Due in Oct 2012 - part 4!

[Angelico]

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My what alot has happened since Friday night!!

Squid that sounds lie a thoroughly shit day & it must've freaked you out beyond anything.I cant imagine how you're supposed to get back into the swing of work after having to deal with a situation like that.Let you BF look after you & make sure you get plenty of r & r :)

I cant be sure but I think I may have been having some activity from tiddler but like I say I cant be sure 17wks today so not impossible right??

The trauma that is hunting for a bloody pram goes on,it's sooo mind boggling with sooo much to consider.We need one that extends to quite a good height (DP is 6ft 6" I am 5ft 3"!!) So we can both find it comfortable to use,I know that sounds silly with me being so much shorter but I suffer with my back particularly pelvis area so stooping at all isnt really an option,so it suits me to be reasonably high.Anyhoo my friend has offered me first dibs on hers if I want it so will probably have a butchers at it as her DP is quite tall too though not quite as tall as mine lol

Well done London on the house you'll feel more relaxed once the ball is rolling though if you're anything like me you wont believe any of it until you've signed on the dotted line!!

Pregnancy has entirely changed my taste... in clothes. Found myself looking at my wall of beloved black tshirts today and thinking 'but where is the PIZAZZ?' Obsessed by colour!

squid just wondering, but are you aware that you say negative things about yourself in your posts? That last post seemed to have about an equivalent number of 'negative things that have happened to me' (pretty damn bad tbh) as 'negative things that are attributes of me' ('Im such a (negative thing)', 'I write too much', 'I don't know why he puts up with me' etc.)

As a member of team been-there-done-that when it comes to the depression, that type of talk worries me a bit as it's the way someone in danger of the depression often talks. You might have a couple of sneaky little false beliefs creeping in there, and you want to squash those little bastards while they're still nascent if you possibly can.

Anyhow I know you're a doctor, and you know the symptoms and whatnot, just keep an eye on yourself, yeah? Lord knows a traitor brain is the last thing you - or any of us, no-one's immune from depression - need!

Good evening ladies :)

Who is going to see What to Expect When You're Expecting?

Milk I wonder if I can persuade my DH to come and see it...though looking at the trailer I'm worried he might pick up some bad tips!

Watching planet earth live and getting all emotional at the baby animals trying to survive...

I watched that too Haggis I was really struggling with the shivering/snowy baby black bears!!

Quite fancy seeing the film too though not sure DP will watch it too (unless I turn into a hormonal beast!!)

HaggisNeepsTatties, Guccigirl79- I am taking a friend with me to see the movie instead, I don't think DH would come with me :( or we'd get to the box office and he'd nag that he wants to see "Marvel's Avengers Assemble" instead

milk, Avengers Assemble is AMAZING, great effects, well cast and very, very funny, I'd highly recommend it. I wasn't formally a fan of the Marvel stuff, but it has converted me.

Both me and DH want to see "What to Expect" when it's out - when IS it out? I've completely forgotten .

Peaceful, relaxing day went wrong yesterday evening when DH came home and we has a massive fight about money and other stuff :(. We have quite different approaches, he is saving but could save more, and when he has spare cash, buys himself presents with it rather than sticking it in savings. I am more likely to forego presents to myself and stick the extra in savings most months. I am terrified about coping with only one wage and a child particularly as DH likes to have lots of toys, and lots of opportunities to use them, upgrade them, buy add-ons for them etc. His "we'll be alright, we'll adapt when the time comes" approach is not making me feel secure so I'm nagging him about not spending so much and he feels talked down to as I'm basically telling him what he can and can't do with his own money. I can see his point of view, and he's right and I'm wrong (much as it pains me to admit) but it's so hard not to worry. It's also massively hypocritical of me to tell him off for planning to upgrade his mountain bike, on the same day that I have booked us a meal at an expensive restaurant, but that somehow seems like money better spent to me .

Typing this and reading it back, I can understand why he got cross with me. It's so much easier to tell him off than it is to take responsibility myself - easier said than done, and all that, one rule for me and another for him. I can see that that's not fair of me.

Bugger, though, does that mean I have to try and be fairer and nicer and less hypocritical? While I'm pregnant?

LondonLivvy, doh, I could have worked that out if I tried hard enough!

What's everybody up to today? Me: 7 reports to write, 1 down so far. Yawn. I might write a really, really honest one about one of my "difficult" children, just for fun, and to see if the deputy head really does read them all!

Zoeplankton, i am the same! I just bought a crazy Mary Katrantzou print bag, that i am sure i would never have bought before being preggers - i've bought it as my baby bag to carry all bean's little goodies about with me.
Feel your pain, Yomping Jo, we argue too, but b/f is the super saver, and I'm the one that likes to spend...for instance, the above stated MK bag has been hidden away and he is not aware of its existence :) I think we all fight about sex and money.
OMG, we r doing major rennos at the mo to our 1st floor flat (a lot happening in 2012), and b/f tells me last nite he nearly fell off the scafolding! I explain that i would quite like Bean to have a Daddy who is still alive. He agrees that he must be more careful, then, he tells me he plans to tie some rope around himself today, to improve his safety practices! WTF? I am going around today to supervise.

yomping - I'm sepnding my day writing coursework 250 words down, only another 3750 to go Would rather be asleep in bed!

