Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

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Before the first thread fills and locks a 2nd thread for us getting braver!

swansea so excited for you... I guess you are either about to get on the operating table, or actually on it, or just off, as I type. Squeeee!

Talking of ELCS.... anyone here thinking of VBAC? I'm sort of half heartedly thinking about it. The hospital have said I can try for one, or go straight for ELCS, whatever I want. It seemed from what the Dr said that the only thing I should really be thinking hard about is that it's impossible to know how many CS an individual can have safely, so if we are considering a 3rd (or more) babies, it would be best to give vbac a go. And if I have a CS this time I really will have to have a CS with a 3rd baby, whilst with a successful vbac I would still have the choice of a VB with baby number 3. I'm just not all that confident that I won't end up with a CS anyway. My EMCS really was great, my recovery was OK (and I would anticipate it being even faster after an elective). I am definitely more scared of a vbac than a CS. DH I think would prefer me to have a CS, knowing that he can be around after to support me for at least 3 weeks, and not wanting me to go through all the drama (potentially) of a VBAC. Though I would not actually be guided by his preference!

On another cheerful note, I have slightly pissed myself twice this morning. better start doing those exercises.

bonzo I very nearly joined you after ready that last paragraph who said pregnancy isn't glamorous.

Counting down to my scan wednesday its been 10wks since I saw wriggler! Feels like forever! Saw some impressive gymnastics from him/her whilst in the bath this morning, pretty sure I felt the head aswell as it was sliding about, cool and kinda gross at the same time!

Bonzo at the damp moment ! I had my consultant appt and just like u discussed vbac. Have to say I want to brave and say I'd go for it.... But I'm actually scared.... Im not good with pain but recovery and pain following cs im also not keen on. ive Exactly the same reasons as u . Child already to look after, If we want another child after have the option again etc etc. my first was an emergency cs so I'm sure a elcs would be calmer and a quicker recovery .... I just don't know - plus I'm 4ft 11 my Dh is 6ft4 I'm terrified of having a huge baby !

Any news yet Swansea ?!? Hope it's all gone swimmingly

Bonzo! Me too! While I was talking to my neighbour in the garden! Fortunately I have some sanitary towels to hand. Mortifying, fortunately my neighbour was oblivious!

Absolutely knackered today, no energy at all, I think it's because I'm back into the school routine after half term last week. Looking forward to an early night and a long lie tomorrow morning.

Swansea - been thinking of you today!

:( had my op cancelled until Tuesday really devastated and faint cause I haven't eating since 6.15 there were too many emergencies x

Oh no Swansea! Shocker! You have to understand about thd emergencies but you must be feeling pretty deflated. Hope u manage to do something nice this weekend, bit of pampering perhaps? Easy to say I know, I'd probably spend most of it in tears! Xx

Of course emergencies come first but they kept me waiting all afternoon. When I felt faint and dizzy!!
It is completely shit and I feel depressed as hell at the mo. I am so tired right now :( xx

Oh no Swansea that sucks :( X

Oh swansea you poor thing, that would really upset me. I remember all too well how rotten I felt after a waiting for one emergency to go ahead of me. Hope you get some rest and something nice to eat :) x

Hi ladies I can see I am totally butting in in the middle of a long conversation between you all but this thread caught my eye and wondering if anyone could offer their experience to comfort me.. Im 8 weeks pg tomorrow, had a mmc in May this year which has made me really anxious this time round. I am constantly symptom checking and analysing how 'pregnant' i feel. I went for an early scan because of my anxieties last week and saw a healthy heartbeat which relaxed me alot. But now im worried as I havent felt sick for the last 2 days and was expecting to feel worse day by day. Has anyone else had any experience with feeling this way? i think its the circumstances of a mmc and not knowing straight away it had happened which is making it worse. Also i havent any children so no experience of a healthy pregnancy and how its meant to be. Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated x

oh no swansea, you must be gutted, big hugs to you and I agree to pamper/spoil yourself Hello Elsabel welcome to the thread, congratulations on your pg, understanding the worry/anxiety/constant analysing that comes with it, the only advice I can give you is to take each day at a time and be kind to yourself. This thread has been really great for that bit of support when you've had a bad day, need a rant or just someone that understands what you're going through. The sickness hasn't been that bad this time round, am now 28wks pg with a boy , felt worse with sickness when I'd gone on to mc in previous pg's, I've had 3 mcs at 5,6&8wks. So I understand you wanting to analyse that (did the same with my boobs and if they weren't hurting I thought the worse) but I don't think you should read too much into it. Good luck for your pg. xx

