Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads continued part 8

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new thread!!

saltyair welcome and congratulations - I'd echo what some of the others have said and also say how useful I found this thread and the Freakout room. A really fantastic support network. As blackkat says - here's to a boring 8 months for you.

Lara definitely do not google mayfair fanjo's. Apologies for crude humour causing potential dismissals at work . I keep doing 'me-too's' with you. I also have a hairy belly. Very light hairs but lots of them. I still haven't found out what team the happymeal is but i read on MN somewhere that a hairy belly means a boy. Which, as you are Team Blue means ...it must be true!

I'm also trying to work out what to do about ML - I only get statuatory pay so need to plan it out to make sure I get the most out of it. Someone asked about Bank holidays... you most def do accrue them

I've already been replaced recruited my maternity cover. One of my team at work (who is eyeing up my chair). I have a new boss who had a dicreet freak out when I broke the news about my BFP. Easier to go along with the recruitment than not, even though I also have felt v nervous in case something goes wrong. Blackkat I was on the interview panel for mine.

Harrassed so sorry to hear that you are feeling grotty.

My sister has let slip that my mum has a special bag in the spare room of her house full of baby clothes for me. Loose lips sink ships MotherBigMac...

I'm going to be sneaking glances down my top for signs of leakage now. All dry on the F Cup front here.

Daisy am i right in thinking from my lurking days that you are an expert knitter? Did you post links to some fab patterns a few 100 posts ago? A volunteer at work has offered to knit me some bits and bobs and it would be lovely to get some inspiration.

ps Ladybird are you lurking on here? I just went to check out the FO room and saw that dooscooby had set up a new page as the old one was full. Couldn't see you on there and just wanted to say hi and check all was ok with you and the beans.

Just popping in to check on news from our ladies at the top tis V exciting...
should we take bets? Who goes first?!?!? Or is that just evil....since those last 2/4 weeks waiting are HARD mnmmmmh?

Been lurking mainly around 3am....bit too crossed eyed to post then......so much chat Loving the waxing chat, bit scared to look too closely down there

dachs everything is triple crossed for you, glad you had a nice time in Venice despite the pesky mossies

Laura her ladyships full title is 'Isabella Frances Jean' mixture of names from both sides of the family

Loving being a mum all over again, even more this time as I guess I'm a bit more chilled out, haven't gone near the mountain of baby books I bought last time. They were def useful for a total
novice like me but i wish i didnt get so wound up by them esp when your lo does not fit into any patterns they suggest....!
Did I mention the size of her feet...,MASSIVE.....just like her mums.....O dear (size9) we are not going to have fun shoe shopping......the little socks I had bought are way too small

Waves to everyone xoxoxo

urban so lovely to hear about life the other side, and what a lovely full name, I love names that have a family significance to them.

lara we're worried about our cat too, he's not good around kids after an incident involving our niece's finger and his eye about 18 months ago, and he does like to be in charge of everything; things are going to have to change.

All well on the scan front thank goodness, elected not to discover which team we are due to DH's wish to have a surprise on the DD. Sorry not to post earlier been round to the DP's and not a good phone signal thereabouts.

Collie congrats on the pram! I thought it easier to pack a bag than letting dh in an emergency, who know what I'd end up with good call on changing the classes, it'll be more useful earlier. I loved our 4D scan, both of us came out grinning insanely :)

I keep having growth spurts which keep surprising the hell out of both of us! I think I've put on about 2 stone it's mostly bump, but I am starting to notice a slightly plumper face, legs etc. Oh well....

Pink we went through a phase of having decided one of us would go off it. Actually we don't have a middle name for a boy but I can live with that for now :)

About kick counting, my MW said to look for 10 a day as a 'guide' but similar to count the kicks said to more importantly get to know the pattern - which I find very open to scarongering myself with

Bigmac how lovely your sister is so enthusiastic, and in such an entertaining way
Saltyair I can't add anything to the great advice you've already been given, but would like to say I am so sorry to hear about your losses, and a big congrats :) feel free to add yourself whenever you are ready
Lara the jinx pixies are banned from this thread, and it seems sensible to decorate while you're more mobile. You should buy what you want, when you want. And your dogs are your business.
WIW everyone has something to say, yesterday I was told I was small and huge all within a few hours hopefully you'll settle into your new place quickly
harassed sorry to hear about your mum. You have a reason for a comment like that but it must still e very difficult to hear
Blackkat great news about the scan, and welcome to team yellow :)

MiniO's having a quiet-ish phase, still moving but I'm wondering whether to ring I've got soreness around my bladder/hips which MW says is LO getting comfy and stretching ready. She also said I might not make it to 40 weeks will have to wait and see!

