Due in October -part 3

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The third instalment as we're a talkative bunch!

Hello ladies,
First time on here and it's been great to read that you're all going through the same things as me ie. moody, farty, constipated... oh the glamour of it all!
I live in France and although I speak French, kind of, I really miss the British sense of humour about things. You just can't talk about farts with many Frenchies. Not without some odd looks anyway. Also I have no idea what kind of pre-natal classes I'll get over here so I expect I will be on here quite a bit for advice from you all.
I'm not great at 'puters and forms and stuff so I don't know what to write for my stats - but it's been 8 weeks since my last period. Blimey that sounds like some AA-meeting intro...

Thank you all so much for your kind words and support. Good news to report. Scan showed a healthy little chap or chappess snuggled in there, so relieved and happy. So once again, it is a mystery as to why I get contraction style pains at this time in pregnancy. I just had a quick look in DS's baby book and found his teeny bean picture which spookily was done on almost exactly the same date back in 2009.

Going to really try not to stress so much from now on. I think being off work ill has been the trigger as usually I am absolutely crazy busy at work, and all this time watching TV in between trips to the loo has left me with too much time to think. I am usually a v happy person, so sorry for moaning this morning.

The scan showed that I am a week earlier than I thought, so another week to wait for the all clear and poss another week of being sick, but anything is worth it for this lush little bean

Got fingers and toes crossed for everyone else who has been having a worrying week/ got scans coming up.

Big hugs to all xx

Bonjour smorgs and congratulations! Will be interesting to hear the differences in antenatal care between here and france.

Hi ladies, I have been skulking around this thread (1&2) for a few weeks now hoping that my pg would be successful (after early miscarriage shock in 2011). All seems ok so far! I am 37, 10 or 11 weeks (no dating scan yet) with dc2. Doctor says I am due 2 October after looking at his little chart! So if its ok, I'll settle down with my cup of boiling water and join you on this little journey! Goodness knows I need the company and support!

Thanks DameFlatYouLent - this is my first pregnancy so I have nothing to compare it to and no experience of the UK system other than what friends have told me.

I went to the doctor (23 Euros each visit - I miss the good old NHS already, although we do have health insurance so will get it back in the end) two weeks ago to say I had done a test and it was positive and she gave me a prescription to take to a lab for a blood test in a couple of weeks and a prescription to take to a radiology centre for a scan at about 10 weeks. That's all. She didn't do any tests. The rest is up to you to sort out yourself! I've heard many women out here go and see a gynaecologist straight away and bypass their normal doctor, but I haven't chosen to do that. I'm going to wait for the scan first.

I have found that eating anything sour really helps with the sickness by the way - lemons in water, sour fruit like oranges.

Welcome gigglewizz!

Hi everyone. Sadly it's time for me to bow out of this thread. This bubba is not in for the long haul . I will think of you all with envy come October and truly hope you enjoy the journey as well as the end product!

resipsa So sorry to hear that :( Look after yourself.

resipsa - I'm so sorry.

Very very sorry Resipsa :( Take care of yourself xo

resipsa sending the hugest hug to you. Not sure of the circumstances - if you already are MC or waiting too but I know the pain of both. Be nice to yourself, let yourself grieve but (I know this may sound brutal to some) then dust yourslef down and get back in the race. Hope to see you back on these threads when you are ready. The fact that so many of us MC does not make the reality of it any better to deal with but it does get better over time, that I promise. For now you need to be looked after.

HeHe I just hope you aren't out of your mind. Waiting is a bitch.

Bella great news on your scan. Most women I know have had cramps in their pregnancies. It is just sometimes difficult to tell which ones you should worry about but better be safe than sorry.

Seems insensitive to update on my better news after sending such condolances to another one of our crew but things are looking ok for now with the bean. Becasue of my history I am being seen by a specialist clinic for M/C's and they are scanning every 2 weeks for the next 6 weeks. As it stands now I am 6 +5, CRL as it should be and a lively heartbeat. This fills me with joy and fear in equal measure. Trying to take each day at a time (I wont be buying anything or picking out names just yet but taking small shaky baby steps). The clinic are really positive but experience makes me take that with a pinch of realism.

Welcome to Gigglebizzand Smorgs. I have put the kettle on for hot water and lemon for you.

And most importantly congratualtions to Zoe and Squid. I am so proud of your pooh efforts. I found yesterdays interview did wonders for me in that department. Perhaps they should give us all shots of adrenalin instead of Fybrogel.

Fjordmor dreams -snap, radiator (at night) snap but then really feeling the cold at other times. A strange combo.

