Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

We need a new thread.

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

I used to include extracts from MOH's wonderful website
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
but I think that makes this link less visible so am merely putting the link. The information on this site is invaluable for sufferers, with information about medications, coping strategies, hospital admissions, useful links, advice for family members, and much more.

I would like to thank MOH MOP Ovaltine bluebirdsunshine (I think she's changed her nickname) Fluffy, Horsey Kalidasa, Nannyl and Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.

quiet that's 'good', let's hope it continues. If you can, think sugar/calories for now, I found that helped once I could eat a bit.

honeymoonmum I'm sorry to hear you've had a shit day . I know how it feels to get so utterly utterly sick & tired (ha!) when you look behind and it's shit and you look ahead and think, how much longer do I have to be like this. You can't even shout and cry or stand up for yourself because you don't have the energy and, let's face it, you'll be sick if you do.
You say you want this all to end, and you know it will. One day you will wake up feeling a little bit better, you'll keep a bit more in. And sooner rather than later you will be able to start functioning a bit more. Then you'll hold your baby and think, you were worth the fight.
You will sort your DH out, now if you have the energy or later. Do you have any chilled out relaxing music you could listen to on an iPod? It might give you an excuse to ignore help soothe you, I found it helped ground me IYSWIM when I felt lightheaded and bleugh.

Sorry if I have spoken out of turn, I didn't want you to feel alone.

Honeymoon forgot to say, Poor you again, just seen your comments on your skin, more hugs, from the sound of things, it unfortunately sounds like you're getting dehydrated too. Has OH read about Hyperemesis?
Lucinda
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Twit Of course you haven't spoken out of turn, comforting each other is what this thread is all about!
lovely consoling message.
Lucinda
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quiet I am glad they have sorted you out, hang on in there. I hope the meds work and keep posting here whenever you like

honeymoon I am so sorry to hear that, I really feel for you. Your dh is being an idiot. Do you have a nearby friend/ family member you could lean on. My friend was wonderful and motherly today and it has really helped me have a break from the crapness of dh. My dh still being an idiot too, had a go at me because I don't feel up to writing a shopping list after he has spent the day out in the sun with his friends ffs.

twit that was a lovely message

Thank you all so much. twit had a half hearted weep with what little tears I have. DH has asked if I would like a nanny for a few weeks when he starts back at work (teacher in private school so works LONG 6 day weeks term time, we are talking 7.30am-11pm some days) we can't really afford such a luxury but he thinks if we can get someone between 2-6 he can manage bath time and bed until I feel better. Have managed a piece of toast and sips of flat freezing cold 7up and feel a bit more positive. Sorry for the hormonal outburst it all just really got too much and seriously convinced myself I could live with terminting the pregnancy (which DH gently pointed out I could never live with) thank you all. We will get through together but it is a very hard journey esp in early days with no respite in sight. Love and best wishes to you all xxx

don't weep too much honeymoon we don't want you getting more dehydrated . no need to apologise, that is what the thread is for. I think most if not all of us have some very low moments

nanny sounds like a good plan, better spending the expense now when its needed than on expensive baby things you don't really need. in fact you have just inspired me to either pay for a bit more time at ds nursery or see if someone from there might do weekend nannying to help out when friends /family can't (DH is busiest at weekends). anything that makes it easier.

Oh honey, just logged on and caught up.

I'm so glad it sounds like your DH has seen the light at least partly and is trying to think of temporary solutions. Don't even worry yourself about the cost - as long as it won't literally break the bank, just see it as money you need to invest for the long term health of yourself and your family. My DH (& many others as has been pointed out) has been less than understanding at times too - I found directing him to the official HG website really helped: annoying he believes the word of research parts & drs far more than my own personal experiences.

Not to rub salt in any wounds but to, hopefully, show there can be some tiny glimmers of light...as you may have seen from my last post, I was doing really badly & honestly getting concerned that I may have antenatal depression as my head was full of horrible thoughts & I wanted nothing to do with anybody or anything. It just seemed never ending. But today - perhaps because of the lovely sun or maybe just pure luck - ive had one fantastically lovely day where I was almost normal. Of course I still had nausea & the dreaded gas / constipation combo but the important thing is I could keep some foods down...enough to even go for a belated bday meal with my family & pick at things & I felt genuinely happy for a few hours. I'm starting to feel sick again now but it's given enough of a little boost to deal with it again for a bit...& seeing my DS' face when he realised mummy wasnt going to be lying in bed all day today was amazing.

It will come to you, honey, & to all of us. However long it takes we're all going to get better & have gorgeous babies at the end of this to show for the months of hell.

