Due in Oct 2012 - part 4!

[Angelico]

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Zara1984 the thought of a MMC is whats got me worried too, my scan is tomorrow as well.

WRT "Downs baby or worse", of course we all want our babies to be healthy and happy but having a child with Down's Syndrome is not the end of the world. My cousin has Down's and shes a happy 16 year old girl, doing her BTEC right now, just like all her mates. I feel that Down's is sort of 'played up' to be one of the worst things that can happen in pregnancy, whereas in reality it's the most talked about special need a baby can be born with, without the actual implications of having Down's Syndrome being discussed at all. The result is that people think it's the end of the world. I wouldn't play down the challanges of raising a child with Down's syndrome but it's not the end of the world either. I hope that makes you a bit less worried about it I suppose.

Jodidi I'm sorry to hear that and I am thinking of you.

jodidi so sorry to hear you awful news, so unfair :(. I hope you are being well looked after xxx

Jodidi - sendng you a giant hug! So sorry to hear of your loss.

jodidi I'm so sorry to hear your news, you must be devastated. Take care of yourself.

I'm so sorry for coming on here at the end of last week on a downer and whinging about my job situation. I've had a weekend away with DH and it's put everything in perspective. The fact is I am incredibly lucky and there are far, far more people in a much worse situation than me so I'm going to stop complaining and just enjoy my 'extended' maternity leave!

Beeblebear Zara Please share your secrets re maternity pants - where did you find such things? I need them in my life!

Told family. Complete hysteria, in a nice way, and feel much better after worrying about it.

Tonight, we are telling our friends who have been ttc for 5 years. We're terrified about it. We're not the first of their friends to get pregnant, by any means, but I think in some ways we were a last bastion of childlessness for them so I think they might find this difficult to hear.No idea how it's going to go, whether they'll be OK about it or whether they'll just want us to go. We've thought about it lots and decided just to be matter of fact - wait till after dinner, say we've got some news (that should give them a few micro-seconds of heads-up first), tell them I'm pregnant, that we are pleased about it but have been really worried about telling them.

We've got a quick change of subject planned afterwards, so we don't go on about anything, and a bit later on, if they seem OK, we're going to ask them how they would like us to handle it around them - complete news embargo, minimal info, etc.

Does that sound like a sensitive way to do it? I'm more scared about this than I was about telling my family, and that's saying something. That was about me not liking the attention, but this time I feel like we're going to hurt our friends by doing the thing that they want so much to do and have been unable to :( DH and I feel like we've betrayed them somehow - we were talking about it last night and we agreed it feels a bit like confessing that you have cheated on someone. Just trying to imagine how I'd feel if it was me, and can't begin to :(

Jodidi so very sorry about your tragic news,cant imagine how upset you are I hope you are being very well looked after & I hope you will be back on here very soon with more positive news. Let us know how you are,thinking of you sending you alot of big virtual hugs xx

Thank you all for your kind words and thoughts. I'll be ok I think. Dp has been very supportive and has done absolutely everything for me and the kids.

jodidi I'm glad that you are getting the support that you need. Again, sending big hugs and sympathy you way.

smorgs - I went to our big second hand store and browsed their second hand maternity section. Got 3 pairs of pants that would be $60 new in the store for around $7 each. I then felt ok about going and buying one pair new for $40.

On other news:

The scan was great! Two arms, two legs and a wee little beating heart.

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Baby was very cooperative and stayed still for all the measurements. Risk assessment came back as very low odds of chromosomal abnormalities . 1 in 9000 or so for downs.

Super pleased.

Well ladies, that was the most rubbish nights sleep.

I remember seeing 12:10am before I dozed off. Woke up at 2:45am. Have been clock watching up until 5:45am when my alarm went off for work.

The bizarre/vivid dreams are all getting a bit much too, although on last nights dream I took to BF like a natural!

It's going to be a long day at work today!

beeblebear YAY about your scan, lovely pictute! Really hope my scan today goes just as well.

orange thank you for your reassurance :) We have close family friends affected with Downs, and for us though we would definitely terminate. A fear for me is that if they didn't pick up something today, they would be able to at 20 weeks and that would mean a late termination . As I'm in Ireland termination for any reason (even Edwards/Patau sydromes) equals an expensive trip to the UK. I plan on quizzing the consultant today about what level of results would mean its worth considering CVS (am not scared about miscarriage risk).

smorgs my 2 pairs of maternity pants are from H&M (black stretch casual pants, €20) and a pair of Red Herring skinny black jeans from Debenhams that a friend gave me (button adjusters on the side). I also got maternity leggings from ASOS, would defo recommend! I need to get some more maternity pants (and maternity tights!) soon!

my scan is tomorrow WOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Week 15 today and MS is still with me :(

Good morning everyone :D

Hi everyone. Went on the hunt for maternity jeans yesterday, how exhausting! The big department stores (M+S, John Lewis) told me they only have maternity stuff online...what use is that?! Surely more than ever us pregnant women need to try before we buy? Ended up in Mamas and Papas, highly recommended! Got some adjustable-waisted boot cut (not skinny!) jeans for £28!

