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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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I had forgotten just how grim early pregnancy is

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HumphreyCobbler · 11/03/2012 19:35

Or maybe it is worse this time because I am so much older?

The tiredness is appalling, I am dreading the week at work ahead. I have parents evening (three late nights) coming up and I really don't know how I am going to cope. The more tired I am the sicker I feel too. I can't concentrate on anything properly because of the sickness. I am talking crap and I forgot how to spell porridge whilst writing it on the board

I have severely held it against my DH because I am too knackered and sick to go out to a friend's birthday celebration tonight (obviously it is his fault ).

God, I am a moaning old cow already and I am only nine weeks. Hopefully this will stop soon. and then I start complaining about the indigestion

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Goldrill · 12/03/2012 16:58

Hag here too - hello! 9 weeks with no 2 and am sure it cannot possibly have been this grim before. Fortunately I am never sick, just permanently nauseous - which is helped by eating and so I have been doing a lot of that. I am, therefore also, bloated, spotty, whale-sized and rather narked on a permanent basis. Oh, and my DH is also as tired as me Tinker, which amazes me as he does pretty much what your DH does, by the sound of it!

(And I bloody hate the newborn bit - I should like her delivered back to me at around 9 months old when she starts to be fun, please)

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HumphreyCobbler · 12/03/2012 17:12

Ha, I have lectured DH on the tiredness of early pg, and as this one is HIS idea he has not dared to enter the competitive fatigue competition. He knows I am the front runner.

I am getting really fat as well Goldrill. Before this pg I was my thinnest I had been for ten years.

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AliceHurled · 12/03/2012 17:30

I eat a ridiculously large amount. My book says I shouldn't need to eat any more than usual, but seriously I am weak after an hour of no food! My partner knows I am the tiredest and sickest, no contest, and enjoys clearing up the sick and holding my hair back. He did suggest he was a bit fed up with having had 6 weeks of me sighing, but soon backtracked when I pointed out what I had had 6 weeks of

I have a blooming, symptom free pregnancy booked to start any day now. I just know it!

AliceHurled · 16/03/2012 21:03

How is everyone else doing? I've recently taking to throwing my dinner up about 2 mins after I eat it, along with the anti sickness pill

piggyboo · 16/03/2012 22:20

9 weeks here and do you know what feels worse than being a bloated nauseous emotionally unstable hag?? when you feel fine for half a day and manage to convince yourself there MUST be something wrong with the baby, only to then bring up your dinner 30 mins after eating it!

rant over ;)

AliceHurled · 17/03/2012 07:33

Oh yes the if you don't feel I'll, worrying, and then when you feel ill remembering how awful it is

madasahattermummy · 17/03/2012 08:32

i hear you all !

i feel like the walking dead !

funny how you forget every time how bad you feel in those first few weeks.
you think yes i do want another child labour hurts but its just a day of pain for your bundle of joy !?!?

why do i allways totally forget about morning sickness , tirdness , bloating , the list goes on !!

but at least it means alls ok on the plus side .

i really must be as mad as a hatter as this is the 7 th time im doing this

Heartbeep · 17/03/2012 08:36

Hello I'm just joining in.

I'm 11 weeks today & feel marginally better than a few weeks ago. I have hyperemesis this time so I have been a miserable old hag since week 4 of this pregnancy. Also had exhaustion this time which I didn't have last time, DH has been very supportive but I think even he's starting to tire of my moaning. I feel bad as it took us quite a long time to conceive this time but I just want to 'blossom' and get past this crappy stage. Sickness stayed til 18 weeks last time think the thought of that is making me more bloody miserable.

Thanks for listening and congratulations on all your pregnancies!

Let's hope this moaning old hag phase passes soon for us all.

Heartbeep · 17/03/2012 08:40

OMG mad 7th time!!!! I told DH at week 4 if this doesn't work out DD will be an only, I cannot do this again. You are as mad as a hatter...

Sedgers · 17/03/2012 09:44

Wow, it's comforting to hear it's not just me (although sorry for all the fellow sufferers). This is my first and I'm only 9 weeks gone, but I was totally unprepared for how terrible pregnancy makes you feel. Why don't people tell you this? Sickness, constant nausia, extreme tiredness and basically a brain made of cheese. I remember reading about a study once which suggested that morning sickness was just a state of mind!!! I want to punch whoever carry out that study (clearly a man), and subject them to the wrath of my pregnancy hormones!

Any tips on how to deal with a stressful and demanding job when you're supposed to be on the ball all the time? My boss doesn't know yet and I'm having to cover the fact I'm really only working to about 40% capacity! Have lots of stressful meetings this week..not sure how I'm going to cope!

xxx

AliceHurled · 17/03/2012 10:07

No tips sedgers but you have my total admiration for being able to do it!

