Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads continued part 8

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apple my Dsis delivered a 9lb 10oz bruiser with no pain relief whatsoever no tears, just two paracetamol...always knew she had a bucket!!
Other peeps i know have had sections due to expected huge babies but they have been wildly wrong!!

You've all cheered me up loads! I had a 2nd degree tear with ds and he was only 8lbs4 so have been panicing as really want to avoid it this time. Am hoping no epidural and birth pool will help..
How's everyone else doing today?

I wrote you all a lovely message and my computer ate it

Hello to everyone! Are we all well?

Wombat and Nix how do you know which way your baby's lying? I have no idea here....

Hello to Lara and WIW - lovely to see you here

Good luck Nix with the house, and also with turning mini-nix - I have an anchovy waiting here if the sardine fails!

Apple you're making my cry with cuddling baby clothes. It WILL be ok missus.

Quick mememe update - saw the mental health midwife today - she was lovely, and feels happy with me delivering at the MLU, but she wants that confirmed by the scary consultant on thursday morning. She teased me that I may be able to wangle a gender scan whilst I'm there but I'm preparing myself for it not happening because now I've had it waved in front of me, I realise how much I want and need to know.

Is anyone else craving lemon/sour stuff?

WIW welcome to the I felt in limbo from 12-17 weeks when I felt my first kick, but you have your 16 week app as a positive to focus on x
Cep you need to buy some new things, I couldn't resist if it was me. Could you just buy and let it be a surprise when it arrives? I don't know about wraps but have heard Kari Me are good. You could post on the post-grads thread?
Coconuts well done on The Bag that's right, you don't have to look again unless you want to, and a big step :) my MW recommended popcorn or sweetcorn for constipation, and for some reason it works
:) What do you have in your veg patch? Sorry to hear you're not feeling ok, I hope you perk up soon
Daisy no more lifting and lots of rest! I strained myself standing up too quickly so entirely possible. Don't blame you, was too soon for NCT for me, next time maybe
Wombat the pixies are banned from this thread, the sling is a lovely idea (makes note) It's a good theory of your friend. Miniwombat has lots of time to change yet
Izzy woop for babygro purchase :) I hope you are at least starting to feel a little more relaxed
Nix I hope mininix gets a move on and turns of your mat leave
sorry work are being shite
apples glad to hear you're feeling a bit better. Nothing wrong with cuddling purchases my MW told me to google perineum sp? massage, something I've yet to do but meant to help against tearing, if something you have looked into yet
Teacake nice to see you :) I hope the CD is working

I'm down in London for a conference with colleagues I'm not keen on, and DH still away until Saturday :( but on the lighter side, miniorange had hiccups today for 1st time to my knowledge and I was entertained if not a bit worried, poor thing!

Cuteness alert - my OH's little cousin has just been to cut the grass at my house. He's only 10, and he's been pushing around a petrol mower where the handle is the same height as his shoulders. He's even cut me a little path down to the washing line the paddock.

Am almost teary watching him, he's soooo cute. He only asked for £1.50 payment which was daylight robbery so I gave him a fiver

pmsl again

Glad you are feeling better apples. Repeat mantra, it will be fine! You will be fine. No two labours are ever the same x

Urm how do i know the position. I can feel either a bum or a head halfway up my tummy, scratched in the cervix and keep getting kicked or punched on my hip bones believe it or not. Not a thing up the top. Most of the time the kicks are either in the bladder making me wee or they are across each side.... DS was the same and eventually turned head down but was in a funny position for birthing. This i suspect is similar.

Orange i wouldnt bother with the perineum massage. I did it and ended up with an episiotomy!! Then again.. maybe it worked as i didnt tear!!

Daisybell love it re the lawns! DS is 3.5 and keeps helping me with chores so i have started to reward him with pocket money... takes the recycling down to the bin for me/helps with washing/makes his bed and sets the table. Hes saving up for a new scooter... is this child slavery or do you think i am teaching him good things?!?! :)

Have bought about 3 things for this baby so far. Cant make up the nursery as that bedroom needs to stay as a double room for the viewings. Have nowhere to put any of the clothes i do have for it. Totally disorganised!!! Oh... but the For sale sign went up today.....

Daisy - aw at your little cousin, he sounds just adorable, can I have one!? And I love tangfastics anyway but have defintiely craved haribo type sweets more just lately. Had a random urge to eat loads of sherbert earlier too. Specifically the type that comes in one of those skinny tube things.

orange - can't wait for hiccups :) I have a lazy baby and hardly feel him in the day until around this sort of time after I've had a bath or shower and sat down in my pjs, then he goes crazy all evening! I have anterior placenta too so don't know if this is anything to do with it.

