Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

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Before the first thread fills and locks a 2nd thread for us getting braver!

22 weeks tomorrow! I suspect my section will be on the 1st of March (to be confirmed by consultant obviously...) so 4 months to go exactly! Eek!

Over the half way mark, hoorah! I've a feeling ill be took in on either the 17th or 21st, no idea why just a hunch!

Hope the next 4months pass quickly and uneventfully!

6 weeks to go for me on saturday

Funny if we're the same day state!

So pleased for u backward, it's such a relief isn't it. Time to relax more and enjoy more. X

Ah then Possum it will be close between us then as my EDD is Feb 25th. How funny we're doing this in pairs

Great to hear about all the good scans, and lovely to have an update from you Wellies, I can't believe it's been a month already!

DH has been trying, and hoping, to feel the baby kick for a while but he's never been able to feel it. Maybe it's because I'm so "well covered" or maybe I just wasn't far enough along.

I've discovered the solution! I don't drink caffeine, it makes me feel a bit iffy - I like decaff coffee, tea and can even tolerate decaff cola. Unfortunately they don't make a decaff version of my favourite soft drink, Irn Bru so occasionally I treat myself to a couple of swigs. I had two mouthfuls this morning and the baby burst into life, with hard enough kicks that DH and DS were able to feel them. They're both delighted, and I'm so pleased I'm able to share the joy. What a lovely start to the weekend.

Aw mrsr it is lovely when they feel it, makes it more real to them I suppose! Good news all round with scans etc, not long for some of us now! Went into town yesterday, had a wonder round and felt so much pressure down there I thought Seth might fall out if I opened my legs too much, it was weird. Must have been his position as he feels quite high up today and finding it hard to catch my breath and my ribs are a little achy! Hope everyone's doing ok today.

How long for you now gem? I feel like that some days, its not pleasant!

That's lovely mrs dp has felt some proper kicks too this week, he put his arm round me in bed and got a good kicking to get off lol, he now understands why I don't sleep much!

We've now settled on names at last! --i think-- Lily Mary Hope for a girl and Noah Alexander James Barry for a boy. (The barry has been added on as its dps Grandads name and hes recently been diagnosed with terminal cancer and its unlikely he'll meet this baby)

I'm due on 17th Jan, I'm now 29wks+2 so 11 wks to go! What lovely names state Had quite a bit of energy today (for a change!) so managed a couple of loads of washing, bit of cleaning and just got in from weekly shop. Aching bit now so curled up on sofa watching star wars with a hot choc, whipped cream&sprinkles yum!

Hi all, glad everyone is doing well.

I am going absolutely mad with worry here. I have my 20 week scan on Tuesday and have convinced myself that there is going to be something very seriously wrong. I don't want to talk about the bump as a baby, think about my due date or think about being a mum. A good friend is pregnant and all I can picture is next year her having a baby and me not. I have been reading up on what happens after a bad 20 week scan and genuinely can't think of anything else happening.

I have heard that women "know" if something is wrong so it is self-perpetuating, the more worried and upset I feel the more I feel like I know something is wrong and I am right.

I am barely keeping myself together. I am feeling the odd movemement here and there, my boobs and bump are increasing in size and although I have odd pains and twinges everything has been ok aside from a tiny bit of spotting at 17 weeks which was most likely from a cervical erosion. I keep thinking that bleed was a warning that my placenta is breaking down or something.

I want this baby so much, but making myself so detatched.

Oh sundae just hang on til tues. try to relax, you've convinced yourself of the worst so anything else is a bonus. The likelihood is that all will be well. I sincerely hope this is the case for you and that you are soon able to picture yourself with a baby in your arms next year. Try anything you can to distract yourself - cinema? Book? Knitting? Anything! And don't worry, we have driven ourselves crazy over thd last few months. Xx

Lovely names state, we will have a special middle name too after a friend of dhs that died last year.

It's so nice when others can enjoy the movements isn't it, DH feels quite a lot now but there was a time when the baby would always stop when he put his hand on.

I feel that baby is really low too, and often think how are my waters not breaking with the pressure and pinching right down low. I'm not convinced that I'll make it to my c sec date, and keep having a see panic about what we need to do to be ready, and we 're away this weekend, have been calculating packing and getting home times during night wakings!