Hello elsabel, butters in always welcome here! It is such an anxious time. I've had 2 mcs, 1 was mmc discovered at 12 wk scan - looking back my symptoms had disappeared so when they disappeared this time I totally freaked out, but thankfully everything was fine. I googled it alot cos I didn't believe it for the longest time, and it seems that sometimes your body is better at adjusting to the hormones than others so gets over the symptoms quicker. I also had pretty much no symptoms with dd1 so although easy to say, try not to get too obsessed about symptoms (as if I didn't!) and do take one day at a time. Xx

elsabel so sorry to hear about your mc, but congratulations on your healthy new bean! I felt awful when pregnant with my big two, and my mcs, this pregnancy has been a breeze, almost symptom free! Which worried me a lot in the early days but were still going strong at 32wks! Good luck xxx

thankyou so much all for your kind words and shared experiences its exactly what I needed! I started by taking it one day at a time to begin with (as i found out early when i was barely even 4 weeks) but as time has gone on and ive became attached ive found it harder and cant help but worry about what will happen) Congratulations to you all on your bumps xx

Swansea, I am so sorry to read about the rescheduling... How stressful. My heart would literally stopped. I can't even imagine going back on Tuesday.

Having said that, I do have a friend who was accidentally c-sectioned a few days too early and her son's lungs were not able to cope well. He spent many days in the NICU. I am hoping that it was divine intervention and that your little one needs a few more days on slow bake...

Not that this makes up for spending the afternoon hungry, stressed and imprisoned in a hospital only with a scheduled do-over..

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Elsabel, welcome! Confratulations and please feel free to fret here. I am a symptom spotter too. I can convince myself daily that it must be all over. Missed miscarriages really play with your mind and make you lose all confidence.

If I do a name search on the antenatal thread for March 2006, I can find over a dozen incidents that convinced me I was going to miscarry. Dd2 is now a feisty 6 year old...

One day at a time and that is too much switch to one hour at a time.

Oh Swansea that just sucks, I hope you had something lovely for dinner and a good night's sleep. Looking forward to your birth announcement next week.

Elsabel, welcome and congratulations on your BFP! If it's of any comfort, my morning sickness cleared up rather early this time round (I'm 22weeks now) whereas I was sick right up until the day I went in for the medical management, so for 5 days after hearing our beanie had died.

Just take it every day/hour/minute at a time and try not to worry too much, easier said than done though - we've all been there. Take care xx

Thanks everyone nice just to know that im not going crazy (or if i am then others have been too!) I agree Cadmum about the mmc thing, although all miscarriages are traumatic the circumstances of a mmc really do drive you mad and im pretty sure thats where most of my anxieites come from.

MrsReiver that made me feel a bit better to know that its not unheard of for nausea to disappear earlier sometimes, thanks. Hope everyone enjoys their weekends xx

My nausea went at around 10wks, I have a mild wave of it once in a while but that's it.

I'm finding all sorts of smells make me slightly nauseated, I couldn't walk down the meat aisle of Asda last week because I couldn't stomach the smell. Today - no problem at all. There's no rhymne nor reason to it!

That's how it is for me mrs

Baby had a very very active evening last night for about 3/4hrs I could see it fidgeting around.

I was the same with smells. Some days I'd be sick just smelling something, the next nothing!

Exciting, State! I'm getting real kicks now (21+3) and can feel them from the 'outside' too. Of course, whenever DH tries to feel it, the wee bugger stops kicking... typical! [hwink]

All 3 dcs have done that, or moved away atleast, its frustrating! I've never had movement like this though, its bloody uncomfortable but still nice.

32+1 now!!

Baby boy born today via c section at 10am weighing 8lb61/2 he is gorgeous!! Once I figure out how to do it will put a ic on my profile xxx