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Original poster

Withdrawal method, please dont flame me ! I'm after advice !

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wonderingsilly · 30/03/2011 08:59

Dh and I had unprotected sex on the 21/03, 9 days after the 1rst day of my period. We usually use condoms but didnt have any that night.

We used the withdrawal method, he pulled in time no problem. My only worry and I'm sorry it is going to be TMI but when we did it, we didn't need lube, I was quite ermm wet and I think he was too.

About 7 days after the deed, I have started to have sore boobs, now it is not unusual for me as I get sore boobs before my periods but not 2 weeks and a half before it !

So what are the chances of me being pregnant ? And how early can I test ? My periods are due between the 4rth and the 10th of April !

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lolajane2009 · 30/03/2011 09:02

Since precum has sperm in it and it only takes one it is possible to get pregnant but not sure of chances. I think some of the aerly tests allow you to test a few days before but not sure how many days.

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wonderingsilly · 30/03/2011 09:06

I have a feeling that the precum was the reason we didnt need lube !

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nannyl · 30/03/2011 09:11

the 6 day early first responce test can be used 5 days before your period is due.

Gave me a BFP 4 days early

lolajane2009 · 30/03/2011 09:12

Probably. best not to go out without a raincoat if you don't want to get wet... Wink

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wonderingsilly · 30/03/2011 09:15

lolajane2009 - I'll bear that in mind next time Smile

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grottielottie · 30/03/2011 09:18

Pretty sure I conceived on day 9 so good chance I would think, and I think you know this. The 'withdrawal' in not a method of contraception as many large catholic families would demonstrate.

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wonderingsilly · 30/03/2011 09:21

I have just bought 20 pregnancy test from ebay so I'm armed for next week !

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ShowOfHands · 30/03/2011 09:22

There is only sperm in precum if you've already had sex and it's in the tubes from the last ejaculation. So it's not in the precum itself but the precum can push out residual sperm from the tubes if it's there from a recent ejaculation.

There is NO sperm in precum. It's a common misconception. The risk factor with withdrawal is him not pulling out in time and where it's failure rate generally lies.

ShowOfHands · 30/03/2011 09:22

Ignore the rogue apostrophe.

Trying to reassure you that it's unlikely you're pregnant but it is possible.

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wonderingsilly · 30/03/2011 09:26

Well he definitely pull on time !!! Phewwwww..Its just the early sore boobs which put doubts in my mind, I dont have any other symptoms !

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lolajane2009 · 30/03/2011 09:27

sperm lives for a long time though so if you had sex in those days before it might well still be there.

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wonderingsilly · 30/03/2011 09:29

I didnt have unprotected sex before and since that time so fingers crossed but but...if I was pregnant so be it !

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ShowOfHands · 30/03/2011 09:30

Sperm does live for around 5 days in the right environment. And there are obvious risks from ejaculating anywhere near a vagina or the risk of transferring sperm on fingers post ejaculation for example.

But withdrawal itself is not the problem. The problem is the NOT withdrawing. Grin

Sparklies · 30/03/2011 12:56

From what I have read, there's only usually sperm in the precum if the man has ejaculated recently - so if he hadn't, the chances would be extremely low.

However, as others have said, there is a 5 (very rarely 7) day window of possibility if anything did get to the wrong places via whatever means!

greenzebra · 30/03/2011 14:01

I feel for you, my husband and I have always used this method, generally because I cant go on the pill and well dont have an finite supply of condoms. But good news we didnt get pregnant!

Remember that sore boobs can just be a sign of on coming period, I used to get this alot when we were trying to get pregnant, thought that I was because I had sore boobs and then bang period.

Try not to panic and just take a pregnancy test on the day you expect your period, I dont trust the early preg tests they never worked for me.

Withdrawal is a tested way of birth control but not around your most fertile time. Maybe if you are going to keep using this method get some ovulation tests off the internet, if you are regular you will know after a coupld of months when you ovulate and can avoid sex during this time or use better pretection.

good luck

KatieWatie · 30/03/2011 14:10

I used this method for 8 years at ANY AND EVERY time of the month, never got caught once... I actually thought I must be infertile.

Very first time we didn't, I fell pregnant (planned).

Now this may be sheer luck, or it may be that it's actually a much more reliable method of contraception than we're led to believe.... you decide!

All the best xx

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wonderingsilly · 30/03/2011 14:33

That is a very good idea to get ovulation test !!!!! I know my cycle by heart and I'm always bang on time !!

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rightontime · 30/03/2011 14:34

I have used the withdrawal method with DP on a couple of occasions with no accidents. We have planned 2 pregnancies and both times I was pregnant almost instantly. This pregnancy we had been withdrawing for 3months and then had sex without withdrawing once and I was pg. I think it is a reliable enough method but each to there own.

I also think that if you suspect that you could be pg you are more likely to look for symptoms even if you don't normaLLY notice them.

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wonderingsilly · 30/03/2011 14:38

Just bought 30 ovulations test from ebay, hope they work ! Will definitely avoid having sex on my ovulation days.

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MrsOliverQueen · 30/03/2011 15:05

I could have written your post a while ago katiewatie, I used to worry that I was infertile (or just very lucky). All went well until DC2 was born, after that the method failed us completely, DC3 is due in the summer (I?ll be in the 2 under 2 club...) Aaaarrrggghhh! Some things are meant to be however.

Hope you get the answer that you want op. I wonder if the body is just more fertile in the months post birth. Relax and wait and good luck.

del1 · 30/03/2011 21:00

Dont want to worry you, but we were not speaking for about a month, but had a drunken night, after going to a concert.
He told me he had withdrawn - obviously not, as I am now 17 weeks pregnant!!
I was confused at the pre ejaculation web sites. Some say yes, but others say only if youve ejaculated recently?
There was a condom in the bag next to us aswell Blush

del1 · 30/03/2011 21:05

Oh yeah, forgot to add - just to annoy everyone.
The first time I got pregnant, I told the doctor that it was not my ovulation time.
She told me that you can get pregnant any time of the month, not just on the ovulation window!!??

didldidi · 30/03/2011 21:09

no del1 that's definitely not true - there is a window of time either side of ovulation but that's not indefinite!

didldidi · 30/03/2011 21:12

op - the fact you were 'wet' and hadn't fancied it before or after this event suggests you were probably ovulating around this time?

Pesha · 30/03/2011 21:16

DP and I used withdrawal for several years without me getting pg. One incident of him not withdrawing and I am now 27wks pg! It was planned though, well talked about although we hadn't reached a definite 'yes, lets try' point!

But I only used withdrawal because I knew if I did get pg I'd be ok about it. This is my 4th child though and has been my worst pg ever and there is absolutely no way I ever want to go through this again! So once this baby is out I will be very careful with contraception until dp has had a vasectomy!

Even though withdrawal worked for us for so long I would only take the risk if I knew I'd be ok with the consequences of it not working!