Mums to be due in May 2011

[emmywoo]

Hi everyone,
Thought I would start a thread for all us mums to be who are due in May 2011 so that we can support each other. xx

Hi All,

I'm due at end of May with my first. I can;t seem to stop crying at the moment, my partner is on the verge of walking out and I find it so difficult to explain why I'm upset as usually there isn't even a reason! Does any one know of a good book or website for fathers to be whop are finding a pregnant women very stressful???

xx

PeakeSims I'm not a crying person and I'm used to getting lots of stress at work but I ended up in tears in the office yesterday - admittedly it was an atrocious 2 days but normally I'd just go home and rant not cry at my desk. I also find that anything sad about babies makes me cry so I think you're probably quite normal. It's probably not quite the right thing but my DH downloaded the Mumsnet Baby Book to read on his phone and I think it's making him feel more prepared and more part of everything so that might help.

In another issue: has anyone else got colleagues who insist on gleefully recounting tales of miscarriages, traumatic births etc not that they have experienced just the "I heard that..." always from women who don't have children? It's really beginning to piss me off .

PeakeSims - I brought my husband a book called "The Bloke's guide to pregnancy" - its very tounge in cheek and funny, written by a man for men, that said it is very factual and really helps the man understand what is going on with you and why!! My husband has really enjoyed reading it and has even passed on some info to me that I have refused to read in my own pregnancy books - as im going by ignorance is bliss at the moment!! - you should get him a copy, it only cost about £5 or £6 and he was really pleased with it!

Labmonkey - im the same, all I am hearing from people at the moment it awful hidious birth stories - why do people do that knowing you are about to go through it??? I think there are as many nice birth stories out there as there are horrid ones, we just don't hear about them. I have decided, in my head, that I will just sneeze at work one day and the baby will just pop out, and as I work in a day nursery I can just carry on with my day!! - (I know this is unlikely but hey its getting me though at the moment!!)

Hi all,

Think I'm going to finish at the beginning of April as I have to take all my annual leave first. Really looking forward to not having to think about work and being able to focus on me and the baby, and also not having to travel as have a long commute on the days I don't work from home. But, like pilsbury1 I'm also concerned that I won't do everything I need to before then, but I work flexibly so I guess I can put in a few hours in April if i need to - may find that not working drives me crazy anyway, hard to tell as I've never had more than a couple of weeks off when I'm usually desperate for a break.

Not seen the programme yet, but my DH caught it one night when I was out and suggested I didn't watch it! Is it a must see for us or best avoided?

Not heard any hideous birth stories, but friend of mine had threatened labour ongoing from 31 weeks and gave birth at 35, and my cousin had her first early at 32 weeks, plus several friends had emergency caesarians, plus the Archers storyline for any of your Radio4 fans, so I'm not expecting it to be straightforward, but everyone is different and the majority of births are normal, so I think we should all relax for now.

Anyone else really feel that 24 weeks - Monday for me - is big milestone? Might start looking at prams and really considering labour options next week...

I have had 2 good birth experiences - two quick easy births with no pain relief, no screaming and no stitches! Ignore anyone who tells you bad stories - you can never know what it's going to be like for you until it happens. My mum had to have 3 c sections and I was convinced I wouldn't be able to give birth easily, but how wrong I was! DC1 was born in hospital extremely quickly (hadn't even met the midwife) DC2 was born at home within 2 hrs of contractions starting and I hope DC will be born at home too. Someone told me to keep walking around, so I did and I'm sure this is what helped me.

i'm finishing up at the end of April, will hoefully have a good couple of weeks to relax at home before baby makes an appearance.

we had our 20 week scan a couple of weeks ago and have been told we are expecting another boy! was almost convinced it was going to be a girl and had a name all ready, unfortunately the boys name list just keeps getting longer rather than shorter!

Bluewellies I am also 24 weeks next Monday and have already started looking at prams but your point about considering labour options is slightly freaking me out! Looking at prams is far more fun.. On a serious note is there something I should be doing on the giving birth considerations front?

