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I think I might be miscarrying...

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 12/08/2013 04:07

Went to the loo before bed last night, bright red blood when I wiped. Just been again, more blood. It's not gushing, just spotting onnthe sanitary towel i am wearing and plenty of blood on the loo roll when I wipe. Plus cramping. Feels like the start of my period. I am 8+6.

This would be DC2, conceived on 23rd cycle of TTC. I fear it could be all over soon. I am gutted. Assuming this is a miscarriage, does anyone know what I should do in the morning? Do I stay home and wait for the bleeding to get heavier? Do I ring midwife? Fertility Unit? (we are registered with the fertility unit as we're on their books when I got my bfp, despite having not had any treatment). Is there anything the HCPs can do, or wil they just tell me to wait it out?

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 13/08/2013 12:37

Thanks MrBlondes, I have done as you suggest and made an appointment to see my GP tomorrow. If nothing else I may need a sick note. Am quite surprised by how wobbly I feel. Also will be guided by the GP on when and where to go for the scan. Fertility Unit have been v supportive, but I think it might be easier to go to the EPU. All our trips to the fertility unit thus far have been hopeful ones, I fear it may be extra difficult to go back there for a bad news scan.

I would love to try to remain hopeful, but I know this wasn't a twin pregnancy (I had a scan at 8 weeks) and I really can't see how I could remain pregnant given the amount of blood I lost yesterday. However, getting a BFP in the first place seemed pretty damned miraculous, so I can't completely rule it out Wink.

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fluffyraggies · 13/08/2013 17:34

Oh gosh i so hope you haven't lost baby, bless you.

Honestly yorkshire i lost loads of blood with my bleed. I'm not talking spotting. I'm talking soaked shoes and bathroom mat. After a night in hospital no one could tell me where the 'material' came from. They just don't know why this happens - ''but sometimes it just does''.

Push for a scan asap. If they are saying wait till the bleeding has stopped i'd tell a fib and say it has, to be honest. When you get there you can be vague and mutter about spotting. Once you're there you're there.

You need to know. Limbo is torture. (hug)

MrBlondesFries · 13/08/2013 18:24

I hope you haven lost the baby as well....keep us posted yorkshire sending you positive thoughts.

MrBlondesFries · 13/08/2013 18:26

P.s I agree with fluffy say what you need to to get that scan.

blondebaby111 · 13/08/2013 18:42

Hope you get a scan yorkshire. So sorry you are going thru this but its not over til they tell u there is no baby and the only way to be sure is aa scan. Good luck with it all, your so brave xx

TotallyPaninied · 13/08/2013 20:20

Been following and just wanted to send a hug xx

Mama1980 · 13/08/2013 20:36

How are you doing today op? I'm so sorry you're going through this limbo is awful. I hope you can arrange a scan as soon as possible.
I don't want to offer false hope in anyway, it does sound likely you have miscarried but I bled when pregnant with ds2 from day one, so heavily I needed blood transfusions to replace the amount of blood I lost. He was born early but is now fine. You really need a scan to be certain.
Be gentle with yourself and try to eat if you can.
Thanks

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 13/08/2013 21:47

Right, will ring fertility unit tomorrow. I should have a scan by Thursday at the latest. Either at fertility unit or EPU if GP refers there. Still pretty certain I've definitely miscarried, but need to get it confirmed. And bleeding has really slowed up now, so I don't think I'll need to fib (much).

DD is staying at my mum's tonight. I came home this afternoon and put myself to bed. Still feeling very weak. Did two loads of washing and was exhausted each time I hung the washing out. Had a little cry this afternoon. But feeling quite calm at the moment.

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1proudmum · 13/08/2013 21:56

This happend to me at my 4th week of pregnancy with DD2 but it turned out i was having my period unexpectedly so I wouldn't worry yourself to much yet but If i was you I would go and get it checked out I did

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 13/08/2013 22:01

And thank you everyone for posting and sharing your experiences / concern. It is such a relief to be able to post here and have wise, empathetic souls offer hope and advice.

Despite being at my mum's yesterday, she was fully occupied with looking after DD, and my time spent dripping blood and gore and what I presume to be a sac and embryo, into the loo was pretty lonely. My first action once I'd come round from passing out was to post on here. Knowing that there are people out there who care enough to respond, and even check back on this thread to see how things are progressing, is enormously encouraging.

I think someone up thread said that I was being brave. I'm not, I'm just responding to the situation as best I can cos there is bog all I can do to change it. But the kind words on here make it much easier to keep on keeping on.

