Due in October -part 3

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The third instalment as we're a talkative bunch!

turnwest We're not having those tests either. We've come to the conclusion that we started this little life so who are we to take it away just because it might have gone slightly wrong? Obviously not everyone thinks that way and I personally wouldnt have anything against anyone if they did have those test. Thats just what we decided. Welcome hufflepuffle I am also eating carbs carbs carbs. My only saviour is my lovely boyfriend who cooks me veg with dinner :) I can't stop eating...

I've not been on here much for the past few weeks so thought I'd pop up and say hello again. Been feeling much the same as everybody else - craving crisp sandwiches, chips, anything carby. Feeling tired to my very core (not just normal tiredness). But thank goodness the nauseous feeling is starting to get better! Maybe this is the start of the good bit everybody seems to talk about?

I have by "booking in" appointment with the midwife tomorrow - does anybody know what this involves? Is there any chance she might be able to let me hear the baby's heartbeat? Or do I need to go private to get this? I too, like someone earlier in this thread, have a problem with paying for health care - it seems wrong somehow.

33, 9+4, DC1

Evening all, just back in from my 10 week scan - utterly amazing!! Saw hands waving, feet kicking, heard heartbeat, even saw nasal bone and eye sockets, and got a little bit of video footage as a souvenir...was really starting to doubt there was anything inside me as it had been 4 weeks since the last scan, and wasn't really having too many major symptoms, so this has totally reassured me and DH - am on total high about this, hang on in there everyone, it gets more interesting as it goes on (I mean pregnancy, not this post)!! Gynae has decided I can now graduate from just folic acid to a preg multi-vit and has done a haemaglobin test to check I'm not defficient in anything other than ability to spell correctly. Oh and apparently my foetus is tall (long?) for 10 weeks - am a short arse myself, so assuming he or she got this from her father?!

Congrats to all who had lovely scans and things :) and sympathy to those who had shit day - I was one of them. Please allow me to vent.

So I am a teacher at secondary level, HOD, teach an 'academic' subject to A-Level. Told school v early on about being pregnant as they are having to make redundancies and by not paying me for a year there will be more money in the budget which may save a job or half a job. Today got called into meeting to tell me that my subject isn't going to run next year at A-Level, partly because I'm pregnant and won't be there (bollocks, other people teaching it) and also because there's a bigger picture (ie they want to do mickey mouse A-Levels all round so we can get better results, even though DH - who is senior staff in Uni - keeps talking about how mickey mouse A-Levels are becoming increasingly useless as Unis know they mean sweet fuck all).

So basically by trying to be honest, do the right thing, potentially save a job I have in fact shafted myself / my subject / the kids who want to take it / my Dept. and what has this taught me about integrity in the workplace? Sod it. Don't have any. Lie like a rug or at least say nothing till the legal minimum (think it's 25 wks) and just let everyone think you've been eating takeaways every night.

Sooooooooooooo pissed off.

Oh - and to make it worse - hadn't told anyone in work, was planning to wait till scan on Fri (11 wks) BUT blurted it out to a few people in a fit of rage alongside news about A-Level. Am now completely paranoid something will go wrong, just because I've told everyone, not helped by fact that I'm a bit crampy. I did just do a mega poop so hoping that's all.

Thank God for you ladies, seriously. Who else can I brag about a poop to?!

Oh, I'm sorry to hear there are other people here having a bad day :( Angelico that is so upsetting, I'm so sorry to hear it. Though I'm dreading the whole changing jobs every 4 months thing (at 14 weeks is going to be bad enough, at 32 weeks it's going to be complete hell) - at least there is the fact that no one cares if I'm pregnant/on maternity leave in 4 months time because it won't be their problem. I wasn't going to tell my next job til 25 weeks but loads of people have said I should because of xrays/infectious diseases and so on. also Angelico: I told a couple of people at work when I was 10 weeks after I had to manage three miscarriages and nearly had a breakdown, they have been nice. Ignore the superstitious feelings!!! hugs.

