Pregnant after a miscarriage, as the bumps get bigger we get braver, 1st,2nd or 3rd trimester, reasurance and hand holding aplenty!

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Before the first thread fills and locks a 2nd thread for us getting braver!

Yep sore arm will linger for a few days, I found it worse the next morning, whooping cough ones a lot worse, I feel like a huge bloke has punched me in the arm multiple times. Still sodding hurts and I had it done tuesday.

I'm still debating whether to get the flu jab. I'm only 5 weeks but really can't afford any time off work with flu symptoms from jab just in case I do miscarry and wantneed time off then. Still no symptoms apart from tiredness so very anxious but this thread is good as those that are past 20weeks etc remind me it can happen.

I got it as I work with kids, so I always catch some kind of bug during this term. I'd rather it's not flu, for obvious reasons, especially when you can't take every drug under the sun to help you get over it! My arm aches this morning, but no cold/flu symptoms yet. It's not a live vaccine, so you can't catch flu from it. A couple of days of discomfort is worth it i think!

You can't get flu symptoms from it, as possom said its not live. Its just a sore arm for a few days otherwise totally fit and healthy x

You can get "flu-like" side effects like a temperature and sore muscles which is why people are under the misconception that it's a live vaccine. I certainly felt pretty grotty afterwards but only for an afternoon. After that it was just an achey arm.

Fab thank you. I'm just trying to avoid taking any time of work but sounds ok so I better have it.
Parents want me to take a couple of wks off work to take it easy but I don't think that will make any difference to me mc or not.

littlemiss I found in the early weeks being busy was the best thing for me, an active mind is one that can't worry so much!

8weeks and 5 days until my due date!

Hi guys, I'm 18+3 now and beginning to worry about the twenty week scan and more worried now than before.

I have had two periods of spotting, only once each time when I wiped which MW has put down to a cervical erosion, but haven't had any scans or anything to prove this. She just tells me it is normal and not to worry at all, but finding that hard.

Considering buying a doppler so that I can put my mind at rest, but there are so many!

Someone give me a tad of reassurance!

Sundae I feel for you x after 3 mc I roam dreading my 20 week scan. But really just wanted to say as I'd had mmc the though of finding another unviable pregnancy at a scan Waz something I couldn't face so I did buy a Doppler at 8 weeks! thankfully I was lucky enough to hear the heart beat and have heard it every time I've used it since . There are varied pros and cons but I wouldnt be without mine now ( though I do try to restrict my usage to every 3/4 days. I brought the angel sounds one from amazon was about £25 with the ultrasound gel x
I say go for it gives me the most amazing peace of mind x

I have bought www.amazon.co.uk/Sonoline-Fetal-Doppler-BackLit-Display/dp/B005FLWYE4/ref=pd_rhf_gw_p_t_1 this one.

I have had one early MC and had to have a termination for medical reasons at 9 weeks.

I didn't have a nuchal as we wouldn't terminate for Down's and bubs refused to play ball.

I wanted to get a doppler but since ds and dd was so difficult to trace at every apt when pregnant I didn't want to get one and worry myself if this one was the same. Wish I had sometimes, my MW doesn't listen in anymore so I've never heard the HB.

My MW did it two weeks ago at 16 week scan and found it almost instantly. I won't worry if I can't, but will ease my mind if I can.

I always thought if I got through the 12w scan I would be calm, I guess not :(

Eugh. Had my first "I can't believe how big you are" comment today, just smiled and said "well there's just the one in there."

This is going to be it for the next 18 weeks isn't it? AAAAARG!

Eugh mrs I've had it too, "you still have that long to go" um yes. To be honest I love having a proper looking bump so much I just laughed. With ds I looked fat, dd I can't remember as I was so shattered. As long as people realise I'm pregnant and don't think I'm fat--ter than I already was--!

sundae I still have serious freak outs at 31wks, that why I wish I'd got the doppler now, I've had Non stop wriggling since wednesday, it seems, even when I wake at night. Yet last monday I didn't think I'd had any all day and was in bits. You never loose the fear, but the further along the more I can rationalise it away. Does that make sense?

