Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads continued part 4...

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Our shiny new thread - all welcome!

Oh louise how insensitive, If only people would double check these things before they start ringing round. I'm glad you made her feel bad.

buffy how goes it?

muser Didn't realise you were still puking, how completely crap for you, mine has eased now except for the odd few days or if I let myself get too hungry, (ie not eat for over an hour )Hope it eases a bit for you, to just feel normal would be nice wouldn't it?

Thanks happy choc biscuits very welcome over here

Today I ate a whole pack of M&S christmas cake slices, 6 in total, they had a pound off so couldn't resist, I am officially a porker. :)

magicball nice to see you over here, glad those little ones are active and happy.

Sorry to anyone else I haven't namechecked, dh has just decided he wants his dinner now so am popping off to heat up lasagne. :)

Hi LIA think we re doing the rounds here!!!!! LOL

Morning all,

I hope everyone is well.

Louise - Sorry i haven't been back on since for a while. I hope you are coping okay, i still miss my little boy so much and i always will. Life is just different now, I can smile, laugh and be happy without feeling guilty but every happy experience is tinged with a little sadness and the thought "I wish Oscar was here with me to experience this". It certainly does get easier over time, i haven't had counselling just yet but i'm due to start in the next couple of weeks, mainly for coping through this pregnancy as it has been really difficult. I have a great support group with my family and my oh has been fantastic. I also have a 4 year old who keeps me smiling. Have you found the sands website? A great support website for women (and husbands/partners) who have been through similar situations. I wish i could tell you the pain dissapears completely, but it doesn't, you just learn to cope and live with it. I find talking about him helps a lot, it keeps his memory alive. It's a rollercoaster of emotions but surround yourself with positive support and it'll keep you going through the tough times.

Only you will know when it's right to start TTC again, i felt i wanted to start again straight away and luckily fell pregnant 4 months later, the care i have recieved from midwife's, gp's and consultants has been great.

Thinking about you! Big hugs...
x

Thanks OSCH very much for your reply.Having good and bad days back at the gym which has helped , eating properly again just still not sleeping very well.[to be expected, i guess].

Been in to town today i have to remain detached its hard having seen all the "babys first christmas " stuff.I m just concentrating on getting myself in the best shape ttc again.Have looked at sands website , may access them at some point but ok at the moment as seeing a counsellor via occ health and attending a local support group.We re always talking about Georgie and got her photos up i love talking about her.She has affected so many people.Like you i too have a fabulous family, dH and friends a wonderful support system.

We re ttc asap , in fact finished my period today!!!, so be at it as soon as.I have no worries about future care as the care i recieved last time was excellant and as my MW said yesterday i would be scanned every 2 weeks up to 12 weeks then every 2 weeks from 28 weeks and a c sction at 38 weeks.

I m very glad you re recieving good care and things are progressing well for you.You give me hope which is all we ve got now and we re clinging on to dearly.Your story , where you re at now, is lovely i can totally empathise with all the heartache and stress you must have been/going through.I will keep my fingers crossed for you.

Thanks very much XXXX please keep in touch and let me know how things are going.

Hi to everyone else hope all are well XXX

Louise great to hear you so positive and great news that period finished, your body is getting ready to ttc again which is good news. osch lovely to hear from you also.

Completely not anywhere near as important as both of you, had MW appt today, took a little bit longer than usual to find HB but thankfully she did. We were so relieved. However it seems baby has gone breech, I'm not too surprised as could feel something quite hard up high the other day and was thinking it must have a very hard bum. So I have to have a scan tomorrow and also decide if i want to have some drugs and then they can try and move it. Reeally not sure what to do. Going to read as much as I can about it now and see what happens. Going to try and stay on all fours for as long as possible this evening too. Just want baby to be okay in there.

Happy have wittered on your other fred! Good luck x

Please can someone take me off the list. I'm afraid a missed miscarriage was detected on a private scan yesterday. :(

So very sorry Hairy, how awful for you. Take care of yourself.

Hope everyone else is doing okay.

Updating list from Monday.

Wednesday's List

Unbuffy - baby#2 (1 DD) - 37+4 wks EDD 27th November
HappyGirl - baby#1 36 weeks EDD 8th December
Zayja - baby#1 35+2 wks EDD 11th December
Goodluckbear - baby#1 34+4 wks EDD 18th December
Malteser1981 - baby#1 34+4 wks EDD 18th December
Gilda - baby#1 - 33+4 wks due 25th December
BunnyBaby - baby#3 - 33+4 wks due 25th December
sparklyrainbow - baby#1 33 wks EDD 30th December
AlbaDeTamble - baby#2 (1DS, 3yrs) 32+2 wks EDD 3rd January. Next scan Nov 6th
toomuchteaching - baby#1 32 wks EDD 5th January
Redheadgal - baby#1 31+5 wks EDD 6th January
diggingforvictory - baby#4 (DS 1) 30+4 wks EDD 15th January
WestYorkshireGirl - baby#1 30+2 weeks EDD January 18th
Dorcas111 - baby#1 28+5 weeks EDD 28th January
Ba8y1 - baby#1 27+5 weeks EDD 4th February
Clareanna - baby#2 one DS 26+5 weeks ADD 3rd Feb 2011
Muser - baby#1 24+3 weeks EDD 27th Feb
Northerngoldilocks - baby#1 21+5 weeks EDD 18 March - next scan 12 November
Magic8ballhastheanswers - babies#3&4 21+1 weeks EDD 20th March
Liahgen - baby#6 20+2 weeks EDD 23rd March
Hopefully - baby#2 19+6 weeks EDD 2nd April
stuffedmk - baby#2 19+2 weeks EDD 4th April
Osch - Baby#3 18+3 weeks edd 10th April
Ivysedai - baby#2 16+6 weeks EDD 21st April
PenguinsMummy - baby#3 16+6 weeks EDD 21st April
VivClicquot - baby#1 15 weeks EDD 4th May
Loopymumsy - baby#? 15+1 weeks EDD 5th May
Tigerbear - baby#1 13+2 weeks EDD 14th May
Wobblewatcher - baby#2, 7+1 weeks, EDD June 27

