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Wow; it's only circumcision..

781 replies

Chloejp91 · 29/12/2010 22:11

Before I get killed, I'm not suggesting it is only circumsion, that's just the title of this thread.

I'm due in less than 4 weeks and I'm having a boy. I'm definitely going to circumcise him. It's part of my culture and my partner's culture so it's going to be done. I just feel sad that it's seen as such a bad thing, where there are some benefits to it.

Anyone circumsised/circumsizing their sons?

OP posts:
ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 29/12/2010 23:47

i didn't call you a moron.

and sorry but i think choosing to do this to a child makes me doubt the intention of the rest of your parenting decisions. as a parent you put your child first. not a stupid fashion that will cause them pain.

sum04 · 29/12/2010 23:47

Ok, my son didnt have his forskin literally chopped off.
He had a ring put on at the top and the skin gradually comes off.
The Plastibell Circumcision Device is a clear plastic ring with a deep groove running circumferentially designed for circumcising infant males. The Plastibell is placed onto the head of the penis during a 10 minute elective, minimally invasive surgical procedure, and the device will fall off within 3 to 7 days.

ShowOfHands · 29/12/2010 23:48

DH had to have an operation to remove part of his foreskin when we first met. He was 17. He had a local anaesthetic and he still had to be held down by 3 doctors. The doctor explained that you can't adequately numb a penis so that you can't feel an operation on it. But the procedure he had didn't warrant the risks of a GA.

DH has a high pain threshold, pushes himself physically in various sports, but that small snip of his foreskin made him cry like a baby. And he understood what was happening to him.

A tiny newborn who trusts you to care for them and protect them? It's thoroughly disgusting.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 29/12/2010 23:48

and you do it jsut to appease the men you surround yourself with. don't pretend otherwise.

pooka · 29/12/2010 23:49

Twofalls

Yes - I had to hold ds2 still while the consultant was taking blood and subsequently when he had canula for blood transfusion..

Was hideous. But oh so necessary to stop him becoming seriously ill. Awful though :(

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 29/12/2010 23:49

sum04 you initiall said your partner went in, it took 2 minutes, your son cried and that you didn't go in because you aren't good with blood and pain. now you have completely changed your story.

sum04 · 29/12/2010 23:51

No, if i didnt want my son to have it done, then he wouldnt of had it done.

pooka · 29/12/2010 23:51

The plastibell images I have seen look horrific.

pooka · 29/12/2010 23:52

Imagine if someone did that to your nipple - put tight thing round it cutting blood supply until it dropped off.

Agony.

sum04 · 29/12/2010 23:53

Ok, well it was 6 years ago, excuse me for not remembering the exact length of time...
What i just posted about the circum ring procedure was just a basic outline of the treatment involved. So time ise it cold take anything up to 10 mins to perform.

ShowOfHands · 29/12/2010 23:53

I've just watched a video of that Plastibell thing and had to turn it off. That child screaming in pain is going to haunt me. You did that to your child. Oh God.

GColdtimer · 29/12/2010 23:56

Horrific isn't it pooka. Sad. Hope your ds is ok. Dd2 is now a healthy 10 month old but I still feel awful when I think about what she went through.

RockinRobinBird · 29/12/2010 23:56

If I had done that to my baby it would be imprinted on my memory forever, never mind 6 years.

sum04 · 29/12/2010 23:56

Ok, i am leaving this discussion for you all to carry on slating my decision and others who choose male circumcision.
Were just going round in circles and to be honest its starting to really bore me now.
I choose this for my son, for my reasons, big deal!
It wouldnt bother you in the slightest if it was normal in your family or community.

KickArseQueen · 29/12/2010 23:57

And what do you think they do during those 10 minutes???

Did you see the pliers stretching the babies forskin?

Did you hear his cries?

Fitting that device will have been painful.

Sorry, but it would.

The pain would have continued until it was healed and then it would have been incredibly sensitive.

Anyone remember that 1st wee after you have had a baby? That excruciating burning pain?

Circumcised babies have the joy of laying in a wee soaked nappy.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 29/12/2010 23:57

why did you want him to have it?

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 29/12/2010 23:59

sorry sum but you are wrong. if everyone in my family was telling me to inflict that on my child i would be cutting all contact with them. i could never do that just for teh sake of 'fitting in'. what are your priorities??? what everyone thinks of you is obviously more important than protecting your son from suffering.

KickArseQueen · 30/12/2010 00:00

Did you have the guts to watch the video sum04??

I'm not going round in circles.

I'm saying this is the reality.

Do you have the guts to look at it and make a new informed descision??

Opinions changed against their will remain of their opinion still.

Are you willing to have your opinion changed in light of new ( to you) evidence??

KickArseQueen · 30/12/2010 00:01

Or did you come on here just to incite a ruck?

RockinRobinBird · 30/12/2010 00:01

Oh dear, poor you. I notice you haven't actually tried to explain your decision, you made a few excuses before you declared yourself bored and sashayed off. Some courage of your convictions there.

GColdtimer · 30/12/2010 00:01

Can I ask why any doctor would do this, unless of course they were also from the same culture. And ease don't tell me you can get this done on the nhs.

pooka · 30/12/2010 00:02

Twofalls - ds2 fine and dandy and 16 months now. :)

Also imprinted on brain - was horrendous to me (minor compared to other illnesses/treatments/things some parents and children have to go through).

Glad your dd is well :)

sum04 · 30/12/2010 00:02

I watched the video and yes i can see why people feel so strongly against it, but it hasnt changed my opinion and i would do it again.

MrsCratchit · 30/12/2010 00:03

Terribly immature way to exit a debate sum. Why not just add a 'whatever' and be done with it.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 30/12/2010 00:03

twofalls, as far as i know it doesn't have to be a doctor that does it. i could be wrong but i think Rabbis can do it.

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