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18+4 and no heartbeat with doppler- please tell me what to do :-(

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jkb · 05/11/2012 23:27

Hi

I am 18+4 and have a doppler & have been finding the heartbeat within seconds since i was about 12 weeks. I have been having problems & so i always doppler twice a day (I have a huge clot in my womb which has caused 2 massive bleeds- last one at 16 weeks). The heart was fine this morning- now this even- despite me trying for over 1 hour- NOTHING- i am very skilled at using a doppler as was shown by a previous midwife. Could my baby have died- i cant sleep now- i dont know what to do :-(

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PinkFondantFancy · 06/11/2012 09:46

*reassure yourself

PinkFondantFancy · 06/11/2012 09:52

Please come back and tell us that the MWs saw you and all is ok OP.

FannyFifer · 06/11/2012 10:02

Hope all ok this morning.

weeblueberry · 06/11/2012 11:21

Hope all is okay - was thinking about you this morning.

tamster83 · 06/11/2012 13:56

hope all is well .

jkb · 06/11/2012 14:59

Update:

my midwife came this morning and couldnt find heartbeat either. She sent me into hospital for a scan & the worst has happened. My baby has died. Seems it was perfect size & everything- but died sometime yesterday. I am totally devestated & so very scared as have to go in Thirsday to be induced & give birth. I feel like I am losing my mind & cant quite get my head around this.

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AlphaBeta82 · 06/11/2012 15:03

Oh JKB I am so, so sorry to hear of this.
I know no words can make this better but couldn't read this and not share how much I feel for you. xxx

nancerama · 06/11/2012 15:05

OP I am so very sorry for your loss. There are (too) many ladies here who have been through similar things and who will be able to support you.

Be kind to yourself and your partner.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 06/11/2012 15:07

Oh jkb I'm so sorry.

Take care of yourself.

firstpost · 06/11/2012 15:10

So so, sorry for this terrible loss :( :( :(

Right now you dont have to do anything, just survive and breathe and cry and do whatever you need to to make it through the next minutes and hours.

Hope your partner is with you, holding you tight.

I will be thinking of you x

ecuse · 06/11/2012 15:10

That's awful news, I'm so sorry to hear it.

RnB · 06/11/2012 15:11

I am so, so sorry Sad

MrsHelsBels74 · 06/11/2012 15:16

I'm so sorry to hear this, I was hoping this thread would have a positive outcome. Be gentle on yourself & have an unmumsnetty hug x

jkb · 06/11/2012 15:16

Thank you for all your support. Does anyone know if you can have a fetus of this age creamated?

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me23 · 06/11/2012 15:19

I'm so sorry for your loss.

plumviolet · 06/11/2012 15:27

I'm sorry. Yes you can, talk to your doctor and they will do whatever you wish.

I found a site that helped me after my stillbirth called glowinthewoods.com.

I hope you find some peace. Your mothers instinct is very strong.

Nicky1306 · 06/11/2012 15:35

I'm so sorry for your loss x x

izzywizzyisbizzy · 06/11/2012 15:45

I'm so sorry.

SquealyB · 06/11/2012 15:53

So very sorry for your loss.

weeblueberry · 06/11/2012 15:58

Oh my darling I am so so sorry. x

Littlemissimpatient · 06/11/2012 16:19

So sorry OP. if you have your dp/h with you take comfort in each other.

tamster83 · 06/11/2012 16:20

I'm soooo sorry for your loss I can't imagine what your going through will be thinking about you x

lia66 · 06/11/2012 16:24

I am so sorry to see this update. Hugs xxxxx

fraktion · 06/11/2012 16:32

I'm so sorry :( Thinking of you and your little angel.

PinkFondantFancy · 06/11/2012 16:34

Oh OP I am so so sorry for your loss, I was so hoping to see a different update :( I am thinking of you x