40+ mums to be

[littleredmonkey]

Hi
I am 43 and expecting my first and these next several months are going to be a challenge so hoping to meet others in the same situation.
I can believe I have a baby growing in my dusty cobweb ridden womb. It has taken me 3 weeks to get my head around the whole thing and it is still worried about the future and being able to cope. My partner is fab and great helping me with the ups and downs of baby hormones. Nothing beats hot sweats, night panics and freeze in the middle of tescos wondering our we doing the right thing. I feel better this week and got my head around things .
Any ladies who also need support or just to have a good moan every now and again. xx
Ps thinking about having a toilet built next to my bed to save time going to the loo quite a bit in the evenings!!

Hello. I'll be 44 on Friday and have an 11 week old daughter :). My first child. I wish I'd had a thread like this!

Anyone for an older mums thread?

Thanks hpbp I think my original one was a V as its so flexible. Just really shocked how expensive they are now. Was only about £20 when I brought mine.
Also agree re miscarriage. My mc was at the tender age of 37. Yet here I am pregnant at 44 without even trying. Plus we also have mild fertility issues. 2 years to conceive 1st. So there is always hope.

Hey hairytaleofnewyork, congrads on your little girl. I am having my first at 43 and will be picking your brain like some of the other ladies for information .
welcome to the senior gang you are more then welcome xx

Thanks monkey and congratulations!

Thanks York I'm really worried now I am going to go to epu before I go to clinic as need them to check it out still There but now a jelly discharge so not looking good I think will let you all know later how I get on please keep everthing crossed and say a prayer for me x x x

Tenner, I will be thinking of you today. Lets us know how it goes. Keeping my fingers crossed.
Hairytale, i will be glad to join you in a new thread about old mums when my daughter arrives at the end of July, and i am sure other mums will too. In the meantime, welcome to LRM's thread !

tenner huge hugs and got everything crossed for you. Been down that EPu road so many times I really feel for you. Sending you lots of virtual good vibes for a positive outcome. X

Tennerlady I'm sending positive thoughts your way! I know how you feel as I've been bleeding too and so far all fine, it really doesn't necessarily mean bad news - it's just good to check out what's going on with a scan. My consultant was very reassuring and said it happens to lots of women without causing or being a symptom of probs.
Hairytale I love the sound of your thread!
I've been taking comfort from people's sensible thoughts on MC (I'm a bit of a one for mentally preparing myself for the worst at all times...) I'd love to be able to take an 'accepting' approach to nature, but it's so hard when this baby is all I want in the world x

tennerlady Will definately be thinking/praying for you. Congrats hairytale

Could this thread be for older mums too? A few of us have kids already and as we are all at different stages that way we can all keep in touch...

I forgot I am also actually an older mum although 37 seems like a apron. Hi ken in comparison to this time round! Scan tomorrow. Working myself into a frenzy of all the things that could be wrong because of my old old age. Must step away from google and think happy thoughts.

Apron hi Jon? Bloody auto correct. Spring chicken even...

seaside I had three losses in the year preceding my dd's conception. It's a very hard road but I'm so very glad I persevered! None of the doctors ever said it was definately age related and all of them said I should keep going.

Tennerlady wishing you well.

Hello,

I have just found this thread and wondered if I could join it at my rather late stage in pregnancy? I am 38w+3, due on 21/4/12 with DC no.4.

I already have three DD aged 16,14 and 11 but it's my DH's first. Aged 42 I felt very old to be starting all over again, but hopefully I'll be fit enough to cope with it. I have been EXHAUSTED the entire pregnancy and just hope I have enough energy to get through labour!

I started to read the entire thread but at 14 pages long thought I would ask a question to you all first and then go back and read.

When I was first pregnant I saw a consultant because of my age, but have never seen him again. He said he wouldn't let someone my age go over 1 week late (something to do with the placenta failing I think).
My midwife hasn't said anything, it wasn't written in my notes and I don't have an appointment with him again. So just wondered if anyone had said anything similar to anyone on here? I have had an okay pregnancy apart from tiredness, so don't know if I should pursue it or not should I go overdue. I don't want to panic but likewise, don't want to risk anything.

Anyway, will go back to page 1 and start reading and meeting all you ladies!

Hi Bannana1 i've read its not a good idea to go overdue when you're older but not sure if there really are any stats to back up older women having more problems with their placenta or not. have a look at the last few messages on the thread i've pasted for you and ask on there as i'm sure you'll get a reply soon.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1415298-Fantastic-40-thread-part-6?pg=15

Hi everyone I'm back at last been there since 10.30 this morning mdc sent me up to epu at 11.45 as the obstristion was running behind so when I got seen they told me they couldn't scan me as they had waiting list over week urrrrr please and as I had scan 2morrow it was pointless but he examined me and basically said cerfix closed and it look like erosion of cerfix and not to worry but he could not rule out 2 morrow wen scanned their might not be hb as he has no control over that so still abit anxious but got to stay positive as there was hb at 8 wks so keeping everything crossed x

Tenner please be encouraged by that

Banana I was told that with my last pg at 40. I was allowed to go 2 weeks over with DD1 at age 37. We should get an extra scan at about 34 weeks due to being so old

Hi and welcome Bananna. I am just looking into this very issue myself. Am 42, 30+3 with first DC. I was a bit to be told the same as you at an early appointment with consultant. My hospital has a high catchment of oldies and it is their policy to recommend induction at week 40. Had a 28 week appointment with consultant to discuss issue further. Am about 85% certain that I will go for induction. I am also on the thread Blackcats linked to. I have asked their opinions on this a number of times recently, more particularly with regard to getting a sweep. Those that have any opinions on the matter on that thread err on the side of caution, some based on some extremely difficult and sad experiences. Anyway, I have some links from the consultant which I will post soon.

FF xx

Sorry to be thick. But what is the pros and cons of induction if overdue ? nobody has mentioned that to me, nor GP nor midwife and I have not been refered to a geriatric consultant either ! 41 though... so still young but not that young :)

what ARE pros and cons of induction... should have reread before posting, sorry ! babybrain already ?!

tennerlady, I know it is almost impossible but try and relax and be nice to yourself and take your mind off it as much as possible. I am not taking my own good advice and working myself into a lather about NT scan tomorrow. Really thinking of you tennerlady as I have had this uncertainty so many times. Rest and do something nice, by order of the midget doctor.

tennerlady - so far, so good. Hopefully all will be fine.

I really don't want to bring this thread down or anything, but I really feel old. I mean I don't physically feel old. I feel like I'm still 25 but when it comes to having a baby, I feel like I'm meant to be too old. Does that make any sense?

I don't know what I'm on about half the time but sometimes it really brings me down.

It shouldnt as I've tried to comfort myself by saying 'I'm not too old' and then reminding myself of all the famous people who've had babies 40 plus (and there are loads!). I've had 2 friends who had children at 44, 2 at 42 and quite a few at 40.

I just think I've probably got issues about my age. Or maybe I'm just hormonal.

We are not old lady's age is just a number we r young at heart it's just that we r knackered what we need is complete spa day being pampered as soon as I get over the next few stressful weeks im booking myself in for one x x

Thanks for your input and link Blackcat, Valium and FF, I think I will ask my midwife to get me another appointment with consultant to talk it all through. I just always thought this baby was going to come early, I don't know why, and therefore it wouldn't be an issue!
I'm up to page 7 - a lot to catch up on!!

Wishing you all the best for tomorrow Tenner - how frustrating they couldn't scan you today.