Pregnancy after miscarriage -support thread

[cori]

As some of you already know I am currently 5 weeks pregnant after having had a missed miscarriage at 17 weeks in April of this year.
I am very pleased and excited to be pregnant again but at the same time full of fear and anxiety.
Their seems to be a lot of women on mumsnet at the moment who have experienced a recent miscarriage and are pregnant again. We all have the same worries.
Hopefully we can use this thread to offer each other mutual support and help keep each other positive.

Yes, I dont know anyone who is going really, but thought I would give it a go.
I live in Harrow. You are in Greenwhich arent you?
I will be about 16 weeks by the end of November. Will probably be a bit of a mess actually as thats when I lost the last one.

Did they give you any reason last time?

Nope, they couldnt find any reason. I had an amnio, lots of blood tests and they even sent the baby for an autopsy. The only possible reason was that they found antibodies for a virus called cyclomeglovirus, ( a flu like virus) in my blood which can cause miscarriages but they said it looked like I had it some time ago. So nothing conclusive.

Hello all, can I join? Lost my last pg at just under 8 weeks and current one is 8 weeks and a bit and as from last night the tiredness and nausea have just evaporated. Remember this happened last time before I started to bleed and so very worried. Is this normal with ms? with ds it dissappeared right to the end of the first trimester.
I have already had a scan, ten days ago, which was normal there was a heartbeat.

Tumblemum

Hello all, can I join? Lost my last pg at just under 8 weeks and current one is 8 weeks and a bit and as from last night the tiredness and nausea have just evaporated. Remember this happened last time before I started to bleed and so very worried. Is this normal with ms? with ds it dissappeared right to the end of the first trimester.
I have already had a scan, ten days ago, which was normal there was a heartbeat.

Tumblemum

Hi Tumblemum.
I think it is quite normal TBH.
I have days where I ahve MS and exhaustion and days where I have none (or very little) like today. Just doesnt seem to be predictable. Some days I wake up feeling sick, some I dont. Each day it changes I worry that something has gone wrong.

Thanks Cori, know what you mean. I am finding it so lonely the worrying this time, I enjoyed my previous two pg, I foolishly did not even consider loosing the baby. Now it is all I think about to the point that I am not really aware of the baby as I think of it as lost most of the time, which is a terrible thing to admit. It just does not feel real.

I know what you mean Tumblemum.
Its a defense mechanism in a way. I dont want to get attched to this 'baby' yet, because if I miscarry it wont be as difficult to deal with. I do worry though that if I spend the entire pregnancy this way I wont bond with the baby in the same way as I did with DS

Hi tumblemum, I felt that way about this pregancy (now 41 weeks) till about 30 weeks and now I am overdue am worrying all over again.

Tumblemum, I really empathise with you. I can honestly say from experience that the way you know for sure what is happening is when you see on the scan. This is my 5th pg (the 4th ended in m/c at 14wks). With my 2nd pg I bled terribly right the way through (It was by far the worst pg!) at 20wks I had lost so much blood by the time I got to the hospital I was convinced that the baby couldn't have survied it, but she is starting nursery next week. With the m/c I was sick right up to the day I had the ERPC and I had only bled a tiny bit a couple of times.

Thanks for the support ladies, it is so nice not to be alone on this. On the plus side making the most of not feeling sick or exhausted at the moment as I was really struggling with it for a bit.

Evening all,
Went for the first visit to the midwife yesterday. She was really reassuring about all the aches and pains I was having, saying that was a good sign that the baby was growing, especially as I didn't have that with one I mc. She wasn't sure that I'd get a dating scan because of the early scan I had on Friday. But it did say on the printout that a scan was recommended to confirm my dates. She rang the antenatal dept and they said that I'll get another scan in 2-3wks time, so that will give a bit more reassurance as well. And she thought my EDD will be 30th April. But with DDs, I went a week over so don't really go by that date!
Hope all is well with everyone.

I went to the doctors today and they said that EPAC will call and I should get a scan tomorrow. I don't feel v positive as I've had some pain in my pelvis.

Good luck for tomorrow Xena.

Xena- Good luck for tomorrow hun!

Xena, good luck for tomorrow. I am sure ( really am) that everything will be alright tomorrow.

Have just been looking at a pregnancy loss website. ( yes I am toturing myself) It says that all aches, pains and cramps are normal and a sign of ligaments stretching and the baby growing. Its only when they are severe that they are sign of anything wrong.

What time is your scan?

I had a phone call this afternoon that said the midwife will let me know in the morning when to come in. I think that our EPAC only open in the morning so I guess I'll check in with you guys after lunch, thanks for the best wishes.

Xena thinking of you tomorrow with your scan.

Xena- good luck with your scan today. Will be thinking of you.

Hi guys baby measure just 6wks and the H/B was slow althougth the sonographer said that this can? be normal. When I questioned the midwife she said the some people who had been told that had come back and were fine and some the heart had stopped. Don't know what to think, rescan Monday week I am going out of my mind I just want it to be over if its going to end.

Xena, that sounds a bit worrying.
You are sure of your dates arent you. We ovulated etc at the same time didnt we.?
So we are both seven weeks pregnant now so the measurement is only a week out.
I will be thinking of you all weekend.

They said that the H/B thing wasn't too uncommon and can be OK. and as for the dates when I had the M/C I had a scan at what I thought was 11wks and the baby only measured 8wks meaning that when I did the pg test I wouldn't even have concieved it IYSWIM. Yesterday at the doctors I was explaining this as I was worried today that they'd say my dates were wrong and the doctor said that I shouldn't worry If they put me a week out. That would have only made me 3+2 when I did the clearblue digital, I don't chart so I have no idea when I actually OV'd and whether the dates are correct.

hope you are feeling ok xena.

If its any consolation I had an early scan last week which measured 5 days earlier than I had thought - and I know my dates are correct. The midwife wasnt in the slightest bit bothered.

Morning, how is everyone doing? Hope you are OK Xena. Try and have a restful weekend. I know its going to be hard.

I am OK. I dont seem to be having much morning sickness anymore. Breast have felt very tender and feel quite bloated so I suppose that means the little beanie is still there. I have another 10 weeks to go before I can begin to feel comfortable.

Mummmyhill. How are you? How is the baby? AM going to check birth announcement threads now.

Hi cori, I've been scaring myself with googling fetal bradycardia and some studies show that it is a sign of impending fetal loss