Guccigirl79 totally jealous. I actually would strike you if I saw you in your PJ's. I have been tired and grumpy all day and I want to be you! Hope you enjoyed the rest.

Beans all the best for the scan.

Phew - no wonder I am tired with all that name checking. I am shattered. Hugs to all of you who are tired, gassy or just blain bitchy (or is that just me?).

Blain? Plain even. My brain dropeed out my front bottom at the moment of conception.

It's been a little while since I've checked in on here, and as usual there's been loads happening. Hugs to everyone, and Resipsa, I heaved a deep sigh and more when I read yours.

And it's official. I'm no longer someone who can have a normal conversation, I cry all the time. I had my first MW appointment today and she asked a routine question about spousal abuse, when she said it was more common in pregnancy I said, "oh, that's so sad"... and then struggled through the rest of the appointment, worrying that she would think I was a victim I then made silly attempts to reassure her and it was all a bit rediculous as lovely, warm, supportive partner was right there, being as usual, more of a feminist than I am. Later, when she took the bloods I experienced more pain that I've ever come across (yes I have had an easy life painwise but this was out of the ordinary), we were all perplexed, after stopping and moving the the second arm she said she wanted to continue but it was strange and felt wrong to her too and partner was concerned as he could tell I meant it when I said "it really, really hurts" in a pathetic little voice. And then I cried again, I felt like a wimp, if I can't do THAT then how am I going to manage the rest! I then got a migrain and learned that I can't take my usual anti-inflamatory that takes care of it straight away so spent the afternoon on the sofa feeling weak, and I'd never use that word about me or anyone else as it seems so horrible. Everyone says 2nd trimester can be better, fingers crossed.

39, 9+2, 1st.

Resipsa I'm so sorry about ur news,rest up & take care of yourself,I'm sending u big hugs :-)

Midgetm,that made me lol at the thought of u 'striking' me!!! Pls dont be jealous u will get to have a pj day before u know it I'm sure x

In other news,am suffering with some cramps but I think they're parpy related so hopefully they will 'blow away'!!!!!

Update - think I have got rid of the cramps as I have just had a mahoosive poopy the first in 3 days!!! Woohoo!!

Resipsa sending love and hugs to you, so sorry to hear that.

Wrigle Don't worry, I also cannot have a normal conversation. Watching Dobby die on Harry Potter this morning finished me off, and my poor mother has had to deal with my tears all day. And Poor Poor DP is giving up smoking, and I have become a moving, farting, yawning, waterfall. Please someone tell me this doesn't last forever, I don't want to be bursting in to tears every time the word baby is mentioned!!!!
Fjordmor and MidgetM Snap on the dreams front. I am having the most f*ed up dreams EVER. And Really awful nightmares. Anyone got any ideas on the nightmare front?
And I have also seem to have developed Tourettes... Anyone else?

20/7+4/#1

Hello again

We are an attractive lot aren't we? Farting and constipated and crying at everything! I'm so glad it's not just me. I burp ALL THE TIME.

I am feeling really rough today and trying to view it like a positive thing. Sick and exhausted. Slept terribly last night (yeah I'm having lots of nightmares too, mostly about baby dying or people telling me I'm stupid for having a baby) and struggled through every patient today. Boyfriend says I am "all over the place" and put me in a bath when I got home and started laughing at my hormonal-ness as I cried about something like where the soap was and then giggled and flicked water at the cat.

He has told me to go to bed before half 8. He's playing football at the moment.

I am trying so hard to eat healthily and reasonably (I am lucky in that I am not craving crap) but it's so hard when you feel so sick. I managed to make myself some vegetable pasta (my diet has gone SO boring. I used to be such an adventurous cook and eater. Now, it's veg veg and more veg. Or bread and marmite.) I actually cannot believe I am not putting weight on. Or maybe I am, but my clothes fit. I gave up weighing myself years ago. (The more exercise I did, the smaller I got and the heavier I got! It was a mindfuck so I concentrate on the size not the weight.)

I'm sure no one is reading this boring shit. My brain has died.

resipsa That is heartbreaking - I am so sorry. I wish there was anything any of us could do.

Midgetm fingers crossed for this pregnancy being the one for you xxxx

Hello all,

Sorry for all with worries.
resipsa I am so sorry at your news. Hope you are cuddled up on couch with and baby in bed.

My day - Had odd conversation with girl at work. Was a little upset after. Went for a walk in the afternoon and was brooding and felt tearful - massive overreaction. Then suddenly I realised 'brilliant, I am pregnant'. Life is good - my little bean is hanging in there.