I'm 24 weeks tomorrow and Ziggy has started kicking more so DH can feel it which is awesome. We got a travel system off ebay ages ago as it was cheap and local.

Thinking I should start reading some proper info about birth etc some point soon - DH knows more than me at the moment. The antenatal classes aren't for ages here so I should probably get a book.

Hi all! Happy new year :) We had the anomaly scan this week and she is doing great, thankfully. My bump is noticeable now, got some great maternity clothes on ASOS and very, including very comfy, cute maternity jeans. With mat leave, I've decided to work as much as possible to leave more time at the other side. I'm planning on going back to work in Jan 2012. As for white stuff on nipples, I was wondering what that was! but I won't show my husband!

I am 22+5 and going shopping with my Mum for baby stuff tomorrow so im prepared to be baffled! DH told me to 'keep it real' and not get sucked in by pretty colours and shiney things

Baby wigglesworth is kicking but a little shy with it and can tell when DH is coming and she stops when hes near.

I am going to finish at 34 weeks as im struggling now so by then its going to be tough and I commute an hour each way so its a long day! I know more time with the baby would be better but then I will have the support of my family when shes here but before its just me getting more tired.

Bubandbump the choices I have up here for where to have the baby are hospital, midwife-led birthing centre or home birth. MW suggested we visit birthing centre if not keen on hospital (I'm not) but really want to find out more about home birth too as DH is not keen but I am. And they like you to have it decided by 30ish weeks I think so that's what I meant. Not worrying about what might happen in labour for a long while yet!!!

Bluewellies - I had home birth with DC2 and it was wonderful. I was too worried to do it first time, but wish I had as both births have been extremely straight forward. My DH was a little unsure about it too, but it was a great experience for us both. I think my midwife brought the gas cylinders and bits and bobs round at about 37 wks so we were all prepared. I had two midwives with me through the short labour, and I knew that at any stage I could have changed my mind and gone in to hospital. I felt much better looked after and this was quite different to first birth where I was left alone for a lot of the time. Worth considering all the options!

Yikes all this talk of birth options! Had 22 wk scan this week, and we're team blue. Interesting how much more really Tiny T seems now we're talking about "him" rather than "it". Also work started on sorting out the house this week so I feel like I haven't stopped clearing up/out this weekend.

Plan to pack up work at 34wks on 1 April, although that's feeling terrifyingly close to d-day given all those horrible stories people keep telling me about people giving birth 7/8/10 weeks early (thanks guys - with you labmonkey and emmajane).

PeakeSims: Bought DH "the Expectant Dad's survival guide": not too blokey, quite practical and as well as letting him know what might be going on in my head it has given him lots of things to do, eg how to sort out car seats, why its important to make the nursery a nice place to be etc, any why he's in charge of any discharges from the cat (nice).

Eek keep having dreams about giving birth in the house! Which is not what I'm planning. Am hoping to have a water birth at the hospital but twice now vie had home birth dreams. The first one my 9 yo ds delivered him on the bathroom floor while dp was at work be arrived home just in time to see him pop out, in the second one dp delivered him on the kitchen floor in the middle of the night whilst ds slept soundly in bed. Hope these aren't premonitions!!

Im 24 weeks now and due on 6th may. My lovely hubby is in afghanistan and is due home the week our little boy is due! im terrified he's going to miss it! Its my first so Im hoping ill be one of those women who goes over by a week or so - wishful thinking i know anyone else in a similar position?

Hello all, I joined this group a while ago but haven't been posting, have kept an eye on things tho! I am 24 weeks, I finished work last week and am taking my 5 weeks annual leave before starting maternity leave as have been having a few problems in this (my first) pregnancy so want to take it easy. Getting used to days of Jeremy Kyle and This Morning, it's a whole new world.

mrsnic84, not in your position but am feeling for you, hopefully your DH will be around for the birth of your baby boy. You will have to keep everything crossed!!

24 weeks today!

