18+4 and no heartbeat with doppler- please tell me what to do :-(

[jkb]

Hi

I am 18+4 and have a doppler & have been finding the heartbeat within seconds since i was about 12 weeks. I have been having problems & so i always doppler twice a day (I have a huge clot in my womb which has caused 2 massive bleeds- last one at 16 weeks). The heart was fine this morning- now this even- despite me trying for over 1 hour- NOTHING- i am very skilled at using a doppler as was shown by a previous midwife. Could my baby have died- i cant sleep now- i dont know what to do :-(

[twolittlebundles]

jkb i am so sorry to read this.

[Ummofumbridge]

Oh no :( I'm so so sorry. Was also really hoping everything would be ok. I hope you have plenty if support.
Thinking of you

[Moominsarescary]

I'm so sorry

I lost ds4 at 19+6 last September due to incompetant cervix. Yes you can have a cremation or burial if that is what you want.

If you have any questions you think I may be able to answer for you please ask xx

[JimmysMum1988]

My advice is don't use the dopla at all!! What if you pick up your own heartbeat instead of the babies? Always best to take a trip to anti natal and let the professionals look at you instead. After all that's what they are there for. Xxx

[JimmysMum1988]

I've just read further on in the thread. My apologies xx

[ThatVikRinA22]

so sorry jkb

[VoterColonelSebastianDoyle]

so sorry jkb thinking of you and your partner. Hope everything goes ok on thursday. I will be thinking of you

[BuntyCollocks]

So, so sorry for your loss. Was desperately hoping all would be ok for you.

[pebspop]

this happened to me last year. i found out at the 20 week scan.

there are some really good threads and advice on the miscarriage/pregnancy loss board.

pm me if you want to ask anything. i was terrified but it wasn't as bad as i expected.

[Paradisefound]

Sending you a big hug.
Hope you feel stronger soon.
And ... Be kind to yourself.

[AWomanCalledHorse]

Massive squishy hug for you jkb, I am so sorry for your loss.

Hope tomorrow is as peaceful as can be, sending you lots of strength.
I hope you've got lots of support at home/in real life. xx

[lunar1]

Hope you are doing ok, I hope you get through tomorrow as well as possible. Will be thinking of you

[jkb]

Thank u all so much for all your support.
I am not good- i feel so terrible- like I cant cope. I even found myself dopplering in case they had got it wrong!!! so stupid i know- but its like i have lost my mind!
I have started bleeding about an hour ago- dark brown blood?? so am scared its going to happen before tomorrow & the baby will come while im at home- im terrified
what should i expect tomm? how long will labour last?

[fraktion]

If you're bleeding signifucantly please go in straight away. It may be quick, especially if it's started naturally.

[jkb]

wouldnt say its heavy at the moment & they gave me a tablet yest to soften things ready for tomorrow?

[Moominsarescary]

Ring the labour ward and tell them what's happening.

It can be difficult to say, all labours are different. I was quite quick and had no pain, but that was probably due to my cervix failing. Their usually pretty good and will give you what ever pain relief you want.

Just so you know sometimes the placenta doesn't come away when it's so early and they have to remove it in theatre so don't be scared if this happens. It's normal.

I don't know how you feel about seeing the baby after, if you dont want to they can take pics and footprints and save them in your notes for you. Also I've been told they can give you tablets to stop your milk coming in xx

[MrsBucketxx]

sending all my love and prayers for tomorow.

[jkb]

Thank you xxxx

what do I do if the baby delivers here at home?? what do I do with it? it will still be attached? do i get in the car holding it all? what do i do? does anyone know

[lollipoppi]

Jkb I'm so very very sorry for your loss.

If you have started bleeding I would call your midwife sweet, sending you lots of love x

[Themobstersknife]

Am so sorry to hear your news. Can't offer any advice based on experience but I would go to the hospital as soon as I thought something was happening if I were you. Take care of yourself. So sad.

[JaffaSnaffle]

Please ring the hospital and talk to them about your bleeding.

I started bleeding the day before I was supposed to, and they told me to go into hospital. Nothing had happened other than the bleeding. Once I was there, they gave me the rest of the treatment a day early. They didn't want me wait at home.

Call them up. You are in my thoughts.

[fraktion]

jkb if that happens call an ambulance and your community midwife. But if you can go to the hospital please do.

(This is going to sound insensitive, I don't mean it to, but if you deliver at home without anyone you may need a bucket or something - the medics may want to see the baby and/or placenta to check you've delivered everything)

I'm so sorry you're going through this :(

[Moominsarescary]

If that happens phone an ambulance, chances are you will have some warning so any period type pains, waters breaking phone the labour ward and they will probably tell you to go straight in.

[Moominsarescary]

If it does happen don't try to get to the hospital by car, just phone an ambulance

[mmmnoodlesoup]

I'm so sorry, love. You will be fine tomorrow. If bleeding gets heavier or contractions start, call your midwife asap and I'm sure they will come to you or send an ambulance if you can't get there in time. Don't worry x