Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads continued part 8

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new thread!!

Congratulations Apples! Lovely news.

Daisy I was told yesterday that they'll stop moving so much at 34 weeks so I'd imagine just before then would be the best time. Remember that was the advice with 2 of them in there so maybe later for 1. I'd love a little girl.....

I've just realised that my EDD is not only wrong on the list but also I got the hospital to put it on my MATB1 and the letter to aer lingus for our holiday next week. Fortunately 1 day does not make much of a difference but a bit embarrassing. Brian has finally struck properly.

I'm hardly ever on here these days - no time even to lurk, so I'm glad that I chose today to have a quick check for news. Apples that's fab news, so pleased to hear about the safe arrival of your wee boy. Bet you're glad now you were spared a sweep too - the second one I had has to be one of the most unpleasant experiences I've had! Love the name too, great to hear you're both well x

Littlemiss I totally missed your news too - big congratulations on your littleman!! Well done you.

Dachs its lovely to hear from you - I thought you were on holiday already, have a fab time. Its great to hear you being so positive, I'll be wishing you all the luck in the world in August x

Hope all you other lovely ladies are well, good luck to Crochet! We're doing well here, only very mildly sleep deprived today but some nights I've only got about an hour's sleep! He's absolutely worth it though and we're starting to see some smiles too.

Yes first time palpation, still quite early actually, but because its curled up like a snail its been concerning me. Babynix keeps booting me so far south that i wet myself Plenty of time for turning.

Glad they are sorting you out daisy. I dont understand gender disappointment, but am glad you are getting the support you need.

Iz my MW dont have much of a choice, they are based at the GP's so i ring through to them for an apt and they have never yet refused :)

Whoop! apples that's FAB news!!! Welcome to the world Malachi! I'm so glad you avoided being induced and got your homebirth.

And Whoop also for Daisy - welcome to team pink!!!! do you think your wobbles could be to do with knowing the gender making it a bit more real rather than an issue with the gender specifically, or is it a girl/boy thing? You're not going to offend anyone on here by posting about your worries. We're all mentalling about different things and here to support each other.

Nix I too am getting booted "down south" today Would love to think it's because she's turned but I know from the many scans I've had that it's actually because although she lies with her head to my left side and bum to my right, she spins on that axis so sometimes her limbs are all at the top of my uterus and sometimes down below. Turn baby turn!!!

Mine was in the same position at my scan wombat His head to the left, bum to the right and I keep getting kicked in the bladder/cervix so guess he must be in the same sort of position but would be nice to be able to pick out body parts when I get kicked. All in good time I guess...

nix I sneezed and wet myself a bit the other day, really must start these pelvic floor exercises.

Woo-hoo apples congratulations!!! So glad that you had a relatively quick and uncomplicated time of it and hope you're enjoying those newborn snuggles . Malachi is a fab name.

dachs I'm sure this baby would be honoured to share a birthday with you

All those ladies talking of wee-ing are scaring me - I'm doing my pelvic floor exercises as I type!

Apples you star; I told you he'd be here before the weekend So pleased for you :) Congratulations lovely x

No time for a full catch up, but I have to give a big whoop for Apples :) :) :) welcome to the world Malachi, what a lovely name. So glad you got the birth you wanted. You'll have to give me a hospital review nah, get some more snuggles in instead :)

Daisy I seem to remember that you were worrying how to relate to a girl, rather than be disappointed with one? Everyone has their own fears, and that is what we're here for. When is your next mentalling midwife appointment?

I had my iron taken at 12 weeks, then just now at 28 weeks, nothing in between but that seemed 'standard' where I am

Driving went well, thanks, better than I thought. I have 9 weeks today until mat leave, but have used my AL to do partial weeks in the run-up. Not long when I think of it like that, but on the other hand seems ages away iykwim

I'll come back and do a proper read/catch-up later. Hope everyone has a good Friiiiiiday!!!

Wonderful news apple - many congrats on the safe and speedy arrival of Malachi.

