Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

We need a new thread.

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

I used to include extracts from MOH's wonderful website
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
but I think that makes this link less visible so am merely putting the link. The information on this site is invaluable for sufferers, with information about medications, coping strategies, hospital admissions, useful links, advice for family members, and much more.

I would like to thank MOH and Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.

That's horrible Jen.

Unfortunately the peak last time was at about eight months, it just got worse and worse.

I told DH what had happened and he rang the ward to say I was struggling and that the comment hadn't helped. They told the nurse who confronted me and accused me of lying, then eventually apologisedthat I'd misunderstood.

I feel°c so comfortable here now

I asked to see the psych team but they arent in today.

I dont know if I can carry on with this pregnancy, even DH who hates the idea of abortion has said he'd understand.

MOG, that's a really tough decision to have to make. I hope you manage to speak to the psych team tomorrow, maybe you could discuss it with them. I have seen your thread in chat (I had nothing helpful to add unfortunately) and can see that you're going through a very hard time in lots of ways and I am really feeling for you.
I'm sure you'll decide what is right for you. I'm so sorry you're struggling, it sounds like your DH is very supportive, I hope he is.

Me and DH had actually decided to separate before we found out I was pregnant,, sice we found out we've decided to try again and he's been wonderful. Couldnt cope without him

I am so sorry you are going through this Murder and I wish you luck for tomorrow. Lots of hugs from me xx

MOG biggest hugz. Its a tough time for you for sure, I cant even begin to empathise with what you are going through, but I send my hugz and prayers even though im not a religion because I hope that you feel like the decsion you make is right for you. You are the one going through this horrid time and its what is right for you and your body. Take care. x

LucindaE is that what you've noticed on here? I am 9+2 and started really suffering at about 7.5/8weeks had general nausea from about 5weeks but have been food restricted from 7weeks. I really hope it starts to calm down soon as my ds starts primary in just over a week :0/

MOG - big hugs, for whatever you decide to do. It isn't easy, either decision. I am so sorry you are stuck like this.

I can't believe I have to go to work tomorrow! I mean, I was sick today after attempting to tidy my bedroom, clearly overly ambitious, and forced myself to eat a pasta filled cupa soup type thing tonight with some apple juice as ketones were at 2+ and I can't go to hospital tomorrow.

Feel sick. Blech

Dinner, such as it was, did not stay down.

Murderofgoths Hugs. That nurse should not have confronted you, that wqs totally unprofessional, and I think at some time, when feeling better, you should make an official complaint. or your OH can for you now. Really feel for you- it is an agonising decision - nobody on here will sit on moral judgement on you, whatever you decide. A lot of people feel at your stage that they can't go through with it but decide that as it might l be just as bad in a in a subsequent pregnancy they'll somehow battle on, but it it's as bad as it is with you, it is very, very, hard, particularly if you are one of those unlucky ones for whom it doesn't get better and can even get worse, and if you have other stresses it is so much harder. Of course, that doesn't mean it may not surprise you and improve earlier this time, as has happened to various women on here. You can always count on us for support whatever you think best.
Jen Mother hen says you cannot go back to work! If you can hardly leave the bedroom, you just can't. Do get an emergency sick note. I am very about that awful remark made by your parents' friends. Was it a dirty minded man?

Sally How is the pain?
Sorry so many people are getting such awful remarks, about the illness and sexual matters. People can be awful. Someone told me that as I'd left till mid thirties, it was down to that and my own fault.
Littlemachine Totes and Everyone I hope today is a better day and you get some nice remarks for a change.
Lucinda
xx

Lucinda- your words speak for us all. Thank you.

I am having a little battle today. My parents are finding it tough coping with a 16 month old. He is an angel, very gentle and obedient but he is lively and they are retired and not used to running around after one every day. They are already talking about hiring a temporary nanny or someone to take him to the park everyday. While I understand how it is hard for them I also don't want to hand him over to a stranger.

I have been to the docs and she gave me metoclopramide and said I needed to push the fluids. She said the drug has first trimester as a contraindication. My parents don't want me to take anything and of course, I don't want to either, but at the same time I am not sure they can really cope.

I just don't know what to do for the best.

god it does annoy me when doctors tell you to take something and then add that the 1st trimester is a contraindication. How ridiculous. Is it safe or not!
of course It is your choice; but a quality of life thing comes into it; I'm on maxalon and they're allowing me to eat and drink almost approaching normality, if it wasn't safe she wouldn't give them, would she. My doctor was totally happy that the outcomes on maxalon far exceeded the outcomes without, for me.

MOG was horrified to read what the nurse said to you, the judgemental cow. I would write a strong complaint when I felt better.
Reminds me of some of the frankly ridiculous comments of some of the MW when I had dd 7 yrs ago. they don't realise the effect they have on people.

Thanks Choc. We have sought advice from some top peeps and they have said to take the metoclopramide for 48 hours as it is more damaging to be dehydrated. So just taken my first one and now trying not to barf!

