Beanies are cooking nicely!!!!! (part 2)

[jessicaandbumpsmummy]

Here you go girls!

hmmmmmmmm well as it's u J&RM! u can have a square! lol.

Hi J&RM Congratulations!!!!!!!!

only a square?! Jeez..... well i guess ive got to lose these baby pounds (probably more like stones) somehow.... FAR too much choccy and ice cream throughtout the last 9 months - i KNEW i would regret it!!!

lol - i'm kidding girl! how's the LO todya did she enjoy her outing?

Hi rom,

I'm not too bad - i have loads of pelvic pain and have to roll out of bed but that's all.

Finsh work in two weeks so hoping to post alot more then and keep up with everyones news!

hi all, especially dyzzidi on still in pre jeans and baby here in a few weeks!!

Nemo, don't over do it girl, or you'll be early too!

Munz lol at the sweets, how did Rom know you were going to do that!!

Well soup is made, pumpkin done and ironing out the way, dd is now looking better (just as I've booked her in at the docs tonight for a quick double check its nothing too serious) she's playing jedi's currently with ss (a nearly 2 and a 7 year old with fake lightsabres, just waiting for the tears..)

LO is doing well bless her - she got lots of cuddles and attention at toddlers this morning. Nothing like loads of other mums cooing over your baby to make you feel like the best mum in the world!

Got a huge bottle of the peppermint Gaviscon agree the aniseed one is horrid, peppermint not far behind it. Swig it down followed by milk.

Am a total chocoholic as well, yesterday I had most of a pack of Jaffa Cakes, 3 twixs and 2 caramel logs why can't I have a craving some something healthy like melon?

Hello all! I have barely managed to catch up and now I have only a moment to post something...

Yellowbear: Great to hear from you!

hello everyone else!

I have just found out that there is a good possibility that I will be playing the single mother game for another 3 month. The UN has not made decisions about permanent contracts but they want DH to stay. He doesn't have a job here to return to either. With only a 3 month extension we would not be allowed to join him. Funny thing is that I thought I would go mad after the first 3 months; if anyone had suggested that it would go on for 9 months I would have run away right then and there.

I am trying to contain the tears because a) It won't make any dif and b) I don't even know how to tell the kids yet. This whole situation is really horid. I am so exhausted and lonely. In case I suspect that I have PND one the DB is born, I will need you all to remind me that the decline started long before the baby was on the scene.

sorry to hear this cadmum

my DP and I were separated for a month earlier this year and I hated it so don't know how you must be feeling

sending you some virtual hugs

ugh, sorry about the news cadmum.
i was left witha 6wk old ds when my dh went to the falklands. he didnt come back til ds was 6mths-one hell of a long time for me, him and ds.
so i do understand. what does your dh say about it?
bella,wendy, even just a line form you makes my day, so nice to know you are lurking about. have wrote to santa on your behalf btw, god how much we are all willing good news for you guys asap!!! keep posting, please.

morning girls.

Cadmum.... im soooooooo sorry sweetheart - really feel for you xxxx

Another FANTASTIC night here.... Rebecca went down at 10pm last night, woke at 3am and that was her til 6.45am when Jessica woke her up!

Munz - you have been a bit TOO quiet this week, you sure you are ok? If you want to chat, you know where i am xxx

Right you lot have talked soo much have had to flip thread in an attempt to catch up.

dyzz..so you could be next then..although dont want to dissapoint they said that all way through with adam and all my family have gone at 34wks but I was still there at 42+1 with a stubborn little boy..lol hope you enjoyed your chinese!!!

rom i wouldnt have cut the grass if it wasnt for the fact i have been trying to get dh to do it since end of august although i am paying for it so is he believe me..lol

J+RM glad you had a good night last night sounds like R is going to be a really good sleeper for you..must be october babies heres hoping dec ones are the same..lol

YB bet you cant wait for your maternity leave to start..will be good to see more of you.

cadmum what a pain in the arse about your dh..was really hoping something would be sorted for you..hugs

