Due in October 2012 Part 2

[YompingJo]

Kicking off the second thread as we outgrew the first one.

Haggis that's great news! Very reassuring. Congrats.

Can someone give me a slap? I've just told two good friends about the PG (am 10+3, had a scan at 9+5 which showed while we'd sadly lost one twin, happily one twin was fine and exactly as should be) and I am now really freaking out that I shouldn't have said anything before 12 weeks and I'm tempting fate and now something will go wrong.

Gah! I am even annoying myself at the moment with my changes from weeping willow, to crazy angry lady, to paranoia queen. Anyone else all over the shop today?!

So you know how you're not meant to eat packaged salads??? Errr does that include the nice M&S ones or just eg bags of lettuce leaves from the supermarket? Really really craving one of those superfood M&S ones for lunch....

Ahhhhhhh..... after weeks of scoffing anything and everything, I've worked out what it is I am now addicted to craving.... Subway sandwiches. I have been having some weird filling/sauce combos and they are all delicious. I can't afford to finance a sub habit though - any ideas for alternatives?

Sorry to hear that MissBone - I was surprised by the random messages. IMHO this thread is for people due in October to share thoughts, feelings, tips etc with other people in the same situation, going through the same thing, who can relate and empathise.

missbone come back soon! You are hilarious which really helps while I have MS!

Thanks beans I'll probably feel reassured for about 12 hours... And then worry till the 12 week scan!

missbone hope you come back soon and we can all get back to the business of fretting about symptoms, pooing, not fitting into our clothes etc. We'll miss you in the meantime but appreciate if you feel the need to take a break from the site.

twolittlemonkeys can you do a homemade version that's cheaper?

zara did you risk the salad? I would imagine the posh ones are ok!

How are we all today? I am sooo tired and wish I could mainline strong filter coffee like I usually do. Remember this from first time round - you feel so tired and nauseous but cant moan at work to your mates because no one knows you are pregnant.

On spotting, I had loads of spotting in my first pregnancy (so much so i thought I'd miscarried). They examined me in hospital and said it was just a bit of the lining of my cervix sticking out of the neck of my cervix. I had regular spotting throughout my first trimester which was really stressful. If it happens to you, dont despair, go and get it checked out but chances are baby is fine!

LOL no I didn't in the end haggis. Partially out of worry and more out of hunger/laziness that it'd be a 5 min bike ride/10 min walk to M&S from where I work.

Went to the nice Polish deli by my work instead and got a vegetarian wrap and some mushroom soup mmmmmmm.

Yeah I reckon the posh salads are surely fine?? Can you imagine the uproar if the pregnant middle classes couldn't eat their M&S lol lol

.... but I'm still hungry too!!

I'm a ravenous beast at the moment...!

Hello. I've been so busy with DD's second birthday that I've had no time o get on here. I'm at work, having struggled to find anything that would fit (so bloated!), and really feel the need to roll on the floor to relieve the pressure in my stomach. Do you think people would give me funny looks?!

We were told this morning that a child in the school has shingles, and anyone pregnant should contact their doctor. Eek! Panic over though - apparently it's only a problem if you haven't had chickenpox.

So, I'm 7+2 according to dates, but probably a bit less. Going to the docs tomorrow to make it all official :)

missbone my last post wasn't meant to be directed at you not being able to take opinions...I just reread and thought you might have thought I meant that. I just meant people shouldn't be being mean to you because theydont want to listen to others points of view...

Afternoon!! So nice to see the humour & some positive vibes today,although very sorry to see Missbone feels like there are spies in the camp! Shouldnt be allowed so am glad relevant people have been reported.
In unrelated news thankfully my cramps have eased however I cannot stop eating I wont even divulge what I've inhaled so far today lol

Have to go back off to work soon just hope I dont stab myself while trying desperately not to fall asleep standing up!!!

Have never felt as rough as I do this afternoon...banging headache, nausea (with gagging) and stomach cramps. Feel like I'm turning inside out :(

So pleased I've got a day off work - taken today off as annual leave and have done nothing but sit on the sofa and watch tv.

Kyyria Sorry you are feeling so rough. I am not too terrific today either but managing to work and also managed to not fart in pilates. You are a lucky cow being on the sofa.

Re your earlier post you may as well tell your DH to move out if you were already like living with a pregnant me, that is going to magnified 10 fold. poor man.

Hi all.
Kyyria hope you feel better soon. It's horrible when you have a bad day.

I feel a bit down this afternoon. I have been with DH to see a genetic counsellor this afternoon as he has an uncle with a disease that could be passed on. The news wasn't particularly bad - the risk is about 1/500 but all the talk of everything that could go wrong has left me feeling a bit confused and deflated. There is no way to tell for sure that the baby will be affected and if there were to test we wouldn't know results until about 25 weeks. I could be tested to see if I am a carrier (1 in 60 chance) but the counsellor said this is not necessarily a good idea as it would stop me enjoying the pregnancy. I'm not overly worried about the risks so probably won't test but I still feel a bit down. Just wanted to get it all out :(

Hello all! Back to work today and very tired - totally lulled into a false sense of security while I was off. Going to have a little nap in a minute I think. Certainly not tearful today but did have a much shorter fuse than usual with kids who did ridiculous things.

Bubblebell so pleased about your scan :) Our private one is Sat when I will be 9+1 (all being well) - have mixed feelings about it really!

