40+ mums to be

[littleredmonkey]

Hi
I am 43 and expecting my first and these next several months are going to be a challenge so hoping to meet others in the same situation.
I can believe I have a baby growing in my dusty cobweb ridden womb. It has taken me 3 weeks to get my head around the whole thing and it is still worried about the future and being able to cope. My partner is fab and great helping me with the ups and downs of baby hormones. Nothing beats hot sweats, night panics and freeze in the middle of tescos wondering our we doing the right thing. I feel better this week and got my head around things .
Any ladies who also need support or just to have a good moan every now and again. xx
Ps thinking about having a toilet built next to my bed to save time going to the loo quite a bit in the evenings!!

pixie sending you a big hug. The waiting game between EPU visits sucks. I say the days go in 'dog days' (every day feels like 7 days). My Dp always holds it together when I MC, not sure which reaction is more heartbreaking. Has your bleeding got heavier? Not trying to give you false hope. I have bled and MC but I have also had bleeding with DD and was convinced that she would also be a MC. Did they give you any indication as to likely outcome? I've been told go away and come back, doesn't look good but also go away and come back as its too early to tell. So sorry you are both going through this. It sucks. X

Big hugs Pixie . Keeping my fingers crossed for you. Amazed by the strength you have dealing with this.

Heidi you're amazing too. Love to see your sense of humour shining through.

I am feeling very tired and emotional today. Six weeks to go and I just don't feel ready. Anyway, going to force myself up off sofa and get on with cleaning.

Waves to all. xx FF

FF we are never ready! When the consultant told me I was being induced early I pretty much begged just for another weekend as we 'just weren't ready' She quite rightly refused and turned out we were ready after all. All will come good x

hello ladies from Paris
hope every one is feeling good and welcome to all new joigners.

Weather in Paris seems to be exactly the same as London, rainy and shiny, windy as well.... crap, crap, crap weather...

I have spent the last 7 seven days eating and eating, meeting up with old friends, catching up with family, all that of course around a table !!! I will have to get on the scale when back in London next week to find out how much weight I gained within 10 days.... I reckon I will have a heart attack.

Nothing new on the work issue. I am trying not to think about it but it is so frustrating, I now feel the anger rising slowly up to my throat... Poker game, poker face. I keep repeating to myself.

Re pregnancy, all good on that side, bump is very big, +10kg at 26 weeks at least :( I find it difficult to get in and out of the car ! I have to put the seat all the way back to be able to twist the upper bit ! DS1 sometimes says Mummy has a big tummy... but I can feel the baby move a lot, which is reassuring

Congrats to all for the good NT results, LRM, Fjord, Midget, very happy for all of you

Heidi, so sorry, hope you have you back with us soon, don't give up hope

VQ have you had the scan ? or have I missed your post ? I have been away only one week and so much info to take in, sorry if I missed it. How was the birthdays ? yours and the LO's ? Do you feel better, have you had a chance to recharge your batteries a bit ? How are the kids ?

Banana1: is the baby in your arms ?

Hope to be able to catch up more regularly now

ENjoy the week end

Hpbp had scan yesterday - dated 13 weeks so very happy. We both had good birthdays and I am feeling much stronger in myself. Youngest vommed in the middle of the night - no temp or anything and she was not at all upset until I put the light on and she saw the mess - up the wall, behind furniture - lovely stuff! She is in nursery today as is absolutely fine. Odd.

Wish I was in Paris eating and eating, although would miss the wine.

So I had my sweep, and ouch. It bloody hurt. Was all very bloody too. Cervix thin but not doing much so have a feeling it's not going to work. 41 weeks tomorrow :(

VQ it seems you had a lovely night... kids, they are so full of surprises... oh dear, glad she is fine though, maybe it was just too much food
I might end up like her if I keep on eating ! but my Mum will be very mad and get me to clean up the mess...
I am lucky I can't drink, constitutional, Chinese genes, alcohol goes straight in the blood stream and I get drunk very quickly, 1 glass is enough, I am a very cheap friend to take out for dinner :)
I sent my men back to London early so that I can have time for my Mum, 78 yo but actually I am making the most of it: slept for 11h last night, had a 3h nap this afternoon, plan to have an early bedtime tonight too. until Monday. hurray !!!