Massive hugs...remember you're super strong, & we're all here for you in any moments where you doubt it x

Hope everyone else is doing ok too

Hang in there honey. Hopefully now dh has seen how upset this is making you there will be a bit more understanding from him. It's horrible to have those thoughts, I know, I had them too. Bus as you said, I know I wouldn't be able to cope with doing it. It's a fantasy that runs through many of our heads but don't let it make you feel like a bad person. You aren't. Just sick of being sick.
I know that I am considering finding a dog walker if I get it bad again.....

A dog walker is what I need tallyra! On the rare days I have any energy at all, it is my tiny little dog who drags me across the park as opposed to the other way round. I've considered sending the DCs off on their own to walk her, but can't get my head past the "what ifs".

I'm nearly 26 weeks now. I am a rare case, in that I am having such problems still, but had a chat about causal and related factors today with the midwives. They are sure the ongoing stress of marriage breakdown doesn't help, and I mentioned off the cuff about my horrific motion sickness, and apparently that is linked too. (When I lived in the UK I had to commute by train and carried sick bags as even on a normal train I would get sick). Hope at least that reassures those of you at an earlier stage that your light at the end of the tunnel should come sooner than mine, I'm just a weirdo

PICC line dressing is due to be changed tomorrow - ouch time. And I became the subject of an informal training session on the ward today, in terms of the need for sterile conditions when handling the line. Annoying thing was it was in that magic time when the IV ondanstetron works, and my toast had just arrived. By the time the crowd has dispersed it was cold and I didn't really want it anymore

Wishing you all a relatively ok Sunday x

Got an awful headache, feel like my head is in a vice. Really fed up. Can barely cope. Checked and ketones only marginal. Trying to drink but is hard, feel too sick to drink lots at a tine and too tired to keep sipping

waves gutted for you about the cold toast your midwives sound nice and supportive though

Poor you tired. Nothing worse it makes the sickness unbearable. I've had a better day and managed cheese on toast again, really odd as I don't really like this when not HG ing so non idea why I can tolerate it now. Feeling sick again but lying still trying to distract self. Will keep this down, will keep this down. Boy, SO glad to hear you felt better!!! Amazing u could go for a meal!!!!! That is a real positive. (stomach churning at thought!) I just want to feel up to leaving the house. It's just odd to never go anywhere! Under house arrest by order of HG!

:( Tired- sounds like a rubbish day :( have you got any ice if you're getting too worn out for water sipping?

I'm feeling rubbish again today, which was predictable. Back in bed feeling like I don't have the strength to move. Back aching like crazy too.

Honey - that's really positive that you've managed to have something. I'm not even questioning tastes atm - if theres a window of opportunity that I want something (even if I normally hate it) I'm grabbing it. At this second in time though, even the thought of water is making my tummy knot :(

Thanks boy good suggestion I tried an ice lolly and it has helped a little, gone from deathly to 'just' ghastly at least!

honey hope you managed to keep cheese on toast down.
Don't know where I read it but I find staying more upright helps stuff stay down. I know its really hard when you are so tired though, I prop myself up with some pillows at least

Had my sister helping today as dh was out again. They did a brilliant job playing with ds and taking him to the park and even looking after me bringing me water when I couldn't bear movement or light. And they live an hours drive away. And yet dh has the cheek to come home and moan at me about how they left the house and garden messy and didn't wash up!!! I have had it with him and his ungratefulness!!

Hi all. Went back to docs on Friday and he tested my wee - he said I was dehydrated and prescribed me cyclizine. This seems to work better than the avomine and I am managing to keep bits of food down and drink a bit more. Feeling exhausted as still not eating much but it's more nausea now than being sick (which is still horrible). Trying to sip water as much as possible. Doctor has signed me off for a week so I will be grateful of not having to get up every morning failing desperately to get ready for work. Thank you all for the support x

honey well done on keeping food down, and sorry you have had a rough day boy. Glad you have new medication emmylou* - and hope it enables you to keep something down.

Tired sounds like you are having an awful time with your DH. (Putting the D in feels a bit wrong!) Mine was awful to me in the months up til him finally going. I don't miss the moaning, or lack of care of sympathy, but right now I feel quite bereft. Intercostal pain has really got bad, and feeling shattered and very sick. I wish I had the loving man I married sat here with me. it is a struggle to crack on with all the housework, DCs homework, getting meals cooked for them, lunchboxes made etc. Just too tired. But I am set for the morning now, and heading to bed pretty soon!

had a big bowl on my bedside table this morning in case I was sick (first thing on waking is the worst), DS came in and jumped on me and I didn't have the strength to do much about it, was scared if I moved I would be sick on him, me and the bed. anyway, he managed to push at the bedside table and knock the bowl over and it smashed on the floor. DH started yelling and swearing at me, but poor DS was so scared and upset . I gave DS a big cuddle and told him it wasn't his fault but I'm really struggling with this. I shouted at DH to stop and told him I would leave if he carried on like that, and he did stop, and then was all 'super dad' getting ds ready for nursery like nothing had happened. but I'm sick of the dramatics, I don't get why he thinks its ok to yell and swear at me for an accident. have been really sick this morning and I think its just because of what happened.

