18+4 and no heartbeat with doppler- please tell me what to do :-(

[jkb]

Hi

I am 18+4 and have a doppler & have been finding the heartbeat within seconds since i was about 12 weeks. I have been having problems & so i always doppler twice a day (I have a huge clot in my womb which has caused 2 massive bleeds- last one at 16 weeks). The heart was fine this morning- now this even- despite me trying for over 1 hour- NOTHING- i am very skilled at using a doppler as was shown by a previous midwife. Could my baby have died- i cant sleep now- i dont know what to do :-(

[thisthreadwilloutme]

So so sorry for your loss.

[Jollyb]

jkb I am so sorry. Will be thinking of you tomorrow.

[mmmmsleep]

I'm so so sorry for your loss. Wishing you all the best for the next few days and the time ahead. X

[chocorocco]

So sorry jkb will be thinking of you tomorrow.

[Bluestocking]

I'm so, so sorry, jkb. I'll be thinking of you tonight and tomorrow. I hope it's as peaceful as possible and that you receive plenty of loving care.

[lotsofcheese]

How are you this morning, jkb? Thinking about you x

[emblosion]

So very sorry for your loss jkb. Such a terrible thing for you to go through, I know there are no words to comfort you but am thinking of you x

[DizzyCow63]

I'm so so sorry

Will be thinking of you today x

[Dillydollydaydream]

Thinking of you x

[Splinters]

Also thinking of you today and wishing you as much peace as possible, jkb.

[PeahenTailFeathers]

Another one thinking of you. What an awful, awful thing to happen to someone :(

[hellymelly]

I've been thinking of you today jkb, and hoping that you have had lots of support and love around you. I'm so sorry.

[PinkFondantFancy]

I've been thinking of you today as well x

[chubbychipmonk]

Just read this thread and felt I had to comment and say how sorry I am for your loss and all you're going through right now. I've suffered 2 miscarriages but I imagine that isn't even close to how bad you must feel right now.
I hope all went well today & that you got to meet and hold your precious baby. You will get through this and come out the other side, even though it doesn't seem like that now.
Just be kind to yourself, take each day one at a time and do whatever feels right for you to grieve your baby.
Sending you a big hug xxxxx

[amazingmumof6]

I've just picked this up - I'm so sorry you have to go through this, my heart goes out to you. Loosing a child at any age is just the worst thing...

[something2say]

Caught this while browsing. So very sorry jkb. Thinking of you and shed a little tear x

[lunar1]

still thinking of you.

[jkb]

Thank you for all your support. I am a complete mess- i dont know hw I am going to get through this- it scares me that I will never feel anything but this again.
My beautiful little angel Matthew was born Thursday at 2pm weighing 170g & 15.5cm crown to rump. He was perfect- fully formed- even had finger nails.

Its the worst thing I have ever had to deal with & im scared i wont cope. I held him for 5 hours, i touched & kissed every little part of him & took so many pictures. Saying goodbye was hardest thing ever- I want him so bad.
I havent stopped crying for days, I am trying to stay strong for my other chidren, but I just cant....what the hell am i going to do

Yesterday I had something hanging out of me.... i went back & i have some plancenta retained! they managed to get some of the retained bits out from my cervix- but said they can see more up inside & too dangerous to do a D & C or go up in my womb as I have just given birth & my womb can be easily damanged as will be very fragile? I am on 2 strong antibiotics & they hope I will pass the bits.....but they didnt seem to know what else to do?
but what if I dont?? my husband is so worried im going to be left infertile or need a D & C which could cause my future problems with a pregnancy? Im a complete mess- physically & mentally

[Rosa]

jkb - so very sorry for you . How ever I wanted to say that I also had a retained placenta and I was given some drops to help me contract and eliminate - however they also did a 'gentle' so they said d&C 3 days after I gave birth. Howver I am in a different country. I wish I could remember the name of teh drops I was also given them afterwards and they did work ....

[fraktion]

RIP baby Matthew. I'm glad you got to see him and spend time with him.

[Moominsarescary]

I'm so sorry, were 14 months on from loosing Jacob. I found the time up to what should have been his due date especially bad. It was only when we got past that date that I turned a corner and things started to get easier.I found talking about him, even if it was just on here to people who had gone through similar experiances helped.

If you start a thread in bereavement there are usually lots of people around to offer support. I found it very difficult talking to friends nd family about how I was feeling.

I don't know what you should do about the retained placenta, hopefully it will come away on it's own, however I think it was extremly negligent of them to not have made sure it was intact. If it doesn't make an appointment with your consultant. They should offer you one anyway. I saw mine for my post natal so we could talk through what would happen if I decided to become pregnant in the future.

I'm so sorry that you are going through this, I will be thinking of you, your family and baby Matthew xx

[Bluestocking]

I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I'm so glad you were able to give baby Matthew some motherly love, I'm sure he was beautiful in every way. Do you have people around you to take care of you and give you some love? Thinking of you. xx

[jkb]

my husband is being amazing & is also so very sad.... my mother is helping out with my other children. But i just dont want to talk to my friends & sisters...i feel there is nothing to say- if I talk I just blub & I have no words to say. xxxxx

[something2say]

Hello my dear, just wanted to come on to see how you were and having seen, to give you a long cuddle on my metaphorical knee. I think crying is ok for now, and that's it. Thinking of you xxxxxxxxxxx