On the cravings front - I thought you were supposed to crave things you really, really like?? If that's the case why am I in my second "marmite" phase of this pregnancy when I really can't stand the stuff???

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Today I'm in work :-( and have a mega-big scary meeting this afternoon which might be awful . Would much rather be at home as the weekend didn't turn out as relaxing as hoped, so I'm really tired today (not a good way to start the week, I usually only feel like this in Thurs pm onwards!). It was really lovely that my family came to visit to help out with things so I could rest (in theory), but in practice I ended up running around even more than usual, answering questions and helping out with all the parallel projects.
Quick question: is anyone else really phlegmy? MS is slowly fading (hurrah) but I just can't clear the yuk from the back of my throat in the mornings, makes teeth-cleaning a nightmare and brings me perilously close to up-chucking.
Oh and thanks for all the bra info, it's really helpful reading everyone's comments and I might finally venture out to do some shopping later this week if I'm feeling brave!
Right, on with some real work. Hope everyone who's got the day off can rest and enjoy themselves despite the weather

I have the same problem MrsConfusion have done for weeks it's so bloody irritating trying to clear your throat every five minutes & failing everytime then find yourself heaving because of it.Just gross!! No bugger tells you all the shitty horrible bits of being pregnant do they??!!!

Got day off today but DP has gone to work however,in his own words 'I need to pay for all the summers jollys' personally I think it's bloody rude when I cant go out & get shitfaced with my friends every other weekend!!

Off to my brother's later my SIL is emptying the attic of baby stuff for me to bring home so who knows what goodies I'll come home with.....

Done for the day. I will absolutely not miss report writing next year! That was 8 hours that I could have spent doing much more pleasurable things.

Kyyria, hope your coursework is going well, or at least going - what's it about?

Mrs Confusion, how was the mega-scary meeting?
Beccus, was it a better day of renovations today with you as H&S officer?
Guccigirl, what did you get?

Our friends had a baby last night - we only know 2 lots of friends who are pregnant at the same time as us (most of my friends are older and have 4-7year old kids, most of DH's friends younger and not sprogging yet), so we have been eagerly awaiting news, and they stuck a photo on FB this morning. Made me blub like crazy, I guess because theirs is the first pregnancy I have actually been interested in because I am now pregnant too. The baby boy is gorgeous and mum looks like she's just had a relaxing day! If I look like that hours after giving birth, I'll be delighted! It's terrifying though, their life now revolves around that little baby and it has to come first - brings it home that that is what is going to be happening to DH and I in approximately 5 months' time... I mean, I knew that, obviously, but still... you know that feeling of wanting to pause the pregnancy and have some "normal" time again? And that feeling of being on an unstoppable rollercoaster? Yep, having all of those feelings today!

YompingJo- What to expect when expecting is out on 23rd May :)

Kyyria- I am meant to be doing a uni assignment but ignoring it for now :)

yomping - I've not had a "rollercoaster" day for a week or so now...am well overdue for another one!

Coursework is going - not as fast as I would like (just can't get into it) and struggling to keep myself awake tbh.

I'm just finishing the second year of a BA in Leadership and Management - I've got 2 pieces on the go. One is a reflection on our personal development in our managerial skills over the year, and the second piece is academic research on an area relating to our personal development...I have decided to brave Emotional Intelligence!

All due in Wednesday so looking forward to that being it for the rest of the year! Then no more until Sep/Oct...damn, I haven't planned that too well!!

Am thinking that doing a degree whilst looking after a very small baby full time (but being on maternity leave) must be similar to doing a degree whilst working full time so I'm hoping for one year (well, will be about 10 months) I will be able to manage.

Looking forward to being able to concentrate on sorting out the nursery after this weekend - will be the first one without coursework for ages though so may just end up having a lie in

milk - I so want to ignore mine but deadline is Wednesday and I'm struggling to keep awake and concentrate as it is - would rather get as much done before back to work tomorrow as I'm absolutely useless in the evenings.

What is your coursework on?

DH decided today would be a good day to paint the study.

DH decided to leave the houses for over two hours 'to get paint' (and then this one other errand. Then this other errand.)

DH doesn't remember how long it took to prep a room last time we painted. Or the time before that. Or the time before that.

DH can't understand why I didn't have more of the painting done by the time he got home.

DH has decided the base coat isn't good enough. He wants to do the base coat again. He has gone out. To buy more paint.

It is 4.30 pm.

DH can't understand why he is in trouble...

Zoeplankton Feeling for you - I would have had a huge strop (especially if he said the base coat wasn't good enough...probably would have told him exactly where to stick his base coat.)

I must give my DH lots of credit as I've had almost the opposite day...we're just putting in a new kitchen and decided to paint the ceiling and one of the walls today before the work begins. DH wouldn't let me help in case the fumes were harmful to the bean.

