September 2012 anyone?

[ViolaCrayola]

Is there anyone around who has just found out that they are pregnant and are due in Sept?
I know it's very early days but I thought maybe I could get the ball rolling...
I'm due around Sept 4th I think, with DC2, feeling very happy if a bit nervous :)

Hi, we're neighbours! I'm living in your neck of the woods too.

whatevertheweather I think based on my last AF day some due date calculators calculated 5/9 (i think that assumes 28 days cycle and ov at day 14) but as I use Fertility Friend for temperature charting, based on my temperatures FF thinks I ov on day 22... Hence the difference. My cycle is always around 32-36 days so I think ov at day 12 sounds more believable. Any how surely this is just an estimate and the doctor / MW will say something more accurate and the baby will probably decide to come out on a completely different day!

looopy you are right I shouldn't spend more money on sticks LOL. I haven't taken any med nor had any treatment so as you said the HCG are due to me being pregnant still can't really believe it though!

Will hopefully be seeing GP tmr after work... What normally happens at this appointment? Does the GP just fill in a form and refer you to a MW and does he/she do any other check? I'm going away in early February, I hope to have a scan before I go away so I know the baby has implanted at the right place!

Not really in the mood to do any work, I just wanna read more info about pregnancy! (and I'm so sleepy as well...)

macaroons if your GP is anything like mine, there is very little that happens at that first appt. It was quite a disappointment as i was all excited when pregoo with DS and sort of hoped she might share in my excitement!! She just told me about folic acid as if i didn't know already, asked me when my last period started and then told me a due date (and i agree with whoever it was who said your due date will be earlier - they will prob tell you the 5th Sept). She then said she'd get a midwife to call me to arrange the booking in appointment, which was at 10 weeks. I doubt you will get a scan until about 19th Feb unless they do things early where you are. Here it is 12 weeks to the day or slightly later, we get nuchal fold included so its crucial they do it at the right stage of gestation. I also believe i ovulated quite late so i don't think i am as far along as a typical cycle would be, so like with my DS, i am expecting them to adjust the due date as a result of the 12 week scan, but am also half expecting to have to go back for a second 12 week scan, as i think it will be too early for the nuchal when they think i am 12 weeks. But there is no arguing with my doctor, she will based it on lmp until a scan says otherwise.

Hi ladies hope you are all feeling ok today - I had a horrid upset stomach last night and I have felt nauseous all day for the first time. Hard to tell whether its morning sickness kicking in or something else....could only face a baked potato with butter for lunch and that was hard.

Interesting to hear people on DC2+ are having cramps/stretchy pains a bit more this time round, I certainly feel that too - and I had a c-section with DS so I wonder whether that makes it worse (I dread to think why that would actually be though - turns my stomach thinking what they actually did in there )

Just got midwife appointment through and it is next week, which is much sooner than I thought it would be but I guess this is because I am not sure of my dates. My last AF was on 19th November although I am pretty sure I ovulated somewhere between CD21 and 28. I really can't remember what happens at this appointment can anyone enlighten me? Will they do bloods etc?

I am currently waiting for a date for the early dating scan, I expect this will be after the midwife appointment which isn't all that helpful really

anyone live near woodford essex and due sept? i am and am worried about local hospitals! help!

I remember being massively underwhelmed when I went to see the doc with DD. I font know what I expected, a fan fare, or fireworks or something , but she just said if you've done a test and it's positive, then you are pg. Bit of advice on folic acid etc and that was it. Fo have given all that a miss this time and gone straight for mw booking. As I recall they take bloods and urine and ask you loads of questions.

I'm glad I was not the only one underwhelmed with the GP. Had my appointment yesterday and was really disappointed! Not sure what I expected but a smile would have been nice!

My DH even took the afternoon off work last time to go with me, so we were both pretty disappointed when it was such a non-event!

GP here doesn't do much. I have just booked my appointment for next thursday. Just gives us our blue notes tells us to take flic acid and eat sensibly and thats it. I have no recollection of the appointment when I had DS1 but it was vastly underwhelming 2nd and 3rd time. I wanted to bypass it this time but pretty sure the MW would tell me off if I did.

whatevertheweather are you not still on maternity leave? You should be entitled to the full 9months SMP. Although if you work full time this is probably much less than your wages.