turnwest hufflepuffle londonlizzy midgetm leige07 londonmrs zara (wow there are so many lovely people on here) - thanks so much, you are all right of course and I am a silly bint. I am sort of ashamed of myself for writing that this morning (though grateful for you all here listening!) I managed to go home a couple of hours early. It wasn't the end of the world. I've made a resolution to walk a couple of miles around the river every day even if I'm tired. I did that when I got home and I feel 10x better. Exercise helps my mood, it doesn't have to be strenuous. And I really want to do some strength training again, again it doesn't have to be a mega effort, might ask bettybat for an simple 4x week 15 minute routine I could do. I used to do a lot of that sort of thing and it's all fallen by the wayside. I can't seem to work out how/where to restart.

AND I waxed my legs (overdue) and pounced on the boy when he came home so I feel better about that too. Naked and happy now. I've had enough of this first trimester lark, I tell you!!

32, 11+3, 1st kid

dear carb-lovers: all I can bear to eat is veg. You're not missing much. Fruit and yoghurt several times a day. And I wonder why my taste buds have died...

Tonight I'm going to make a hot and sour soup (vegetable of course... yawn)... maybe if I make it blow-my-head-off spicy something in my tongue will wake up...

mirikat Congratulations! My first scan's in a week and I hope it will start to seem real then!

angelico sorry you have had a shit day. I am also sorry that your experience is turning out like mine with my DD. life is a shitter sometimes but once you hold that baby in your arms work problems fade into insignificance. Still sucks that your kids will get less choice though. The swines.

Mathsey unlikely to listen to HB - think this isn't recommended until later on as can be hard to fine early on. Some will give it a go anyway but I don't think they are supposed to. My booking in is 2 hours... God know why they will do with me for that long.

mirikat lovely news about your scan. What hospital did you go to where they have you video footage? Pretty fancy.

I did drag myself to the gym. Felt really smug and energetic temporarily and now feel even more exhausted. Luckily left over risotto means I can drown in carbs. Take care bean ovens. X

squidkid sex is nearly always the answer glad you are feeling better. You are so nearly into the joyous smug stage of pregnancy. Hang tit squidss, hang tight.

PS I just did 40 mind of strength work and I lived it. Really hard to get going as I had a lot less energy but got into the swing. Cannot tell a lie though, I'm shagged now!

Hi ladies good news baby in correct place and hb there measuring about 7wks but they said not to worry as this can happen and keep my date until dating scan so I'm 8 wks today and this is a viable pregnancy hurrah down side put me on insulin today and they were too busy to book me in so got to go next week and get bloods ect done and book in arrange scans ect .... First hurdle over on to next thanks for all your support it was greatly needed as I'm not getting any here off hubby it's as he in denial that I am pregnant he won't even talk about it and still won't let me tell anyone I've been to all appointments by myself I know he thinks we too old and have r hands full with 3 boys as it is but I AM PREGNANT AND EVERYTHING LOOKS GOOD SO BLOODY DEAL WITH IT !!!!!! Arhhhh soz rant over X x x

Thanks folks for being chuffed for me about scan, midgetm, I am the wierdo who lives in the middle east, and therefore am on health insurance, as there's no nhs here. Since hospitals basically get more money the more they see, treat and prescribe, they have you in at the drop of a hat, treat every sneeze like full blown pneumonia and approach pregnancy like it's never been achieved before. I guess all the revenue makes it possible to buy uber sensitive scanning equipment, as the level of detail I saw was probably not something one would get in the uk until much later (if at all??am guessing about this as not been pregnant in the uk before) it wasn't all glitz and glamour though, the room they had the scanning equipment in was blatantly an ex-supplies cupboard, and was so narrow that the bed didn't actually fit in, hence I had my legs up on the wall to allow me to lie on the bed with my belly in the right position!!

Doh! I remember now. That's why so fancy. I couldn't imagine any hospital here doing that.

tennerlady great news everything is in the right place. Sorry your husband is being the way he is, you could do with support right now not denial. Sometimes men just need time to come round. I am sure you do have your hands full but you will hardly notice one more amongst the carnage of 3 boys.