In other good news we were going to take our really old kitchen table to the tip. Decided to put it on ebay instead and someone just paid over £120 to take it off our hands! Came and picked it up this afternoon!

Sounds like everybody is d.i.y-ing today, which is no task for a pregnant lady. yomping Jo, i have decided it is no fun being H&S officer - basically, it rained on and off all morning, minimal progress was made, it was so boring, passing brushes and tape and what not out the window and then stopping, waiting for rain to go away, and i kept trying to suggest he should leave outdoor painting for another day, especially as scaffolding was so slippery.

The cold, lack of any where to sit, lack of a toilet, lack of food and excess of dust was very traumatic and almost bought on a pregnancy meltdown. Thank goodness for the ongoing rain, b/f eventually gave up. Was so happy to come back to warm house were we are staying, but now it has cleared up and b/f has gone back. I couldn't face returning, so b/f is now sending regular texts to notify me he is still alive, whilst i am researching labour, by watching one born every minute on 4od.

Oh lord, beccus, that sounds WAY worse than my day! Yeouch.

Study got painted in the end. Only thought halfway through that fumes might be bad... But it was water-based, low fume paint, and the window was wide open (COLD!) so, eh, I'm sure it's all fine.

I hope.

Now, Indian!

Mmmm indian!!

Yomping I came home armed with a winnie the pooh baby gym,a mobile to go over cot which has never been used,a foot/handprint maker kit with a bouncer & baby walker to follow after they've been cleaned.I also believe there's more lurking in their loft which will probably find its way to our house lol

Hello ladies!! Hope you have been having an excellent bank holiday weekend! Lots of DIYing by the looks of things.

I've been busy planning more activities to get myself out and about meeting people (making good pals in a new country is always hard, even when we've been here 2 years). Today I got lots of maternity shopping sorted!! Most of it online. Eyes watering a bit at how much I spent but I really needed to get stuff and going shopping is a fucking pain.

Here is what I got, to give you guys ideas!

Mamas and Papas

• 3 x preggo/breastfeeding jersey fabric tops - pricey at about ?30 each but they feel lovely and there was a 3 for 2 special on.
• nice maternity skinny jeans with over the bump jersey bit for ?50 (the most expensive item I bought today!)

Next

• 2 x plain stretchy maternity tees

Also got some very very cute short sleeve vests for baby for when we're in NZ at Christmas :)

New Look (HUGE maternity range online, and they ship internationally - way more range than in stores - free shipping over 50 pounds I think):

• pleat front black pants, under the bump with elasticated/jersey waist skinny jeans and peach-coloured chinos - all only about a tenner each!
• stripey green jumper for 6 quid
• 3 pack maternity vests for 12.99
• cute flat patent ballet flats to replace the ones that got spewed on in my bag during The Infamous Bus Vomiting Incident the other week

ASOS (free shipping)

• cute stretchy jersey pencil skirt for ?30

Topshop (shipping 4 quid)

• Cute stripey swimsuit
• Pink short sleeve sweatshirt

Seraphine (shipping 4 pounds)

• Lovely fine knit neutral coloured cardigan/wrap - only 15 pounds!!
• Blue pregnancy/feeding dress - good for summer this year and Christmas in NZ!

Sorry that is all very lame posting that, but thought I would post links/examples of what I got to help people! Maternity clothes shopping is nowhere near as fun as regular shopping.... I kept staring forlornly at the much cooler regular stuff...

Oooh that pencil skirt from ASOS is only ?20, not ?30! I will give a review of the quality/niceness of all the stuff when it turns up...

Hello everyone, my first post - I've just discovered Mumsnet and feel I've missed out on a lot as you all have managed nearly 800 messages. Good to 'meet' you all

I'm due on 4th October - 20 wk scan on 25th May - I can't wait, I keep having anxious thoughts that the baby there is no baby or something has happened to him/her.

I was so prepared at my 12 week scan for the person to say 'sorry, there is no baby there at all' and I was pleased at my last midwife appointment when she listened to the baby's heartbeat.

I can't wait to feel mine moving so the baby confirms their presence on a regular basis. I lie in bed at night wondering if this and that movement is the baby - or if it's wind, muscle tweaks etc. I sometimes think I can feel it but hopefully it gets more definite soon.

Go you Zara that sounds brilliant. Hoorah for me ladies, I finally bit the bullet and went and found maternity bras today!!!!! I ended up going to Mothercare, and although quite pricey, the service was just wonderful and the bras i bought are soooooooooooo comfy. Although slightly less cleavage than before- but oh well, less is more right? And I have also gone up a cup and a back size, and the woman told me I would probably go up at least another two sizes, which would then make me a 34EE....

And also, now I am here can I whinge and rant? Why on earth are buggys so expensive????!?!?! DP nearly collapsed when he saw the cheapest one was about three hundred pounds... I nearly died. And i am horrifically dumb about what we are supposed to be looking for in a pram, are travel systems really neccessary? Which ones are suitable from birth? Do they need a carry cot in them?