I don't have any bump, though, just a rather unattractive muffin-top.

I've not heard it mentioned on here but I assume everyone is taking folic acid

resipsa, so sorry, sending you and hope to hear of a BFP in the not too distant future.

Bella, yay, glad it's good news.

Well, I got through 3 hours of parents evening without farting, burping (small hiccups but I'm not counting that), crying, falling asleep, swearing, feeling sick or accidentally talking about the wrong child. I consider that a resounding success. One down, one more to go. Then the gym on Friday, if I have to drag myself there, flop on a treadmill and do nothing else.

If I saw my doctor last Wednesday, when should I expect to hear from a midwife? Not sure what to expect.

I had an exciting journey home tonight - I go through a section of road where 3 cars from each side go through a narrow bit, then pass each other in the middle, then all carry on, then the next 3 go, etc (pretty sure I've decribed that terribly!) and there was a big altercation, a campervan had to back out because he'd driven in when it wasn't his turn, and his female passenger, after directing him backwards, stood in the middle of the road and refused to move so no-one could go anywhere. Then she started swearing, and hitting the car that she was stood in front of with her crutch. I ride a motorbike so I'd gone to the front for a bird's eye view - high drama! I was tempted to stay and enjoy the party but decided I'd rather get home to see DH. Maybe they're all still there!

Hope everyone's OK, wishing you all a good night's sleep with no nightmares.

Dobby dies? How could he do that to me? The bastard.

Evening ladies

HHHB Fingers crossed the bleeding subsides and you are fine.

Good luck to all who have scans soon. Mine is tomorrow and I am torturing myself. On the one hand, I have bled sooo much now (including lots of clots and 'stuff') I feel that there can't be anything left. On the other hand, I still feel pg, still have a really sensitive sense of smell and feelings of nausea. Still fancy something to eat, then when I start eating it, don't want it but feel constantly peckish. I am also so tired all the time. Have had 3 days of lying down or sitting on sofa with my feet up (last night slept for 10 hours!). Today I went out for lunch with DH (he had a half day for DS1's parent-teacher interview) and the exertion from just that and the school run left me feeling drained :(

Last time I MCd, I lost it all fairly quickly when I started getting sharp pains then the bleeding tailed off to just spotting, whereas I have just been bleeding continually Argh. Still, 13 hours from now, the suspense will be over one way or another. Trying to prepare myself for the worst. Then whatever the outcome I will have at least 2 dozen people to inform, all well meaning family/friends who want to know as soon as I've had my appointment. sigh They have all been so supportive and helpful I will need to let them know. Think I'll be sending a round robin text as the thought of all those phonecalls is making me feel panicky. Even if it is good news I won't be able to relax and enjoy the pregnancy with all the bleeding.

Sorry for the self-indulgent rant. I'm driving myself insane.... Off to bed now.

Resipsa So sorry :( :(

TLM thinking of you. You are not self indulgent at all, but going through shite. There is a big difference. Everything crossed for you. Telling people is always such a double edge sword. With support comes responsibility but put yourself first and tell them all in your own good time. Huge virtual hugs sent your way x

resipsa I'm so sorry.

twolittlemonkeys good luck with the scan tomorrow

I've struggled today. Not yet feeling hormonal (which makes a change!) but skin is being crappy, headaches on and off and still feeling nauseous...mainly from 3pm onwards. Working full time but also in the 2nd year of a part time degree so was at college tonight. Got a lift home but had to do public transport going in...nearly fell asleep on both the bus and the train! Can't wait for weekend so I can have a lie in!

Have found nausea triggers are tuna (which I previously liked), food aisles in the supermarket and the glue on envelopes!

It still doesn't feel real yet - can't wait to get 1st scan so we can tell people...and so I don't have to worry about trying to suck my tummy in!

TLM thinking about you for tomorrow - at least your mind will be set at ease one way or the other. Keeping fingers crossed for you x

resipsa I'm so sorry :(

I have the most horrendous heartburn, it's awful. I read that Gaviscon et al don't cure it so I'm taking HCL, which adds more acid meaning your stomach because heart burn is actually your stomach not having enough acid. Or something.

Anyway I've always had some kind of reflux - from childhood to adulthood. A weak gullet, my dad calls it

But this is just awful. All the time. The HCL seems to help but they're gross and my pathetic gag reflex kicks in - I've choked on them more than once, very dramatically.

I'm not being sick but I wish I was - just feel nauseous all the time. GOD!

twolittlemonkeys Good luck at the scan tomorrow!