Beanies, Bumps and babies...On the trip together!!!

[Nemo1977]

Hope nobody minds me starting a new thread but I only get 5 mins at a time to read and post and the thread is taking me that long to read and then when I click add message it takes forever.

No nothing yet - last time she posted on MN was on here last week. I do keep checking to see if there is any news yet.

Bella sounds like you've have a very busy and successful week :).

How's everyone else? hope you're all doing ok. Feel like my PND is on the way back and feel bloomin awful really down in the dumps and fed up with my life.

Hope everyone has some of the lovely sunshine that is around today.

H x

ps Cadmum - docs?

oh no meandmyboy why do you feel like that hun?

MaMB: Sorry that you are so down... I hope things pick up quickly. Is there anything in particular that is making you blue?

I have not called the doc... I am regretting having told you lot at all!

I only have 18 days left in NYC and I am really having a hard time getting anything done. (Possibly depression as well?) Am just really tired of spinning in circles and feeling as though there is too much to do and too little time...

cad - u get to that dr if u're poorly girlie.

MM&B - aww hon, anothing you want to get off your chest?

friz - lol@ the formula and ebm, if your anything like me when Joey feeds every two hours and i'm tired I think ooh just one bottle won't hurt and then I don't replace it! lol. it's up to u with the formula hon, I keep thinking to get some but mum's telling me not to as Joey's not screaming for feeding! I don't know. glad it's not just me with the expressing thing, i've switched to a meleda one - fab pump but the thing's so slow it's taking me ages instead of 5 mins to get 4 oz out! lol. (1/2 cow me!) we've stopped the bottle by night - mianly cos it was taking an hour to get that done/a fresh bottle expressed, where as to feed joey was taking 10 mins. anyhow,

best get off, our latest arguements at home (with mum) - "why don't u start weaning him now (at 13.5 weeks this discussion started) - I weaned you at 4 months and you're fine" = erm except I have IBS which is made worse by wheat/dairy. it's perhaps your milk isn't enough any more and he want's solid food then i'll give him formula not a bloody bannana/ice cream! anyhow i'm insisting no weaning till 5 months at the ealiest 6 if we can hold out! ooh and joey's tired, why is it dads/bro's think they know best - he's not tired look he's wide awake he doesn't want to sleep - really, is that why his eye's close when I hold him??? URGHHHHH! lol.

m amd mb and cadmum how are you both doing today,be kind to yourselves and do something that makes you feel good.
(((((((((HUGS AND SUPPORT ALWAYS HERE))))))))))))))

Evening all sorry to vanish - I haven't had 5 mins to myself which I think is half the problem!! although compare with what Cadmum is doing my daily schedule is paltry.

Cadmum - it could be the pressure and stress of all that you are trying to do - but yes it could equally be a touch of depression, sending you cyber hugs and hope that once you get to Vienna things will settle for a while and you can catch your breath.

For me I was just sat outside DS bedroom waiting for him to fall asleep without tearing a bandage off and just ended up totally over-whelmed with everything that I have to do at the moment and in the next few months and felt I can't possible achieve all that is needed. Got equally pee'd off with DH as it feels as though he gets to keep his life as it is and it's me making all the major adjustments, full time child minder, office work part time with a horrid little admin job they have shoved me into since going back after maternity leave so much for equal status etc, running home based business part time/full time so that it will pay once I finish work in september, being pg and looking after DH as he deal's with a fairly nasty situation with his recently ex employer's. I know I will get zero help once baby is here, I didn't cope last time and ended up with PND for the best part of 18mts as a result and will end up doing it all again this time add to which DH's job now means he will be away from home at least twice a month.

Sorry just needed to rant, cause I feel that I can't cope it feels like the depression is on it's way back, I just don't have any extra capacity to take on anything extra and I have to cope with a newborn!!!! I wanted to be able to look forward to this one and enjoy it in a way i didn't get with DS and it's just not going to happen, I'm not even looking forward to having it now :(.

Oh goodness that's a huge essay sorry!!

{{{{{{{MaMB}}}}}}

Does it help to vent?

I am glad that I am not alone in feeling swamped but I would certainly not wish this feeling on anyone else.

I have spent the day ignoring our children whilst trying to find my floor. The flat is a complete tip and i must have 8 loads of laundry to do. DH was in Vienna last week and is working such long hours (including Sunday evening) this week that he may as well still be gone. DS1 is on the sofa again wih a headache and I don't know how to deal with him because I feel like a prisoner in my own home all day long. DH will come home around 7:30 pm shattered, grumpy and wanting them all in bed so that he can 'watch a show'. I will feel neglected, exhausted an dmiserable again as I fall into bed once the dishwasher is on and the baby is settled enough to sleep.

