Pregnancy after miscarriage -support thread

[cori]

As some of you already know I am currently 5 weeks pregnant after having had a missed miscarriage at 17 weeks in April of this year.
I am very pleased and excited to be pregnant again but at the same time full of fear and anxiety.
Their seems to be a lot of women on mumsnet at the moment who have experienced a recent miscarriage and are pregnant again. We all have the same worries.
Hopefully we can use this thread to offer each other mutual support and help keep each other positive.

Xena thinking of you, no advice to offer but take care of yourself.

Hi Xena,
Hope you are OK and are coping this weekend. I tend to do that to. Think the worst and hope for a surprise.
I CAT ( you might not have got it being the weekend) you yesterday as I found an article about slow heart beat at 6 -7 weeks. It basically said that there is an increased risk of M/C but is not definite. I cant send you a link as I had to download it. I can email it you though.

HOw are you Tumblemum?

Ok Cori had a scan Friday which was ok so relieved, how are you?

Hi Tumbleweed how many weeks are you?
Cori I emailed you back.

Xena, I am 9+1, how are you faring today?

My morning sickness seems to have gone, I get a little bit in the evening but passes quickly. I fee bloated a lot. Not much else to say though. Dont feel very pregnant tbh. How many scans have you had Tumblemum.?

Not to bad obv checking for bleeding (no sign) the article cori sent me seems to say that if something is going to happen it will in the next week so hopefully I'll know one way or the other at the next scan. Hope you all have a good sunday were off out for sunday lunch now x

You know the more I read that info cori it seems that 60% m/c? and the other statistics are if you make the week out?

Hi,I have been out all day, Will have another look at it tonight, and get back to you tomorow.

Cori I have had two scans now, one at about 7 weeks and one at 9 weeks. I hope everyone on this thread is ok.

Xena, I think it says that the rate of M/C for the slow heartbeat is 60% but for those with borderline slow heart beat ( yours might be considered to be this it was only slightly slow)was 17.4%. The rate of M/C for the group with fetus with a normal heartbeats at 6 weeks was 9.4%.

If it is normal by the next scan then the risk of M/C is the same as anyone elses.

I hope all this makes sense.

Thanks when I re read it again thats what I made out too. Feeling abit more positive although I am having a few tummy pains, there really is nothing I can do until next monday so I've calmed abit. Although its tiring work helps to keep my mind off things. How are you doing? when is your next antenatel app?

How are you feeling otherwise? Still having pregnancy symptoms?
I have been feeling generally a bit yuck today,
generally mild symptoms.
I dont have my next appointment until I am 12 weeks.4 Weeks to go, hopefully I will be able to get another scan then.
Have been having a few heart palpitations though. I might ring the midwife tomorrow to see what she thinks. Its meant to be quite normal but will probably call anyway.

A bit yuck describes how I feel exactly. Horrible taste in my mouth, tired, sick but still hungry. All good signs.
I have a booking app with the doctor on thurs I asked the receptionist if I should postpone it until I've had the repeat scan but she said that he could hold my papers until we find out if everything is OK.
I think palpitations are normal in pregnancy something to do with B/P maybe? A good idea to check though.

Morning all,
Sorry not posted very often, just trying to take everything one day at a time at the moment. Now 8wks pg. Aches and pains seems to have settled down and I'm not rushing to the loo so often. Don't know whether that's a good sign or not, because I get paranoid when I don't have any symptoms/signs. I suppose one "good" sign is that I can't get into any jeans now. At the same time I don't want to start getting out any maternity stuff because that's just what I started to do last time and then I mc'd.
An appointment has come through for my booking scan. It's on the 10th October, so a few weeks yet. But I've worked out that I'll be 10+6 then, and I was 10+6 when I mc'd. Good timing, eh?!
Hope everything is going well for everyone else.

Hi Petunia,
I will be 8 weeks on Thursday too.
I am getting increasingly paranoid as my symptoms seem to be lessening. Actually considered doing another pregnancy test just to check.
I think they quite often will do scans around the same time as you M/C previously to check all is OK.
Xena, I have also heard that palpitations are sign of anemia as well.