Emoo - glad I don't need to prepare too much. I suppose as long I get to hospital at some point to give birth then the rest will fall into place :)

Had an ok time at MILs but SIL was there too and had bought 3 baby items. Super cute and nearly made me cry but I just politely thanked her and asked her to keep them at hers until I'm ready to accept them. We all had a massive discussion about baby names. MIL was suggesting names such as Nigel and Geoffrey but in the end I think I'll get my own way with DH

Xposts with you nix. Could you get an underbed storage box as a temporary place to keep things like clothes? Definitely not child slavery, my DD does loads of chores but she doesn't get the money ha!

Dachs - I like the name-change. How are you feeling? Have you been on holiday yet?

tigger still heartbroken, but at least I'm getting better physically. Oh, and I've hurt my knee so I need an operation on it. Unlikely to happen before the holiday (we're heading off on 29th) so I'll need to take lots of anti-inflammatory drugs with me to keep the pain under control. But at least I'm not pg any more so I can have the operation safely

Today I have managed to sort out the spare room where we dumped all the pregnancy and baby books etc that we'd bought and couldn't take back, so one less horrible thing still on the list of things to be done.

Oh, and have arranged to do IVF again in August, so there is a very very very tiny chance I might be pg again before the twins due date. Highly unlikely though.

We picked up the ring we commissioned to remember the twins by on Friday. It's beautiful but it makes me cry every time I look at it, which could be a problem since the intention is to wear it all the time! And when I went to the GP on Monday and told her about it she cried too

"Dachs* - I'm sorry to hear that, but I hope you get the knee sorted.

My personal tip for achieving anything is to give away anything baby related so all books, maternity clothes anything to do with it so you can pretend to yourself that you've given up hope and then sod's law you'll need them all back again. This happened to a friend of mine who conceived no. 1 after 10 years ttc including numerous rounds of ivf and a mc after ivf. She then conceived naturally and had another mc. At which point she gave everything away conceived naturally again and now has 2 boys.

I'm not surprised your GP cried. Thinking about you is always guaranteed to set me off.

I hope you come back feeling refreshed and full of wine and ice-cream from your holiday.

oh - and I need to go shopping for lots of new clothes as I appear to have lost 10kg from my pre-pg weight so nothing fits me any more

wine and ice cream

New clothes are another good diffed methods. Very nice and expensive ones in particular. There's a certain Gerard Darel suit worn about 6 times this winter.....

Hi Dachs, good to hear from you. I thought you must have gone away, but good to know you are still lurking. Glad you got your ring. It must still be all so raw. Understandably you are heartbroken still, am sure you will be for a very long time. It will ease with time. No one could ever replace Alexander or Felicia but what strength you have for even starting to consider IVF. If it helps you to grieve and move on, brilliant. You conceived twins and carried them to 20 weeks. you have done it once, chances are you can do it again... dont give up hope with the IVF...i have everything crossed for you xxx I hope what i am writing doesnt seem insensitive, its hard to know what to say.
I hope you have a wonderful holiday xxx

Daisy he sounds adorable :) I bet he was very pleased with the fiver
Nix could the bladder ones be punches, and the hip ones be kicks with mininix bottom up and legs folded back if that makes sense?! I hope things right themselves don't you have an appointment this week? I'll give the massage a whirl, something I can do while waiting. Impatient, moi? I hope the house goes quickly, it hassle you can do without at the mo
Coconuts it did make me smile. My job involves sitting down a lot, meetings etc so maybe why I feel more, but things stepped up a gear since 24 weeks it seems a lot stronger kick/punch-wise. We've had no name suggestions, but good to see you're not giving in :)
Dachs I'm not surprised at your GP, it made me cry reading your post. Not long until hols, where I hope you'll be consuming lots of wine and ice cream. August isn't too far away, and I am/will be wishing you the absolute best of luck as you damn well deserve it x

I've had awful night's sleep, 1st dream was me waiting in hospital as something wrong with miniorange but didn't know what, 2nd I was at the dentist(?!) and my mum came in to tell me I'd be a bad mother. Can't remember the 3rd but you get the idea. Suppose it doesn't take a genius to figure out what's on my mind. I'd normally unload talk about my fears with DH, c'mon Saturday hurry up and bring him home. Sorry for the wallowing, probably being tired doesn't help, I feel a bit better just for writing it :)

Morning all...am on my phone so sorry if I forget half of what I mean to say!
daisy great news on mlu, hope the scary consultant tomorrow isn't too scary.
Good luck with house selling nix ...i forget, are you moving down to dh's new job? That's by the sea right? Hope you get the perfect offer really quickly and find the perfect house to move to so you can relax and start settling before baby comes.
dachs, lovely lady is great to see you here again. Really hope you have a great time on holiday, that you manage to relax a little at least. And will be praying and have everything crossed for august...really hope your body recognises what it's meant to be doing and the ivf works first time. And i'm not suprised your gp cried...i always have tears reading your posts, you seem so strong in such tragic circumstances. x x
orange I can sympathise with the bad night...i had loads of baby related nightmares last night too... Hope you're not too tired today and feeling a little better.
I'm anxiously awaiting my mw appointment (it's at 3) hoping for a sweep...but scared she'll say there's no sign of being ready for labour and there's no point. Will update you later.

