Pregnancy after miscarraige.........POWER to the Beanies!!!!

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Hope this is OK.

Please feel free to change it to something else if not totally satisfied.

Thanks hun.
Now importantly, how are you doing? I'm keeping my fingers and everything crossed that your scan goes aswell and that these next few days fly by for you. x

I have been fine today......
Done some gardening, nothing too strenuos and some reading. I have just come in from outside. What gorgeouus weather.
Going to get ready now as I have my doctors appointment at 5pm. No doubt that will be a wasted journey.
Will catch up later.

Good luck hun!
Yep absolutely gorgeous today and guess what? Meant to be even warmer and sunnier tomorrow!
x

hi everyone
great news about the scan HK:)
good luck with your gp oinker

have only managed to scan the thread today. i have been out all day shopping, i found a wonderful dp skirt from some cheapo shop north london anyway its got a wide elastic waist so may as well be maternity- and it was a fiver!!
Also managed to get an appointment with the bereavment midwife councellor woman for next week, hopefully it will do me some good to talk about the disasters of last year. does anyone know what i should expect from the appointment, i am a bit nervous now.

Hello everyone. Unfortunately more problems were revealed on my scan, now it seems there is too much fluid in the baby's brain and I have to go for a fetal MRI scan to find out what this means. Consultant said it could mean nothing, or it could mean there is some kind of neurological problem. Luckily, already know it's not a chromosome problem.
So, off to Kings for fetal MRI in next 2 days and then back to Homerton to find out results. Am going to start a thread to find out more about MRI procedure.
Despite the above, have a gut feeling that baby is OK. They didn't find anything wrong with any other part of the baby.

Gosh Arabica I'm so incredibly sorry. Good luck honey. You sound amazingly brave. How many weeks are you now?

Arabica,
Stay positive.
I am sure all will be fine.

Slink, glad you are getting to see a bereavement counsellor. I have no idea what they will be like. I saw a counsellor last year regarding bereavements but your case is slightly different. Mine was to accept and understand the death of my dad, aunt, uncle and m/c.
I was very nervous too. It'll all seem strange until you actually sit down with them and start to talk. Once you start chatting you will relax.

Good luck... You will be fine.

Forgot to mention my fruitless visit to GP.

Musn't be nasty he is very sympathetic.
I told him everything that had gone on which he found hard to beleive. I asked for the HCG test which he was willing to do. Unfortunately, cos I have had no bloods done at the hospital he would have nothing to compare the results to. It would take 3 days for the results to come thru. Meaning he would not get the result until Monday. I told him there was no point as I have my appointment on tuesday.

So, that's it...I have got to sit around and wait.
The Gp signed me off for a furhter week. I am sooooooooooooooooooooo bored. Atleast the sun is shinning.

Hi chaps

Always feel like entering a confessional when I post here (bless me mothers for I have sinned, it is - how many weeks? - since I last posted)

I'm not sure if I've read through everything that's happened since I was last here, but welcome to Fabmummy, congratulations and good luck.

Arabica, am so shocked at the results of your scan, but it's good that your gut instinct is that everything's OK. There are so many false alarms with a very 'monitored' pg, I truly hope that your scan will turn out to be a false alarm too. Good luck with your MRI scan.

Oinker, I've only just caught up on news of both your blighted twin - so sorry to hear that, but also kind of excited that there was still a beanie in there. And now the Prof telling you that the other twin is blighted/not viable? I truly hope that you're right that he's got the scan upside down. I'm not sure how long you have to wait for another scan but I hope you get some sensible answers soon. I just can't believe what you're having to go through.

Also skim read lots of concerns vis c/s and vbac. I had em c/s with ds1 and really I don't think it was so bad. Perhaps the first 24 hours when you've still got a catheter and aren't terribly mobile/agile, but as I remember, I kept forgetting to take the pain meds from day 2/3 because I didn't really feel the need for them. Also, can't remember driving for the first 6 weeks, but I could get about, walking and on the bus etc. However, it didn't occur to me to attempt to drive in the first 6 weeks because I thought you weren't supposed to. Subsequently read on MN lots of mums drive after only a few weeks if scar healed well. My scar healed slowly but I think that's because I didn't keep it dry enough (small! tummy overhang didn't help)

I had vbac with ds2, which I am very pleased with myself about BUT because of bad tear (and, erm, consequences in the bottom department ) I'm not allowed to have a vb with this baby. I don't regret vbac at all inspite of tear, but some people would.

However, it took a very wise MN to remind me, when I was being all 'unfulfilled' about my em c/s, that the method of delivery was irrelevant and the health and happiness of the baby were all. I went into hospital to have a perfect baby, not a perfect birth!

I've not been around so much recently as felt a bit down after telling everyone at work that I was 13 weeks pg. I think it made me feel even more scared that something could still go wrong. Also, had small moment of regret that we didn't opt for (private) nuchal scan as now in a bit of limbo waiting for 21 week scan, in 6 weeks time. However, although a bit teary yesterday, I think I've turned a bit of a corner and may be starting to enjoy this pg. Much to my surprise, because I think I'd talked myself into not expecting to be able to enjoy being pg.

I am off to beddy byes now..........

Good night.

slink - i saw a childrens bereavement councellor over a 4 week period back in December (just after I had my stillbirth).

I have never had any type of councelling before and was really nervous and couldn't believe I was sitting there in this almost cliched envirnomenment. Lovely lady, but it was just like what i'd seen on tv/read in books - box of tissues, flowery sofa, kind and quiet councellor etc.

I found it a bit unatural and odd opening up so much to a stranger - but she was good and asked the right questions. I invariably cried when I saw her, because she got to the very nub of what I was feeling and I found it quite hard being persuaded to talk about things that I'd actually rather not delve into. But I think it was really helpful. It made me look at a couple of things differently and helped DH and I who felt quite differently about what had happed to us - enabled us to talk to each other about it honestly.

