Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads part 9

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New thread!

afternoon ladies,

wiw i haven't had mine yet, but i do know that i can't eat or drink from 9 the night before.

dach sorry again it wasn't the number you wanted, but fx they're the best 3 ever.

owl fx baby starts moving soon.

lara glad you're feeling a bit better.

bigmac sorry you're getting so much all at once, fx it's all sorted soon.

i'm sure there was something else i needed to say but my mind has gone completely blank. So appologies if i've missed someone out.

Hello, can I join your thread?

Sorry I haven't read all the messages up til now - I thought I'd just plunge in. And apologies for long post. I'm feeling quite anxious today.

I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks in Jan 2010. It's taken til now to get pregnant again (so have spent a while on the conception thread!). I'm now almost 10 weeks pregnant. (We have a DD who is 3). We paid for a scan at 8 weeks (NHS wouldn't give us one) and saw a heartbeat. Consultant said measurements were bang on for our dates and was very reassuring about the likelihood of things being fine.

Up til then I was convinced I wasn't really pregnant. After the scan, I felt cautiously optimistic.

But in the last few days I just can't shake the feeling that it's all going to go wrong.

We've got a nuchal fold scan booked for Sept 1st when I'll be 12 weeks + a bit but that feels AGES away. I am started to convince myself that we'll get to that scan and find no heartbeat and no baby.

I've even been on the miscarriage thread reading about women who have seen heartbeats at early scans and gone on to miscarry. Not sure why I'm doing that since it's just torturing myself.

Can only think that it's because we're coming up to the same point we got to last time, and coincidentally, DH is going away with DH for a week, which happened last time at 10 weeks. They had to come back early when I started to miscarry.

I just wish I could get to the 12 week scan and see everything is okay and start to relax.

Any advice or thoughts?
TIA
xx

ElmMum hello! Congratulations on your bfp! Getting pg again after mc is HUGELY stressful, so please be reassured that any freaking out you are doing, be that stalking the mc threads, knicker checking for blood every 5 mins, obsessing about symptoms and pains or lack there of... have all be done a hundred fold by all of us on here! (by the way lurking in the mc threads is the WORST possible thing to do - which I was guilty of...and still do sometimes)! Just remember that peopke collect on there bcs they have been through something terrible and need support, and it's not the experience of most peoples pg. Also, you have now seen a healthy hb at 8 weeks which means that you have a 98% of a viable pregnancy see here

You might find this thread helpful. It's full of people who are newly pg after mc, going through the same fears and anxieties as you. It's where most of us on here started off, and personally i dont know how i'd have gotten through the first 14 weeks or so without it. Feel free to stay on here though too. Xxx

will do a proper post later x

Elmmum, welcome and congratulations on your BFP. Your fears are totally normal. Lots of us were on that freak out thread and were, well, freaking out as Collie said. The first trimester seems very hard and long when you're pg after a mis. Hang on in there and take it day by day.

Dachs shame it isn't more but as Cep says, it will be the best 3 ever.

Dooscooby glad the rioters didn't get your area. My friends in Crouch End where we used to live said they've been boarding shops up there too. Glad we made the move to Scotland now.

We're really busy here at the moment. The Edinburgh Festival means we've got lots of B&B guests which is great but I'm totally knackered. I got a phone call from the midwife yesterday saying I'm anaemic so I've been chasing a prescription all day today for iron. I told MW I'd get some floradix or Spatone but she insisted the GP give me a prescription. I'm so glad she rang because it explains why I'm like the walking dead. My hips and pelvis are beginning to give me trouble too. I dread the onset of SPD, I've got friends who've had it but I was fine last time with DS so was expecting to get away with it this time. I'll stop moaning now, at least I've not got weird hormonal emotions and I'm not crying and arguing, I think I'm too tired to tbh.

Wave to everyone and a promise to namecheck better next post.

Ladies, ladies... can I just say how much reading this thread now I'm home has cheered me up. Very supportive and so, so funny... daisy and lara you have made me piss myself laughing Thanks everyone... and btw lara mine is bumhole rather than cheek. FFS!

Welcome elmmum and congratulations on your BFP! I'd echo collie about the freakout thread... a real life saver and it would be lovely to see you on here too.

WiW haven't had my glucose test yet either so no idea... and hurrah on sneaky scan :)

Lara congratulations on the new nephew... lovely news.

owl i appreciate your dedication to the bumhole cause, but please don't cause yourself discomfort on my behalf! I'd hate to think of you being caught short during a sweep :)

dachs Paddington station sounds like reason enough to gorge on trash mags and buy up Accessorise while you're waiting..

daisy pelvic floor tips please...

ps irenesorry to hear about anaemia but glad it's been caught by the MW, hopefully you'll feel much better soon

Hi all, sorry have been AWOL.

Welcome elmMum I don't have much to add to what the others have said except constant mentalling and knicker checking is completely normal! And although it is v. v. hard to resist, try and stay well clear of pregnancy loss threads, they will make the mentalling x100 worse. I know it's an expensive bit of reassurance but maybe having another scan at just past 10 weeks would be reassuring?

I have got some pelvic floor exercise tips from my MW - details below. I think they are all supposed to work your muscles differently but I'm not sure I'm doing them right as I can't tell any difference between them. I'm also worried I'm not doing them often enough but it's hard to remember....

Exercise 1: Tampon
Imagine that your tampon is about to fall out. Tighten the entrance to the vagina and imagine you're trying to pull it back inside you.

Exercise 2: Flower
Imagine that your pelvic floor muscles are a flower. Open and close the petals on your flower.

