Pregnancy after miscarriage -support thread

[cori]

As some of you already know I am currently 5 weeks pregnant after having had a missed miscarriage at 17 weeks in April of this year.
I am very pleased and excited to be pregnant again but at the same time full of fear and anxiety.
Their seems to be a lot of women on mumsnet at the moment who have experienced a recent miscarriage and are pregnant again. We all have the same worries.
Hopefully we can use this thread to offer each other mutual support and help keep each other positive.

slink - i would ask them if they know of your hirtoty, becasue wheni have been before they just carried on as normal and hardly acknowledged it. make sure they know, and ask them to tell you what they have in their notes, then you don't have to go through the pain of saying it yourself.
I'm sure it will all be fine, stay positive.
saw that thread, don't know what to put, its got me worried now too, hadn't considered that happening really, don't suppose anyone does. poor spacecadet.

bloody hell my spelling is awful, so sorry hope it makes sense.

Poor Spacecadet. What an awful thing to happen.

Slink- why not try to write down what you have to say. Although it might not stop you getting upset, it's something to concentrate on if you've got it down in front of you. Just a thought.
I've got my 2nd scan tomorrow. A nerve-wracking day for both of us.

Just seen jinglediddle's idea. Think hers is better!

petunia - how many weeks are you, your scan will be fine, don't you worry.

jinglediddle- depends on whether I'm going by LMP or by the scans. I think I'm either 21+3 or 22wks.

diddle- dont worry about stuff like that happening hun, of course its always a possibility but so is the end of the world so please enjoy your pg
petunia- i will write my history down as theres alot of it! then midwife can copy into notes rather than me having to go through the facts. good luck for the scan tommorrow petunia are you going to find out the sex?

i hope they scan me tommorrow.

Slink- hadn't thought about giving the notes to the midwife for her to copy. That's a good idea.
No I'm not going to find out the sex, not really bothered either way, as long as it's healthy. Although with 2 DDs already I think DH would like a boy, dilute some of those female hormones raging through the house!

girls are good as there is less mess in the toilet! i get sick of cleaning up after bad aimers, ds and dp!!
I am not fussed either what sex, i think it will be a boy as it was a girl last time, although i did dream of a girl the other day. i will definatly find out if i can as dd does not want another brother so i figure she can get used to the idea if i find out. Im not likly to find out tommorrow though as im 14 weeks, although i think i will ask to see if the sonographer will take an educated guess. 6thats if i get a scan (fingers crossed)

Know what you mean about toilets! I used to Nanny for 2 boys and they were hopeless at aiming! And it doesn't get better with age either! I'm trying to potty train DD2 (3 next month) at the moment. Thought that with 2 weeks at home we'd have a good try at it.
DH had a "feeling" last time when I was 6mts pg that DD2 was another girl. I asked him yesterday if he had a feeling what sex it is this time and he says he doesn't at all, so perhaps it's a boy this time!

Good luck at your booking in Slinksanta. I dreaded mine as well. I am sure midwife thought I was mentally ill or on drugs or something because I just appeared so uninterested in the whole process. She didnt know my history, but once we got to the bit about previously pregnancies she seemed to cotton on. Still didnt understand why I didnt want the bounty pack though.- I actually dont have to see any midwives through this pregnancy now, I go to the consultant for all my checks.

I feel so sad for Spacecadet, how much bad luck can one woman have. SHe has had a stillbirth, a late miscarriage (around 18weeks earlier this year) and now another one. I just couldnt take it. (She does have four healthy children though) She must be heartbroken.

omg cori i had no idea spacecadet had been through so much, thats terrible, losing 3 babys so late on is just unbelievable. god i hope she is ok.

I know what you mean of not wanting a bounty pack, i hadn't even thought of that until you mentioned it but i certainly don't want one.
well ill report back tommorrow

Good Morning - My heart goes out to spacecadet, how much can someone take!

I have my first scan tomorrow with the consultant but I am only 5/5 tomorrow he said to come anyway but if there is no heart beat because its too early i will be so worried and probably wont be able to go back until the new year to check again.

Your right about the bounty pack I definetly dont want one. My boobs are sore and heavy and my bras hardly fit but I dont want to tempt fate by buying bigger ones - oh its such a worry when it should be such a special time with only good feelings.

Good luck Slink for today and to anyone else being scanned or seeing the midwife.

Good luck Slink. Hope you're able to have a scan.
My scan is 1.30. Will report back afterwards.

Good luck Petunia and Slink.
My scan is on Thursday. Am kind of bricking it.....
How's everyone?

Im sure (hope) I am just panicking but ive got a brown bleed - very light but I am worried sick. I have my scan tomorrow but I am a nervous wreck now. I am at work and cant concentrate!

I did phone them and they referred me to the docs - i explained my history too. I am five weeks and four days. I have very slight cramp pains I feel like I am going mad as I am questionin whether I have these slight pains or is it in my imagination

trix - i tried to docs and they couldn't get me an appointment, i tried the midwife who could only get me in the day after, btu she tried very hard, so might be worth calling yours if you have one.
When you called the docs did you speak to a doctor?
we ended up going private as i was beside myself with worry. it was well worth it, where abouts do you live?

I have an early scan tomorrow with the consultant from the m/c clinic - whos care I will be under for this pregnancy.

I live in the Solihull area (West Midlands)

Did not speak to the doctor as none available i now trying to get in touch with the midwife - going straight to answer message!

keep going to the toilet to check and it looks as though its stopped!!!!!

I'm back from my scan. It was really nice because rather than lie there for 15 minutes and then only get a quick look at the end, the sonographer had the screen so I could see it. She had 2 goes at doing the scan, I think altogether I was lying there for about 35 minutes! The first time, baby was asleep on its front so she checked the spine but after a little while she said she couldn't check any internal bits and could I go for a wee and a walk and she'd call me after 10 minutes. So 2nd time around the baby had flipped over and she was able to check everything. It had also woken up so it was having a kick about! I was beginning to get worried though because she spent ages looking at the heart. She did hover in the bottom/legs/feet area and I did try to have a good look between the legs but couldn't see any sticky-out bits! I'm still due on 28th April but I'm earlier than I thought I was- now 21+4.

trix, hope your bleeding has stopped hun, did you get to speak to a midwife?

petunia- glad your scan went well, they always take a while around the heart, i think its complicated to see any probs there, but i does get ya panicing doesn't it!

well i finally had my booking in appointment and it was ok, i booked in with the specialist midwife who was very nice, i stopped myself crying but was close a few times when going through history. i had a scan and baby looks fine and is 8cm head to bum, to be honest it's lost all it's joy for me, looking at my scan pictures is not as exciting as before, i just feel sad.
good news- the sonographer said my cervix looks normal but proper measurements can only be done with a cervical scan.
I am going back to see drs in 10 days, who i guess will decide when i am seen next and if i need cervical assessment.
it looks like i will be getting full hospital care so i see either a midwife or obstrician at the hospital for normal check ups, but the midwife has suggested in my notes that i transfer to the community midwives after the high risk period for one to one care as i am "still fragile". This was after i suggested a homebirth and she said she was all for that but this hospital will not let me as i have had a previous cesearean, the fact that my section was 9 years ago and i have had 2 vaginal births since then does not matter apparently. but all that type of stuff is a long way off so i will cross that bridge if/when i come to it.
I have an appointment for an abnormally scan too which is actually when im 19.5 weeks so i am well happy.

I am still anxious about what the drs will suggest but am happy i will be seeing them in 10 days so not long to find out what the plan will be