 11 weeks, and my midwife told me to go straight to a+e

i had to wait around for a few hours but was eventually given a scan at the EPU. had to push for it though, i was treated quite badly and insensitively tbh. and, sadly in my case, i had miscarried

i hope and pray its not going to be a MC in your case xx

Op.

want to send you big hugs & lots of good wishes...

Let us know how you get on. Really hope your ok. X

To all those pushing for the scan. One thing I've learned from this board is that the level of care provided by different trusts are very very different. Our EPU will not take any walk in, and the midwife will not refer you. I've been told specifically that only if the bleeding lasts longer than a normal period, like 7-10 days, before they'll look into it. While on the other hand, another lady on the same thead was given a scan every two weeks to check on the baby!

thats disgraceful onelittletoddler

:(

i'm sure i read on here once that a lady who was bleeding was going to lie about the severity / length to get seen quicker. while i personally do not condone that , you can see why people do it.

again, hope the op is ok, please come back and let us know how you are x

You should be able to be referred for a scan through your GP. NICE guidelines say that all bleeding in pregnancy should be investigated, and it should - for your own peace of mind, chance of ectopic pregnancy or other problems and for follow up if it is a MC. I had bleeding at 4, 10, 11, 13 weeks in my last pregnancy (quite heavy) and baby was fine, it's so worrying though and my thoughts are with you.

I'm sorry you are going through this, but as others have mentioned, it doesn't automatically signal the end.
Personally I would go to A&E if it escalates at all. and proabaly even if it doesnt The midwife you spoke to, I'm assuming isn't from the EPU where from my own experience they are miles more helpful and sympathetic.
I know what an awful traumatic time this is, not knowing one way or the other. I'm sure your EPU will be able to offer some kind of help.
Another suggestion I would like to make is MNs 'Miscarriage' forum. You will find it in 'Body and Soul'. Whatever the outcome for you, and I'm crossing everything for a positive one, the support and information there is immeasurable. I cannot recommend it more strongly, it is MN at its best.

saggy I didn't get any luck with A&E for my first MC. They didn't refer me to EPU either. After a 4-5 hours wait, I see a doctor and was told to go home. Looking back I wouldn't have wasted my time.

However they were very very good for my second MC. I was not going to go but the ladies on here and my DH convinced me too. I'm sure it's because I was actually dripping blood all over the floor that they pushed me through very quickly. I actually asked for a big pad from them so I could sit down and not stain their chairs .