Just to second what everyone else has said daisy that this thread is for mentalling of all sorts. If you would prefer to keep it separate with you midwife then do whatever feels best for you and just drop in here for treats and to keep us posted on how you are doing. Sending hugs x

Great brian moment tigger - he gets around doesn't he?!

Have realised that while my knowledge of early pg is ok, I am actually massively unprepared for birth etc. and am a bit about my complete lack of knowledge on things like sweeps and palpating..... at 17 weeks is this normal? I think I'm so focused on one day at a time that the thought of focusing on 38 weeks plus just doesn't seem real. Any other first timers out there as clueless as me?

Hello all sorry for the extended absence. I have brought flapjack which according to my acupuncturist has magical blood tonifying properties or something..... Anyway all good, it contains lots of butter and sugar

Sooo sounds like everyone's doing ok! I'm signed off AGAIN, antibiotics have worked their magic and all tests are now clear, whoop! Am wiped out though so am back to sleeping every few hours again. I am such a wimp!!

wiw do you have antenatal classes out there? I am totally clueless about all that stuff too but am hoping I'll somehow glean the knowledge from classes and MW before September!

apples fab news! That sounds like a lovely quick labour too. Did you get to use the birthing pool in the end? Looks like the enticing with Brie and pate worked!!

daisy so glad the consultant and the MW are great. Please don't feel like you can't come here with your worries if you need someone to talk to- we are all here for you no matter what. I have read quite a few threads over the last few weeks from people with (I think) similar fears about not knowing what to do with a girl / boy and there are some very reassuring stories from people that have made it successful out the other side. Sorry, unhelpfully I can't find any links now though.... Am really glad the MW is going to get you some specialist counselling-does it make you feel a bit better that the fact the specialist counselling exists means you definitely aren't the first person to ever feel this way?

wombat from what I've heard there's loads of time for your baby to turn. MW palpated me last week and could feel a 'head or bum, can't tell which, it's irrelevant at this stage'-I know I'm a bit behind you but hopefully that's a bit reassuring

dachs at the weight loss. I am so glad you booked your holiday and I hope you and DH get to spend some quality time together there. I agree with the others, a GP that can empathise like that is fantastic. I will have everything crossed for you in August, you deserve for it to work xx

nix good work on the neighbours front, you are a bigger person than me, I am rubbish at smoothing things over like that, especially if I feel it wasn't my fault in the first place. Where are you moving to? Are you hoping to move pretty soon after mini nix arrives?

coconuts good work looking in the bag!

izz that sounds like a v long time for another appointment is there a timetable in the front of your notes setting out what happens at each week? Really glad they dopplered you, am a bit they tried to get out of it. Am also shocked by how few blood tests people have been having. I assumed they were monthly as that's what I've had to have but thinking about it that's probably more to do with the fact that the clinic won't keep dishing out the clexane without a monthly FBC.

owly good work on the vege/fruit patch!! Do you make chutneys and jams too? You domestic goddess!!

orange how did the drive go? Is DH back home now?

collie I have a dream genii. It's ok but I can't use it properly because the between legs bit isn't long enough so I use another pillow between my knees too. TBH not sure they're worth the money really. Try not to panic about the movements-I had the same thing and then went for weeks without feeling it again until one day it was a proper kick rather than flutters. It's only really over the last couple of days that I can feel minipink every day. Did you manage to get some maternity clothes?

blackkat and lara hope to see you properly in here soon!

mamap hope you're doing ok lovely

Waves to teacake emoo CEP and velvet - sorry to anyone I've missed!

Ps apparently there was some horrifying programme on telly last night about UK maternity provisions-did anyone see it? My mum wont tell me anyhig about it or even what channel!!

Thank you ladies as always

Glad we don't have to do anything about the transverse lie yet - at yoga on Wednesday she (eek!) was putting in some very impressive wriggles in some positions so maybe I'd best make a mental note of those, and try them around 34 weeks if she doesn't shift before then.