My leg is still nemb on and off and my back is out but I don't really have a proper Dr here and even if I knew where to look I would need to drag all 4 monkeys with me.

I am failing at everthing I put my hand to lately including schooling ds1 and dd1. I could cry but then I would never stop.

{{{cadmum}}} hugs to you too.

yes it did help to vent and then cried my eyes out for 5 minutes too .

It is a horrible feeling and what makes it worse is I am so used to being able to cope with anything, and then after DS it's all fallen to pieces and I still feel like I am walking on a cake walk and don't know when I'm going to end up tripping over again.

No wonder you are feeling miserable, I really sympathise with the siatica (sp) and your back being out - both debilitating on their own let alone together. You are doing so much with no help and no time or space to look after yourself either.

I wish I could help. I can lend virtual support. Take care.

The virtual support is surprisingly helpful. Thanks.

I really just need a big kick up the backside because it is only going to get much worse before it gets any better.

Feel free to rant to me/us anytime.

{{{{{Big Hugs}}}}}}} to you both girls, sounds like your both having one hell of a time of it all, M&MB huge sympathies with work having stuck you into a pants job since you've gone back, not a nice situation to be placed in, especially when you need the money and hate it so......here's hoping your other job kickes off enough for you never to have to work for them again! (but the maternity pay for 6mths will be nice!) Caddy if you don't get to a doc in USA, please find one when you get to AT!
Munz, I'm a naughty girl, I brought formula and used it last night with some Expressed BM to see if any reactions etc, there wasn't so used it again at lunch today... left dd2 and ss with my mum, whilst I went to exercise, and I'd not had chance to express.....its a slippery slope!

Morning girls! Just a quick update from me as yep you've guessed it...I've still not had this baby yet!! I'm now 10 days overdue and not looking too likely to deliver any time soon. I now have an induction date booked at the hospital for Saturday morning at 8am - Royal Surrey won't do anything until you're about 14 days over!

I did see the midwife yesterday and had a sweep which was incredibly uncomfortable. Had a bloody show immediately afterwards so my poor midwife was getting excited claiming that I'd proably go into labour quite quickly - but alas it's not to be. She even rang me this morning to check how I was and said that she'd been rining the hospital to find out whether I'd made it there yet!!

Anyway - generally feeling ok if a little fed up that it all appears to be dragging..but hey looks as though I just have a useless uterus that can't get itself into action!!

Will keep you all posted though if there's any news!

Good to be able to catch up on everyone elses news although I'm sorry to hear that M&MB and Cadmum are having such a hard time of it at the moment. Hang in there girls - will be thinking of you. xx

Cadmum & M&MYBOY - oh dear, sounds like you two need a day off and some TLC.
Sorry can't offer help with either so a cyber hug will have to suffice {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}
Make sure you rant away. One thing I would say is that I do think you need to sit your DHs down and tell them how you feel (sorry if you already have done) - its just that men no matter how lovely they are really need it slept out in CAPITAL letters sometimes.
Poor you two xxx

Handbag - no labout yet !!! Lets hope it all kicks off just before induction, will keep things crossed.

Well not a lot to report here, am getting soo huge! I keep catching my reflection in shop windows and not recognising my profile!!
Seems so long until I can finish work, not until the 11th August and it can't come soon enough. All this sunshine is making me want to be very lazy indeed!

Well best get back to work as been a bit lax this morning....oops

love to you all xx

Handbag, here's hoping it all kicks off for you tonight sending you lots of labour vibes 'Ommmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm'

Bella, lol at the reflection thing! I keep looking these days and thinking well she's only 3mths old, I have plenty of time to loose the weight! 9mths on 9mths off eh!

just caught up and wanted to send more [[[hugs]]]]] to caddy and M&M. dont know what the answers are, but really hope things get easier for you both soon.

bella - nursery sounds lovely, am so excited for you hon. all i can say is enjoy every minute of those first weeks, it goes soooooooooo fast. i am still loving motherhood, its not without its challenges but the rewards make up for it a hundredfold. romi only needs to giggle at me, and all those sleepless nights are quickly forgotten.

munz and friz - lol @ all your expressing comparisons! i have been exclusively b/feeding - mainly out of complete laziness and not finding the time to start expressing as well as feeding. it does limit my social life (what social life?!) but i had plenty of that in my past life so its no big deal

love to all x

handbag - more ommmmmmmmmmms from me too

Hi Rom nice to hear from you, glad things are ok How's the new house going?