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:
Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010
Amyboo with son Matthew James, 4.714kg (10lb3oz) born Tuesday 30th March 2010
Hoops with son Benjamin Scott, 7lb4oz born Friday 2nd April 2010
Memorylapse with daughter Olivia, born Friday 16th April 2010
Jacanne with daughter Lotta Eliza, 8lbs 5oz born 20th April 2010
Becky78 with son Thomas Christopher born 22nd May, 9lb 1oz
Meita with son Ianto born 23 August, 7lbs 4
Boodleboot with daughter Alice Elizabeth born 10 Sep - 8lbs 2oz
LeeWT with son Andrew Anthony born 28th Sept 7lbs 14oz
TFLS with son Charlie born on 30th September, 6lbs 8oz
SamB with daughter Ruby Mae born 19th October, 7lbs 10oz
Effilump with son Arlen born 16th October, 8lbs
Sarahlou8 with daughter Emily Isabella born 21st October, 7lb8oz

In our thoughts and prayers:
Louise with daughter Georgie born asleep on 10th October

We share the pain and mourn the loss with:
Jollster, Cheepz, Freezing, BarrenBrook, MsJL, LadyBee, Moofold, Banana87, BatteryHen and HairyTriangle

Hairy I am so sorry hun BIGGEST hug for you xxxx

Hairy, I'm so, so sorry. There's never the right words, but try to take care of yourself. Big hugs.

Happy, I went to a presentation today by an obstetrics consultant/professor. Whilst dismissing a lot of alternative stuff, he did recommend both accupuncture and moxibustion to turn a breech baby as research has proved both to be effective, worth a try.

Thanks and very, very best to all of you x Perhaps I'll be brave enough to join you one day.

I'm so sorry hairy. Thinking of you.

HAIRY soo sorry XX

HAPPY nothings unimportant everyone/anyone can say anything on here XX

Hairy I'm so very sorry. Just absolute pants. Take good care of yourself. Hugs xx

Will pop back later to say hi. Hope everyone else is doing ok.

Oh Hairy I'm so so sorry you poor thing, thinking of you xx

Hairy - take good care xx

Happy - If it was me I would go for ECV, the risk of an emergency cs as a result of a complication is 1% and considering the success rate for the midwives who perform them in the unit I work is 75% I like the odds!! Have to say it is unusual to offer an ECV as early as 36 weeks, most units do not offer until 37 weeks as there is still the chance of a spontaneous version to cephalic (esp with moxibustion as Alba said) and a higher chance of the baby reverting to breech even if the ECV is successful.
Terbutaline is the drug usually given to relax the uterus, it can make you a bit dizzy so don't be expecting to drive afterwards.
Good luck!

Been baking today, I should know better than to think I would be able to resist and take them into DH work place tomorrow. I am officially fat. And I hate myself for it.....pathetic thing to moan about when you consider the suffering of others but my changing shape and weight is really getting me down. Moan over.
Have a good night all. x

malteser I am about to send DH out to find scones and squirty cream after watching Jimmys foody wootsit. You are pregnant and the most womanly you will ever be and therefore beautiful! You are working so hard at the mo and think of all those things you can't have that are mucho calorific xx

Sod it I am pissed off with bloody heartburn and now restless legs thank god I can ignore it while typing but I know when I go to bed I will wake up EVERY single hour through the night BRING ON THE SCONES!!!!!

You are not fat. You are pregnant.

So so sorry hairy that you're going through this again- thinking of you x

Muser & Magic8 - thanks ladies but I am in fact both! Fat and pregnant that is! Having spent my entire adult life on a diet, just relaxing a little without going mad has meant I've put on 2 1/2 stone already.....but as you say growing a baby is more important. Lets hope the BF does the trick!

Hairy I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this again

Thanks all. Righ now I don't feel that I will ever be strong enough to TTC again, but I know I need to give myself time to sort my head out and get over this.

I am booked for an NHS scan on Monday and hope to have a D&C on Tuesday. I can't go through physical miscarriage again.

You're nearly due malteser and that does not seem an excessive weight gain to me. You are meant to gain weight to help put in stores for breastfeeding. You've got a lot of baby in there. Lot of extra blood swishing around your body. Placenta. Fluid. Boob growth. All sorts.

I quite like this site for telling you what all the weight is made up of, not much of it is fat! www.babycentre.co.uk/pregnancy/antenatalhealth/physicalhealth/weightgain/

Also, plenty of time to lose weight after the baby arrives. Why worry now?

agree with Muser , don't sweat it honey :)

Malteser, I'm with you on the weight gain... 17 kilos here so far and I'm only 32 weeks -- but the first 2kg were just gaining back what I'd lost after MMC so 'only' 15kg (nearly 2.5 stone) up from normal. More than most of the guidelines say, but I gained similarly with DS, and it was all gone by the time I went back to work 6 months later. Buggy pushing and baby carrying are both very good postnatal exercises - certainly worked for me.

Hairy I'm thinking of you. It's so cruel after everything you went through last time, I do hope at least that this can be a lot more straightforward for you. It's just not fair. I think you're absolutely right about giving yourself time, you are incredibly strong, even if it doesn't feel like it just now. Just be kind to yourself and try to take it really easily whilst you recover.