Nix I get the fanjo kicks too, but not that forceful yet - she's on her back with legs in the air, so its more punches than kicks. But I'm soooo weak bladdered I'm convinced I'm dribbling more or less constantly now

WIW I am also a first timer and fairly clueless about the 'late on' stuff, and even more about the weeks after that! Gulp. Do you get ante-natal classes in ?Dubai?

A night of mentalling and a bit of sobbing here and I've woken up much calmer. Wombat and Orange have both hit the nail on the head - its partly that now I can't deny its happening any more, and it is about being unable to relate to a girl very well.

She will be loved and adored when she's here, and I'm not disappointed, I'm scared . My family don't have the best mother/daughter relationships and I am very fearful of being belittled by my daughter for the next 50 years. I also got picked on by girls a lot when I was younger which puts me off too. But I do at least know that these are issues inside me, they're not personal to this little lass, and I can sort them out.

Pink yes, the Mentalling Midwife really did reassure me. In fact, the first thing she said was that she'd worked with so many women who've felt the same way for a variety of reasons. That made me feel a bit better and less of an ungrateful cow.

I've also (after feeling like being sick in the girls clothes section in Asda) dug out the knitting patterns again, and there's far more patterns suitable for girls than boys, meaning there's scope for non-pink but still pretty jumpers and dresses to go over babygros.

Right, what's for breakfast then ladies? Healthy museli and yogurt, or bacon butties all round???

daisy bacon butty please!! YUUUMMM! I also used to get picked on by catty spiteful little girls, and as I'm an engineer I've always got on better with men - they are much more straightforward, they say what they mean, if you disagree you sort it out and then move on. The thing that's making me feel a calmer is that your little girl doesn't need to be like that, and I'm hoping that if minipink is a little girl, and DH and I can make her feel loved and confident enough in herself, she can be nice to other girls rather than being a little cow. Like you say, I don't think you're being ungrateful - you're frightened but hopefully your lovely MW can help you with that. Do you find the yoga helps? I've found a local yoga class that I've been going to while I'm off sick, and am going to go regularly to once I finish work - I find it helps a lot if I'm having a day of mentalling. Having said that, there's a bit near the end where they have this blessing thing that you send to yourself, then to your baby, then to the father of the child - it sounds ridiculous but it is so lovely it makes me cry every week..... I am such a weirdo! Can you knit?? I am learning to crochet but am very in awe of people that can knit! I saw some gorgeous patterns the other day which would be fab for a little girl - little crossover cardies with a tie ribbon on the side, would look looovely in white.

Daisy however wibbly you're feeling about it, please do remind yourself that YOU are doing completely the right thing here for you and for your little girl - acknowledging it's scary and making steps to do something about it when many wouldn't. Which in turn means you're giving both of you the absolute best chance of a lovely, warm, loving relationship and a really great start when she arrives. And for that you deserve a massive heap of bacon butties. :)

Moving down south... house just gone on the market.
Hubby is in Dorset, works in Salisbury, I work generally in bristol but live in cheshire. Want to be near the coast... so looking down that way...!! Will see what bites....

Apples hope you are enjoying newborn snuggles xxx

Hello.... I think I might be ready to join you all here.... (if you'll have me) I had a MW appt yesterday and I heard little one's heartbeat again beating strongly (am 17 weeks today) so I think I'll take the plunge and come over if I may...! I do genuinely feel now that this bean might stick (Blackkat has named my little one Minigoatbean by the way)

You have a wonderful way with words owl - I nearly welled up reading your lovely post to daisy.

Thanks to pink and daisy for the reassurance for the first timer naivety - I keep meaning to research ante-natal classes. They definitely do them here (in Dubai) so I'll get on the case soon-ish.

Yay for lara moving over - I had reserved the beanbag too!

Hope everyone's well and beans are snug

One word 'STAFF', I'm back to working 18hour days again (proverbial hit the fan before I'd even stepped off the plane last wednesday so all the good done relaxing for 4 days took about 5 min's to be undone)... not sure how much longer I can keep this up, 3rd trimester looming round the corner and all that!

Anyway, didn't want you to think that I had forgotten you .

Had my 25 week check yesterday and all is well

Hellooo!

