Due in October 2012 Part 2

[YompingJo]

Kicking off the second thread as we outgrew the first one.

oh my god whats happening why has missbone left????

mrsclairemarie so sorry to hear your sad news. Life can be so cruel. Thinking of you, give yourself time xx.

Hi sumsey missb not left but taking a break from mumsnet. She had a disagreement on another thread (and apologised), discussed it on this thread, lady in question came to this thread, missb decided to take a break. If you read the back posts you will get a better version than my abbreviated one. Both posters in the dispute reported it to Mumsnet. Sure she will be back soon, I think just letting the dust settle. Hope you are ok and still bring a sex pest.

twolittlemonkeys and mrsclaire sending hugs. squid I know exactly how you feel re losing yourself. I'm no doctor, but hormones can change a man into a woman ffs... They are all powerful and to be feared, in my opinion! fjordmor and zoe you sound like you're describing a friend - or ex-friend - of mine. A counsellor said that they thought she had mild schizophrenia. It's a battle having people like that in your life, and I constantly look back and wonder if I could have been a better friend (she 'dumped' me after my wedding). It certainly makes you appreciate your other friends and family members I found. And finally Angelico, my twin (my Dad's side of the family are from Donegal btw) hugs back to you - I'm feeling better thanks and thinking of you and your scan xxx

Hi all, just back and got caught up. Really sorry to hear your news MrsClaireMarie. I don't know if this will seem better or worse but my mum lost 5 babies (and they were late on) before she had the 3 of us on the trot. My point is people do have more than one loss and go on to have a healthy family. Sending you a hug x

twolittlemonkeys so sorry you're having to wait all this time to get your scan. It seems really cruel :( I hope things are settling a bit today xo

Sending hugs to all who are feeling exhausted and worn down - have been shattered the last few days. In fact the tiredness has been main symptom of late.

Nenehooo this just keeps getting spookier lol. Separated at birth?! Delighted you are fortunate enough to have a bit of Irish in you :o lol So glad you are feeling better! x

So had my scan this morning - and all was great! Of course there are no guarantees but everything is as it should be so far - good yolk sac, measuring exactly 9wk 1 day (which I am) and heartbeat of 176. Was so strange seeing that little flutter of a heartbeat. Last night I had my first "Oh my God I'm pregnant" moment - up till now it's all been a bit unreal, especially as haven't been being sick or anything. Hopefully that will reassure other symptom free peeps - whatever happens ahead, bean is thriving so far in spite of my trouble free pregnancy. Having that bloody cold is the worst thing that's happened so far...

Angelico that is great news. Really happy for you. Tiredness is also crippling me at the moment. And I have to eat pretty much on the hour to stop myself feeling sick. At the mood swings are now kicking in now and I could probably cry watching a cereal ad.

Hello everyone, what an intense time for us all, so much happyness, anxiety and sadness. 2LM, fingers crossed. MrsClaire, I'm sorry. Fjordmor, that's a shame about your mother, sounds like the less contact the better. (and I don't know how to bold names - unless my computer's just acting up!)

I've had a shift in symptoms the last few days and think the hormones have kicked in properly. I've never really had them with normal monthly cycles so it's catching me off guard. I sat down to eat breakfast in front of the tv, saw an advert in which a man kicked a ball accidentally toward a window and everyone flew into the air to try to stop the catastrophe, to the tune "I believe I can fly", after they fail, this dog, who'd witnessed the whole thing, bravely saves the day. I laughed a little, then a lot, then like a maniac, then burst into inconsolable tears. It was confusing and embarrassing! My partner's out of the house today, think he might be thinking I'm a little crazy at the moment. Funny thing is mental health is my profession, hope this passes soon!

I have my first MW appointment wednesday and have no idea what to expect, that will make me 9 weeks 2 days, I wonder if I'll get this first scan then??? It would be so wonderful to hear/see something.

And as for dreams, I dreamt last night that I had a lovely bottle of wine all to myself! I used to have 2/3 glasses a night with about 5 cigarettes a day, gave up both when I got my positive test - I know we're allowed a little alcohol but for me it was too associated with smoking, and I was having too much anyway, so I stopped them both. I woke up thinking I could smell smoke on my hands and feeling so guilty!

Angelico, was it your post that mentioned aspirin? I was wondering if it was ok to take any - have had an awful headache and stress induced eye twitch, the result of a far too ambitious week!