FUCK that's annoying angelico. You did the right and professional thing, and they just used it as a way to make themselves look better by shafting you and the students in the process. My DH works in a uni too, so I appreciate his rage about it!!! Fucking shameful.

Is there a higher education body/board you can point out this stupidity to? Or will it stir too much shit up?

Good job on the massive poo though. I saw a secret on Postsecret once that said "some days, my best achievement is a giant crap"

Mirikat - YAY re awesome scan. That's so exciting. and yay Tennerlady re positive news.

Angelico - That's totally rubbish re dropping your subject - short termist thinking by the school, but at least you tried to do the right thing.

Delighted you're so full of beans squidkid and good work on the gym midget

I've had a bit of a rubbish day - despite 10 hours' sleep last night I've been shattered all day - cycled to work and struggled through 30 mins of yoga at lunchtime whilst feeling dizzy and sick, but couldn't face cycling home so got the train home. Entire journey home on tenterhooks, hoping to hear from the midwife who said she'd call back today (to see if they'd accept me in the new home area hospital). No call. :-( so I don't yet know when I'll get scanned. It'd be good to have a date, even if it's some way off. Patience, patience, I know!!

36, 7, #1

And YAY mirikat on your scan! Very exciting!

Zara "Good job on the massive poo." Aaaahahahahaha! One of the best sentences I've ever read!

I'm very, very jealous of people who are still able to go the gym, do exercise classes etc. How on earth have you got the energy?! I'm just about getting through my day at work then can hardly do anything when I get home. I keep thinking I'd feel a lot better if I went for a swim or something - but I just can't summon up the energy.

Evening ladies! Firstly apologies if I don't comment on all of your individual posts a) I'm on my mobile phone and can't scroll up to check I'm commenting correctly on the right persons post and b) my memory is so shot at the minute I can just about remember my DC's names let alone all of yours But I am paying attention and reading all of your posts even of it looks like I'm not

I have to say I'm v jealous of all of you who have already had a scan, I'm still waiting for a date for mine an as I'm going away for 2 weeks over Easter they'd better get it organised pronto! My mw said they'd just have to fit me I'm before then do here's hoping! I think I may have turned a corner on the sickness front this week, I'm feeling slightly more normal (or what passes for normal for me anyway!) but am now completely debilitated by exhaustion! Roll on the second trimester!

I'm off to bed :( I feel so old going to bed at 7:54pm :P

My hot and sour soup went down amazingly well, it was the hottest thing ever, it felt like the first thing I've actually tasted in weeks! Can post the recipe if anyone wants it.

londonlivvy DameIceandaSlice Let's start a WE WANT OUR SCANS club! Also known as WE WILL WHINGE ABOUT NOT HAVING HAD SCANS TILL WE GET ONE :)

Hi All,
Nothing much to report. Slept badly over the weekend and was really sick Monday. Baby has a bug, husband unwell this evening so not sure if I had some of that or a bad day of ms. Better after 14 hours sleep!!

To all you ladies hating what is happening to your bodies (in my experience, once before), this is the worst part. The fatigue and nausea and moods are ghastly and nobody knows how much you are struggling. Like a cloud passing the sun, it gets better. Toward the end it gets tough again but there is more kid glove treatment and gaviscon. And then it's all over in a few hours.

After I had my DS I looked in envy at pregnant women. You are part of a miracle. If you gave yourself a target of running a marathon this year, you would be slimmer, but your body would be doing something less incredible than ours are doing right now. You are growing a baby. I think unless you are under 25 that is not easy.

I don't mean to be an old nag, just forgive yourself if you are below par.

Oh liesbeth that is beautifully put and totally the loveliest thing to hear. It's hard to remember when feeling so rubbish the wonderful stuff that's going on inside.

Squidkid Can I join that club too? Mine's supposed to be coming through the post and it's STILL NOT HERE. :( I is very sad.
Hear hear Lisbeth. As crap as I feel right now, you are completely correct. Although I am considering skipping the "Labour" section in the Mumsnet guide to Pregnancy. The thought of it makes me tremble. And makes my nightmares worse!!

I'm Definately going to join that club too. Mines not until April 9th! Waaaaaaaaaa!