Congrats apples - glad your fears about a tear were not realised this time. Gives us all hope!

Lovely to see you popping in MamaP, and glad things are well with beanie, even if the STAFF are not so great. And welcome Lara and WIW if I didn't welcome you before...

Mmmmmmm bacon and croissants... I know it's lunchtime now not breakfast time, but sounds a bloody good idea to me!

Daisy you have my sympathies about the girl-fear, as I have the same feelings about boy-fear (just fear of the unknown in my case, don't have any background issues, and don't know the sex of Emoobean anyway). If it is any consolation at all, DD is not a girl in character (although she likes the dresses), and interacts with others in a very male way - not sure if it's nature or nurture though!

Pink - glad your tests are clear and that you're getting daily wriggles!

Iz - a big gap in appointments between 16 and 28 weeks is standard if you have given birth before, unfortunately - see NICE antenatal guidelines. But you should have the numbers to access a community and/or hospital MW at any other time if you have particular concerns.

I have been on the phone all morning trying to sort out mat leave with about 6 different people, none of whom seem to be authorised to approve decisions and all of whom refer me to the next person... I think finally we have got things sorted out. I'm going off from 31 weeks, which I know is a bit early, but I'm happier that way rather than having to drop everything at the last minute because baby decides to come early or I start bleeding or something like that. That means I've only 7 weeks to go!! Yayyyy!! Bet I go to 42 weeks now.

Sorry - quick me me me! will do proper catch up later. I've just been diagnosed with a UTI. The doc I saw doesn't usually see pg women and seemed a bit unsure about which antibiotic to go for. He prescribed Nitrofurtoin, which he says is fine except in late pg (I'm 28 wks tomorrow). However, if there's a "more usual" antibiotic used to treat these things in pg women, I'd rather goo for that one. [totally over anxious emoticon] Anyone got any ideas what's usually used???

Sorry, it's Nitrofurantoin. And my MW says it's not one she's familiar with.

Sorry to start with a me, me, me question.. Has anyone around this stage (17 weeks) had horribly painful gums? It just happened overnight and my gums on my lower jaw are agony... Even touching my teeth is painful... It feels like the horrendous pain I had as a kid for the two days after my braces were adjusted. Would be grateful for any feedback if anyone else has had the same thing...

Wombat I have perused my usual drug-related sources and it seems to be okay provided you're not considered 'term' -

www.merckmanuals.com/professional/sec14/ch170/ch170k.html

Have a look and maybe if that doesn't help ring the surgery and ask to speak with a GP for a phone consultation to check.

Also I believe Pink has sampled pretty much all of them by now so she may well know (glad you're on the mend Pink ).

MamaP lovely to hear from you :) Hope you're taking it a bit easier now & glad the 25 week check went well :)

What is this? Lara has turned up with shoelaces? Buahahahahahahaha

Tis lovely to see the freak out room people joining us. Do not be afraid.

Crochetcircle are you still out there? Has the little one turned up yet? Hope all is well :)

Thanks Owl. Having canvassed everyone I can pursuade to listen to me , I've just taken my first tablet of a course of Keflex (Cafalexin/Caphalexin). Hope I'm not poisoning miniwombat - I feel such a bad mother taking drugs while I can feel her wriggling away totally reliant on me to protect her I think feeling poorly is affecting my ability to think rationally. It's a UTI and some antibiotics FFS! Hopefully this course will sort it out. One side of my lower back has started aching this afternoon - I'm quite sure it's psychosomatic!

Lara I think swollen, painfull gums are a common pg hazard, that's why pg ladies get free dental treatment. Maybe worth a check up? Mine have certainly been more prone to bleeding recently.

Mamap glad everything went okay at your check up on an holiday but very for you at your hopeless staff. Are you firing/hiring to try and resolve the issues or is that not an option?

Daisy huge hugs - I totaly agree with, Owl, you are doing absolutely the right thing!

Sorry for hopeless catch up. Am feeling so ridiculously stressed and now have to start on all the work I haven't done this afternoon. Argh - it's going to be a work all the weekend kind of weekend at this rate