Banana1, hope baby will decide to come soon, thinking of you !

hpbp sounds like you're having a ball despite the weather
Valiumqueen great news about the scan. I think you're just a week behind me!
Bananna Good luck! anticipating the exciting news

I told my mum and another friend. they were both initially shocked but were fine after. It's so much weirder telling people this time. I think its more me though. I just assume that people are going to think of my age before anything else.

Hi ladies
Sorry have baby brain and started another tread part 2 by mistake, I swear two minutes ago it was not there so thought we must have filled the other. Will go and get a cup of tea and a bit of chocolate and try harder next time.

Banana - Getting excited for you honey, hopfully this weekend will be the one and cant wait for you to post all your news Ps dont miss out any details I want to know everything. Thinking of you.

Hphp - Sounds like you had a GROOVY time, very jealous. Double jealous of your 11 hour sleep also you lucky girl I just had dozens of grumpy customers to deal with this week must be the weather . Christ where is the sun, just the sun ladies not the heat !!!. I have not been on my scales for 9 weeks and have no intensions of stepping on em. I know I have put some weight on I dont want to depress myself by seeing it so when little un is born OPERATION FAT ASS COMMENCES till then eat well have some treats and chill out, amazing how quick 4 months as gone.

pixie- Big hugs and you have loads of innner strength keep pulling on that. Thinking of you

HP say hello to Paris for me, glad you are having such a relaxing time. Although like LRM I am most jealous of your sleeping.

Exexe I am the same about my age. Feel I am going to have to start coming out. Was hoping to keep it to myself at work but think morally that
may be a bit wrong so planning on telling my boss and team next week.

banana oh the joy of the scrape scrape of the sweep. Come on baby banana show yourself.

LRM I am sprouting by the day. Eating like a beast and hardly moving, not a good combo. Made the mistake of opening a big tin of chocolates. Eaten my own body weight. Piling on the pounds now I fear.

Love to all the old birds, sleep tight x

Well, I am still waiting :(

I KNEW the sweep wouldn't work! Have another one booked for tomorrow, but hold out no hope. Am now convinced this baby will stay in until induction day - I have to go in Wednesday night, so I'm guessing LO would be born Thursday. This SOOOO wasn't my plan, and do different from my other three births that were all so spontaneous and easy!

DH's mum comes to stay for a week in about an hour, to meet the baby. As baby hasn't been born DH will carry on going to work, leaving me to entertain her. I've only met her twice, and feeling tired and unsociable as I am, am fed up that I've got to look after her. Just want to be left in peace!!! Have said this to DH this morning and now offended him too. Grrrrrrrrr, why hasn't baby come!

Sorry for the whining post!!

babybanana this is midget talking HURRY BLOODY UP. Poor you banana - the last thing anyone needs is a house guest web you are ready to pop, drive even a saint crazy.

Midgetm, that's what I think but my DH doesn't really get it. Thinks I am rejecting his mother! I'm not, I wouldn't want my mother here either. No one! Just to be left in peace to loll on the sofa eating chocolate all day on my own. That's what I want!!

Come ON babybananna!!!

OMG Bananna not at all envious! I'd draw up a list of chores for MIL to do and got to bed!! Sounds like she has come from afar though? So you can't send her back until LO does arrive? How long is she staying for?

Have you tried Evening Primrose Oil? Bouncing gently on an exercise ball? How about some noisy sex with DH tonight? You're probably not in the mood, but maybe will make MIL need to stay elsewhere until LO arrives?

Bananna Argh don't blame you for your frustrations at all! Who wants someone hanging around at a time like this?

Good luck and heres hoping for baby to make an appearance asap!

Bloody men and their mothers. I suppose he's never been as hormonal and uncomfortable and impatient as a pregnant woman so he has no idea how demented we can become but really? Isn't it bloody obvious? sorry, not slagging off your DH, just offering empathy. Eat loads of pineapples with a curry and have a shag. Even if the baby banana had come I wouldn't want MIL in my house straight away. It's your time for bonding. But I am a cantankerous old midget.

