Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

[StateofConfusion]

Before the first thread fills and locks a 2nd thread for us getting braver!

Sorry to hear your worried bonzo both my ds and dd growth slowed at my 32wk scan, ds they decided needed out quickly and was delivered by elcs at 37wks, he was 6lb3 he did need time in scbu but was home by 38wks and is now a happy healthy albeit petite 5yo! Dds growth slowed but after ds' spell in nicu I asked if I could hold on a little longer with monitoring, they allowed and she was delivered 2 days before her duedate, healthy as an ox albeit a bit small (7lb6oz)
Whereas this baby is a 'good size' I have frequent nightmares it arrives before my elcs date!

Alpha and wifey that sounds very familiar. I'm 9 weeks and almost cried all the way home from work yesterday after discovering that it had taken more than 2 weeks from me seeing GP to the letter to ante-natal clinic actually getting sent! Good job I saw GP at 6 weeks not later. Dreading a "still" scan again but trying to stay positive and

Relaxed!

state it's more my dickhead parents and inlaws stressing me now than the baby! DS was 5lb11 born by EMCS at 39+1, never went to special care and was discharged before I was! I'm getting fab care and very careful monitoring and am confident that any concerns I have are taken seriously (they kept me in over night for a small bleed last month!). Even the obstetrician said that that a small baby by itself is no reason for concern if everything else looks OK, and the best indicator is movement, of which there is loads, baby is kicking the laptop as I type!

That's good then bonzo :) familys ey! My mum who's usually wonderful obsessively told me for weeks I'd be refused a csection when it came to it and got me into a right state, as she was refused one for my brother, factors that caused that decision were she ended up having a blood transfusion after the previous one, she was in her 40s, and had a v high bmi. I recovered quickly from my csecs, I'm in my 20s and I've had two previous ones and they asked me not to have a vbac.

I've got a right wriggler, right now there's something poking my hips, under my ribs and movement visible all down my right hand side. This babys either bigger, or an octopus!

Hey there - think I need a bit of support. Had a missed miscarriage late August. Had no idea anything was wrong until 12 week scan - apparently the poor little mite had only lived to 5/6 weeks, but my body decided to hang on to it. Had awful time of it with placenta stuck and needing blood transfusion during the miscarriage.

Anyway - since then obsessed with getting pregnant again - and had positive test begining November. So scared now - covinced the baby is dead again inside me, not even made an appointment with midwife. I don't feel particularly pregnant - not sick, boobs feel normal. Had a tiny ammount of spotting the other day - just convinced it is all going to be wrong again. Feel nervous and shakey a lot of the time . Any advice kind ladies?

Welcome milli

Sorry to hear about your loss, and that you had a harder time afterwards.

Congratulations though on this new bean! My advice is contact a midwife, get your name into the system. My mws have been so reassuring, also I've had 2 dcs, 2mcs and a mmc, all full of symptoms lots of nausea and aches etc no spotting with any. This time however has been pretty symptomless and I had some mild spotting and I'm still going at 33+4wks.
The first trimester is the hardest bit, there's no sure fire way to cope somehow you just muddle through. Best of luck xxx

Thank-you for the welcome StateofConfusion. Glad all is going well with you at 33 weeks. Will ring up the midwife and make an appointment. Just feel fed up and worn out - constantly out of breath doing the simplest of things. Will try and be more positive. I have already got a 16month old son, so I know how lucky I am really compared to ladies waiting for their first.

I felt exhausted too, I think its more the mental side that does us in in the early days, the constant battle in our mind of is it ok? What's happening? It must have all gone wrong etc. Also 16mos are hard work, my dd was born when ds was that age and I was shattered. This time they're in school and nursery so I have fairly easy weekdays but I've been worn out since my bfp!
Take it easy and come here whenever you need a talk, we've all felt how you do at some point in our journeys.

I also forgot to mention pregnancys following a loss have a greater chance of sucess, that helped me get through. X

Hi Milli it sounds like you had an awful time in August. I also had a missed miscarriage in July although medical management went smoothly for me. I'm now (fx) just over 9 weeks. I felt really rubbish the first couple of weeks after my positive test - like you I didn't feel pregnant. Since then my boobs have inflated a bit, I'm definitely tired and moody - those hormones don't help do they? I've got a date through for my booking scan and scan today, 2 1/2 weeks time. I can't wait, I'm sure I'll be counting the days, but terrified when it comes to it. I've just tried to keep going, rest a bit more than usual (lots of evenings lazing around in front of TV) and somehow the past 5 weeks have passed.