Lovely to hear from you urban and love your DD's full name. While on the subject of books, which of them did you find most useful with DC1? I have "Baby Love" and "What to Expect in the first year" but haven't actually looked at them at all- any recommendations most welcome. Oh, I also bought the NCT guide to breastfeeding as on first glance it looked wonderfully practical and helpful.

Good to hear from you too orange - can you believe it's less than 6 weeks till your DD?! Actually that's probably a stupid question as it's probably all you're thinking about right now!

Wonders how nix and owl are getting on..... hope you're both taking it easy and enjoying your mat leave.

Yay for a good scan blackkat and yay for another team yellow!

lara - you know your dogs best and like you say, it's not like you haven't thought it through! I would def do the shopping now while you're feeling perky so it's a pleasure rather than a chore when you hit the 3rd trimester and allegedly feel knackeroorooed all the time - mmm... can't wait for that one!

Off to get a portion of bananas and custard - my new fave - fresh custard was half price in the supermarket and I couldn't resist!

I'd appreciate some advice please -
I've just re-read my mat policy and it advises that I don't accrue BH's while I'm on maternity leave. Having read conversations here, I think that I do, and having checked online I think I've found a European Test Case proving just that. Can anyone point me to anything more conclusive that I can share with my HR department? Thanks

Thank you for your replies ladies.I may well pop in to the freak out room. As I am mainly freaking out right now, it would seem appropriate....

bravely showing my face as a 'lurker' to reply to blackkat - I think it was collie who posted about the BH accrual - think she put a separate thread up about it called 'accruing bank hols on mat leave' or something where she posted links to other info.

Hoping I might join you all in just over a week (20 wk scan on 4/8). Until then, dare I ask two silly q's? Could anyone else really see their bump move quite clearly (I'm 19wks and I can see the bump move to one side very clearly, it's quite strange). I am skinny (size 8 pre pg) and the fat I've put on since being pg isn't on my tum (my backside for sure) so perhaps it just shows up more?

Secondly, I was diagnosed with UTI last hosp visit and have been on 500mg of amoxicillin 3 times a day since Sat. I didn't have any symptoms before testing but now I feel mild sensations of needing to pee more/something slightly funny in the urethra. Not sure if it's just pg stuff or something to do with the infection. due to finish the anti-bios tomorrow morn - should I visit the GP just to test again and make sure it's gone do you think?

Waves back to everyone and returns to lurking. Ds has just broken up from school so time to myself is about to get shorter. I'm looking into hypnotherapy courses atm to add another tool if the dts do try to turn up of their own accord.

Salty feel free to freak out here too! We all have and still do so can sympathise :)
Tigger you've reminded me to listen to the CD the NCT gave me, it all helps. I hope they turn. Sorry if I missed, which position are they at the mo?
WiW it seems such a long time away still, but the 30's are going faster than the previous weeks. I might get What to Expect, I'd like a book to start on, but don't want to feel a failure if things don't progress as the book says they should
Dooscooby good luck with the scan, I hope to see you over here. At 19 weeks I could make out a definite 'lump' that was definitely miniO to the right of my belly button. No features/body parts, but a definite lump sticking out. Nothing's changed except the lump is bigger and is sometimes a leg or a foot too :) sorry I can't help with UTI I wouldn't like to guess and give you the wrong info but I bet one of these lovely ladies can help :)

I ended up going for a trace yesterday, miniO (should i segment?! :) ) just wasn't moving as much. Have to say she made me feel a bit of a drama queen but I don't care I'd rather know all was ok and someone think that than the other alternative. Anyhoo, the straps go on and it went mad with some kind of exercise routine as it was the second time they gave me a growth scan, which was a real treat to have a sneaky peek. I hadn't told DH as I didn't want to worry him, but he found out as I was MIA and worried all the more

Right, since I can't sleep from the awful leg cramp I'm off into work!

