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Weird/Inappropriate things people ask when you're pregnant

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lucielooo · 04/10/2010 15:58

  1. I've lost count of the number of people whose first question is 'was it planned?'

Yes it was! and like I'd tell you if it wasn't!! Even DP's ex-wife asked this when he told her Grin

We've been together for 3 years and lived together for 2 so it's not like we met 3 weeks ago on mysinglefriend.com!

  1. People asking if we want a boy or a girl.. I'm pretty sure you get what you're given so it's pretty pointless!!
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frenchfries22 · 05/10/2010 06:14

Having not been home for a year, at 20 weeks pregnant with our first I was met at the airport by my mum whose first words were "hello fatty" neadless to say after a 13 hour flight I cried like a baby - wasnt a great start!

Zahara I also had the same aparently ypu not only get ugly with a girl but you get a fat nose too so I had my colleagues checking out my nose on a daily basis and commenting on the size!!

SaorAlba · 05/10/2010 06:36

Three people so far have asked if we're getting married. My response is either 'Yes, definitely. We're thinking 2030 would be a good time' which tends to shut up those who don't know me so well or 'Well we can't afford a house, a baby and a wedding, and the house and the baby were the priorities'.

Kathyjelly · 05/10/2010 06:42

My boss said "f*ing hell, how old are you?"

Angry
shell96 · 05/10/2010 10:11

my friend and her dh announced that they were expecting their first baby after years of ttc and fertility treatment. To which a friend said to them (knowing full well the circumstances) 'well its not a very natural way to make a baby is it?' WTF?!!

lucielooo · 05/10/2010 11:54

Shock at so many of these! Amazed at how thoughtless/rude people are!

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zahara1 · 05/10/2010 12:02

I also hate people/strangers on the street and public transports that stare at you relentlessly (or rather stare at your belly)!!

I think one day I won't be able to resist and will ask them what their problem is.

And also, why is it that once you are pregnant, you become public property?! I've had loads of perfcet strangers coming up to me to touch my belly and give me advise on what I should do/eat/say/wear etc.
WTF!!!

FingonTheValiant · 05/10/2010 12:15

Almost no one has touched my bump - in fact mil has done it once, and my mum hasn't done it at all - I'm 39+1. I was really pleased about it, but now I'm worried it means I give off a serious anger vibe :o

Those few who have touched have never asked first, grr. Only one idiot person has been stupid enough not to register my annoyance and do it twice!

I can't get over the number of people who say "so, does it move?" Including people who have had children. If it didn't, I'd hardly be standing here having a chat about car seats would I? Hmm

Followed by "have you made sure you've requested all the pain relief/epidural?" I love these peoples' faces when I then mention hypnobirthing/home birth with birth pool; they make me a lot more confident about it than I would be otherwise :)

Scorpette · 05/10/2010 12:17

I'm only 7+4, so haven't told many people, but have had some really crappy comments from medical folk so far. I'm 37 and it's my first. When I rang my GP's surgery to tell them I'd got a BFP, they put me through to a random Doc - who said, 'So the IVF worked, did it?' When I told him that I've had no fertility treatment, as my notes show, he said, 'Oooooh, doing it naturally at your age - well done!' (had to stop myself telling him to fuck off!).

Then, I've just had to register at a new surgery nearer home. They require all new patients to register with a nurse first. When she was asking me my basic info and I told her I'm pg, she said, 'IVF, was it?'. When I told her it wasn't, she said, 'but you're very old to be having a child - are you sure?'. To which I replied that I think I'd remember going through IVF, seeing as it's lengthy, painful, stressful and often traumatic. She then gave me a Hmm look - I still think she doesn't believe me! THEN, when she kept calling me Mrs and I pointed out that I'm a Ms, she asked me why I had got pregnant without being married and actually tutted and shook her head! I complained at the reception about her afterwards Angry

I know the Daily Fail and its ilk like to scaremonger that women automatically become infertile after 35, but you'd think medical professionals would know better! If I'd had IVF, I'd be totally proud and upfront, but it seems odd that everyone just presumes we've had fertility treatment solely because of my age. I bet I'll be having twins now - then EVERYONE will think that! Grin

Threelittleducks · 05/10/2010 12:24

Oh yeah, just remembered my dear old nan.

She asked my Mum 'how did it happen?'
My mum: 'What do you mean?'
Nana: 'Well, MrDucks is catholic, isn't he?'
Mum: ' yeah....but, well, not really [gets uncomfortable]'
Nana: So he must be using the withdrawal method?'
Mum: Shock 'I don't KNOW!!!???!!!'
Nana: 'But that's how they do it, isn't it?'
Mum: I don't know! Stop talking! I don't ask these things!!!
Nana: Well, it obviously didn't work for his dad did it?'

(FIL had 6 kids and is hardcore catholic)

Mum: Shock

Sarahlou8 · 05/10/2010 12:30

Oh my God Scorpette, I'm really shocked at that!!
I'm 37 too and nobody batted an eyelid. I brought it up with my GP when I booked in about my age and she said nowadays it's the norm and she wasn't bothered at all, and neither were my midwives!!

