Pregnancy after miscarriage -support thread

[cori]

As some of you already know I am currently 5 weeks pregnant after having had a missed miscarriage at 17 weeks in April of this year.
I am very pleased and excited to be pregnant again but at the same time full of fear and anxiety.
Their seems to be a lot of women on mumsnet at the moment who have experienced a recent miscarriage and are pregnant again. We all have the same worries.
Hopefully we can use this thread to offer each other mutual support and help keep each other positive.

Enid- when I rang the EPU to ask about early scans, I was told I'd have to get either the midwife or Dr to refer me. It wasn't a "self-referal" service. Thank goodness I saw a sympathetic Dr who at least was prepared to ring for an appointment, I don't know what I'd have done if both Dr and midwife had been unhelpful.

Our EPU insist on a dr/mw referal in the first instance but after that you can call them direct.

They had to give me 10 days between the scans and I am now half way through it feels like the longest 5 days!! still feeling sick (terrible today). how is everyone else doing?

Hi,
am back at work today after a weeks annual leave.Feel sick again, but despite this I still do not feel very pregnant. Must be though, hey? Am still having palpitations, am going to see GP tomorow. Have acupuncture tonight

10 days seems a long time to wait Xena. Counting down the days with you. If you are still have symptoms everything sounds like it will be OK.

What did your G.P. say Cori?
Just 3 days to wait now for me. I have being trying to be positive but had cramping pains yesterday.

Morning all,
Cori- what did your gp say about your palpitations. How are they now?
Xena- the week must be dragging for you. Are you sure the cramps you had isn't just everything stretching. I had them a few weeks ago and I mentioned it to the midwife. I said it felt like my period was about to start and she said it was a good sign, especially with "shooting pains" as well around my stomach and in my back.
As for me, in the mornings I don't really feel pg at all. My boobs look massive, so that's a good sign. I felt really awful last night, sick etc, mainly because I didn't have a very good nights sleep Wednesday night. I really want my scan appointment to hurry up along (2 wks on Monday) just to see if everything's OK.
Hope everyone's well.

I havent been to the GP, have been too sick ,bad cold. Havent had any more palpitations since Tuesday I think. Will probably go on Monday if they come back.
I have had some shooting pains in my back too, I didnt know this is pregnancy related. I dont feel that pregnant either. I do look a little bit pregnant, but then I usually do .

Xena, is your scan on Monday?

Can I join in. Have been sitting on the TTC thread far too nervous to move across but that's not fair on them. Admitting to this is sooo scarey, its like talking about it will somehow make it not so iyswim. Anyway Stats: I've had two m/cs and two successes (2 gorgeous girls). The first m/cs was between dd1 and dd2 and the second was last October. I've had a really bad year and have finally got myself off ads. I've fallen pregnant faster than I expected but am delighted but scared. I'm still doing a very good ostrich impersonation and can't bring myself to go to my gp (she was anti me putting her through any more m/cs and doesn't understand why I can't be satisfied with just having my two dds). I was thinking of leaving it until about 12 weeks and then going for a private scan/nuchal scan as they don't do such things in my area anyway. Reading that you're all going for early scans is both exciting and scarey. I've had such an incredibly bad year that I can't believe anything is going to go smoothly so I'm desperately not trying to get my hopes up. To see the baby would melt all my carefully placed barriers and I'd fall totally in love. The other dilema is that if I don't tell my gp I wont get my choice of consultant... Anyway... just thought I'd join in.

Meant to say. Think I'm 5+5

Hi Wills,
I followed a bit of your story on TTC board. It is very sad that your GP is so unsupportive of you. Can you not see another GP at the same practice.?
It is nice to have an early scan, but it only relieves the anxiety for a moment. Then all the same concerns come back. As my last miscarriage was a misssed M/C i am always worried something has gone wrong and I dont know about it yet.

So how are you feeling in general, are you experincing any symptoms yet?

