Fantastic 40+ Mums To Be

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A lovely shiney new thread for us to keep chatting on.

Firstbubba , Oh lord I really feel for you with your cold that sucks honey, I hope it does not go on your chest that would be horrible, would they still induce you if you are poorly. I cant imagine how much hard work it would be to have a baby when you feel well never mind when you are poorly. Sending you good vibes and hope u feel better soon. Ps - Get some chums to do your decorating and you get rest and some soup

Riverside - How was the hen do?

Midget - Hope the party goes well ?

Valium - Hows the rest going? I am trying to rest, but do keep having the need to do some cleaning. My cat is showing me how to do feck all, he has been curled up on my sofa on my duvet for hours. Was up at 4 this morning outside with partner looking through the telescope at Jupiter and its moons. I did not know what he was showing me , while i knew Jupiter but did not know about the moons. Was good to see. Neighbour looked out her window and must have throught what the hell !!!!!!. Maybe she thought I was going to have the baby on the lawn

Firstbubba , Oh lord I really feel for you with your cold that sucks honey, I hope it does not go on your chest that would be horrible, would they still induce you if you are poorly. I cant imagine how much hard work it would be to have a baby when you feel well never mind when you are poorly. Sending you good vibes and hope u feel better soon. Ps - Get some chums to do your decorating and you get rest and some soup

Riverside - How was the hen do?

Midget - Hope the party goes well ?

Valium - Hows the rest going? I am trying to rest, but do keep having the need to do some cleaning. My cat is showing me how to do feck all, he has been curled up on my sofa on my duvet for hours. Was up at 4 this morning outside with partner looking through the telescope at Jupiter and its moons. I did not know what he was showing me , while i knew Jupiter but did not know about the moons. Was good to see. Neighbour looked out her window and must have throught what the hell !!!!!!. Maybe she thought I was going to have the baby on the lawn

Hi all,

So sorry I haven't made it onto the thread in a while! It's been a busy, weird old time and the only thread I've been managing to get comments on is my due date thread (I have to - so many babies being born!).

Well since I last posted, I've had a fall (baby ok and wrist, despite a v worrying 24 hours, not broken). I've gone from feeling zen about my upcoming induction to feeling really really miserable, convinced DP and me and the stepkids and the baby can't have any kind of life together that will work for me and desperately wanting to put it all off and keep her inside! .

Have I been on to congratulate bytheseaside? I can't even remember (I'm thick with baby brain - I hope it's oxytocin but wouldn't I feel cheerier if it was?). Well congratulations bytheseaside if I didn't.

Glad to hear LRM and somewhere that you're both feeling better from headache and MS respectively.

eagleray - well jel for your bougainvillea-relaxation! I'd kill to be anywhere else but here right now. Please describe some more so I can mentally transport myself there.

LRM - packed and ready to go? Well, semi...The DSDs are here so I haven't had any sort of time or space I'd hoped for to prepare. DP just allows them to lounge on the sofa in our tiny place half dressed under duvets all day, kicking things all over the floor. I find it hard to find a) anywhere to sit to relax and b) the 'space' to get stuff done under these circumstances. I've now been made to feel like the wickedest stepmother on earth for suggesting maybe they could go over to their grandmother's for a while so I might attempt to get some stuff done/find calm/find positivity/feel anything other than dread about bringing a baby into this world!

firstbubba - sorry about the cold - hope it's a bit better before tomorrow. I'll be thinking of you going through more or less the same thing at the same time. I hope you're managing to have a less stressful day than me today and getting some R&R x

fjord you will all be fine. Every family is different. You will be a wonderful mummy, of that I am sure.

I am sorry you do not have peace and quiet to sort yourself out, but you have all night to do that as if you are anything like me you will not get much sleep . I will be thinking of you tomorrow.

first hope you soon feel better, and all the best for tomorrow.

Waves to everyone else.

No luck with the resting. DD2 has an infected clitoris and possible UTI (age 2) and if that wasn't bad enough, she had a reaction to the antibiotics last night, which was a bit scary. She is now on another antibiotic and is improving. Trying to sort baby clothes today, and she is not a very good helper!

