Due in October 2012 Part 2

[YompingJo]

Kicking off the second thread as we outgrew the first one.

Fingers crossed for you twolittlemonkeys xxx

more fingers crossed here too for you twolittlemonkeys :( :(

Worrying myself here and Dr Google not helping. Made myself a burger for dinner and it was fairly rare. I like rare meat and didn't think two jots about it... until I remembered what the doc said! AAAH! Now freaking myself out at toxoplamosis. Even though I have two cats and not worried about getting it from them. Help. Will my poor bean be ok???? The occasional rare beef didn't hurt anyone did it.... or the chorizo the other night???

WAH

Evening all,

FjordMor glad you ahve found a new best friend -that must really help. Hope the tiredness shifts.

twolittlemonkeys got everything crossed for you. I hope they manage to shift your scan - 2 days is a long time when you are worried. Although I would have thought EPU would see you tomorrow anyway. How bad is the bleeding?

Hehe I know it is hard but as someone else said - try and flip that stat to the odds of it not happening. They are much better.

I have a fasting blood test in the morning. The horror of making me fast when pregnant even for 2 hours seems bad enough. Hope I don't vomit on them as they take my blood....

Twolittlemonkeys - oh no! :( Try and stay positive honey - you know there have been lots of scares and happy endings so far on here. I think sod work unless you will find it anyway helpful or distracting in a good way. You need to take care of yourself xo

Fjordmor that is one epic journey you have to make! Do take it as easy as you can x

Kyyria sorry I missed you earlier in half-asleep state. I think we all have a feeling of unreality at this stage, especially if it's our first :) I know I do which is partly why we are having a private early scan on Sat. It won't guarantee anything but at least I will know if the Bean is there! Is that an option in a few weeks?

Feeling a bit with myself as my doze became an extended sleep! DH is away tonight with work. Plan was to have nap, make light dinner and go to my evening class (writing class). Instead I woke up at 7.30 in my PJ's having knocked alarm off. So making dinner and going to do some edits to at least feel like I've done something useful! :)

Zara I had chorizo, rare meat, parma ham, brie and plenty more besides when pregnant with DD and both of us lived to tell the tale. I am fairly sure the odd slip up is just fine.

Zara you will be fine. Apparently most cat owners contract toxoplasmosis during their time as owners so you are likely immune anyway. Your chances of getting it from meet are probably titchy! Bean will be fine :) Only thing I am enjoying is making DH do the litter tray :o

MidgetM good luck with the fasting

Thanks midget I know I am being stupid but Dr Google does not help. Arrrgh fasting test?!? Godspeed. I would barf all over them (if I could even drag myself out of bed without eating).

Fjordmor I'm sorry your mum was not very supportive, that's rotten. I've got a crap mum too (so crap I haven't spoken or seen her in years) so I know how unsupportive words can cut. But I am glad you've found a new friend, that's lovely! :) Very envious, wish I had someone older and wiser .

Angelico ohhh I sympathise with the sentiment of sleepiness. After horrifying myself with my rare steak I am now watching Next Generation re-runs recorded on the SkyBox. Works for hangovers and first trimester for making me feel better. :) Enjoy your evening!

Thanks angelico yeah sadly DH is going away for 2 weeks on Saturday so kitty litter tray is up to me again... here's me worrying about rare burgers when I've probably had it about 50 times with the furballs already. Gonna fashion myself a mask with a teatowel while I change the litter (wearing bright yellow kitchen gloves too).

Every day I find something new to worry about with pregnancy...... welcome to parenting, eh???

Fjordmor just read Zara's lovely post to you and realised in my semi-comatose state that I never even mentioned the thing your mother said which was OUTRAGEOUS! To use MN speak How very dare she?! Ditto delight at you having a new friend who can help. I am frantically trying to meet some new people in our area who are mums as we have no family here at all and friends I have here are either childless or have survived the horrors of babies older children / teens. Mumsnet has great forums but not that well known in NI - more people here seem to use Netmums for meetups.

Zara that sounds like an awesome night. Consider me jealous! Wish I hadn't run out of Sherlock to watch! :)

Zara funny you saying that about the worry thing - was thinking it the other day. My sis is pregnant and her BP rocketed during the week there, mum's nearly went mad in sympathy. Sister is 31! I just thought, "Oh Bean I have started worrying about you and it will never end, even when you are a grown up!" Looking forward to all the fun stuff in between though :o x

Angelico it reminds me of something I read in the MN pregnancy book "when they delivery the placenta, then they install the guilt". Yep my guilt is well and truly here already!

