Weird/Inappropriate things people ask when you're pregnant

[lucielooo]

1. I've lost count of the number of people whose first question is 'was it planned?'

Yes it was! and like I'd tell you if it wasn't!! Even DP's ex-wife asked this when he told her

We've been together for 3 years and lived together for 2 so it's not like we met 3 weeks ago on mysinglefriend.com!

1. People asking if we want a boy or a girl.. I'm pretty sure you get what you're given so it's pretty pointless!!

Lol at your mum nocake :)

Luckily I've had very few inappropriate questions, maybe because I'm so scary!!

Mum asked me the "was it planned" question but I think it was out of genuine concern as we'd given the impression that we were going to wait for another couple of years (it was planned, but more in a "oh go on let's do it" kind of way - hence the Christmas Day due date!)

MAQ I really cannot believe the question about which shag it was!! God that's kind of creepy really, especially when you think your colleague was thinking so carefully about your sex life!

I've had the "well done" thing a couple of times. I don't find it inappropriate as such just odd. It wasn't an exam, it was actually just a bit of fun at the time, though we are lucky it resulted in a baby!!

My DH is the one who came out with the most inappropriate thing really. We were out with his friends and they were congratulating us and he was acting all proud and such, then he said "At least I know I'm fertile" in a real "what a big man I am" sort of way. Cringe! I didn't say anything at the time but I told him later never to say it again - it made me feel like some heifer he'd inseminated!!

well zahara I hope you are restored to your former beauty once the baby is here

WoD it makes me laugh how proud DP's get.. :) when people ask if it's planned I tend to feel defensive and want to say something like actually we've been trying for aaaggeees so they know how planned it was, but then DP gets a bit 'well not that long you know, don't want people to think I wasn't up to the job..' as though it's something DP's do on their own!!

a couple of people have asked me if it was planned or a surprise and given it took 4 years, 2 rounds of IVF and a couple of ops i am still not sure how to answer. i normally say both and smile inwardly at their confusion. nosey gits.

I got are you going to get married then ?

Well I thought we had enough on our plate having a baby, buying a house and DP getting a new job. So hell yeah, why not, lets get married too !!! Cause you know we're not spending enough money as it is, lets spend thousands of pounds on me looking like a heifer in a white dress

Gods sake

god I sound totally hormonal

A girl on the tills at poundland asked me if I was scared.
She then asked how far on I was and what I was calling it.

In that order.

She was very odd.

My Dad (worryingly enough) asked me "how did that happen then?"
Given that am happily married and have been for about 7 years, am not sure whether I'd rather he believes his 36 year old daughter "doesn't do things like THAT" or if he doesn't know how it works....

"You're huge - when are you due to drop?" (I HATE the "drop" expression . . . )

"Are you excited?" (Weird mixture of emotions, including excitement, and don't want to discuss it with people I don't know)

"Do you mind if you have a boy or a girl" (No, just a healthy baby please)

And yes, people's nightmare stories about labour/death in childbirth and particularly inappropriate . . .

Lots of 'was it planned' (yes, kind of) and 'is that why you're getting married?' (no).

Best one was 16 year old girl who washed my hair at hairdressers'. Her: Are you scared of the birth? Me: [sth flippant. Her: Well, you should be. Apparently it really hurts. I'd be terrified, etc etc. She then asked how old I was, and told me that she didn't want to be 'an old mum' (I'm 32). Didn't get offended, just thought 'Ah, you'll learn, sweetcheeks'.

I met a male friend for lunch when I was 4 days overdue (am still overdue ) and he looked down at my bump - which is not that big according to everyone else including midwife - and said 'you'll be needing to buy some bigger clothes then!'

Ummmmm yeah, a. my bump's pretty average and my top fitted nicely.

and b. Like I'm about to go out and buy clothes when I'm overdue and about to (fingers crossed) have my baby.

Who needs enemies.......

Went to see an osteopath, about lower back pain, on the phone he asked 'how many weeks are you?' and I told him 29, to which he said 'So are you HUGE?' and I said no, I am a normal size woman with a bump that is normal size for a 29 week old normal size baby.'

Why do people think it is ok to ask you if you are 'huge'? It really pisses me right off.