State, I didn't know that pregnancies following a loss have a greater chance of success, really? That will help a lot in the next couple of weeks.

I was told on another thread I'm part of in conception, the mosh pit, and my midwife confirmed the risk of mc is reduced following a mc. I really held on to that!

Hi milli, I couldn't face an apt with a mw until I knew baby was ok following 12 week scan - with my last pg which ended in mmc, the mw was dismissive of my fears being that I'd mc'd before, I filled out all the forms, had bloods etc, only to find later that I'd mc'd again. I saw a specific gp who was sympathetic and said I could get into thd system for a scan without seeing a mw. The mw phoned me and was a bit shitty about it but I stuck to my guns. Good to get in the system though as in my experience the NHS moves slow but as far as possible do it in the most comfortable way for you. Good luck!

Thank-you WLmum - will be ringing doctors today to get in the system. Luckily husband is off work today so we can go out with our little lad and take my mind off things. When sitting quietly I tend to try and symptom spot! Good luck to everyone else who is waiting. Will be back later to check how everyone is.

Hi everyone, having a bit of a panic day today, silly I know as I had a scan on monday which was fine, just been having a couple of mild cramps (i know probably stretching) and seem to be convincing myself it is all going wrong now! also I have had awful sickness and it seems to be passing a bit now... I am 10 weeks and 5 days. All my other miscarriages were between 6 and 8 weeks so I thought once I was past the danger period I could start to relax a bit more, seems my mind thinks otherwise!!

a few weeks ago I saw some good stats about likelihood of healthy pregnancy with positive scan at 10 weeks etc - does anyone know what they were?

Sorry I don't know the stats alpha but I had lots of cramping at 10-12wks, even some spotting and it was all fine xx

I've been lurking but wanted to chip in. Wifey I've had two MCs this year and was obviously quite anxious around that second pregnancy... I paid for a private scan at 7 weeks. It was wonderful, saw the heartbeat and felt reassured. Lost the baby a week later.

I'm now pregnant again and have decided not to stress about any of it. The terrible fact is that many early pregnancies are just not viable and there's nothing you can do about it but hope for the best. I'm not going to pay for any more scans - although I was tested for recurrent miscarriage (am over 40 - two or more is the protocol in my LHA) and the consultant said to call at 6 weeks I'm thinking I actually might not. I'm going to hold out as long as possible. What will be will be. I'm not sure how much this helps (or not!) but I know how horrible the waiting is. Just awful. I wanted to send you a very unmnetty hug. And, congratulations by the way.

Oh and Milli i haven't made an appointment with the midwife either! Last two times I went it was just a nightmare of stress and form filling... followed by many upsetting hours waiting around the EPU for completely clueless staff to announce other people's private details in the waiting room. Ugh, dreadful. Really stressed me out. I'm going to wait a few more weeks before getting tangled up in the NHS. I wish I had the option to go private, but this is my second best. (am only 5 weeks by the way). Go with your gut feeling I think.

Thank you special...just hoping for the best & waiting til 10+ for a scan.
Alpha...it's so hard not to worry isn't it..even when you know you have seen your baby's heartbeat. Can you call your midwife or doctor for reassurance? Stretchy pains are more prominent in 10+ weeks I was told as the ligaments get stretched more to accommodate your growing baby.

alpha I found the stats here:

www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/information/ultrasound-scans/ - quite far down the page under the "There's a heartbeat but I'm still bleeding" paragraph - I assume they don't just apply to people who are bleeding.

thanks grainmum, this is very reassuring especially; A heartbeat at 8 weeks increases the chance of a continuing pregnancy to 98% and at 10 weeks that goes up to 99.4%

thanks wifey a few days back I was so confident, now it seems to be drifting off again! i think it is because we have started to tell very close family, makes it more real and therefore more scary!!

I'm going to get baby states carseat tomorrow, it feels a bit 'big' iyswim, I will be 34wks though and ds arrived at 37 so I need to get organised, can't help but wibble a bit though.

Does anyone else's symptoms fluctuate in severity? Somedays I feel queasy & achy etc..then the next day..I don't feel too bad.
I felt ok with my DS..but in my last pregnancy (mmc) I felt dreadful everyday.
Is how I'm feeling normal?

Totally normal wifey. alpha telling people made me really paranoid that I was jinxing it. No sanity!

Totally normal wifey I often say to dp 'I'm having a pregnant day' and other days I just feel normal.

Got the babys carseat today, its real now isn't it