Chrissie - happy anniversary!

Zoe sorry you are feeling low - you know it will pass. Virtual hug x

MidgetM it did take me 2 good strong mugs of the hot water and lemon but hope the gel stuff helps.

Missbone hope you feel better soon and come back when you feel able to.

Hello to everyone else, sorry just too tired to say hi to everyone! Naptime for Angelico! :o x

HeeHee cross posted. Can totally understand why any talk of the negatives is deflating but at least you know the odds are really in your favour and that is brilliant news :) x

Kyyria sorry you feel so rough. I have been having horrible stomach cramps all afternoon - it's making me edgy and worried, which is annoying as up til now I think I've done a fairly good job of chilling out and not panicking that every twinge is a sign of imminent miscarriage.

HHHB try to turn the stat around - there's a 499/500 chance that your baby will not have it - those are very good odds :) I really worry that this DC will be autistic (DS1 is, DS2 is not) as there is definitely a link and lots of families I know with one autistic child go on to have more children diagnosed with it. I am desperately hoping for a NT child to balance out our family more (sounds terrible I know, but DS1 is such hard work, and it is hard getting DS2 to understand that we expect more of him in terms of behaviour etc than his older brother)

BTW, the bagged salad thing is due to it not being washed as thoroughly as you would normally wash salad at home, so if you stick your bag of salad in a colander or salad spinner (very 80s, anyone still have one of those?) and rinse well, it should be fine.

I won't be around much over the weekend - meeting friends for lunch tomorrow (will be hard to keep schtum), DS1's birthday party Saturday, working Saturday night, my usual manically busy Sunday - I really want the next few days til my scan to pass quickly but haven't got the energy for everything I have to face over the weekend.

Thanks Angelico and twolittlemonkeys. I guess all the talk of diseases is what has made me feel this way. They also wanted to talk about our risk of inherited cancer as I mentioned my mum had had it and so had DH's dad. I didn't expect this to be an issue at all so it shocked me a little. twolittlemonkeysIt doesn't sound terrible to say that at all. I have no experience of Autism, it must be difficult. I hope it all works out for you.
I am the proud owner of a salad spinner :)

Thanks twolittlemonkeys - nice to know it's not just me that panics about the twinges.

Have got DH's parents visiting for the weekend - coming up tomorrow afternoon and going home Sunday lunchtime. We're not telling any parents until we've had the first scan. Am planning on spending the weekend telling them I can't drink because I'm on antibiotics but not quite sure how I'm going to hide the nausea/feeling crappy in the afternoons.

Heehee I understand, we have a similar thing only this time I'm second time round. We did the genetic counselling last time and found our chances were 1 in 25. It did make my pregnancy difficult. I suppose this time round I'm just used to the knowledge now. Try not to fret, what will be will be xxx

Dydd Gwyl Dewi Hapus all . Sorry for quietness of late. Had a good day out yesterday :) Have found a new expat friend here in Norway with an 18 month old who has taken me under her wing & is giving me loads of stuff & advice which is great! Any support is great in my book as I have a crap mum and no sisters so it meant a lot. Told my mum over Skype video yesterday and she barely raised an eyelid despite apparently having always wanted grandchildren (& I'm an only child). She just said "Hmphh! Well you'll probably have a miscarriage. I did with my first pregnancy, at 13 weeks." Thanks for your support & joy mum (not) . Still, she is 80 & a narcissist so I guess I wasn't expecting much. My dad would have been so thrilled...

Today I just feel tired and hungry all the time despite having a good night's sleep with no hip pain thanks to the body pillow my new friend lent me :) and to cap it all, I'm just craving really bland things: brown rolls with super-mild Norwegian cheese & mayo in them (although I'm thinking of adding in chopped gherkin just to live a little...). Nothing else. I'm boring myself! I've been watching a French cooking programme all afternoon & still not moved to gastronomy!

Midgetm - I know it sounds weird, but I suffer with my sinuses a lot, and I swear by putting a drop of fresh lemon juice up each nostril. Squeeze it straight in. Is a bit weird but has helped me so many times.

Angelico - glad the cold's a bit better. Feel for you as I'm fighting constant naps without even being at work .

missbone - do come back soon. They don't know where you live or your private email address or anything. Anyone can lurk in any thread. Please don't let this stop you interacting with us.

Heeheeheebum that is good odds but any possible risk is always a worry. The thing I'm most concerned about (being 41) I must admit is Downs Syndrome. Can't get that one out of my head yet. And the odds for that at my age is 1 in 100. Try not to think about it too much x

Hope everyone else is doing good :). I feel like the last person to the party with midwives, doctors & scans but hey, first I've got to get through a 4 day drive across Europe alone so I guess that's more on my mind :-\

Uh oh... I've started bleeding :( Got hold of someone at the maternity unit who was lovely and sympathetic but said that I have to be referred by GP to be seen by the EPU. So I guess I'll be on the phone first thing in the morning :( :( :(

I also phoned the private clinic where I'd booked my early scan just in case they can shift it forward to tomorrow in order to put an end to the suspense. Apparently she will call me back later this evening. I was so looking forward to seeing friends tomorrow for lunch but just won't be able to face it with this hanging over me. Regardless of the outcome I'm going to have to put on a brave face for the weekend - DS1's party. May phone my boss to say I can't work, but I feel bad letting people down, especially as I only work once a fortnight for her.