Definite sudden attack of first time pregnancy nerves over here for me. This morning woke up in a cold sweat - I have been thrilled and walking on air for the last two days since I got my BFPO, but this morning I was freaking out - makes me feel very guilty, but I am quite nervous,. I thought I would just stay blissful for 9 months! I have written about it here [url]www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1376700-Really-hoping-for-some-positive-input[url]

... and lots of lovely people replied and said feeling like that is quite normal. They also encouraged me to write on the Sept 2012 board since they said other people would be nervous and excited alternately as well, so I am creeping on to ask if that is even slightly true for anybody else here? (Or am I just a complete weirdo? :) )

Queenrollo and Eyes I am so sorry. I hope you are both doing as OK as possible. :(

Spuddy yikes, your poor eye! Are you doing ok? it sounds like they know what to do to fix it though? I do hope so. XXX

ViolaCrayon I echio your mood swings. Personally I was radiantly happy yesterday and today feel like I am in treacle :) (I suppose being in treacle might be good, but I am not enjoying it!) How are you feeling now? Is anything helping your mood swings? If so I will try to copy you!

Congrats Custard! You are a pro and experienced! I envy this - I hope you will give firsttimers like me advice :)

Trillian is the spotting going okay? When I phoned GP to make my first appointment they told me a triage emergency number to call for any queries like that - the books all seem to say it can be quite normal to have some bleeding but apparently the emergency people can check it out for you and be quite reassuring....

ALso Trillian, I am a teacher too, and I agree it could be a relief to get back to work - may help me freak out less about how clueless I am :) What do you teach? (Unless that is personal - if so, please ignore - I am new to forum protocols)

Ethelred I am impressed with your deviousness. At least a good news year not drinking resolution makes more sense in January as a stealth tactic :) Hooray for January BFP with that in mind :D

Amandine gosh, it is a relief to hear you have insomnia - I can't seem to get back to sleep! I thought trimester 1 we were all supposed to be walking around in a blissful sleepy haze! (I could protest - been robbed of my haze, dammit! :))

Re GP: mine didn't even call me in for an appointment! I phoned up and they said, 'Ah, just phone 'The Midwives'' (like they are a Borg collective or something), and the person on the other end of the line was an administrator who booked my 8 week appointment and my 12 week scan, and that was it! A bit anti climactic ;)

it is interesting how it varies around the country. I am in Scotland - any other Scotland here?

Yup your first appt is very anti climatic. Same as Ethelred dp took day off for first m/w appt with dd1. With dd2 he just came to 12 and 20 week scans never any midwife appts.

I would have been entitled to full mat leave Rightontime but I stupidly came off it in December and have been using up annual leave. I think I would have been okay to go back but I am totally thrown again now. Dd1 is nearly 5 and started primary school in Sept so I do feel a bit of a fraud not being at work. I've got a GP's appt tomorrow so will ask his opinion. Feel so guilty that I'll be on mat leave again in a few months (fx if all goes well).

Wintermymble I think your feelings are totally normal. I remember having the same with dd1. Although I wasn't that young (24) when I fell pregnant with her I was the first of my friends and I really wondered how I was going to cope and if it was all a huge mistake. But honestly I have loved being a mother. Sure there are rubbishy bits but the good bits (newborn snuggles anyone?!) make it all so so worthwhile. It's totally natural to panic about such a big change but if you do start feeling really overwhelmed do talk to your midwife (and us!)

Went to see Midwife yesterday, I've only just reached 6 weeks and she has booked me in for a reassurance scan tomorrow. I have quite long cycles so think I am probably actually more like 5 weeks and am terrified that far from being reassured I'm not going to see anything. Has anyone else had a scan this early? I didn't want to turn it down as I do want to know but am now getting more and more worried!

Dear ladies, thanks all for the heads up of what to expect at a GP appointment. I won't get too excited then!

Im so sleepy these days but when I go to bed, I can't fall asleep straight away because of minor stomach discomfort!

Whatevertheweather that newborn snuggles thing sounds rather amazing. Do they sleep on you? I sort of think o f them as like china dolls... Scared i would drop or not hold right! I can't quite get my head around it actually happening! Am finding it very hard to visualise the baby..l but i guess it is early days and maybe that gets easier with time as it passes?