Morning All... Thought I'd dip my toes here for a third time, this time to give a bare-footed hug to the lovely Dachs. Fab to see you back and excellent news re. IVF. I have a similar story. Friends of a friend (in the US) were trying for nine years. Gave up and adopted a little one. A year later they thought they'd have one last blast with the IVF (but were doubtful it'd work and were quite blase about it). Anyways it worked big time and they ended up with triplets! So now she has four children under the age of five!

Very exciting (and scary!) to read labour stories. As I think I said before, the only thing holding me back from joining this thread is the fact I don't feel "there" yet... Still super scared and trying to get from one step to the next nervously.

Good luck re. house Nicks. DH just rang me to see if I fancied a stint in Abu Dhabi. Doubt it'll materialise but exciting nevertheless.

Think I can feel the odd flutter of Baby (literally like butterfly wings in my lower tum). Hope it's that and not just wind.

Waves to everyone and then ducks out again, promising to come back soon.

xx

Lovely to hear from you, and glad it's not too long til your much-deserved holiday You and your family are never far from my mind and I've been hoping that you are okay and getting by as best you can. You can be sure that I will cross so many things in August for your IVF that I will closely resemble a pretzel and may not be able to type any more :) New clothes and other treats sound like a fabulous idea. Especially as you're going on hols; I bet there are some gorgeous things to be purchased in Italy.

Daisy your little gardener sounds adorable - I wish someone would come and mow my lawn!

Orange In my veg patch I've got redcurrants, blackcurrants, whitecurrants, gooseberries, strawberries, alpine strawberries, raspberries, loganberries, jostaberries, blackberries, spinach, kohl rabi, broad beans, runner beans, borlotti beans, rhubarb, short peas, tall peas, 5 x varieties of tomato, tomatillo, rocket, courgettes, summer squashes, indoor cucumbers, outdoor cucumbers, potatoes, chillies x 2 varieties, er....I think that's it Oh and artichokes and horseradish. Phew. No wonder I am knackered.

Ps. Sherbet is ace and I can't stop eating it. Does make me belch unattractively though.

Afternoon all :)

So lovely to hear from you dachs. sorry to hear about your knee but I hope it doesn't cause you too many problems on your holiday. I bet the ring looks lovely, and it is always going to give you memories. At some point hopefully those memories won't be painful ones.

Orange - I am SAHM so generally end up sitting down alot too although DH thinks I'm always super busy! just think baby has his days and nights muddled up or something! Not long til Saturday... :)

Owl - WOW at your veg patch. That must keep you busy :)

Waves to everyone else, all ok here for a change!

Good god owls and you are doing all that vegging 32 weeks diffed?!?! pray tell do you live in a man-shon.... or do you have 1 of each in there I havent even grown tommys this year... and last year i managed tons, plus sweet corn, aubergines peppers and courgettes. Bad mummy!! Sherbert....? Curly Wurlys

Apples so sweet of you to say all that... and in an ideal world huh...?
I on the other hand have done something quite admirable today.... if i say so myself.... Last aug around the time of my MC i had a massive row with the neighbours and it had escalated since then...they were arseholes and i wasnt right in the head either...today because i had to I took the bull by the horns and smoothed things over.. even if it meant apologising for something i didnt genuinely mean!! What triggered it is the feckers ripped down the forsale sign as it was on their land.... so something had to be said... so now we are at least on speaking terms, if a little tetchy but at least i dont feel awkward now...!!

ooooh curly wurly's.

dach so sorry about your knee. I hope you have a lovely time away.

orange you'll be a fantastic mummy. i have no doubt.

Quick mememe post...
Mw wasn't able to do sweep so feeling a bit low. She'll try again next wednesday, and then it'll be induction on that saturday...which I really want to avoid as it means I have to go to the hospital rather than the midwife unit.
Feel silly feeling low when I know i'll have a baby soon...i'm just getting more scared it's going to go wrong the longer I have to wait. Sorry for selfish post, really have no reason to be down...