Bananna I personally would be glad she is there before the birth, as it will be less time to put up with her once baby is here. She is there to look after you, not the other way around. I had MIL stay for two bloody weeks when DD2 was 1 week old. Never again! She is lovely, but stays in bed until 11am, goes to bed after midnight with TV on loud, DD1 was waking at 5am, and I was trying to establish BFing!

With the induction, it may not mean baby is born the next day - DD1 was born nearly 4 days after first pessary (hopefully it will be quicker for you as not your first). Stay in hospital as long as you can to avoid her??

I think I'm feeling the pressure because I'm SOOOOOO tired I want to see no-one and do nothing all day, and because I've only met her twice feel I won't be able to relax with her around, but will have to entertain her. Also don't feel I can give her chores, again because I don't know her, she feels like a guest, not someone here to help me. I think I am extra stressed because I've had a house full of builders for 11 weeks and am a bit at the end of my tether with having people in the house all day long.

But anyway, it's all academic now. DH spoke with her and she's going to see family in London from tomorrow and coming back Friday when (hopefully!) the baby will have been born. Now I feel guilty and bad to DH. He can't win can he .

You feel how you feel bananna. Do not be hard on yourself. You are doing a wonderful thing making a child and grandchild - your MIL did that at lease once - hopefully she will understand. Good of DH to talk to her, and sounds like a good plan x rest as much as you can now and f**k everyone else!

Well done Bananna. Stop feeling guilty and go and do whatever you want/need. FF xx

Hello all :)

Had a nice weekend at my in-laws 'across the fjord' and the tweens have calmed down so back at my kitchen desk trying to catch up with you all.

banana - fingers crossed you won't have to wait much longer and that MIL stays away until your LO is here and that she's super helpful when she comes .

Hpbp - hope you had a lovely time in Paris - sounds wonderful. I haven't been since last summer (have a best friend who lives there) and you've made me long to be there again! Hope you had a good rest :).

Valium - congrats on the scan, and glad you're feeling a bit stronger and that the birthdays were good :).

Hugs to Heidipi & pixie - trying times for you both indeed.

Banana - Dont feel guilty, you and little nana are priority number 1. Once lttile one is born everyone will be thrilled and forget all about it. You can now relax have a curry or two in peace and quiet.
I have developed lazy syndrome it has been brewing for the last 3 weeks my efforts at the gym are poor at best and cant be arsed to go I would rather chill out in bed. I had more energy in 1st trimester then now. I anyone else like me or am I being a lazy moo.
Ps Have bed side cupboard now filled with sweets and lollies as my sweet tooth is in over drive

littleredmonkey I have exactly the same syndrome, although I'm not sure I can claim it is entirely pregnancy related ... I'm into 2nd tri now, and think about naps a lot! I've also rediscovered the joys of chocolate now MS has gone - I won't tell you how much I ate yesterday to celebrate the discovery. Veg soup all day today I think

I'm wearing a really uncomfortable H&M maternity bra today - how did they make it so scratchy? I'm definitely beyond all normal leggings, tights and trousers now - it is such a relief to pour my tummy into a nice pair of maternity leggings - lovely! Seems H&M got those right.

I wonder if baby banana is here by now? x

Banana1, how are you doing ? hope your MIL won't be too present in the next couple of days, any sign of baby coming yet ? poor you, breath in and out...

LRM, Bytheseaside, I am suffering too from laziness, where is the bloomimg thing ?!? FF can you give me some tips here ? how was your second trimester ? Are you getting ready ? I seem to have forgotten the first time, I can't get my head around things, I start something and leave it unfinished, and start something else, and get frustrated because I can't tick out anything on my list - that is so not me at all, besides I do not have a list for the first time in my life... :(

Fjordm, glad things have calmed down a bit

ValiumQueen, how are you ? are you back to work ? how are the kids ?

Exexe, don't worry about age, I was very aware of it but people are not so observant, don't worry :)

Pixie, hope to hear some good news from you soon, 2 weeks seem very long but try to be confident

back to work .... I don't really feel like it tbh