Mad 7!!! You are mad!

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HumphreyCobbler · 17/03/2012 10:22

7 !!! Goodness me.

Heatbeep - I am so sorry to hear you have hyperemesis. How awful. Puts my suffering in the shade (I will continue to moan about it though).

I know what you mean about work. I am a teacher and by friday I am SO sick and ill I don't cope at all well. In fact yesterday, after throwing up my lunch, I announced I was going home. No one minded. I hope.

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motherinferior · 17/03/2012 10:24

Huge sympathies. Every single moment of both my pregnancies was absolutely horrible.

I quite want to kill people who say smugly 'it's not an illness'. And those who bloomed.

Heartbeep · 17/03/2012 10:34

Oh I think everyone has the right to a good moan. Hyperemesis doesn't make me any more deserving! It's slightly under control now anyway.

In my first pregnancy I was quite sick but not HG, my brother told me he thought morning sickness was a state of mind as his wife didn't have it. He's an arse.

I was struggling with work & told my boss when I was 8 weeks as I was admitted to
Hospital for dehydration & had to take a couple of days off, it hasn't affected my workload or pressures of the job or me having to excuse myself from meetings so I can throw up, but it has made me feel better knowing that they know.

DH has taken DD out for a bit so I can sleep & now there's a workman singing outside my bedroom window (out of tune) as my neighbour is having work done. Is there nothing I won't moan about? I'm tempted to open the blinds and let him see first trimester pregnant lady grimness with no make up, unbrushed hair & 'comfortable' pyjamas that should shut him up

motherinferior · 17/03/2012 10:37

My mum told me morning sickness was a state of mind.

She only discovered about my SPD when I did a slot on Woman's Hour about it

caija · 17/03/2012 11:51

Hey everyone, I'm 9 weeks and felt like shit since finding out, constantly feel nauseous and knackered, this is my 3rd and I have never ever felt this bad in a pregnancy. It's really starting to get me down.

Sedgers · 17/03/2012 11:52

Thanks AliceHurled, although I think I'm doing it badly at the moment!

Sounds like I'm not the only one suffering at work at the moment. Hmmmm might be time to tell the boss.

I have already been told that 'it's not an illness' by my sister-in-law in an anecdote about her sister who experienced absolutely no sickness and......yes of course....... 'bloomed' throughout - Grrrr!

I'm sat here feeling sick, but concious of the advice from my doctor that I should be doing 30mins of excercise a day. I have done no exercise all week. Should I just exercise through the nausia?

AliceHurled · 17/03/2012 15:29

Advice to me was don't worry about anything for the first 12 weeks. Exercise can wait. I'm pretty healthy generally. I couldn't exercise through this nausea and tiredness.

Sedgers · 17/03/2012 15:49

Thank-you, that sounds like good advice.

scarborough84 · 17/03/2012 16:10

12 weeks here and still feeling rubbish. Everything seems worse this time. No 3 for me.

CecilyP · 17/03/2012 16:40

Not sure that age has much to do with it. With my first pregnancy, at 18, I felt really exhausted and decidedly queasy, though not violently sick. With my second, at 32, I felt absolutely fine and able to crack on as normal. In fact, I wasn't entirely convinced I was pregnant until I had a scan at 17 weeks. No idea why it should have been so different.

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HumphreyCobbler · 17/03/2012 16:44

It is an effort to haul myself up from my seat - 30 min exercise? No chance. I was very fit before this pg too, running most days. It all went wrong at about six weeks.

at motherinferior's mum and Woman's Hour.

caija, this is my third too and it is the worst by a long way.

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AliceHurled · 17/03/2012 16:48

Oh thanks for saying that about age. I was thinking that maybe leaving it later made it worse (I'm mid 30s), like how I used to be able to shrug off a hangover and now I can't.

LucyManga · 17/03/2012 16:49

Oh God, it is grim.

With my first child, I found out I was pregnant a day before I had to go away for 2 weeks for work - big presentations, long days, meetings, boozy social evenings with clients who wa ted to buy me shots and keep me up until 4am. Hell! I was running to the loo every 20 mins to dry retch and now and then to yack up. I think I spoke to one of the biggest media moguls in Europe with sick in my hair at one stage. Good God.

I had hyperemesis with my second child and spent the first 5 months lying on the sofa puking into a dishbowl.

I am NOT having any more children...but congrats!

AbbyRue · 17/03/2012 18:43

I am 7 weeks this week, 4th pregnancy although last one ended in MC at 7 weeks again.

I feel awful, I am tired, nothing tastes nice, I have Uni deadlines, 2 kids aged 5 and 8 but oh the tiredness and nausea has made me lose the will to live.

Sorry I could moan all day

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