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I think I might be miscarrying...

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 12/08/2013 04:07

Went to the loo before bed last night, bright red blood when I wiped. Just been again, more blood. It's not gushing, just spotting onnthe sanitary towel i am wearing and plenty of blood on the loo roll when I wipe. Plus cramping. Feels like the start of my period. I am 8+6.

This would be DC2, conceived on 23rd cycle of TTC. I fear it could be all over soon. I am gutted. Assuming this is a miscarriage, does anyone know what I should do in the morning? Do I stay home and wait for the bleeding to get heavier? Do I ring midwife? Fertility Unit? (we are registered with the fertility unit as we're on their books when I got my bfp, despite having not had any treatment). Is there anything the HCPs can do, or wil they just tell me to wait it out?

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Moche · 15/08/2013 11:35

:-( x

TangfasticMrFoxalastic · 15/08/2013 11:35

Oh I am so sorry :( x

armsandtheman · 15/08/2013 11:36

So sorry for your loss. It is so painful and awful. Glad your family are taking care if you. Be very kind to yourself. X

MrBlondesFries · 15/08/2013 11:42

Oh yorkshire so so sorry for your loss. At the very least you can grieve and get some closure, and not be in limbo. Did you tell the MWs/doctors how faint you've been?

Please don't be hard on yourself, ths horrible time will pass and you will be happy again. Take care of yourself.

Bakingtins · 15/08/2013 11:44

I'm sorry Yorkshire. Lots of support available on the Miscarriage board if you need it.

prettyinpink90 · 15/08/2013 11:45

I'm so sorry to hear the awful news Yorkshire! Please take care of yourself x

Mama1980 · 15/08/2013 11:57

I'm so so sorry for your loss Yorkshire Hmm please take care of yourself. My thoughts are with you x

TSSDNCOP · 15/08/2013 11:57

Sad be kind to yourself OP xx

ConflictDodger · 15/08/2013 11:59

So sorry. Be as kind and gentle to yourself as you can be x

HaveIGotPoosForYou · 15/08/2013 12:11

I am so sorry to hear this news, OP.
Give yourself a bit of time and allow yourself to recover.
But don't take this as you can't have children or wont be able to - if you still want a baby, there is no reason why you shouldn't after a bit of a mourning period.
Because a baby is a beautiful thing and everyone deserves a beautiful thing in their life.

Libertine73 · 15/08/2013 12:13

Oh Yorkshire I'm so sorry, hold your DD and DH tight, you will get through this xx

Lovemyprincess4eva · 15/08/2013 12:22

So sorry!!! Sending u big hugs xxx

CrispyFB · 15/08/2013 12:23

I am really, really sorry Sad I'm glad you have an answer, but wish you did not have this particular one. Be gentle with yourself.

resipsa · 15/08/2013 12:26
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honey86 · 15/08/2013 12:44

aww so sorry for your loss yorkshire, absolutely gutted for you Sadyour welcome to stick around til your ready to move on Thanks

vkinski · 15/08/2013 14:21

So sorry yorkshire, I know exactly what you are going through as the same thing happened to me last September. Take as much time as you need to recover and build yourself up, it really does drain you.

I took a lot of comfort from my DD. She didn't know anything about what happened last year but I just concentrated on the fact that I had her and she is just the best wee girl.

I wasn't sure if I wanted to go back to TTC, as I hated the thought of going through it all again but luckily for me, I am now nearly 28 weeks pregnant and in my early pregnancy, my local EPU were fantastic and gave me a few extra scans for reassurance (it was the same ladies who had dealt with me during my miscarriage).

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 15/08/2013 15:35

Thank you everyone for your kind words. I am being very well looked after. Went straight to bed once we got back from hospital, just feel worn out.

Scan wasn't too bad, sonographer was very kind and left us alone for a few minutes afterwards so I could have a good snotty cry all over DH. Even though i was fairly confident it was all over before we went, seeing the empty scan picture made it all seem so final. We had been in the same room just over a week ago looking at a tiny, but recognisably human, foetus with a strong heart beat and now there was nothing at all except a small amount of blood.

Fertility unit nurse was lovely, told us we can get in touch to get back into the treatment cycle when ever we like, but said not to do anything until we feel up to it. We will probably try for 2 or 3 cycles naturally, to see if we benefit form the post MC fertility surge. After that, who knows. I'm not sure I have the appetite for months and months of hopeless TTCing again. And now is probably not the best time to start making those sorts of plans.

DH is being lovely, getting on with washing and shopping whilst I sit in bed dozing, MNing and drinking (caffeinated) tea. He is not much of a one for discussing feelings, but has been doing a certain amount of unsolicited hand-holding, which is probably as far as his bluff Yorkshire soul can go towards expressing emotion. That and cleaning the kitchen.

I've been reading some of the miscarriage threads and I think physically I have got away quite lightly. Part of me wishes I hadn't. I think if I felt more physical pain it would help me justify feeling so listless and weary. GP has signed me off for a week. She said I look to be coping very well. And yesterday (when I saw GP) I was in a pretty brisk and business like frame of mind. Today I feel like I did on Monday (without the blood loss and keeling over bit, of course!), just sad and a bit drained.

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Libertine73 · 15/08/2013 16:13

Bless your heart, you will be up and down I'm sure. Glad DH is being supportive in his own way, must be hard on him too.

You can always try again, if and when you feel up to it.

Lots of tea/wine/gin and MN is Dr Lib orders x

fluffyraggies · 15/08/2013 17:07

Oh yorkshire.

I'm so sorry to hear this news. You take good care of yourself, and let your DH take care of you.

There are many supportive threads on the ttc forum here. (i know, i lurked there a good while)

(hugs)

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 15/08/2013 23:20

So sorry Yorkshire. It's a shit shit thing. X

SeriousStuff · 16/08/2013 16:01

I'm so sad to hear your news but glad you've got good support at home. Take care and give yourself plenty of time to recover.

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