waves have you got people who can help you? I would do anything to help a friend in your shoes, but it can be hard for people to know what they can do.

hope you are all having good days today

Poor you tired. Your DH sounds a bit like mine, very frustrated and angry. I think like us they just get to a point where they are fed up of it. HG hits the whole family. I've just sent them all back to school/work and it does feel a relief knowing DC are occupied and away from the house of puke. A friend just called and when I said I couldn't drive and had not left house since before Easter she was really shocked. I don't think people can imagine how ill we are. It's upset me actually as made me feel so isolated and like no one has a clue :(

Waves and and Tired hugs, it's awful the way men can act. I don't understand why they can't control their tempers better. Tired' those hormonal headaches are purely awful, they make the sickness twice as bad. Waves* You aren't a weirdo, you've just been unlucky, and incredibly brave too, particularly about staying positive though let down badly by your ex DH.

EmmySo glad you've got different meds - but I suppose gp didn't say what level of dehydration? Sorry to nag, do try and get hold of those kesostix.
Honeymoon Your DH is a teacher in a boarding school, then, by the sound of the hours? I'm so glad he's coming up with positive suggrestions rather than blaming you for what's not your fault.
Boy That first good day is usually a sign of the gradual improvement - happy news.
I hope there's nobody 'inside' at the moment, a bit like 'go to gaol' in Monopoly, and poor waves keeps landing on that square... I have said that Hyperemesis is like a horrible board game - move forward one place, had some crisps, move back two, bile run... Hope that doesn't sound insensitive,but laughing is the only way of coping with the hateful illness. That's how I came to mention the Pink Castle, but that was back on a previous thread, it's an image from an old Snakes and Ladders game I had at the end of the board, and you will get there!

Tallyra Hugs. It's so nice of you to feel for others when we know how upset you must feel yourself.
Sorry if I've rudely ignored Anyone.

Hi all, am new to this thread so will take awhile to read and catch up! I'm 8 wks with DC2 tomorrow and have had tolerable nausea for about 3 weeks.. But at 3.30am I projectile vomited in a bad way after an evening of what I thought was trapped wind. I took the day off and I've been in a terrible state all day Not sure if its baby related or a bug.. Have been achey all day, head spins when I stand up, still having awful tummy cramps. Had a small bowl of cereal around midday, sipping on water as much as I can and had 3 mini bread sticks an hour ago. Can't tolerate being anywhere near hot food or watching food on telly (had to abandon Paul Hollywood!!) Should I go to GP tomorrow? Worried that if it was a bug it might affect baby..

Hi Goosey. I'm not an expert but from what I have heard about HG it doesn't sound like you have it (but please correct me ladies?)
As for bugs, I know nothing so I'm sorry I've been spectacularly unhelpful, but just wanted to let you know you are not alone in here.

Thanks Tally... I'm hoping the vomiting episode was a once off! But my nausea is much worse than it was, have managed cereal again this morning but already gagging a bit... Realising I got off v lightly when I was pregnant with DD!!! Having private scan done today so will relax a bit once I know all's well with baby. Will see GP at wknd if I've any further vomiting or if nausea gets worse.

Sounds more like a bug with cramping and pain and a sudden projectile vomit. Speaking from 2 HG pregnancies, one home manageable and this one which is the worst, it starts with nausea which jets progressively worse and then you get ultra sensitive to smells, I'm talking soap or the smell of clean sheets making you gag and your stomach heave and a physical inability to eat or drink most foods and liquids. You probably have worse nausea due to being tired and run down, fingers crossed anyway as would not wish this on anyone! Try resting and sipping fluids today and see how you feel tomorrow. Get well soon goosey!!

Hello, how is Everyone? Goosey I am hoping too that this is a bug rather than the dreaded H word, which tends to build up as others say, so fingers crossed you'll be feeling better soon. Do keep us informed and don't let yourself get dehydrated.
Lucinda
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Hi all, just been catching up on how you're all doing. waves if i could walk your dog for you, I would!

I'm still feeling ok, but getting more nauseous in the evenings which is really horrible. Makes me not want to eat in the evenings but now i'm putting on weight I'm determined to eat properly if I can. I've also been to put a repeat prescription in for the promethazine today. I recon i will get a call from the dr and maybe they'll ask me to come in, as this is 11 weeks on medication and I've not seen the dr since the first prescription. I'm too scared to stop taking it......