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CrispyFB · 13/08/2013 22:14

Hang in there - I am glad you are pushing for a scan sooner. They can scan whether you're bleeding or not, I am sure.

Been thinking of you too.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 13/08/2013 22:27

They can scan, regardless of blood. I was scanned mid miscarriage. Really hoping everything is ok. Xx

MrBlondesFries · 13/08/2013 22:43

yorkshire it's a real concern you're feeling so faint/weak. Again not wanting to raise false hoe, but the bleeding and feeling faint could be linked and may not be a miscarriage, it may however need medical attention.

If it is a mc, then you really have to look after yourself, the washing can wait or your dh can do it, and you literally have to be on bed rest as much as possible.

Everyone here can see what's gut wrenching time this is for you, and there's no shame at all in crawling no bed, having a god cry and eating some chocolate. Do whatever you need to do get through this, don't worry about putting on a brave face for work etc.

Fingers crossed for positive news at the scan, or at the very least a definitive answer. Xxx

MrBlondesFries · 13/08/2013 22:44

Sorry lots of spelling mistakes!

Nessalina · 13/08/2013 23:11

Hey, really sorry to hear what you're going through Thanks As a lot of people have said already, take care of yourself first & foremost and try not to think the worst just yet. Good luck at at docs tomorrow xx

fluffyraggies · 14/08/2013 08:28

Thinking of you this morning lovely Thanks

If all you want to do is lay and sleep then do that. Have regular little healthy snacks and look after yourself. It's important either way!!

Let us know how you are and how you get on with the phone call x

OneLittleToddleTerror · 14/08/2013 09:03

Yorkshire it's a concern you are feeling faint. Maybe you are losing too much blood and is now a little anemic? Have you seen your GP yet? (I remember you said you've made an appointment)?

LadyFlumpalot · 14/08/2013 09:22

I'm also concerned over your blood loss. Please get to a hospital? If you are lightheaded and passed out you need to be seen.

I hemorrhaged when I miscarried last year, it was scary how quickly it happened but I was seen and treated promptly in A+E. I was in a room with a drip in my arm within 10 minutes of arriving.

libertine73 · 14/08/2013 09:40

morning Yorkshire, hope you can get seen today love, best of luck Flowers

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 14/08/2013 10:57

Mourning all, thanks so much for the concern. Feeling ok today. Beeding really minimal now, no longer feeling faint. DD stayed overnight at mums so i had a good nights sleep (and a lie in!). Spoke to midwife, she referred me to the EPU, earliest scan appointment they could offer me was Monday afternoon! Rang fertility unit after that, they have booked me in for a scan tomorrow morning.

Have asked DH to take the whole day off work tomorrow to come with me. Not sure I could manage to go and see an empty scan picture and then have him bugger off to work straight afterwards. Which is what he will plan to do if I don't tell him to do otherwise.

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Lovemyprincess4eva · 14/08/2013 12:22

I am so sorry you are going through this. I have been checking back on this post all the time for updates. I really feel for you as mc's are ten most awful thing to go through. But I jut wanted to say that I had a lot of bleeding at the beginning of this pregnancy. It continued right up to 16 weeks. I am now 26 weeks and still going strong so there is still hope for you.
Good luck tomorrow and I'm glad DH is going to be with you.
Xxx

libertine73 · 14/08/2013 12:51

Will be thinking of you tomorrow for sure, glad you're feeling better today, and the bleeding has eased,that has to be a good sign right?

can't believe they were going to leave you til Monday?!

Please let us know how it goes, and YES to DP taking the whole day!

Best of luck love x

Stevie77 · 14/08/2013 13:07

I've not yet read this whole thread so am hoping OP is okay...

The penny pinching in the NHS, evident here, is infuriating! I completely understand the challenges the service faces but the "relaxed" attitude now displayed towards various conditions and situations, all in the name of money saving just grates on me so much Angry

fluffyraggies · 14/08/2013 14:10

Monday!? They were happy to leave you till Monday?! ShockSad

So glad you've got in tomorrow with fertility unit for a scan. Glad you got a good nights sleep too :)

It's great that your DH can be with you all day tomorrow. I think men find it hard to understand exactly how hard a MC hits a woman. I'm generalising, or course, but IMO they are very much inclined to go straight to the 'moving on' stage as a coping strategy. We don't have that choice so much. It's our bodies and our hormones and we have to deal with it hour by hour.

Fingers, eyes, toes, legs and everything crossed for tomorrow for you yorkshire.

MrBlondesFries · 14/08/2013 16:24

So glad you're being seen tomorrow. Either way you'll get an answer and at least no longer have to live in limbo. Keeping fingers crossed for you.

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