Ahem. Am 42 and 10 weeks pregnant. Am I in the right place? Is my second (or will be if all goes well. Am more concerned this time).

scarecrow you are indeed in the right place! Welcome, come in and make yourself at home. Congratulations! How are you keeping? There is a roll call a bit earlier in the thread to help you know who is who, and you are welcome to add yourself. we have an exciting few days ahead, so a good time to join us!

I am on my third, and it is hard not to be more concerned each time. We are older, and have already been lucky beyond measure. How old is your DC?

DD is 21 months. Valium think you right about blessings counted. Also she is super easygoing (if we gloss over the odd hab jab over Peppa Pig) so am also apprehensive I've used up all my good luck in that department too! Think tiredness big factor this time also as was (slightly under duress) moved to much more stressful job and realised I can't lie in on Saturdays to recover. Nobody tells you you will never ever ever get a lie in. Ever!!!
Looking forward to scan and test (2 wks tomorrow) to start bonding, or at least allowing my self to bond with DF ?!).
Are lots of you about to pop or am I in mixed company?
Will search back for roll call when next have some time!

We have two being induced tomorrow, then ladies at various stages. We have graduates too. It is a friendly thread, and the ladies are very wise and understanding.

Scarecrow - Welcome to our little gang. Dont peek around the door coming in. We all hope to find you are well. I am 43 and expecting my first and Dylans due date is next week Thursday 4th October, I am scared and excited at the same time. I have added you to our list , just need you to add your details where every you slot in honey xxx

Fjord - Bloody hell, sorry to hear about your fall, hope your wrist is not to painful. You need to try and recapture your zen back. sending you good vibes. If that means sending the kids to grandma for a day or two so be it. Ps it does not make you the evil stepmum,

PG
Fjordmor, 41, DC1, 1st October induction booked, it's a girl
Firstbubba 43, DC1 due 2/10 supriseIt's
Littleredmonkey, 43 DC1, Due for sweep 2/10 or induction 14/10 it's a boy
Midget 41 #DC2 Due for sweep 9/10 or ELCS 19/10
ValiumQueen. 43. # DC3 for ELCS 25/10. Boy
Knottyhair 44 #DC2 due for ELCS around 17/12 Girl
ClickingTock 40 #DC2 due early Jan, sex a surprise (although sonographer has probably spoiled it...)
Eagleray 41 # DC1 due 18/1 Girl
Riversidelibrary, 42, due 27 Jan
Knickyknocks 40 # DC2 due 17/3
somewherebecomingrain 40 #DC2 11/4
MrsWooster, 45, DC2 due 31/3/13 (a palindrome!)
Cadmum DC #5 due 06/04
BadBuddha 42 #DC2 due 5/5
Onemoreforgoodmeasure 40 # DC1 due 06/06
Scarecrow 40

Wishing all a lovely evening and as few trips to the loo as possible xxx

Thank you for making me so welcome. Would open some s but on a train.
littered monkey I'm 42 and due 27/4. Feel like I'm tempting fate saying that. Sure I was less soppy/dappy about such superstitions pre DC!
Nearer the time I might rant a bit that I promised DH if we tried for a second I would cope with everything. He is reminding me daily ://

Scarecrow -It took me two years to get my head around the idea of a family and start trying. I wish I had done it sooner but here I am 43 sat in bed, bump the size of baby whale, scared about giving birth, but will be a brave soul and try and find the positive in everything on the day. I have decided to avoid anything to do with childbirth this week and focus on relaxing as much as possible. The ladies on here have really supported me through ups and downs over the last 35 weeks. so you are in supportive hands.

Fjordmor, 41, DC1, 1st October induction booked, it's a girl
Firstbubba 43, DC1 due 2/10 supriseIt's
Littleredmonkey, 43 DC1, Due for sweep 2/10 or induction 14/10 it's a boy
Midget 41 #DC2 Due for sweep 9/10 or ELCS 19/10
ValiumQueen. 43. # DC3 for ELCS 25/10. Boy
Knottyhair 44 #DC2 due for ELCS around 17/12 Girl
ClickingTock 40 #DC2 due early Jan, sex a surprise (although sonographer has probably spoiled it...)
Eagleray 41 # DC1 due 18/1 Girl
Riversidelibrary, 42, due 27 Jan
Knickyknocks 40 # DC2 due 17/3
somewherebecomingrain 40 #DC2 11/4
MrsWooster, 45, DC2 due 31/3/13 (a palindrome!)
Cadmum DC #5 due 06/04
Scarecrow- 42 DC2 due 27/4
BadBuddha 42 #DC2 due 5/5
Onemoreforgoodmeasure 40 # DC1 due 06/06

littlered phoned the hospital earlier today and would appear makes no difference to them, goiing ahead as planned yikes

Welcome Scarecrow welcome to the place where the old birds hang out.