Exercise 3: Suitcase
Imagine you have a zip that runs from your back passage to your urethra. Your pelvic floor is like a bulging suitcase - starting from the back, use your muscles to pull the zipper towards the front.

I find number 3 the most useful I think. I do general clenching too - not sure whether that actually does anything......

Hope everyone's ok. Special thoughts with dachs tonight, hope you're managing to relax somehow. All the best for tomorrow morning, am keeping everything crossed for 3 amazing embies.

I was reading AIBU earlier, and there was one particular MNer that had had all of her posts on this particular thread deleted by MN. When I did a bit of stalking, I discovered that she's posted about 20 times today, and had all of them deleted by MN!! Not sure whether to be impressed or appalled! That really is going some!

Mini magnums all round mmmm xx

Oh irene is it worth doing spatone as well, or does that mean you end up overdosing? Glad it's getting sorted out - it was found that I was mildly anaemic and since I've been on the spatone I've been feeling heaps better

Sorry everyone else for pathetic lack of catch-up from me - promise I will try harder to keep up!

Pink I'll be doing red meat, beans, broccoli, vitamin c, dried fruits and ferrous sulphate. I'm just so glad that there seems to be a reason for feeling this shitty and I might not have to feel this way forever. I thought it was due to sleep deprivation because general bump discomfort. Was envisaging being a zombie for the next year or so, remembering how rubbish DS was at sleeping when he was a baby. I'm not saying I won't still have that problem, but I might be able to walk upstairs without feeling exhausted.

Sending lots of virtual hugs to dachs this morn-wish we could all rock up at paddington and keep you company!

I'm reading the bumhole talk with interest, am I ok to confess I think I might have a tiny bit of an issue with hair down there anyway, so the thought that this might increase is rather scary! While I'm at it, I've also got slightly wonky lady bits, do perhaps I can blame both of these things on pg afterwards and make myself feel less freaky?! Or perhaps childbirth will even out the wonk of my bits?! Right, now I'm worried you'll all giving me weird virtual looks!

For those that asked, I'm in SE London. The boarding up seemed entirely a precaution which is a relief, but it was a sorry sight for tourists and visitors yesterday morning, especially in the sunshine!

Quick post to say good luck to dachs this morning, I'm thinking of you and hoping there's at least one embry that's good enough!

Sending hugs to Dachs too, and lots of positive vibes.

Am on phone so will properly catch up in a bit - am off to face the jinx pixies today - buying nursery stuff from Ikea - have to choose between the bright cars or the new range, comedy vegetables. Am currently tempted by the vegetables...

Dachs thinking of you, Mr Dachs and your 3 embies x

Good luck dachs xxx

Morning all!

No action here, sorry. MW is going for a rummage later so hopefully that may provoke something.

Elmmum the first 12 weeks go on forever, don't they? If you've seen a heartbeat at 8 weeks you're in a really good, strong position and there is every chance that things are going to be fine. I would tell you to try not to stress about it but I know it doesn't work like that as I spent the first 12 weeks hardly able to breathe in case something happened - it does get better. I promise you. Feeling like it's all going to go wrong is par for the course but the odds are massively stacked in your favour. STEP AWAY FROM THE MISCARRIAGE THREADS. :)

Dachs am thinking of you this morning and hoping all is going well xx

Irene Depends how you get on with the tablets but it's worth finding out what your iron levels actually are if you can - mine dipped to 10.3 but I have managed to resurrect them by eating one ferrous fumarate every other day plus a spatone sachet, and two spatone sachets on the days I didn't take the pill. They're now 11+ after two months doing that but if you can stomach the tablets I'd take those - my problem was that they gave me stomach cramps and made me feel like I was going to be sick!

Right; am off to pogo up and down the stairs.

Good luck Dachs!

Rushing off to see sis so will post later (another working from home day of course).

Good luck dachs and owl thinking of you both today xoxoxo

Ok. Two embies left - one is grade 1+ (same as the twins) and one is slightly worse (grade 2+). Worse embie not good enough quality to freeze. Now have dilemma - put both back or just the good'un? Thrilled to have at least one good one but wish there was either one or three, and that the embie was freezable.

dachs just seen your post - at the risk of being a dumbass and because I have little/no knowledge giving you duff advice, I would say put both back ( I'm assuming that's into you, rather than into something else??)... Delighted to hear this news today

yay Dachs for 2 good embies, sorry that it leaves you with yet another tough decision.

snorted my mocha at the thought of a heavily pg owl pongoing up the stairs!

Daisy good luck with the nursery shopping - I'm liking the sound of the vegetables! And don't worry about the jinx pixies - I've trained my dog to eat them so they are almost extinct now I reckon.

Stupidly gave DH another name to call me this morning (he already calls me Porkatron, Karl Porkington and other fat related combinations). I said I look like an egg. He said eggs don't have legs. I said Humpty Dumpty does. He said that's the perfect name for me because I do look like an egg and I've always got the hump!

Dachs I'm afraid I have absolutely no clue about this, but I just wanted to send you a big hug and lots of support. Do you have a gut feeling either way? I'm sorry for this being useless but I will be thinking of you lots today x

thanks for the pelvic floor tips daisy Enjoy shopping

doo wonky fanjo is completely normal - like lara i have no idea how mine is now as we haven't seen each other for weeks now :)

owl good lick with rummage

GAH! good LUCK with rummage, good LUCK with rummage!!

And actually its Pink's fanjo that is a flower, mine has the ping pong balls

And on that charming note, I'm off to print the Ikea shopping list...