Has everyone been out enjoying the good weather today? We had a lovely picnic, with my old maternity mates from when dd1 was born, around at one of their houses, although we now have two new babies between us, and another one due in the next month too! We all took a different part of the meal, to make it interesting! and my dd nearly ate some raw carrot, but not quite, spat it out, when she realised I liked her eating it! lol

Handbag, any news?

Handbag: More OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOMMMMMMMMMMMMMMS from across the Atlantic. I am looking forward to your bug announcement!

Romilly: Nice to hear from you again. I am still feeling frustrated and insane but an entire batch of brownies has done wonders for my morale this aternoon. The children think that I am SuperMum for letting them dig in to (the bater as well as) the baked goodies!

Now, to make it through tomorrow with a house guest for the night... Wish me luck as the house it a tip (as usual) and I have a raging headache. I am sure that it is not connected to brownie consumption--MUCH! Poor Charlie must be drinking chocolate milk this evening. She must honestly be the world's most content little being; I am getting the biggest grins and sweet giggles as I ignore her to post on here. She is so AMAZING!

Hope you are all well. Thinking of you MaMB. Wish I could pass you a brownie or six.

just quickly till tomorrow gilrs,

good news from my camp - DH has FINALLY!!!! been promoted, yes 10 months too late, yes 10 months later than he should have cos the paper work wasn't filled in in oct (if u remerb when he sat the board) it's been confirmed he came off then but the paper work wasn't completed anyhow, now we're moving to balndford in august some time with his new rank, an hour from my mums and can't wait - just terrified of moving house with a 6 month old baby, 2 dogs next to no money and trying to get this house sorted for march out - still all's in a day's work and it will work out! main thing is the promotion! gonna try joey in the big boy's bed tonight in his own room will let u all know how we go tomorrow and catch up then.

Ah Munz that's fantastic news for you DH - congrats and excellent you'll be close to your mum too.

Handbag how's things - guess no news means - No news :). Sending you loads of labour vibes and hope things get started soon for you.

Caddy how are you holding up? been ok for a couple of days and then spent most of yesterday feeling really angry with the world, bit better today. Been really selfish though and even took myself off to bed this afternoon and left DH to it. I hope your overnight guest wasn't too stressful for you.

Hi to everyone else and thank you for your support - it makes such a difference :).

I'm probably the only one that feels this way but hope the weather breaks soon - I am really struggling!!

Talk soon, enjoy the rest of the weekend - off to make some customer calls and have an order to place too.

M&MB good on you for taking some time in bed for yourself the weather is unfortuately supposed to be hotter tomorrow, but fingers x'd it cools down a bit later in the week, especially for you!

Handbag, OMMMMmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Munz, Huge Congrats about time too, and so close to your folkes, how fab is that! better weather down there as well, and Pool's not too far either is it? great beaches and the new forest oooh you lucky thing!

Caddy, you go girl, and please chuck me a virtual brownie hon!

Hope all are ok, off to pay dh some attention now, my eldest is driving me nuts, but that's another story for another day....ttfn

Hello everyone
Munz huge congrats to your dh so glad your going to be close to your mum,well done hunny.
MANDMB hope your starting to feel better now (((hugs)))
Cadders how are you doing sweety? ((hugs))
Handbag any news? best of the bestest of luck xx
Hi also to frizbe,Bella and nemo (sorry if ive missed anyone out)
Well me and bibby are doing well getting lots of flutters now (16weeks) going to see midwife on weds to have bloods done and listen to bibbys heartbeat then 4 weeks to 20 week scan,which incidently is on my birthday.Think i am going to find out what we are having as getting very curious now,but want to keep it as mine and dhs secret.

oh and hi to rom and cant sleep wontsleep 9sorry pg brain again)

Was just checking to see if handbag had posted yet - probably far too early yet.

She was booked for induction on Saturday I think, so we may well have a new addition to the Handbag collection by now - ooohhhh can't wait to hear her news :)

Cadmum how are you doing?

Nemo how's the morning sickness? I hope it's eased up a bit.

Bella hope you're doing ok and not melting too much.

Hello to everyone else hope you and your LO's are all doing ok and the heat hasn't melted you away completely.

Well DS is 3!!!!! on Thursday and I haven't even managed to get him a birthday card yet.

Have a good day and hopefully catch up later.

h x

Hello! I've got some news!! Just a really quick post (I'll sort out all the gory details later) but basically - pleased to be able announce the very quick and safe arrival of Amy at 16:16 on Saturday afternoon after a 1 hour 50 minute labour!!! Naturally she's gorgeous and weighed in a 7lb 13oz.

We're all fine - boobs killing me as milk has just started to come in...ouch ouch ouch.

Hope everyone else is OK. Will post more in a couple of days but just wanted to post the news given that you'd all been so good about sending positive vibes and checking on me continually.