Firstbubba and Fjordmumma sending you as much virtual support for tomorrow as the interweb can muster. Firstbubba I hope you are feeling a bit better and Fjord you really do deserve some time to get in the zone - you have had so much to contend with this pregnancy you deserve extra love and support and your space to get in touch with that zen Fjordmumma. Come back and update as soon as you are able - we will all be thinking of you.

The party was a huge success - I managed to stay on my feel for 12 hours straight and then started to feel really peculiar. All feverish and achy and then stomach pain in the night and this morning. Ended up on a CTG maching this morning and in hospital for much of the day. Have some kind of infection but not sure if bladder or kidney. Given antibiotics and painkillers and told to go back in. Note to old birds - parties for 28 kids at 36+ weeks pregnant is a stupid fecking thing to do. Just had no time to really drink and pee when I needed to and think this was there anyway but has become raging from over doing it so much.

VQ You hit the nail on the head about sometimes feeling lucky beyond measure. I feel so lucky to have had DD when I thought I would not have children and now feel suspicious about this one - like my luck could run out. Silly really but I think natural.

Big waves to you all - I think I will be queen of the trips to the loo tonight - flaming hundreds of them!

Thinking of you today Fjord.

Hello everyone else!

No time for a proper post BUT (for the first time in 7 weeks) I feel human today so I am off to tackle some badly neglected housework.

NT and blood results combine to give 1 in 160 risk for DS. This is considered high risk (as is anything less than 1 in 250) but it is lower than the risk for my age alone. I am dreading being encouraged to have further tests... (I am fairly certain that I would refuse.)
What would you amazing mums think? ( I could NEVER terminate but I do view knowledge as power. IYKWIM)

Morning all - reporting in from a hammock somewhere on the Med (idyll briefly disrupted by ambush of kittens - one sat on my head and two attacking from under the hammock)

Jeez midget you poor thing - hope you are feeling better ASAP and aren't in too much discomfort

fjord and firstbubba - thinking of you both and wish you lots of love and luck - sorry you have both been feeling so rough.

Hello and welcome to scarecrow

Yesterday was 'interesting' - drove nearly 5,000 ft up a mountain to escape the heat where we promptly ran out of petrol (had a few miles' worth left and had no idea where nearest petrol station was). So had to freewheel down 20km of rocky track with hairpin bends and goats everywhere and it took HOURS. DP in massive strop as he had misjudged fuel situation and felt v guilty. I just laughed (hysterically)

It is not the worst thing that has happened to us on holiday. Normally our mishaps involve crocodiles or being lost at sea. Today we are going to the beach I think.

eBay hunt going well - few more babygros 'won' (am worried now I may have too many)

I had better go and find some breakfast now - big hellos and waves to you all and wishing I could share the birdsong, jasmine petals and sunshine with you. But maybe not the ambushing kittens.

cadmum I would say 1 in 160 is not bad, and you know that this is the risk, so consider that the 'knowledge'. If you would not terminate, I would doubt the value of any further testing considering the risk of miscarriage. Anything major is likely to show up on a scan or other test at some point. We can never be 100% sure the baby will be ok. There are no guarantees until they are here, and then there are a whole new set of risks and dangers to face. I think hope has to play a role too, alongside knowledge. I did not have any testing, so I am hoping a lot!!

Good luck today fjord and first. Look forward to hearing all about it, and wish it was my turn!

Sorry you are unwell midget make sure you rest from here!

eagle you can never have too many gros! Just as well it was on a mountain and not in a ravine!

cadmum personally I would go for a FMU scan to check for other markers (nasal bone etc), discuss with a good consultant and then hopefully not even need to have an amnio. That's just me though. My friend had a risk of something like 1:4 or 1:8 because of her age when in fact he was totally healthy. If you think if it is largely age doing this to your results you need more info from the safest place possible before making decisions. So sorry you have this additional worry though but this seems to happen a lot, largely with very positive outcomes. Percentage wise it is in fact a good result, just not counted as such by the medical world.

eagle sounds both terrifying and hilarious and I am still jealous. Physco kittens or not.