MOG - thinking of you x

totes please take the drugs. tis not good to be so dehydrated!
i feel for you re toddler. my dd is 16m too and so demanding....and bossy lol!!
i see your parents are retired and finding it tough but i find large open safe space.... and let him run...
.wild lol!!!
when i am struggling i take dd to the local cricket pitch and literally let her run wild for ages.... i find this alwsys helps!!

Hey all. Hope all are ok, and hope MOG got on ok.

I went into work, was only heaving in the bathroom the once, so far. It is all staff training this week so lots of sitting listening to boring talks. LOTS of comments on my 'amazing' weight loss, with one person (who admittedly is neurotic about what she eats herself) commenting that it was a good thing as it means I won't gain as much during the pregnancy.

This is so not a vanity thing, and losing over 2 stone in 7 weeks is far from healthy.

Felt bad this morning but realised I had missed a metaclopramide last night, and felt a bit better once this morning's dose kicked in. I guess it really is helping, although I think the ondansetron is doing more.

I came home and lay down for a while (shattered) but OH got in at 4pm and went straight to bed - and he is still there! I could really do with him to help me a bit round the house as yesterday proved I am not ready for domestic chores. Men.

Out of hospital but feeling awful, I can't keep going like this. And if one more person tells me it'll stop after the first trimester I will scream.

Had an emergency appointment with a GP today to say I couldn't cope and wanted an abortion. He told me that as I wasn't vomiting I should force myself to drink/eat so I don't go into hospital so often and that not being dehydrated would help with the nausea. Oh yeah, that's why I still feel hideously nauseous even after they pumped me full of fluids at the hospital. Oh and my favourite bit? I should keep drinking loads at a time because even if it makes me vomit it means I'll keep some fluid in. Because that worked soooo well last time.

I just want this to stop. Everyone around me is desperate for me to keep the baby, "you'll hate yourself if you abort", "it'll be bad for your mental health".

Hi MOG. I got the same today from one GP - force yourself even if you vomit because you will retain 10 percent!! They have no idea.

What does your husband say?

Whatever you decide you know we will understand on this thread. Xx

MOG, we understand here how awful it is. If you are sure that you cannot carry on with this then you know that is the right decision for you, don't let others tell you what to do. Big hugs.

My head is splitting - I think I am slightly dehydrated as well. Not enough drinking today.

Mog sweetie, its your decision what you feel is best for your heart and at the end of the day will you be putting your health at serious risk as well as any baby too? Please call me tomorrow if you wanna chat. X

Was meant to say *what is best for your health

Just popping on to say I'm thinking of you MoG. Agree it's your body and your decision. I only had one hospital admission for my HG, and was only really terrible for a couple of weeks. That was enough for me to get a touch depressed, and I remember thinking I could really understand women who abort if they have it bad. The thought of enduring that level of nausea, sickness and exhuastion for months was terrifying.

Like others have said, you'll get support here regardless of your decision. I hope you find some support in the medical field soon

Morning ladies

MOG- thinking of you xx
Fee- any movements yet? Are you feeling any less sick or is it still real bad? How many weeks are you? I think your closer to me than others so its nice to know how your improving, if at all xx
Jen- you are so brave going back into work! I still couldn't think of going back in, it's hard enough to just get dressed some days xx
Totes- is the metoclopramide working then? It didn't touch mine. That was one of my first choice though as it seemed the most widely researched xx

I'm up and down with the sickness. Some days better than others but still repulsed by lots of foods and its difficult to find anything to eat. I had a few onion rings yesterday! Couldn't believe that. My diet is still really unhealthy stuff but do eat some fruit each day. Im really trying to eat well but just can't stomache any veg!

Pain is still bad but easing a little. Was diagnosed with pgp. I'm having mega period like cramps in and off. This really worried me to start with but I read its normal. Feeling mega heavy and sore in lower abdomen and really sensitive to any kind of movement. I'm gona invest in a support belt as it hurts whenever I move.
Outgrown my new larger jeans already so looking into maternity pants. My belly is so large and tight, you'd think I was having triplets. Goodness knows what I'm going to be like at the end. Big purple Stretch marks have already started :-( wish I could figure out how to post a picture you'd never believe it. Not gained any of the weight lost earlier on back though. Very strange.
Feet and fingers are swelling and I've had to take off my wedding rings for now.
Can't wait to find out gender at next scan. Then we can start buying things as I've not bought a thing yet.

Hope all are well as can be xxx

Hi all.

Sally - are you using bio oil on your tummy? That is meant to help with stretch marks. Sorry to hear you have PGP. That's all you need on top. I have given up trying to eat healthily as most food is off the agenda so I am just going with anything.

Feeling shoddy this morn but the metoclopramide is deffo helping. I had some dinner last night which is a first and I am going to have lunch. Making me very tired though. I just want to sleep. DS is as lively as tigger though, certainly giving my parents the run around.