Splendid news that you've had a reassuring scan Angelico! You've made me feel a bit more positive that having a cold/virus for the first 4-5 weeks of my pregnancy may not have harmed the bean at all. I still feel like I've got so looong to wait until I find out if all is ok & normal but I'm trying to just to be all shrug & 'que sera sera' as me worrying won't change anything (that's what I keep telling myself).

Zoeplankton big hug right back atcha! :) always at the ready .

nenehooo - there's unfortunately a lot of it about. Once you're aware of the 'symptoms' you see it in people. The sad thing is, it's almost completely untreatable.

Midgetm - at the M6 snack crisis! . You've reminded me I'll have to take a huge snack bag on my epic cross-europe voyage next week.

Hope everyone's having a good weekend so far.

missbone - come back soon!

Wriggle laughing at you crying. I could blub at anything right now and I am feeling very intolerant towards my DH. Normal things he does are driving me insane. You are right it is such a bag of mixed emotions for us all. Baby making is a beautiful and stressful and terrifying experience, all rolled into one. Glad you have an appointment coming up to make it all more real - alas you are unlikley to get a scan, but a date or a referral for one. More likely to be blood pressure, infection checks, weighing and all that jazz. As for dreams mine are getting weirder and pervier by the night.

FjordMor I am not sure if there is a snack box of adequate size to take the amount of snacks you will need for your epic journey.

Wrigle - you're so right about the intensity! I'm so with you on the unexpected & inappropriate crying. I'm a bit 'easy to move' at the best of times but at the moment, I'm in floods at as little as a particularly good vocal performance ! I am having as minimal contact with my mum as I can get away with. Trouble is with dad having died & me being her only child (and her having a degenerative disease & all...). She doesn't seem to want to speak to me more than once a week though (unless she has a problem) so I'm pretty fine with that.

Midgetm etc.

Yay angelico! How exciting for you! I just got my scan date... 4th April. Can't wait!!!

fjordmor really feel for you re the situation with your mum, but you sound as though you're coping well... I guess you have to cut a little part of yourself off and keep it separate in order to keep some distance? That's how I felt trying to deal with my friend anyway... I really hope she doesn't cause too many problems for you in your pregnancy x
As for the crazy hormones, I had a moment at 70mph on the motorway today... Listening to Ed Sheeran, and Small Bump came on. I've listened to it about a million times, but today it sent me into meltdown... Not a great! Also fell asleep on the sofa at the in-laws house for 2 hours this afternoon... Not that they're boring or anything
Also had to endure sil calling her 6 year old an idiot and stupid. Really upset us, poor little thing. Had a massive debate on the way home about whether anyone should speak to her about it... she probably wouldn't take any notice as she's always right about everything. It's just heartbreaking

Hi all! Sending positive vibes, tea, sympathy and to mrsclaire and twolittlemonkeys....

Right so this morning sickness is REALLY setting in. Can't drink or even smell coffee so my Nespresso machine is staring at me forlornly, unused. Have been basically stuck to lying horizontally on the couch all day, gingerly sipping water until about an hour ago. Made some plain fresh tomato sauce to go with pasta and it made me feel better.

I hear y'all when it comes to emotional too. I have cried at EVERY SINGLE BLOODY charity advert that relates to kids. There's one for Barnardos here in Ireland about a (real) little girl that had never had her own bed quilt before and didn't know what it was like to be warm/have someone warm cuddle her .... ok there I go again just even typing it :S Added to emotional rollercoaster is fact that DH left today for a business trip and I won't see him for two weeks until we meet up in New Zealand :( :( On that same vein am seriously worried about barfing non-stop across 36 hours/3 flights of travel in two weeks.... ack!

Actually I am wondering what the reaction would be if I watched/listened to the one thing that always puts me in floods of tears - a piece of music, Elgar's Nimrod. Specifically, when it's performed live on a dead silent Whitehall on Remembrance Sunday. Terrified to look it up on YouTube, I might lose litres of water in tears thinking about all those poor kids who died in the wars....

So largely, today has been made up of watching Frasier re-runs on telly while feeling sick and/or emotional, and weeping into the fur of one or both of my two (very confused) cats who are teddy bear/DH substitutes right now. Oh and shopping for leggings and loose tunic dresses/tops because none of my pants fit me anymore but it'd be a bit ridiculous to buy maternity jeans right now

Hope everybody's day was restful and enjoyable!