Zara Angelico Midgetm - thanks for the supportive words. I don't know what I expected really. She's gone from constantly making me feel guilty by saying about me (in front of me) to people 'Of course, I haven't been lucky enough to get grandchildren'. To making presumptious statements to her & Dad's doctors (I found out when she showed me a clinic letter) "...has a daughter but she has no children nor any intention of ever having any." (I've always wanted to have children more than anything but she never asks me anything about myself). I have a great & excited MIL however & a couple of great cousins (one of whom will come to my scan with me if DP is overseas). My mum just feels very sorry for herself so she can't share in anyone's joy unless it improves what she sees is her 'lot' dramatically. I'm sure I'll be made to feel guilty that I live abroad & she never gets to see her grandchild if I go full term.

twolittlemonkeys - fingers crossed for you. Sending positive vibes. Hope you can get seen tomorrow.

(wish MN would stop advertising Oats so Simple Chocolate to the right of this page - it's made me really fancy some & you can't get it in Norway )

Fjordmor if it's the same chocolate porridge stuff they just got MNers to try out, you're not missing anything, it's disgusting! Make yourself some regular porridge and add a spoon or two of hot chocolate powder if you fancy chocolate porridge - much nicer :)

Thank you ladies for the support. I had brown blood and CM in my pants, wiped and there was red blood. Put in a pad and just more brown stuff so far. Am desperately hoping there'll be no more fresh blood (apologies for TMI!)

Can't face work atm. The lady I help is menopausal and has been flooding since the new year. She is blind and has OCD and doesn't deal with her menstrual probs well so her assistants have to clean up all her blood soaked sheets/ clothes etc. Really can't bear the thought of that right now, but if I don't work Saturday, I lose out on £72. I guess we'll see....

Twolittlemonkeys keeping everything crossed for you x

Packing a bag here as away ON tomorrow as scan on Sat is v early. Can't stop yawning! Going to watch 'Our man in Ibiza' on Ch 4, have a cup of tea and go to bed. Prob won't be on computer tomorrow so sending you all a hug and will hopefully check in on Sat with good news re our bean. Hope everyone stays well! Special hug to nenehooo - hope you are feeling a bit better today :) xo

Angelico out :o x

:o hello everyone! I'm new on here! Recently had my first prenatal visit and found I was 7 weeks pregnant with my first child, and due October 17th! Very excited and anxious with the experience! Other then the sickness, Iv'e felt great! A friend of mine told me to try out the "intelligender" which worked for her, because I'm so anxious to find out the sex of my little one! Congradulations to all the mommy's out there! I wish you all a happy and healthy pregnancy and hope to get to know you as well!

Nearly 4am here.

Crap day at work yesterday, first patient in the afternoon was a pregnant girl (10 weeks) having a reasonably serious asthma attack, and kind of ignoring it because she was also having some bleeding which was all she wanted to talk about. I said nothing we do is going to affect the baby one way or another but we have to sort your breathing out, now. So I ended up nebulising her and sending her to hospital in an ambulance, all of which took a good 45 minutes. This is when I hate GP - I am pretty experienced in respiratory and have dealt with many, many patients much sicker than her in my time, but you just don't have the equipment in general practise. And in hospital you have nurses who can at least watch patients (and often be much more helpful than that) when you have done what you can for a sick person but still have 10000s more to see - in GP the only people spare are receptionists, and it's not appropriate to ask them to watch someone with an asthma attack in case she gets worse. Anyway the paramedics were grateful because I had done a full assessment and had initiated treatment which I suppose is more than they usually have to go on, but I still felt totally stupid because I could do everything that needed to be done and that would be done in the hospital but just don't have the - stuff. I like the hours of GP, but it's not for me.

So then I was running an hour late and all my other patients were stroppy about it even though I had told reception to tell them I was dealing with an emergency.

And then I saw another pregnant girl (again, 10 weeks) who was probably having a miscarriage (6 days red bleeding, cramps) who was either oblivious to this or in denial about it, that really upset me. I sent her for a scan. And after that I had to speak to one of the senior doctors about something, and ended up crying on him and telling him I was pregnant and exhausted and not coping dealing with the pregnant patients. He was nice, but I feel so guilty I am up at 4am writing this, and I have to get up at half 6 and go back to work. He said I should tell the other doctors too and that everyone would be supportive, but I don't know.

My crap days last year involved being called to cardiac arrests whilst dealing singlehandedly with heart attacks and clots on the lung at 3am with no senior doctors in the hospital, since when did ^that constitute a bad day. I feel like I've lost myself.

squidkid sending you a huge hug. I think the first trimester you do kind of loose yourself but I promise you get yourself back again. I cried watching bloody prisoners wives last night so dealing with what you had to would have done it for sure. I think you are being too hard on yourself. I don't need to tell you the amazing thugs your body is doing internally is exhausting - it is not easy to work and cope with a busy life at this stage. Could you just speak to the people who do yor rostas and try and get a bit more time off or is that impossible? Really feel for you but sometimes we can't always be superhuman. May as well except that now as motherhood teaches you that really early on! Chin up Dr squid x

Wow, this thred moves quickly! I went to bed at 8 pm last night so woke early this morning and thought I'd get up and see what was happening on the thread and it took me nearly an hour to catchup! You're all so wonderfully supporive, I don't check in enough to feel I've really connected but I hope it's ok that I check in now and then (?) as I find it really helpful. There's always someone out there feeling something similar.