I get the 'are you excited?' which I don't mind and 'are you scared' which I find inappropriate and 'where are you having the baby' which is just odd. Why do people want to know that?

People ask me 'how are you, are you well?' I have learnt there is no correct answer to this questions.

If I say 'yes I'm great, I've been really well' they reply 'ooh easy pregnancy = hard labour'.

Oh gee thanks so what you're saying is I'm going to have a really crap time? Cheers.

If I say 'well it's a bit hard, I am tired and my back is aching' they reply 'well you shouldn't complain now you've still got a long way to go and it's only going to get worse'.

There is no winner in this situation!

Lol@ Lucieloo

Well, we were having sex at least every day at the time

Not quite so much now i'm 35 weeks

I'm amazed at some of these - can't believe the "is it the same father" ones

They just deserve a punch up the bracket

My dsis asked me over the phone: "So are you all fat now?" Lovely...

I was umming and ahhring about being in pain/hot/tired, I am due any day now.

A male relative said, I kid you not......."I have no sympathy for you right now, you should stop shagging him" pointing to my DH

People at work kept saying 'so how far are you then, are you sure you're 8 months?^ because my bump was nice and compact. Then there's the others who asked if I was having quads... make your mind up folks, either I'm too small or the size of a small elephant!

My friend had been married to someone she worked with for 6 years, everyone where she works knows her DH. When she told her boss she was expecting he said "are you keeping it?"

the first six weeks are hell, absolute hell. in fact the first year is pretty awful

as said by my MIL...great. thanks for that.

Lots of 'was it planned' (seven yr gap) and 'are you sure there's only one in there.' And some well meaning friends who every time their baby screams inform me it will be me soon and tell me having three is a nightmare.
Well I can't do much about it now can I?

"Do you still do it with your husband now you're pregnant? I mean, do you still get frisky or have you gone off it?" from a (creepy) male friend of friend who I hardly knew at all. .

1. Was it planned? (yes thanks....:) )
2. Are you getting married? (sure-being the size of a whale, why not??? )
3. My boss to his boss, "She's pregnant! And she didn't even ask my permission"......to which HIS boss (quite senior, public sector female HR professional) The best bit was watching her try to reply in the way that would most avoid any kind of discrimination accusation that may have resulted from my requirement to ask my boss's permission....

PS DP's mum has started to tell people we are in fact getting married next year such is her "shame" at her only son's first born being born out of wedlock..... I love my life..... :o

Oh, and "is it your DH's?" from a female colleague. Why she said that I don't know, being a perfectly normal woman and mother herself the rest of the time. She wasn't joking either, it was phrased as a pleasant enquiry in the same vein as "Have you got a pram yet" or similarly innocent question.

Whenever I get the "so, do you want a boy/girl" question I answer "actually, I'm hoping it will be a kitten."

It is the only answer. If you don't like cats, you could hope for a puppy.

What's with the 'was it planned' question? I've got the most polite friends and colleagues, yet every single one of them asked me if it was planned or not. I have never ever in my entire life asked someone if their pregnancy was planned or not. Might as well just ask 'Did you have sex without a condom / pills with that bloke you're with?'

Someone actually asked me to seriously consider an abortion when I said my first pregnancy wasn't planned, I'd just got a new job and it was going to be tough(which sadly ended in MC and I've been having health troubles since). WTF?

Oh, another one, 'If it's been confirmed that you're having a down syndrome baby, will you abort it? Well, I would.', when I was 12 weeks pregnant with DS. But this same person also told me that any babies born before 26 weeks shouldn't be allowed to live so didn't take much notice.

I will definitely be sensitive when asking pregnant women questions in the future. :)

I was 38.5 weeks, about to go on ML. Someone comes into the office to ask me to do a piece of work.

Yes that's fine, i say, tho I might ask X to do it, as I'll be gone at the end of the week.

"oh, where are you going?" they ask.

Yup, I ate all the pies, and now I'm off to Tenerife...

"How come you're going on maternity leave so early before your due date?"

At 37+2????

"You're huuuuge - will it be really really enormous?"

No, this is just what 37+2 looks like. And you're no sylph yourself.