Sk and others craving choccie..according to the nct magazine people who ate choccie in pregnancy had more smiley babies at 6mths old...thats as good a reason as any to me..lol As for odd cravings..not a craving as such but ive put my birth ball up for sale as adam uses it as a football and i just dont get to sit on it so when i was deflating it the other day i took great pleasure in putting my face by the hole and feeling all the air come out..adam was looking at me like I was insane...lol

friz hope your dd has a good day today.

well not a lot going on here today I dont think...might go to mothrecare in an attempt to hunt out a rudy reindeer like i got adam in the sales last year..cost me £2.50 but has typically become his fave toy so am desperate to get hold of a back up..lol

Thanks for your sympathy.

I have been up crying for nearly 3 hours straight. I don't think I really knew the depth of my loneliness and sorrow until I finally started to think about it. Having had NO time to myself in 6 months is utter madness. I am trying to keep it together for the sake of our children so I have to live a lie every single day.

To top it all off DH did not call me at all yesterday afternoon so I tried his cell around midnight (he usually calls me once the kids are in bed) and SOMEONE ELSE ANSWERED THE PHONE!

Turns out that he let a co-worker 'borrow his phone for the week-end' and he had texted me at around 10:30 to let me know. The last text message from my DH was August 28th so this is far from stardard procedure...

I know this will sound crazy but I am so glad that I have some place to vent this because nobody in RL has a clue that I am on the verge of falling apart and I am sick of putting on a brave front.

cadmum - i am horrified to hear you have got to endure another 3 months on your own. it doesnt seem right when you have 3 kids to look after AND you are pregnant. i am for you, you have been so long on your own already. And the phone thing is the icing on the cake, you should at the very least be able to talk to your d/h and get hold of him - what if you had an emergency? i think you need to tell d/h how much this is getting you down. i know i would.
masses of virtual hugs, wish there was more we could do caddy x

yellowbear - glad you will be able to come and talk to us more. sorry to hear of your pelvic pain, but great news you are almost on mat. leave. how many weeks are you now?

ok girls - caught up again! lol

rom - I got more sweeties form tesco - bogof - oh how the mums will love them visiting my house 110% suger induced sweets! lol. also got 2 tubes of smarties (the big ones for me - althou in morrisions it's 3 for £3 instead of the 2 for £2)

dyz - yep - no weird cravings here, althou mum only craved choc when she was PG with DB - hopefully we'll be similar - so far things have been - her labout was only 5 hours I think she said as well. (and about 3 with me so fingers crossed) I di really fancy some cheesy garlic bread the other day - but that might have been cos we were in aresturant and DH/DF were eating some - so I asked the waiter for anotehr plate and knicked half each of theirs! lol - didn't want a main meal after that. lol@ u forcing everyone to look in their draws! lol did u enjoy ur chinese?

SK - I can't wait to see my bump moving about like that - and I know DH can't - since seeing the 20 weeks scan and seeing it's a boy he's been a lot more calmer and intrested in things wanting to rub my tum all the time (has even started to rest his head on it!) lol.

cads - after the w/e u should ring ur DH and give him what for - as rom said what if there was na emergancy. (((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))) on the extra 3 months - god only knows how u are managing - 6 months with no children was bad enough - is there any chance DH can come home for 2 weeks or at least a long weekend a couple of times? I know it's not ideal but it's better than 3 months solid without him?? - still u know were we are/have my email if u want to vent - I mean it girl - don't u sit at home on ur own u send an email or some on here. (and don't forget to tell him off for lending his phone out)

wend/bella - second what DQ says - we're all rooting for u here, I just wish there was more we could all do for you.