And bettybat, that's awful, can you change your GP?

Welcome StephCoombs and congratulations!

(((SquidKid)))) what a day! Must be so hard dealing with pregnant women knowing you are pregnant yourself.

Happy Friday wrigle, I am also diping in and out and cant really post much at work but am lurking a lot and enjoying the supportive atmosphere.

Am just counting down days to my scan so I can tell my boss and stop pretending to my mates that I cant come to the pub cos Im too busy!

StephCoombs sorry posted the last message on my iphone so didn't see all the posts above. Welcome and congratulations.

Good Morning everyone.

Congratulations and welcome steph

squid hope today is better than yesterday

2lm really hope that everything is ok.

Angelico good luck for your scan tomorrow

fjord sorry your mum is being like that. Families eh! On the other hand I'm really pleased you managed to make a new friend.

midgetm good luck with the fasting.

heehee fingers crossed with those odds your little bean will be ok

Hello to everyone I've missed

Still feeling sick and having strange dreams. I dreamt I was a pirate and last night after dp and I did the deed I burst into tears very strange.

8 + 6 dc3

Morning Bluebell - Like you I am plagued by weird (and sometimes pervy dreams). Too scared to get any real sex at the moment but getting plenty in my slumber.

Twolittlemonkeys how are you this morning? What you are describing sounds more like spotting (I am having it too) and I found this link which may (or may not) be reassuring: humrep.oxfordjournals.org/content/18/9/1944.full

If you think it may be too much or upset you to read I pulled out the most important bit:

In conclusion, bleeding during the first 8 weeks of naturally‐conceived pregnancies seems to occur without clear physiologic cause. Most pregnancies with very early bleeding proceeded to a normal delivery and a healthy live birth.

Hope this helps put your mind at rest and let us know how you are getting on. I am almost deciding that mine is a good sign (ok I am a freak). As long as it is not lots of fresh red blood I try not to let it get to me. Easier said than done I know but it is self preservation.

I am no longer fasting praise the lord. Got to the hospital at 7.15am and there was an enormous line of poeple waiting.I got the pregnancy rage and seriously thought I was going to pass out with hunger. I wanted to run past them all saying 'I am pregnant, I am starving, make way for me old, sick people'. Had to wait over an hour and had red mist. Realised I was being an unreasonable hormonal cow though so kept my lunatic thoughts to myself.

squidkid man, that sucks. Such a huge amount of responsibility at a time when you have such a huge responsibility to yourself... A very hard balance. I know most of us (and I'm betting, you) look to our responsibilities to others first, and you're dng a great job with that. Is there any way you can fulfil your responsibilities to yourself too?

fjordmor that way you say 'narcissist' makes me suspect you have looked up the diagnostic criteria. I sure have. MIL, in my case. I'm sure a million drama queen wives have cried 'my MIL tried to ruin my wedding', probably less have the agreement of the entire guest list ;)

A LOT of the things you said are things I recognise. The unpredictablity, the obliviousness, I suspect if we chatted more we'd both find inexplicable, patternless behaviour in common too and an inability to recognise their own bad behaviour. Mine doesnt lie, but she says a lot of things that aren't true - she just re-writes reality to the point where she did nothing wrong and other people are wicked/persecuting her. It's hard (I find) to discuss with people who haven't seen it because if you haven't seen it, you expect individual people to act in a consistent way, or have reasons for the things they do, for there to be some kind of pattern - they keep bugging you for more details, trying to find the pattern - but no, no pattern. Just a big no-sense-making mess that does your head in.

sounds like you've found some good ways to deal with yours. I've got tea & sympathy when you need, might end up asking for the same back mind you ;)

Thank you for all your kind, positive thoughts. I'm feeling calmer this morning, no more spotting overnight. Thank you for the link midgetm your description of mad pregnant hungry lady made me grin. Been there - I was miserable when fasting for my GTT in my first pregnancy.

The private clinic haven't got back to me about shifting my appointment but I have an appointment with the GP just after 10am to (hopefully) be referred to the EPU at the Infirmary. Fingers crossed they can see me today, ideally this morning so I can still go for lunch with my friends. I think I need that to take my mind off things. Will probably spill the beans to them. If I can't get a scan, I guess I may as well just wait til my booked appointment on Wednesday, as nothing seems to ever get done over the weekend.

Hello everyone,

twolittlemonkeys -hope you re ok this morning, brown blood though like Midgetm said might be completely normal, it seems to happen to lots of women who go on to have perfectly normal pregnancies, fingers crossed for you anyway. How many weeks are you?

missbone- hope you come back soon xxx

I ve had a weird pinching pain in my middle abdomen all night and its still there this morning, trying not to panic about ectopic pregnancies, my shoulder pain has disappeared so thats a good sign. Maybe its just bowel pain or everything stretching and shifting around?

Hope everyone has a good day.

7 weeks 6 days, 2 nd pregnancy