Hang in there sundae we've all felt the same, I still convince myself somethings wrong when I've not had a movement for 15minutes! I'm sure all will be fine xx

wl I'm convinced too, my ds and dd were small quiet babys to carry this ones measuring a good size and I'm getting a lot of pressure down there. I'm going to get the carseat and base next weekend, ill be 34wks!! then I'm going to pack my bags. I often wake at night and remember strange things, like we need a carseat raincover, the pushchair one for our double fitted the carseat, we have a single now its madness lol!

Sundae, I felt the same before my 20 wk scan, just hang in there and try to keep busy.

Can you lot please remind me it's a GOOD thing to be feeling the baby move, it's been non-stop all day and it's actually starting to get painful. DH had a word and the wee thing scooted over towards his voice and wedged itself under my ribs. He was trying to help but just made it worse

Oh swoon, Andrea Bocelli is on, I'll let his beautiful voice sooth me.

I have days like that mrs but then when it settles down I want it to wriggle again, poor thing can't win!

I'm sure though it puts a hand on each hip bone and just pushes outwards. That's how it feels anyway!

Hi all, finally feeling brave enough to join an antenatal thread! I lost my last baby at 16 weeks, a mmc so I had to go in to hospital and deliver, exactly one month after my dad died suddenly at the ripe old age of 57, a shocker of a time, but am now about 26 weeks gone, due Feb 13th. Still nervous but trying to stay sane.. It is very reassuring to see all the success stories on here so I would very much like to join you in the hope I can become less neurotic and start being really excited! TIA

Welcome aboard 001 so sorry to hear about your mmc and your Dad xxx

Many congratulations on your new pregnancy, we are all neurotic here so you'll fit in fine, but the excitement starts to take over eventually! Do you know what your having or is it a suprise, mine is, not that I've not tried to find out, 3 scans and the little monkeys kept all hidden, 33+1wks now so ill find out soon! X

Hello everyone...sorry for your loses & congratulations on your BFPs. I had a MMC in April at 13 weeks & found out at 9DPO this month that I am pregnant. Approx 4.5 weeks.
I am anxious, terrified & feel unable to get excited, happy or even let myself acknowledge it properly. I knew pregnancy after loss would be emotional & a worrying time...but I'm so worried all the time.
No chance of reassurance scans unless we go private (trying to talk DH round).
Sorry for self-indulgent post.
x

Welcome 001001. Your baby is due on my 30th birthday, so that must be a lucky sign, right?

Welcome to you too, wifey, got everything crossed that this one's a sticky for you. We've all been there, so please offload on us all xx

I can understand you feel that way sundae, the only advice I could give is to keep yourself as busy as possible and to keep posting on here, I'm sure your scan will be fine, felt exactly the same about mine and was very detached to the pg until about 24wks when I started to relax a little. Welcome to the thread 001 sorry to hear about your dad and mmc, and welcome wifey as backward says we've been there, keeping everything crossed for you x

Welcome 001 and wifey sorry to hear about your previous sadnesses, we all know appreciate how tough it must have been, and I'm sure continues to be. Come hold hands and soak up positives vibes (or vent/cry/celebrate/worry etc as necessary!)

Thanks for all the kind words. We don't know what we are having, we want a surprise but hopefully either a boy or a girl..
Those of you still waiting fir scans, esp sundae, I think it is very normal to panic beyond what is usual, after all, you have been let down before. There is no point telling you all will be fine as we all know that isn't always the case so it is a waiting game and just get support from wherever you can.
I thought hearing the heartbeat at 16 weeks would put my mind at rest- it didn't. Nor did the scan, or subsequent mw visits, or even feeling it move as I am so aware that movement etc only means baby is ok at that very moment (do I win some kind of prize for most neurotic?) I am resigned to the fact I will only relax when I am holding this baby in my arms and am so happy for those on this thread who have reached that milestone.
Sorry for the essay!

I had a 10 1/2 week scan yesterday, little one still going strong so that has made me feel a lot better. Just wanted to share.

I'm 9 weeks today, around the time that the last little grain stopped growing. (mmc discovered at 10 weeks). Any tips on what I can do to keep Grain2 growing, apart from positive vibes?

Also, saw GP 3 weeks ago but no communication yet re antenatal appointment/scan.. I'm planning to give them 1 more week then start chasing.

Great news, Alpha!

I don't know if there's anything you can do, grain, but we've all got fingers crossed xx

Oh Grain, there is nothing you can do and nothing you did wrong last time. FX grain will be a bean when you get your scan.

Back from my 20 week scan, all perfect and 95% team pink!