Ng1412 I have done the same except have 6 weeks holiday so started last week instead. Not sure if anyone else is still extremely hormonal but I have managed to cry at Jeremy Kyle so far and keep comparing my bump size to Holly's on this morning..it really is a revelation!

Mrsnich you could be the first poster on mumsnet looking for tips to keep the baby in!

Anyone else not found out if it's a boy or girl? DH really didn't want to but somehow I think it's a boy and keep saying 'he' accidentally. Is this just me? It may be a bit of a shock if it turns out to be a girl though!

I am the same Bubandbump, been crying my eyes out watching This Morning, I need to get a grip.

We haven't found out the sex of Consuela (our nickname for the bump, just don't ask!!!) either, DH wanted to but I didn't. We keep saying "she" so will be equallly shocked if it is a boy!!

I am loving the peace and quiet and making the most of it.

Had a bit of scare last week as Consuela wasn't moving but we found the heartbeat and since I have had movement. How stressful is this business??!

hi ladies!

i haven't reached the crying stage yet (well aside from all the way through "one born every minute", but i think that's to be expected!), but it sounds very common so i'm waiting for that bit next!

Like Blue Wellies said, I'm also feeling chuffed that i've started the 6 month mark, it all feels very real now, especially as the bump is getting very punchy/kicky now (no more just thinking it's wind, lol!)

We're really lucky in that we've inherited a load of nearly-new stuff from my sis-in-law who roadtests baby thing for a differnt baby website, including a pram & a car seat, so in a funny way i'm kinda glad not to have to make a decision on those as its a scary thing to do (+ of course its great to save that money!).

Like the rest of you who haven't found out the sex, we're also erring on one side - my husband is convinced its a boy so we're calling it "he" 90% of the time, but keep telling each other that we honestly don't care and we must call it "she" too!! even if it is a girl chances are it'll be a big tomboy (like me) so hopefully won't be offended by being called "he" all this time :)

Clarabella - I'm also having insane dreams, but nothing yet about the actual baby or childbirth, yours sound very detailed! mine appear to be mainly sexual (!) or about friends i haven't seen in a long time.. odd

Mrsnich84 - crossing fingers, toes (and legs of course) that your hubbie makes it back on time! for all the horror stories you hear i'm sure that 90% of the time, first time mothers are usually late...

take care ladies

We haven't found out the sex either but we're just sticking with Ziggy at the moment so that's better than it. I find that we say he a lot although most people seem to think it's a girl (bump shape and all that stuff).

clarabella18 and Pilsbury1: I have been having really vivid dreams and always sexual!! 90% of the time staring Jacob from Twilight but have since done some wikkipeadia research on him and found out he is 18 so feeling the guilt now!

dizzy77: That book sounds great and I wish DH would go for some thing like that. He is very sure he knows whats best for me and does not want to be told! He was not happy when the MW told him that he should make sure hes looking after me and I think he got a little offended but I am sure she was trying to be nice! Thinking of how to put on my birth notes that he needs to be asked not told! I dont want that to sound like hes an arse but hes not at all hes just very protective

Thanks cowboylover: what my DH appreciates about the Expectant Dad's Guide book is that it states the different points of view and options and leaves the blokes to make up their mind (a bit like the mumsnet ones). So, you might get away with it. I must admit I just presented husb with it when I bought my own book, shortly after the blue line appeared. Leave it laying around the house maybe? Good luck on the birth notes - maybe something about how he "most positively responds to consultation rather than direction..." (I work in HR, can't you tell?)

We were messing around with some of the really useless baby namer finding iphone apps last night and decided to start a rumour the littl'un will be called Archibald Oliphant. Sorry to offend anyone who has selected those names! I quite like thinking of the bump as Archie though.

Ohh Dizzy your good!!! I will have a think along those lines x

Hello,

Was wondering if there are any ladies due in May 2011 who live in the Old Welwyn area of Herts? Have recently moved there from London and I don't know anyone, so it would be lovely to make some friends.

My NCT course isn't until April and it would be nice to meet other pregnant ladies before then!:)