And by shopping, I mean shopping online. And by shopping online, I mean absent-mindedly poking away at ASOS. :P

Hi ladies, well the bleeding got a lot heavier at work tonight - soaked through all the pads I had with me and the pain rendered me unable to speak at times :( Couldn't tell the lady I work for as she has a tendency to kick people when they're down (a bit of a power thing I reckon - because she's blind she feels vulnerable and when someone is feeling fragile she makes their life a lot harder. Grrr)

I suppose I just need to get on with ttc again. I feel under so much pressure as I only have 2 more shots at this (only have enough Clomid for 2 more cycles and can't get any more as they closed the Assisted Conception Unit at the hospital).

That's heart breaking 2LM, I hope you can get some rest tonight.

twolittlemonkeys I send you huge hugs. No idea how you managed work you poor thing. You need to rest and be good to yourself. So sorry. I know the disappointment can be overwhelming but it does get better with time. So sorry x

I've managed not to cry for the rest of the day! I ate loads though and spent the day on the sofa so it's not as if I was otherwise productive!

And after reading fjordmor's being stuck without food I restocked my bag with my wide range of portable snacks - getting hungry is awful isn't it, like a bood sugar level drop! What is everone keeping handy? I've got a personal fruit and nut mix, snack bars and chocolate bars!

And as for ASOS (or otherwise) shopping. It's a whole new world (this is my first time). I'm loathe to spend much but that doesn't seem to be a problem as there seems to be very little out there. I had romantic notions of lovely comfy maxi dresses and sandals for the summer but I'm not finding much. REally don't want to bein hot leggings mid summer! What clothing plans do you all have? I lost about a stone last year fso for the time being luckily I have some bigger clothes I can get in to!

Thanks for the heads up Midgetm, seems like a long appointmentfor just that kind of stuff, but good to know so I'm not disappointed!

Nenehoo, that's upsetting and can put you in an awkward situation re: your sil, that kid will need extra cuddles. And that, in a round about way, reminds me, is anyone reading the thead about things parent have done that could have gone badly wrong but all was ok in the end? It's made me both laugh and sit back in horror, how does the human race survive!

Goodnight!

TLM I am so sorry :( Don't even know what to say to you, just sending you a hug and some good vibes. You are so brave, don't know how you managed to get through work - I'm in awe to be honest. Do try and take care of yourself xo

tlm I'm so so sorry. Thinking of you xxx

TLM I'm so sorry I've been tossing & turning all night thinking about you. I cant believe you managed to work,i really hope you have a much needed rest today & are good to yourself. Sending you much love

Hugs twolittlemonkeys... stay strong and keep going xxx

twolittlemonkeys I am so sorry :( Please stay on the thread so you can tell us how things are going.

I think we should start a list for when everyone is having their 12 week scan :) Please add your name and date:

Milk: Wednesday 28th March, 4pm.

Hi everyone. i'm new here :) I'm due on 20th October!! Anyone got any ideas for a natural remedy for raging heartburn? I'm not a fan of tablets!

Welcome Mickeytheshortone. Try this on for size:

heartburn.about.com/od/medsremedies/a/homeremedies.htm

Twolittlemonkeys like GucciGirl also thinking of you. Let us know who you are. And come join the TTC after miscarriage thread where you can let rip to your hearts content.

Milk good idea about starting a list but for now I am too cautious to add dates - just taking one day at a time in this first trimester roller coaster. I may change my mind if I get good news on Wednesday though!

Well the only time I don't seem to feel sick is the mornings. But I am windy, moody, and knackered. A rather unattractive combo. Tried on a pair of high waisted trousers yesterday and it looked like I had a beachball down the front of them. Nice. I also had a nosebleed last night. This happend with my DD but not so early on. Grossarama.

At my MIL's and not mentioned anything to them. Seriously think they must have figured it our though as not drinking (I love my wine), snappy (usually fairly tolerant) and sleeping (err I do that a lot anyway). Don't want to tell them so early on as I know they would be so over exicted I couldn't face them being heartbroken if it went wrong.

May need to go and find another pharmacist to confide in! I'm off to lick a packet of Fybrogel. Laters x

Hi all!

Well I havnt been on because I'm worried I'm going to miscarry! Me and DH had sex (as we frequently do) sat morning and there was some blood on his manhood and also when I went the loo there was some on the tissue. Bright red fresh blood I wasn't in pain or anything. Then nothing all day when I wiped. Then this morning, I felt really constipated, strained a little and then bled gain a little which showed on the tissue! I'm hoping it's just because I'm a bit of a bleeder, as I have read up and lots of people have experienced this. I still feel sick, still off certain foods but I'm worried I will just start to miscarry! Well only time will tell!

I'm even more sad because I want to have sex but I'm too worried about disturbing the fetus again!

30yrs 2nd child 9 weeks