Cori- glad that the palpitations seem to have eased off. I think I read somewhere that a woman's heart gets bigger during pregnancy to cope with all the extra blood rushing round her system. Maybe that has something to do with it.
Wills- that's an awful attitude for you Dr to take. Agree with Cori, is there a chance to see another Dr? I know what you mean about an ostrich impersonation! My prescription exemption card arrived this morning and I've not opened it. I've put it in front of the letter about my dating scan. I told DH it's a "defence mechanism" of mine! I'm thinking about this baby all the time, I just don't want anymore reminders. Don't want to feel this way, but I do.

Unfortunately gp is best of a bad bunch. In terms of symptons I have a large no go area around my breasts! Which I love. When i feel insecure about everything I give them a good old bash and feel a bit better. Would like to feel sicky but with both dds don't remember that setting in until later. Want food want food want food. Have loads of periody cramps down below but have come to the conclusion (through the intense amount of focus I gave my body after my first m/c during dd2's pregnancy) that this unforutunately is neither a good sign nor a bad. I suppose the body's going to ache down there regardless with things filling up and having to move out of the way etc. Anyway yesterday I had none of these pains and my left breast was not painful. Came to the conclusion that that was that . Needless to say aches are back and left and right breast no-go-zones

I do know how you feel petunia. Want to hide until at least 14 weeks. Then maybe I'll nervously peek out.

congratulations wills!

I had a m/c a couple of years ago and am now about 9 weeks pg with no 3. I had those pains for the first few weeks too. My symptoms kept appearing and disappearing - now at 9 weeks they have settled in with a vengeance!

Very pleased for you x E

Wills are you bosom-bashing again
Wishing everyone on here at the mo ALL the best. Have been there myself - with Wills in fact - and know how tricky it can be.

Cheers Marina,

Enid just how big is your stomach? I'm on steriods at the mo and am eating toooo much nevertheless I have a very distinct round tummy (weight normally goes on thighs and bottom, rarely tummy). Surely I'm not showing!!!!!!!! Not at 5.5

well I did

I think it was water retention though as it disappeared at about wk 7 but has now grown hugely seemingly overnight at wk 9 - no disguising it now!

Huge congrats and best wishes to everybody on this thread.

Evening all, how are you all doing. Me not so good, I am 9+6 tonight and lots of twinges and back ache ms has gone and energy levels feeling worried... Got my nuchal scan for second week in october but it feels so far away.
Had a shed load of hassle this week, flood at home, pranged the car, I could go on, just feel it might have all been too much.
Ok rant over, the good news is I have just eated a pizza and dh is back tonight.

The pregnancy symptoms are just not consistent enough for me either.
I am begining to look pregnant though, however this is not reasuring enough as I continued to look pregnant when I had the missed M/C.

Tumblemum, I hope your accident wasnt too bad.

Xena- hope everything goes well for you tomorrow. Did I read somewhere it's an early morning scan?

Im feeling a bit guilty staying on the ttc after a miscarriage thread but scared to move incase anything happens again.

Anyway im 4+5. Started getting headaches and nauseous at 6dpo so had an inkling this could be the month for me

Im now at the stage where im analising every twinge and going to the loo every 5 mins checking for blood.Ive done about 6 tests as i still dont believe it. But now the digital is even saying im pregnant so it must be true

This is the graduation thread from TTC after M/C, so welcome. Everyday is exactly like you describe, analysing every twinge and checking all the time. I even did a repeat pregnancy test last week just to check I was still pregnant. ( it seems I am ).

We have discovered on here that it is quite normal to have lots of aches and cramp type feelings, means the uterus is stretching and the baby is growing, is completly normal.

I can't remember, at what stage did you have your last M/C.?

Hiya Cori, it was 12 weeks so a while to go yet till i fully relax.

How far on are you now?

I am 8 wks + 3. I miscarried at 16 weeks, so another 8 weeks till the big hurdle is out of the way. I have already had an early scan, which was completly normal.
I have my booking appointment at 12 weeks, will hope to get another scan then.