J&RM - glad LO enojyed her first outing. & the sleeping's improved somewhaht. how's jess with her now? i'm fine honestly don't worry - mum and dad have been down - and DR who's been on for 2 whole hours all week - every day - so naturally i've not seen any of them b4! - oooh and guess what - they're even doing it at 6pm every sat night as well! - DH is v v unammused by it all! lol. oh well!

yb - how long till ur Mat leave? if it's close. I have 8 weeks this side of xmas and 4 after to go. roll on the 9th feb I say.

nemo - lol@air in ur face! lol - I read that nct mag as well - v informative I found on the caffeine.

well best get off I suppose now i've caught up with everyone. (ooh yes and get tea on - DH will be home in a bit) hope everyones ok.

congrats JABM - Isabelle doing well and her sleeping is similar to Rebecca, must be a girl thing! Last night she woke at 2.30am and then I woke her at 7am. Am trying my hardest to breast feed her as gave up after 8 or so weeks with dd1 after losing confidence in my supply etc. Any tips welcome!

hope all u ladies are well.

cant help yingers - im on bottles!

Cadmum - sending you some more virtual hugs I know how hard it is being pregnant and having one baby to look after, you poor thing and you should be at your DH for not being contactable 24/7 men!!!

Nemo - definately true about the chocolate and happy babies, my DD is so smiley and happy most of the time. Thought she would caome out looking like a creme egg I ate so many, DD2 will come out like a jaffa cake!

Yingers - stick with the breastfeeding, it gets so much easier. The first 3 weeks are the hardest. Believe in your bodies ability to feed your baby. I had the wobbles at about 8 weeks too but I stuck with it ended up feeding DD for a year. They go through phases of feeding all the time and you think you don't have enough milk (and your boobs feel empty) but you will make more for them. The more they feed the more you'll make. Would say just go with it feed her often and you'll be fine.

Well was going to try PU/PD method to get DD to sleep in her own bed all night. She went down at 8 as usual and got up at 6.50am this morning!! Never woke once! Typical my daughter DP was all set for her waking and she didn't wake once. Bet she starts waking once it's my shifts.

ooooooooooooo creme egg...darn it SK..lol

Sorry nemo creme eggs will be in the shops after Xmas I'm sure.

DD woke at 6 this morning DP went in comforted her put her back in her cot and that was her until 8.30am (or 7.30am) don't think she is getting this sleep training. I had lovely nights sleep though.

Yingers, your body is designed to produce enough milk for your little girl. Have faith in yourself and be patient. As SK pointed out, there will be days where you are convinced that you are not going to be able to satisfy her and you may find that you are constantly feeding but you can make it through. It really does get easier once they are a bit bigger. The worst thing you can do to your supply is supplement with formula at this stage when you are still trying to establish a good supply. HTH.

The breastfeeding threads on here are full of information. (although I admit to being somewhat reluctant to post there...) Another fantastic resource is the La Leche League UK. They will have a local group near you and a telephone number of volunteers willing to answer questions. Unlike other breastfeeding support, they are all experienced mothers trained NOT to judge your choices.

This is the La Leche League website.

Thanks for all of the virtual hugs. Sorry for the convoluted post yesterday; pregnancy hormones and loneliness are not a good combination for me. Been there; done that; got the T-shirt. I was on my own with DS1 whilst expecting DD and thought DH was a selfish git then too.

He is very sorry and was/is available on his Canadian mobile (to the tune of $3.69/minute).

He does come every two or three weeks (for the week-end) but it is torture for all of us because the expectations for those two days are ridiculous and I am always exhausted and facing a mountain of housework by the time he leaves. We seem to avoid all chores and sensible scheduling when he is here.

I need to give this situation some serious thought because I see NO reason to stay here (in this particular city) where we have no friends/family and I am essentially a single mother with a DH who has NO BLOODY CONCEPT of how crap this is for me and his children. When I try to explain how I feel I always end up feeling like I am his mother and he acts like he is just sick of being forced to be accountable.

Cadmum - I am so sorry you are having such a crap time of it at the moment. You must be absolutley exhausted dealing with family life and being pg. Are you still teaching your kids at home? Is there any way that you can move somewhere nearer to either your DH or either of your families that would allow you to have some practical support as well as emotional support at this time. I hope and pray that things work out for you sooner rather than later and that you can have a more normal family life before your little one arrives in the spring.