Girls - hope you don't mind me gate crashing your thread but you all seem like such a helpful bunch I was wondering if I could ask for some advice??

It's my second pregnancy and the first one seems like eons ago and I've forgotten almost everything. Anyway - I reckon at most I'm only 4+3 today...but I tested positively Wednesday of last week. In fact I only tested because I was feeling so incredibly sick and my boobs were incredibly sore. So to cut a lnog story short - loads of symptons and a 2nd positive test last Friday. However, since Sunday - I have hardly felt sick at all and my boobs have stopped hurting completely. All I have left is some AF type cramping. So...give that I appear to have lost all my memory from my previous pregnancy....is this normal - can you be sick as a dog one minute and then feel fine for a couple of days? Can't honestly say I remember this whole see-saw effect with the symptons last time...so I'm concerned that it's all about to go pear shaped.

Any advice would be hugely appreciated.....

Cori and Handbag- I think you have to keep saying that every pg is different. With DD1, I didn't start growing out of my jeans until I was 15wks but with DD2 it was 8 wks, same as this one. So I just wonder whether my symptoms settling down (like not having to go to the loo a lot) is linked with the baby lifting out of the pelvis earlier. I do still have large/slightly aching boobs and my lower back hurts in the late afternoon/evening.
Handbag- I think AF cramping is normal, especially in the first 12 wks. I'd perhaps do another pg test.
Cori- Hadn't thought about them doing a scan around the same time. Suppose it makes sense.
Just wish I wasn't so paranoid about these signs coming and going! It doesn't make for an enjoyable pregnancy!

oh well I am outing myself now as I can't be bothered to keep changing my chat name - Handbag I am currently about 7/8 weeks pg and I had a few days last week when my symptoms stopped completely - I had had very strong symptoms previously. Anyway as I have m/c in the past I had an early scan which showed a baby and a strong heartbeat. Although I dont think I will relax completely until the blooming thing is born, it did make me feel better.

and for the last few days I have been feeling as sick as a dog so I hope that reassures you x E

Well we all seem to be a roughly the same stage.
Handbagaddiction, I do think it is perfectly possible to be feeling sick as a dog one day and then not the next. I do seem to be getting a bit of a break from it at the moment.
The cramping thing is said to be normal too. A sign of the baby frowing apparently.
Are you sure you are only four weeeks. When was last A/F?

Thanks for all the advice - really appreciated...it's good to hear that everyone seems to have up and downs days. I remember last time feeling great until 7 weeks and then the MS kicked in big time - just surprised to feel so rotten so early this time.

Definitely sure I'm only 4 weeks as last AF started on August 21st. Believe me...I was beginning to think 'twins' at one point as I could believe I could have such strong symptons and a positive test at just over 3 weeks!!

Let's hope all things progress as they should. I think what makes it all slightly worse is that in our area no-one wants to see you until you're 9 weeks - so you never have the whole 'getting it confirmed' lark.

Think I might do another test in a few days just to make sure the HCG is still there....

Handbag you make me feel more positive according to my scan I was only 3+2/3 days when I got my BFP. It was bank hol weekend and I'd been feeling sick for days when it occured to me i might be pg even though we hadn't been trying that month.

Handbag- know what you mean about no-one wanting to see you at the Drs. Mine are the same. Despite my local EPU saying when I had the mc that they'd do a scan at 8wks if I became pg again, I had to fight to get an early scan. The midwife said that they didn't like to do them until 10wks "because they couldn't see anything." I rang up the EPU and they said they could do scans from 6 wks, so I ended up seeing a Dr and she virtually said the same thing, that they couldn't see anything and it was only if I was bleeding. She rang up the EPU and they were happy to do a scan, no problem at all.
All this makes you feel so alone, at least until you can get booked in with the midwife. Then it seems more "official."

always ring the EPU direct. Forget gps/midwives.