Not sure if this helps you in any way?!!!

Go with an open mind, be prepared to get upset but remember that it is probably really healthy what you are doing.

Hope i'm not barking up the wrong tree....

Morning all.
Arabica- Sorry your scan didn't bring better news hun but stick with your gut feeling. Things could always be alot worse. Thank goodness they're dealing with you quickly. here's hoping the next scan brings great results, will be thinking of you. x
Oinker- Get out in that sun today girlie! It's bloody warm already! I was out at 6.30 hanging washing .
Hope everyone has a fab day xxxxxxxxxxxx

Arabica - I'm so sorry you're going through a worrying time again. I'm glad you will get your MRI scan quickly and I hope that the next few days passes quickly for you.

Was sure I posted here yesterday but can't find it! OMG I'm losing what few marbles I had left! Oinker - pmsl at your fallig down the stairs story. It's customery for me to fall down the stairs when pg! How you feeling today.
We're supposed to be having a heat wave but no-one's told the clouds that, dunno if I couls stand the heat actually!
Feeling sick again this am, been a while and hopefully won't happen much again! DH got day off 2moro for scan. Also got DD1's friend coming round after school so need to be clean and tidy.
Wills - don't envy you having thrush it's bloody awful only ever had it the once while pg with DD3 but it was terible.
Arabica - all the best for the results glad you have gut feeling about it.
Hk - congrats on a scan gone well, shame you didn't get to find out sex. I'm gonna look into a scan to tell the sex of the baby 2moro.
Slink - glad you have the apt with the MW really hope it helps you.
Read some pg mag yesterday and it talked about birthpoolinabox.co.uk where it's about £60 to buy a birth pool if any of you are interested. Haven't checked out the site sorry.

Well I hope I get it quickly--my hospital said they're going to keep calling Kings until they sort out an appointment.

Do you know what they are looking for in terms of MRI? I suppose it is better to be forwarned if there is a problem, but then again they cant always make a diagnosis and you can risk ending up with no real answers anyway. I am glad you are feeling positive about though and staying calm.

Well Due date has arrived. No signs of any action here. Have midwife appointment this afternoon, might get a better idea about what is going on. If cervix is favourable, will ask for a sweep.

Arabica, I just caught up with your other thread. I wont say sorry because you just dont know what your dealing with yet. Better to stay positive. I hope you get your scan soon, and dont have to wait around too long. xx

Cori - Good luck with midwife appointment. Hope things start happening for you soon.

hiya everyone:)

thanks for your experiences dhw and oinker, it sounds like the experience was positive, i am not looking forward to it but know i really should talk to someone before i have this baby.

arabica- sorry about your scan results hope the mri can give you some answers

wills- my thrush buddy:) i have not had symptoms for a few weeks now, although my swab still said loadsa candida!

Good luck Cori!
The MRI will be looking to check whether there's any problem with the structure of the brain, or any kind of obstruction inside it, like a tumour or a haemorrhage. Sometimes the bit that joins the two hemispheres of the brain doesn't properly form--this can cause developmental delay but often no problems at all. So glad I had the amnio, because the excess fluid is yet another soft marker for Edwards syndrome and some other chromosone disorders. But I know that the baby has the right number of chromosones.

Slink, good luck with the counsellor. I've done some counselling but in a long-term setting rather than with a finite number of sessionsie the client could come for as long as they wanted. If I had a very limited time with someone, I'd be interested in helping you make the best use of your sessions, ie exploring the particular aspects of your bereavement which you feel are unresolved emotionally, from your own perspective, and which are therefore affecting the way you are feeling about your present pregnancy. Sorry if that's a bit waffly. Some therapists are more empathic, some more 'neutral'depends on the way they've been trained.

Arabica - i can't imagine how you're feeling, you must be so worried, but i always find that gut feelings are normally right, bet your little one is fine. i know its easy to say stay positive, but worrying excessively won't help much. Hope you get some joy from your thread about mri scans.

Slink - i finally found a belly band from Topshop this week, not that it will be much use now, just slides off my belly its so big. Sorry never had any experience of councelling, but i hope it all goes well for you.

Oinker - hope you're doing ok and enjoying the sun, glad you're signed off, you need to take it easy and look after little baby and yourself. I have no doubt that its still there, but understand the waiting must be awful.

Jamiesam - sounds like you've had an emotional week, telling everyone about the baby does make it much more real and obviously will remind ou of your concerns. Stay positive and remember that we're all here to support you, if anything we're here to listen to your concerns more. So please don't feel like you should stay away because you're feeling a bit low, we can help pick you up again.

Cori - fingers crossed you see some action soon, we'll all annoy the hell out of you and ask you every day now if anythings happened.

Well i am knackered today, kids are off school for voting, which means for me (childminder) that i have 6 kids all day, i am now down to 2 kids finally and in an hour they should be all gone, but i started at 6.50am and could really do with a nap. Have taken them to the park this morning which was great fun, but just wtaching them and counting six little heads every few minutes so i don't lose any make my brain ache.
Soooooooooooo looking forward to sitting down and watching a bit of tv or reading my book when they're gone.
my poor legs are swelling up and hurting. phew. moan over, need a good rest.

No baby action here. Had midwife appointment, not looking good for my VBAC. Baby not engaged at all. Cervix very posterior so much so she couldnt reach babies head and not able to do a sweep. So not holding out much hope really. Time to start mentally preparing myself for c section I think.

Oi! Cori's baby! Come on out, we want to meet you!

Diddle, I do feel positive, although I expect it'll come and go, depending how close I am to discovering the diagnosis.