Anyway, sorry to go off tangent, carry on ladies, I'm enjoying this thread!

FingonTheValiant · 05/10/2010 12:32

ROFL at your nan, ducks!

Dh and myself are both from BIG catholic families, and get a lot of "didn't your grandparents have a tv?" etc. To which we both reply "yes, of course, but who wouldn't rather have loads of sex?" :o

lucielooo · 05/10/2010 12:37

Shock Shock Shock at the nurse Scorpette!!

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HighlandlassinLondonshire · 05/10/2010 12:55

My doctor asked me,
So Mrs Highlandlass how it happened.....
errr what..!!!!

BabyRoosMum · 05/10/2010 12:57

To prove a point...went out for a walk round the trafford centre last night to try and "get things going"...dp took a photo of me and has posted on Facebook (in a nice, last evening out before baby kind of way...and in a proud father to be way too!) There are now 5 comments saying how huge I am and 4 asking if it's twins??? In said photo, I am wearing a size 12 non-maternity dress (albeit fairly roomy :) ).....Im due on Saturday....

b00kw0rm · 05/10/2010 13:07

Zahara- what is it with having girls? When I was pregnant with DD, a Spanish student of mine announced he could tell I was having a girl because my behind was so wide!
Oh... thanks!

Scorpette · 05/10/2010 13:31

Thanks, guys. The annoying thing is, when the nurse asked my DOB - before me telling her I am pg - she asked me to repeat it in surprise and told me I looked at least 10 yrs younger but then still patronised me like I'm the world's oldest preggo!

Scorpette · 05/10/2010 13:33

Oh, I meant to add - where I live has one of the highest rates of teenage pregnancy in the UK. Perhaps I really am one of the oldest preggos they've seen!

Magic8ballhastheanswers · 05/10/2010 13:43

I am 16 weeks with identical twins so people (obviously those who don't know me too well) have asked me if we had IVF.

I also sadly lost DD2 at 21 weeks last year and my aunt thought it would be nice to tell me last week about someone who had just had a stillborn baby. Thanks.

Antidote · 05/10/2010 13:52

Lots of cats bum faces about what I was eating and the fact there were aspects of my job I was still doing.

Can't recall any really shocking comments, but loads of horror stories about birth & pregnancy seems to be the norm for where I work.

I have to say my cockles were well and truly warmed yesterday by the electoral role woman who came to the door to get me to sign something and asked loads of NICE questions

Was it my first? How exciting!

Was my mum coming to help out? Glad to hear it. Everyone needs their mum.

Was I planning to breast feed? Good for you. It is hard work, but stick at it and drink plenty of water.

Where was I having it? You'll be fine, that's a good hospital. I had BOTH my ones there.

loveulotslikejellytots · 05/10/2010 15:07

I had a lovely Woman ask me in Tesco last year when I was due, and telling me lovely stories about her 7 mo baby... DH and I haven't even started TTC yet (and weren't even married at this point). In her defence I was on the way to a friends and she asked me to pick up some nappies, so I can see the connection.

I didn't have the heart to tell her I wasn't pregnant so told her a made up a due date... I think I need to cut back on the pies.

Never been so embarrased in my life, I quickly paid and left.

coraltoes · 05/10/2010 15:24

"so did you conceive in X place where you were on holiday?"
uh EXCUSE ME?! are you seriously asking about where an when the deed was done?!

katster37 · 05/10/2010 15:43

Oh my, some of these are outrageous!!

I am nearly 18 weeks with my second - about to announce it at work on Thursday, and I am dreading the comments now, especially as my DS is not even one yet!! Am guaranteed a few hundred "was it planned?"s aren't I? I did have one "Are you pleased?" I am, but I said "no." with a really straight face. She looked quite shocked and scuttled off. I am already fed up of the "you'll be wanting a girl this time to even things out" comments.

rudbekia · 05/10/2010 16:01

just to add (this thread is hilarious btw....)

my grandma is AMAZED I'm still working - only 29wks so what does she expect??! she also sounds slightly miffed that I'm feeling fine and was sure I was going to have a difficult time because I was (in her words) 'so thin'. My grandma is convinced I eat nothing (have a restricted diet but manage perfectly well). I had to point out that I was 8 1/2 stone when I got preggers (I'm just 5f5" and a small build generally) so a good weight for me - she couldn't believe it - and sounded equally shocked when I pointed out that I'm now 10 stone. Honestly, I swear she's waiting for some sort of crisis to emerge.

Samraves · 05/10/2010 16:10

I have been feeling ill all the way through and agree - there is no good way to answer the 'how are you feeling?' question... err just as crap as the last time you asked thanks, and apparently I should have a wonderful labour... although apparently I don't know what has hit me yet - just wait until the babies born....

I also hate it when people say 'have you tried ginger nuts or eating little and often and travel bands... I am now 32 weeks, I tried all these and more at the beginning... hmm

katster37 · 05/10/2010 16:25

Samraves I had that last time with the ginger nuts!! Errr, when you are puking every hour, a pissy ginger nut is not going to do a right lot!!!

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