Sorry to hear about your loss jodidi - i'm constantly worrying about out happening again to me. Take care.

milk that's rubbish! I really hope it doesn't last too much longer.

I had my scan this morning and it was FAB! I was amazed at how clear it was, things have changed so much since I had DS, 6 years ago. I didn't know they would be taking blood today which was not nice but I survived it. Baby is healthy and right on track, my due date hasn't changed. There's a picture on my profile.

Just got back from a mooch around Salisbury - we bought olives, lovely sausages and a bag to keep potatoes in - we know how to live, DH and I !!!

WantAnOrange, Beeblebear and smiley, excellent news about your positive scans, very pleased for you all :). Zara, hoping yours was just as positive, got fingers crossed for you :)

Milk, very bad news, not pleased for you at all :(

Mickey, good luck for tomorrow - I have my NHS one tomorrow too, the one where they are supposed to do the nuchal fold measurement, but my scan last week told me that I was further on than I thought, so I guess they are going to be quite apologetic tomorrow since the window of opportunity for the nuchal fold measurement will have long since passed.

Smorgs, whinge away, it's good to have a place where you can, it really does help I think.

FjordMor, not envious at all of your epic journey, hope it's going OK so far.

Squid and Angelico, it's very cool that you are both feeling fluttery sensations, that must be amazing - and a little weird too?

Sorry if I have missed anyone with recent news - sending a general wave to everyone!

I made the mistake of looking on the "birth" section of MN Talk - bad idea Yomping, walk away from the birth section! Even the post titles scared me half to death.

We told our friends yesterday, the ones who have been ttc for years. It went OK. They were lovely, but clearly found it difficult and it felt awkward for a bit. They said "what's your secret?" and we just didn't know what to say. There's no answer to that that doesn't make you sound like a wanker :( We were glad we had some other things to talk about and we all studiously avoided any mention of babies and pregnancy for the rest of the evening. But that is done now, and once I have announced it at work next week, we can finally tell the rest of the world, and I can stop trying to hold my stomach in and pretending I feel ill when anyone offers me wine or beer. Phew!

36, 14+4, DC1

At least while being sick I look at my 12 week scan photograph and it puts everything in perspective :) and only 37 days until I find out if I am having a boy or girl I am super excited for that

Hello waves I'm due 28 Sept but because it's so near the end of the month (and my first, which makes me think it is more likely I will have my baby in Oct) can I join in here? Starting to enjoy pregnancy now just want my bump to pop out in a more obvious way! Oh and no one warned me that my bum and thighs would get bigger too! The wearable clothes pile is diminishing daily!

Katienana... clothes shopping fun fun fun imo :)

Thank you yomping and welcome nana!

So pleased to hear others scans went well, was looking forward to reading about them!

My scan went brilliantly today, a happy healthy (and very active!) baby is in there! It was bouncing and wriggling around like mad, waving its arms and legs at us (we were not expecting so much movement!). DH loved it. Still waiting now for the consultant to call with my Downs risk factor based on the bloods. She said am likely to be very low risk with age, baby's very thin nuchal translucency and prominent nose (!). Such relief. Now ring, phone, ring - dammit! Staring at scan pictures of my beautiful, perfect little baby in the meantime .

Like you milk I'm now counting down to finding out the sex! I asked the consultant today if she could make an educated guess and she said no

Also yomping it sounds like you handled the situation with your friends very well. It must be dreadfully hard for them other people's lives carrying on.

YAY just got the call from consultant. My Downs risk is 1 in 16,000 and Edwards/Patau 1 in 28,000. Those are figures I like! She said its the lowest risk she's seen in a long time. Am sobbing with relief - I know it's only screening, not diagnostic, but just so relieved. This was a biggie for us.

Zara1984, do you think you know the sex?

I am convinced I am having a girl, but I'd be happy with either :)

I think girl and DH thinks boy milk I'd always wanted a boy first but have been convinced for about a month it's a girl!

For our first I thought it was a boy and DH thought it was a girl, and I was right :D Women know best!!!

Now we both think it is a girl (although I think DH just really really wants it to be a girl).

I've always been more of a boy person and think I would relate to boys better but will be happy as long as the little bean is healthy.

I'm convinced at present that it's a girl as all of my vivid dreams recently have had me holding/looking after/protecting a baby girl.

31, #1, 11+1

hello ladies. nice to hear everyones having good scans. we are also planning to find out what sex on our 20 week scan. is anyone going to wait till the birth?
So i think i felt my baby move this weekend. im week 15 and i thought it was a bit early... also as ive not had a baby before i cant be sure.... but it was a different type of feeling in there. i could swear it was the baby. anyone else felt their babies yet?