Be thinking of of induction ladies today.

Thank you for lovely welcomes. I had a non stressy (quite nice) dream for first time in weeks last night. Really think it helps to chat and share fears. I see you are all in similar place!
Fjord good luck today. Maybe you been warned, but I was not: induction can take ages, or even not work. I was in for 2 days with no result. Had ECS and wonderful DD so not trying to worry you, just warn you to pace yourself and take lots of DVDs/books/whatever! And maybe you will be v different.
cadmum is this really DC 5??? I am in awe! Not sure if accessible or affordable, but Feotal Medicine Centre in London does much more detailed scan (8-9 factors) for £180. A friend had 1/200 result on triple test, had this other one and despite being a natural worrier was massively reassured.
eagle another eBay addict, hurrah!
Okay , better get going. Have good days/weeks.

Hi Cadmum just been worrying about this myself. If you were younger the risk would be ten times smaller - the age really changes it. It's still tiny odds - if this was your chance of getting a job (ie on in 160 chance of not getting it) you'd be super confident. There are people with much lower odds who have babies without Downs. Not that Downs is a bad thing.

I went to the Fetal Medical Centre - i did it in my 1st PG cause the NHS didn't give me a combined test. Then second time round i think i just didn't feel i'd have done it properly if i didn't go there again. They are much more thorough and look at many more markers than the NHS and so it can be good way to way to find out more, as an alternative to amnio.

I know you've been through a lot and I'm really thinking of you.

fjord my god if you are checking mumsnet today you really are committed. Good luck with it! Normal to get grumpy and pessimistic just before birth. Blended families are big grown up stuff - you sound like such a lovely woman I'm sure you will manage.

midgetm my god! you have paid the price for your ambition! I hope you are feeling better and it sounds like it may have been just about worth it given the roaring success of the party!

VQ and everyone I feel ridiculously lucky and i'm not proud of myself for all my complaining. I seem to have quite an easy ride medically (touch wood) but a horrible time mentally and in terms of finite but gruelling physical debilitation.

Today i am actually feeling the fabled second trimester uplift. I think it's basically the absence of MS, but whatever it is, thank god.

scarecrow welcome! I'm 12+4 so we're practically timing buddies.

xxx

Firstbubba and Fjord, thinking of you both today, can't wait to hear your news. Sending you both lots of love, and hope you're both feeling better x
VQ, hope your DD is feeling better today.
Scarecrow, welcome, and congratulations!
LRM, hope you don't have to wait too long after Thursday!
Midget, ooh, that sounds horrible. Glad you're out of hospital and hope you feel better.
Cadmum, your results are similar to mine (mine was 1 in 170), and the hospital treated me as low risk and I wasn't offered any other tests, not that I wanted them. I guess each trust is different? Anyway, you've had some good advice on here from others already, it's hard as it's such a personal thing.

Eagle, blimey that sounds dramatic! Glad you were OK and it sounds like you're having a lovely time.
Had no internet here for a couple of days, so I hope I haven't missed anyone, apologies if I have. Got our 28 wk scan and consultant appt this afternoon. Going to ask about feeling a bit dodgy, I seem to feel very rough for most of the morning (sort of lightheaded and can't stand up for long), and eating or not doesn't seem to make any difference. I do feel better after a nap at lunchtime, which I'm lucky enough to be able to have. Could be low BP? I do tend to have that.

Hope everyone has a good day x

Welcome to scarecrow

Thank you for all your kind words ladies means a lot to me. Thinking of ford today. Xx

Wow! Thank you. I am humbled by your replies! We are actually living in Thailand and the scan was done privately. No soft markers and the consultant spent over 45 minutes confitming presence of nasal bone, 4 chambers of the heart with no visible abnormalities blood flow to liver and all sorts of things we had never had done before. It was the bloods and my age (41) that increased the 'risks'.

I don't actually feel worried and dh was over the moon with the numbers until he read the High Risk part...