My mum said to me yesterday as I walked in the door "my goodness you're getting big, you sure it's not twins?" Gee thanks mum...

Oh no ! I'm dreading the comments I'll get then. I'm only 14+5 but I have to tell work today as my burgeoning bump is now obviously a bump ! Usually I work at home so haven't said ought yet but today I can't get away with it

I get daily comments about 'can't have 8 weeks left' and 'you're sure it's only one' etc. I am measuring 3 cm over so yes I am big but I'd rather have an enormous belly than no belly. I have another scan tomorrow and consultant apt (32 weeks) so should get a date for c section!

Hello new peeps, sorry to hear your sad stories, fingers crossed for happiness ahead. X

Same here wl good luck with your scan etc tomorrow. I have mine 1st November, I can't wait fx ill also get my section date then, and I can officially feel unprepared and panic!

Hiya, I am the opposite, I feel quite small for 18 weeks!

My doppler arrived, bubba is 150-160bpm, but was pretty static, normally active in the evenings I think. I did worry I was hearing something else, but pretty certain it could only have been bubba, was just below and to the left of my belly button.

Hubby doesn't know I bought one yet... he couldn't come to 16 week appt and we bought the crappy summer lightning thing that will be going back, so hoping he won't mind too much...

Yep, I feel totally unprepared and like I have so much to do still before the big day but I guess it'll all come together.

sundae I think maybe you get comments whatever, and it's horrid if people say you're too big or too small. The reality is bumps can be all shapes and sizes and produce the same size healthy baby.

WL - good luck at your appointments tomorrow. We've got a scan and consultant appointment as well, hopefully we will get some feedback on the likelihood of another preterm baby.

Have to admit I'm really nervous, always feel a bit squiffy before scans.

I do too mrs I can't explain it, just unsettled I think!

Not helped by the fact that my scans slap bang in the middle of half term so ill have my double act in tow.

Good luck with all scans ladies, hope you're all well, it's understandable to be so worried/anxious, wish you the best for your pg's. I've had an odd few days, round ligament pain I had on monday in which I couldn't move without being in agony eased off in the evening, felt very sore but slept like a log. Yesterday woke up, muscles felt sore still but I was able to go about my business as usual. Went to my 28wk appt and it was ok. Was told midwfie can refer me to physio for rlp but she said it may have been made worse from moving etc so to rest up for a bit and take it easy. Bump is measuring 29cm so slightly bigger but I am all bump I've also been weighed and was bit surprised, my booking in weight is 75kg and I weighed 77kg, so that's not much at all is it?! She asked about feeding, told her I'm torn, would like to give bf a go but not sure. She gave me a couple of mags to read, they're very pro bf and it's just made me feel She's also called me today to tell me I'm anaemic, I was doing so well hate iron tablets, from what I remember with dd when I had them, they just bunged me up and didn't raise my iron levels that much at all!

All grand at scan, baby is slightly above average size (but so are DH and I), normal amount of waters etc so no apparent reason for being a bit big but consultant measured me now as 2 cm over so better than 3! Booked in for c section on 18th dec, just one day before official due date!

gem sorry to hear you've been in such pain. If it's any consolation my pains all got better on the last few weeks. I really hate all that pro bf pressure. You must do what is right for you and your baby. I tried so hard to bf dd1 and it didn't work at all so her weight gain was virtually non existent and she cried all the time. I asked for loads of help and not one professional suggested giving up. When I finally did ff she gained loads of weight and was so much happier, therefore so was I. I successfully bf'd dd2 which was great for me but fully supported friends who knew it just wasn't for them. Try to ignore all the advice and just do whatever you feel most comfortable with.

Any news from Swansea? her bubs must be on it's way out about now?

Absolutely knackered after a busy day! Scan went well, no problems. Consultant appointment was great, apart from having a glucose challenge arranged for the 5th December which I'm not looking forward to, I'm also getting a growth scan that afternoon.

I've been thinking of Swansea all day - hope you're doing ok!