Morning Lovelies

Ohh lots of chatter to catch up on. Work was manic on Tuesday and I'm now off for the rest of the week (yippee) so sent yesterday enjoying the Lovely sunshine.

blackkat lovely to gear from you again, and so glad the scan went well.

harassed when next week is your scan? Sorry your having so much pain. I hope that it doesn't get much worse too early on. I felt bad for moaning about my back the other day as a woman on another thread I'm on (due nov) was talking about her spd and how she hasn't been able to work since wk 12 and that she's now practically house bound. Made my aliments seem insignificant!

Lara I too think you should buy whatever whenever you are ready. I saw a similar thread to this the other day and that was the consensus. It's not really any of your mums business, and I too don't believe in minding it . Things can go wrong at any stage and I've tried to buy things as I've felt ready so as to now try and enjoy this pg as much as I can. At the end of the day things could o wrong at anytime, and although having a room full of baby stuff would be very very hard, I think that it probably couldn't majestic it any worse if something went wrong now anyway. It would be heartbreaking regardless.

I'm doing very much the same with my ml. Going off at 37wk and taking 3 weeks leave before my EDD, and starting my ml on my EDD. Then hope to use accrued hol/bh to take the remainder of the calendar year off, and go back in jan. Also hope to use rest of AL and poss unpaid parental leave to go back 3 days a week until April by which time, my organisation will have been abolished so god knows what will happen!

Yes blackkat you should be accruing bh. here's the link to that thread it's far from straightforward and I'm still to get anywhere with my hr manager as she's in al, but I am adamant I will challenge this as far as I need to. Spoke to a hr colleague of mine in another Trust about this as they are currently being challenged on the same issue.

I've been left to arrange cover for my ml. My new boss, since April, is leaving so I'm not even clear what they want, but they'll never manage to recruit -as I said sinking ship! I think I'll need to find ways of arranging internal cover for sone aspects of my job, and for others I think I'll need to try and come to some arrangement with other PCTs to provide the specialist, but complicated, and I'm quite worried about who it will be as if it's someone shit with a different approach to me, it could significantly impact on my future job in the restructure!

wiw nice to hear from you and so glad you had lovely uk visit. But very you are feeling low about being away from home. I can imagine it is very hard especially at a time like this. We were very close a couple of hrs ago of moving out to Oz, but similar reasons due to family etc (fact we both got promotions here) we didn't. Although I still lime to think one day we'll live abroad for a couple yrs. Do you have Skype or anything? Maybe something that could help make home seem less far away?

Urban lovely to hear from you and glad things are going so beautifully! at her big feet!

orange I have why does your mw think you won't reach 40wk? Due to your size? I've been thinking about this and are they ever actually right? Sorry you had a scare yesterday but YAY for sneaky peak!

good luck for you're scan next week, looking forward to you joining us! Will you be finding out the flavour or staying team yellow?

How are nix and owl doing? Any sign of any movement. I hope these last 2 weeks are going ok!

All fine here. Pup is very active atm (although strangely quiet again on Tuesday- mustn't like Tuesday's). He's much stronger now so those once nice gentle kicks already feel like he's booting my uterus and stomping on my bladder! Can't say I think I'm going to get used to it!

Another purchasing item arrive yesterday- bottle steriliser kit with bottles etc. Totally plan on bf, but if I'm successful, also want to express so DH can enjoy getting up in the middle of the night feeding him too!

Right, sorry for epic post. I did say I could waffle!! DH working US hours today so we're off out to hebden bridge (lovely little village) for a mooch and brunch this morning!

Ps forgot bigmac pmsl @ your sister-classic. But how lovely she is so excited!

Morning All

Love reading your posts, Collie... Happy to see your mat leave plans are the same as mine.

Question for all - I have my HR meeting tomorrow... How open have you all been in telling your companies how long you plan to take off for maternity leave? My sister (due next month) told me not to tell them exactly how long I plan to take but as I plan to do the same as Collie (i.e. add all next year's leave onto the end of maternity leave), I figured I'd just be straight and tell them I'll be taking a year off. Would be grateful for insight as to how open you've been / not been. Also, my leave doesn't roll over, so my return date to work will pretty much determine when my maternity leave will start (as I'll have to count back).