Caitycat that happened to me with DS, I was referred for an early scan due to pain in right hand side but as I must have ovulated later than the standard day 14 it was too early to see anything. They were very nice about it though just said it was most likely to be because everything was so tiny and the EPU booked me in for another scan the following week (when we saw a tiny kidney bean shaped thing with a heartbeat ). I would just go along to the scan bearing in mind that it may be too early to see anything then they should book you in for another if you need it.

I've been reading everyone feelings with interest!

I dont know how I feel, Ive wanted it so long now Im apparently pregnant but other than tired and a little sickly now and again I feel no different.

I keep forgetting I am then remembering again which is nice :) Have told family because they ask me regularly and I go red when I lie so have been upfront but said the full "early days so dont get too happy" kind of thing. They are all massively excited which is nice. DP is over the moon in his own quiet way and we have had some exciting talks about everything......

everything except how I will feel during pregnancy, how I will feel during labour. What will happen etc.

I seem to have an inability to discuss the pregnancy or birth and only will discuss "when its here" :) I call this Ostrich Syndrome.

Is anyone else absolutely shitting themselves to put it mildly?
Ironically my second question is should i already be constipated at 5 weeks because my body seems to have slowed right down, i am blaming going from 15 cups of coffee a day to none.

congrats everyone !!

Thanks Poppyjen, I'll hope for the best there's something to see but if not maybe I'll have some good news next week!

whatevertheweather Ah it is a bit tricky being of work with no baby isn't it. The amount I get in maternity allowance is more than I would get working so I would have been stupid to go back to work and get less money. I don't think you can go back on mat leave now if you have already come off it but maybe your GP can suggest something.

Wintermymble I was terrified with my first but that might have had something to do with it being unplanned and I had split up with the Dad a week before I found out i was pregnant. Although it is probably normal anyway. I do remember being blissfully pregnant, obviously knowing that I would have to give birth but about a week before I was due the realisation hit and I was OMG I actually have to get this baby out, it is actually going to happen and therebis no going back now. In the end I had a CS but still had the labour first lol.

signet yes that is normal. I have had it creeping up for a few days but a complete PITA (excuse the pun) today with constipation. I have not really found anything that helps naturally except patience. Some people suggest ptunes, prune juice and any tinned fruit in syrup. I have tried prune juice because I would be able to stomach the taste but dried prunes did nothing. Sorry.

signet I think that is pretty normal. Everyones different, but I quite liked being pregnant and even though I ended up having a bit of a time of it in labour ( assisted delivery and then retained placenta and PPH) I honestly said the day after that it wouldn't put me off having another. (Now looking bAck, I think I may have been a little rash!!?! ) but honestly, it is great being a mum. It's bloody knackering and sometimes makes you want to scream at the top of your voice, but is also amazing and to my mind (only speaking with two years experience, probably WON'T be saying this when she's a teenager) it gets better and better as they get older.

Wintermymble oh yes sleepy babies is the best. And when they look at you with absolute trust . I also had no clue about newborns and remember when everyone including dp had gone home and I was in the hospital with dd just looking at her in her plastic cot and thinking 'what the hell am I supposed to do now?! Why have they all left me in sole charge of this baby?!' But we figured it out and you quickly get used to how to handle them.

Like Ethelred I remember thinking the day after labour with dd1 'yeah I could do that again'. Even after my emcs with dd2 and the horrendous outcome here I am again so it really must all be worth it.

Whatevertheweather your reply cheered me up no end. This newborn snuggling thing sounds very worthwhile! I am a bit scared of the expression of absolute trust though - I am so clueless I fear it may be misplaced! But your post has comforted me a lot.

I loved what you said here too: 'what the hell am I supposed to do now?! Why have they all left me in sole charge of this baby?!'

I am hoping antenatal classes might clear up some of the mysteries!

When do antenatal classes start usually, anyone know? We are so early on. Wow. I must say it is totally amazing thinking we are all charging along this path at the same time and same position roughly.

WinterMymble I signed up to NCT classes just after my 12 week scan but they didn't actually start until I was about 32 weeks. They were incredibly oversubscribed where I lived hence the need for early registration. I also did hypnobirthing classes which I started at around 24 weeks - they recommend you start these early so you have chance to practice what they teach you.

I don't know about the NHS classes as I didn't do those.

One thing I would say is that ante-natal classes concentrate mainly on labour and birth with shockingly little about the days, weeks and months afterwards! I think we all feel completely a little all at sea when left alone with our newborn for the first time but just know that in very little time you will be a pro