Enjoy Hebden Bridge, Collie! I am winding at work down big time (with three months to go - oops!)

As for purchases, I too want to be buying more - like the bottles, steriliser etc. There is so much to get. I don't plan on bf for longer than the first few days . Of course if I really take to it then I will carry on, but I don't envisage it.

Bigmac - my belly is seriously hairy (also light hairs). And yes, I am having a boy. Not sure if they're linked (am sure my mother would say they are!)

Lolly - love the names! How have your first days been?

Ace news on scan Blackkat!

WIW - hope you're feeling more settled now. It's nearly your weekend so hope it's an opportunity for you to relax.

I want to order the Bee! We need to check the frame comfortably fits inside the boot of my Mini Clubman. DH wanted to go the other day, I didn't, we rowed and now he's being an arse and saying he will have nothing to do with the buggy purchase. Idiot. With that much money being laid out there is no way I am ordering it without him being there when they put it in the boot! Going to park the discussion for a couple of weeks and then bring it back up again.

Morning!

Before I forget, these have been recommeded by a friend who has 3 aged 5 and under. They look great, and I spent a flaming fortune on breast pads that get soggy and feel gross.

Doo!!! I'm glad you're coming over here! I like it here with people a little further on. My scan is on Tuesday, I can't wait! Are you finding out which team? We def are.

Collie mat cover sounds stressful. My boss is ignoring I think! Hope you get something sorted, I'm sure it's not meant to be like this.......

Lara you don't have to tell them your plans tbh, and I believe that legally they're not allowed to ask. So depends how nice you're feeling .

Oh and I've also bought a few bits, but am waiting now until after the scan next week.

orange I read that bananas help with cramps after waking up in agony the other week. Dh panicked because I was making so much noise . I've been eating one every other day and it seems to be working!

dd also broke up yesterday, and promptly woke up with a cold this morning. Typical!!

Nothing much to report here, although things at work seem to be getting more ridiculous by the minute! One of the employees has been told not to sing along to the radio......... Busy day yesterday, but had yoga last night to make up for it. Unfortunately it was the last one until Sept, so next week we're off to the pub . After 6 weeks though I found out one of the ladies lives in the flats 4 doors away from me, and I can see another's front door from my window. Strange!!

Hello all! I'm way to behind with all the news to do a proper catch up but just to let you know I'm still here. Have moved house and am now living in total chaos with boxes and stuff everywhere, no working phone, internet TV, radio or mobile - as I dropped it and it broke! D'oh!

Have started and finished NCT classes in the last week (intensive course), which were useful. And ordered nearly all the bits we need for the baby (we think), though not all have been delivered yet and we still need to build it all!

Am very uncomfy with SPD and random pains and ended up in hosp at the weekend for monitoring but thankfully all seems okay. Still paranoid Wombean is going to arrive early though (not helped by my midwife wondering the same thing) so feel it's a bit of a race against time to get things sorted. Currently still at work FT but hoping to bring forward my mat leave start date and go off sometime next week...

Will try and catch up more when I have proper internet access.

Hugs and magum ice creams all round x

Sorry a me, me, me post.

My friend had her baby boy today by cs. Both of them safe and sound. I'm so pleased for them all, but we were meant to be doing this together. We found out we were preg at the same time, and due within two days of each other originally. But I had my mmc. My dd would have been two weeks today. So I'm happy but sad, and wishing I wasn't at work today.

harassed ((hugs)) for you!!! I totally get it! Felt the same way when my work colleague had her dd early a couple of weeks back as my dd was looming. I know have my neighbour to deal with who has just started mat leave as is about to pop (in fact strangely parked car outside majestic me wonder if she's gone into labour) all when I should now have a baby in my arms. It's natural to feel sad, and gutted as it's a reminder of what you've lost. But it will be our time soon and it will be all the sweeter.

I forgot to comment on hairy bellies as I'm have a boy. See my belly isn't hairy, but (TMI alter) my bum suddenly is !!! Was way to ashamed to say before, especially as I have to face some if you in a few weeks! But seriously WHY and where is it all coming from???? No idea what to do about it!!!

Lara I don't think you need to tell your employer your plans but I suppose it would probably make things easier all around if you do tell them-that said if I remember correctly your boss is an srse so screw him! Do whatever is right for you. My friend told them 12 months, although she was considering going back earlier because she knew a change to go back sooner would be easier to sort out than if she said less than 12 months and then wanted to extend.

wombat yay for successful move, but boo to mobile breaking! Glad to hear you're ok, although sorry you had to go in for monitoring. But good that all is ok. It sounds like you are in need of early mat leave and some r&r before miniwombat arrives!

Back from lovely morning out and currently sat outside enjoying double caramel magnum. Which DH has kindly informed me is the equivalent of eating 4 of the soleros he is eating!!!

Just popping in to say we had the 20 week scan today. Everything fine and we're team blue! Bit shocked as I've been imagining all things pink for the last couple of weeks. Seriously need some boys names!

Congrats on your scan too blackkat

Enjoy the trip Collie I love days off for trips out wandering about, especially in this gorgeous sunshine. And yay on the pram buying. We're thinking quinny buzz but only cos DP's best friend has one and thinks it's great. I've only a corsa though so not a massive boot. Need to get looking into them a bit more seriously now.

harrassed hugs for your sad happy day x

bigmac your sister sounds ace

doo i had antibiotics for UTI at the start of this pregnancy and with the mc. I've been back since the antibiotics thinking I had another UTI (needing loo a lot especially at night etc) but it was nothing just normal pg symptoms according to doc. Better safe than sorry though so if you're worried I'd go back. Mind you I am so randomly worried about stuff I got some test sticks like the doc has so I could test at home! Me- paranoid-never!

Now we've had the 20 week scan I feel like I should think about buying stuff but still feel a bit worried about the jinx pixies. My mum's bought us stuff she wants to give us but DP thinks to wait a bit before we see it. Finally gave my letter in to book antenatal class at the hospital though so that's an improvement.

Just seen an advert for half price Ben and Jerry's ice-cream- oooh so tempting!

Just popping by. I'm now sixteen weeks and have my 12 week
scan on 11th august long waiting list here!

Keeping everything crossed for you Dachs x

Orange- so far dt1 has stuck to head down so position not an issue but sea suddenly switched from you'll be having an elcs and no alt to you're having a vbac no alt and if not here by prescribed date we'll induce which I majorly don't want. Current situ is if they turn up of own accord we'll see what happens hence hypnosis.

Thanks for being so understanding! I really didn't expect to feel so upset by it tbh.

Just off to pick dd up, back later.

thanks hairy Glad things are working out for you :)

afternoon ladies, glad to see you're all ok. sorry just to pop in.

harassed i'm sorry you were upset, i think it is completely normal though, so try not to be too hard on yourself.

Hello All... Will come on properly later with a long individually personalised post but had to share a corker with you all... Remember we spoke once about our body parts / bodily functions becoming public property the minute you become pg (e.g. there was an incident when my neighbour advised my dh to have regular sex with me to keep my, erm, fanjo elastic!!!!!). Anyways - had a brilliant incident today to share...

Went to a pub this afternoon with a male friend (not my DH although people probs assumed he was). On the next table two women started asking me random questions about my pg. The normal stuff - when are you due etc. Then one of them randomly asked me if I was going to have a natural birth... I tried to make a joke of it and said I'd want all the drugs going (maybe not that much of a joke) and then she started lecturing me on the miracle that is natural birth. She asked me what I am scared of and then went on to say "you will be able to get the circumference of a baby out of there - it is big enough to fit a baby. It will stretch to allow the baby to come out and it will ping back into shape!" IN FRONT OF MY FRIEND AND EVERYONE ELSE ENJOYING A QUIET DRINK BY THE THAMES!!!!!!!!!!! She then told my friend that he must be strong during my labour and ensure that everything is done to give me a wonderful natural experience... My poor friend didn't know where to look and what to say (we just pretended he was my DH although would have loved to have seen their faces if he said he wasn't)

Anyways - sorry for crude post but HAD to share!